At the time when the Prophet (pbuh) lived and the time of the Prophethood arose, the muslim people married more than once. Even for the women it was normal that if their husband passed away or they divorced, she was married again. This was to keep her secure and so that she and her children were fed and had someone who would take care of their household. It wasn`t seen as a bad thing for any other man if the woman was a “divorcy” or if she was a widow, again she got married even so. Just look at the Prophet (pbuh) his first marriage to Khadijah (rah) was a widow and a “divorcy” but he didn’t refuse to marry her.
Todays society we look more to what our traditions are our cultural background plays a big role in guiding us. We should rather be looking at our religion, what it says and follow that. Men nowadays do have difficulties marrying a widow or a divorcy and don`t even propose to women like that. It is so sad and not what our religion and sunnah has guided us to follow. On the other hand men who have married a lot of times still thinks like that and remarries with another virgin. It is really sad that these women have difficulties finding a husband to remarry just because of our cruel traditions. Cant we break them if they aren`t according to Islam?
The Prophet (pbuh) has said:
” This world is just temporary convenience, and the best comfort in this world is a righteous woman”. (Muslim).
Instead at looking at woman’s beauty or their money one should actually be looking for a person with good character and someone whom wants to follow Islam and be a practising Muslimah.
I think for each and every person that claims he/she is a muslim there is a great responsibility if they want to prosper that they learn more about our religion and what it says, AND follow that, not any cultural law or tradition that has nothing to do with Islam. Allah sab ke haq me behtar faisla karein. May Allah guide us, including me, to increase our knowledge about Islam. Ameen summa ameen.
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