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light candle for peaceIt is quite interesting what the muslims has become. Whole her 20 years our daughter hasn’t prayed, worn hijab, or had the character of a good muslimah. But on her wedding (21 years old), we are holding a Quran over her head, as she leaves the wedding hall with 2000 people, when she is heading towards expensive car, with her non-hijabi wedding-dress. Somehow parents think that this will save her life she is starting with her husband.  Even though the parents didn’t spend time in teaching her good values, manners, sunnah and knowledge of Islam. Parents maybe think that keeping the Quran over her head would, in a magically way, make everything perfect. Most asian live their life, totally progressive of their religion. We backbite, we lie, we quarrel, we disrespect, we don’t pray, we listen and watch totally un-islamic media, we stab our friends for our personal benefit. In fact, most of us, live over 70% of our lives in a way that is totally un-islamic.

We remember Islam When

When someone disrespect our Prophet pbuh. Oh our eyes becomes read with anger and we will kill and destroy anything that comes in our way when we find out. Although the, car or people on the road nearby didn’t have anything with one person disrespecting our Prophet pbuh, we think that killing and destroying anything when we get angry because of our love for the Prophet pbuh, is justified. After all were saving his honour pbuh.

Anger Or Not Anger That Is The Question

Were not actually living life according to his pbuh sunnah or Quran, but still when someone says anything bad about our Prophet pbuh we get angry. Aren’t we being just as disrespecting of our prophet when we don’t cultivates his values, conduct, character in our lives and our families lives? When we ourselves are making fun of him by saying we are his followers but not following his pbuh way. There was a sahabi raa that wanted the prophet pbud to advice him, so he asked: “Advice me”. Prophet Muhammad pbuh said :” don’t get angry”. The sahabi asked again, because he was expecting another message. The Prophet pbuh said to him three times :”don’t get angry”.

The Sunnah Of Taif

Here is our situation. We are killing a person that disrespected our Prophet pbuh. When the sunnah of our Prophet, when he walked back from Taif, when he was brutally wounded, and blood on his clothes, he prayed for the people of Taif. And alhamdolillah a few years generations later, the muslims in Taif increased.
We don’t behave or talk or deal with others in a muslim way. Because of our un-islamic behaviour, people think that if this is what Islam is, than they are not good people. Since we are so poor ambassador of the religion we love, people talk bad about our religion. But they don’t understand. The religion is in fact great, but we don’t live our life as beautiful as a good muslim. When we make mistakes and people know we claim we are muslims, they interpret, this behaviour is Islam. But they are wrong. The sunnah of our Prophet and the Quran, is Islam. How we manage or don’t manage to implement it in our life, is our attempt to be a muslim. Our actions tells us if we are true in our claim.

An Easily Approachable Leader – Even for Poor People

When people once in a while came to talk with Prophet Muhammad pbuh, they didn’t know the etiquette of how to behave towards him with respect. Some times when people were very rude while addressing the Prophet pbuh when he pbuh was with his companions, because of the companions love for our Prophet pbuh, they easily took out their sword, and was thinking of killing this person. The Prophet pbuh because of his perfect wisdom, calmed them down and addressed the person in the most nice way. He pbuh didn’t say : he disrespected me, cut his throat”. He had such a good dealings with people. It is because of his good manners and dealings he managed to change hearts. Not by killing anyone or everyone who disagreed with him or didn’t give him the esteem he has. It is only through good behaviour we can change bad behaviour. Hate will not decrease hate. Only love can do that. When we start living our 70% of lives practising his deen we will be able to change other people’s bad opinion of our Islam and our Prophet pbuh. If we are not going to follow his ways, than we should be careful of claiming that we are muslims. Because our wrong behaviour is disrespecting and dishonouring him pbuh. And most people hate Islam, because it is true that we are more progressive than practising of the beauties of it. May Allah guide us of becoming good practising muslims. And understand that killing one person that disagrees with us today, will make ten more people on that persons side tomorrow. Instead use good aadab, sunnah, reasoning a try to change their thinking. Killing them won’t change the fact that they think wrong of us. And keep in mind that german person that used a lot of his life talking bad about Islam and even disrespecting our prophet pbuh. A few years later he converted to Islam, because he found beauty in it. After converting he was so guilty of his disrespect of our Prophet pbuh, he went on Umrah in the Masjid Nabvi and asked for forgiveness. Allah managed to turn his heart towards the truth. From that example we can learn if we stop killing people who hate us, and instead try to reason with them and show them through our behaviour why we are muslims. Not only by lip-service. May Allah make it easy for us. Aameen.

Today One Person Disagrees With Us

We kill him. Tomorrow, ten more people says the same as him. We kill them ten, the day after that, a hundred people say the same as he does. We don`t get more followers of our deen by killing everyone who disagrees with us? We can rather try to change people`s opinions by reasoning with them. Show them why Islam is beautiful. If we do the exact opposite of Islam, and somehow expect that people will love it, we do not have much hikmah to know that were breaking a bridge. Prophet Muhammad didn`t get more followers by killing others. He changed their hearts and reasoned with them, and that reasoning was backed up by his good behaviour, character, conduct. In public and in private. If we follow his pbuh way, we will also one day manage to change hearts and be the reason why people come back to Islam. May Allah make it easy for us. Aameen.

never give up, chessWe are all priceless people and our individuality must be nourished. Instead of trying to fit in, we should help and encourage children to dare to stand out in a crowd, from a young age. Dare to go against the crowd. Just because some norms have become ordinary doesn`t mean we can`t evaluate, adjust and make better norms. The society and we are gradually changing whether we want it or not. Even if we resist change, it won`t stop the earth from spinning in its course or the sun or the moon from shining. Maturity is to accept change. Not only accept it but be an active part in inspiring/motivating a change for the better. An hadith quoted by Prophet Muhammad pbuh said: That time Islam came it was introduced as something strange, because it differed from the society at that time. He pbuh goes on saying that it will return to something strange, so glad tidings to the strangers. Just because it has become a norm that it isn`t “normal” to i.e. pray regularly / not backbite / wear hijab etc, doesn`t mean we can`t go back to the Sunnah of our Prophet pbuh, renew our intentions and make a norm that we are going to try to achieve this and make it a norm in our life. Our Prophet pbuh has said that anyone who reminds people about forgotten Sunnah and is capable of motivating them to follow it will have the reward of all those who start following it, without it detracting the least from their reward. (Tirmidhi). Subhan Allah what an immense opportunity. Eventually it can become an ongoing charity that only increases and pass on for generations to come. We just need to start somewhere.

 

Everyone has to start from where they are.

Some knows much but follows little, other knows little but follows new things they learn. In the beginning when Allah guides us to Islam, either we are born muslim or convert to it, we start by focusing on the outward appearance. Proper salah, beard, hijab, pay zakat etc. When our zaahir / outwardly looks like a muslim, we can focus on the inwardly things that are invisible, baatin, like character, taqwa, intention etc. Just because a brother has beard or a sister has hijab doesn`t tell us whether they are mu`min one that does what is required in Islam and stays away from what`s prohibited and the extra voluntary Ibaadah as well or on the other side one that is just a muslim and believes in Islam but doesn`t follow all the rules. But to come anywhere near becoming a mu`min we need to start being a muslim. You know at the time of the Prophet pbuh and tabièn, people put more effort in improving their baatin, and had a not so good zaahir. They were the best of muslims. Nowadays people may have a beautiful zaahir but rather bad baatin because of bad character. Jealousy, envy, hatred, having bad thoughts about other, backbiting, spreading malicious gossip has become the norm rather than the exception. A good deed will still be a good deed, even if no one does it, a bad deed will still be a bad deed, even if everyone does  it. Instead of supporting eachother in doing bad deeds, we should rather try to motivate eachother to do good deeds. What is within our capacity.

 

Friends for eternity

It is important that we look at others who are better than us in deen, to motivate us also to improve ourselves. Our friends has an impact on our personality. If we always hang around with righteous people, their thoughts and behaviour will rub off on us too. If we always spend time with people who are worse than us in deen, we might learn things that will misguide us further away from Islam. Allah is the only One Who guides. If one person in a circle of friends becomes better, he/she should also try to change his/her surrounding. If that is not possible than at least don`t let his environment change him/her and try to seek more righteous company.

 

own faults
Make others feel hopeful rather than hopeless

Iman rises with doing good deeds and decreases by sinning. Because the nature of humans is that they sometime or other will fall into sin, it is important that we turn back to Allah and repent as soon as this happens. Make it a habit to not let our sin make us feel hopeless. We need to be feeling hopeful of Allah`s forgiveness. He forgives everything as long as we have pure intentions and make amends. We should also have a responsibility on others that we always make other feel hopeful of Allah`s Mercy. Or else we will be made answerable for coming in the way of someone whom wanted to turn back to Allah, but because of our negativity, strayed. Hate the sin, but not the sinner, as everyone can and will sin. An awesome quote says: just because someone sins different from us, shouldn`t make us feel better than them. Allah loves the humble sinner more than those people whom becomes proud after he/she has done a good deed. We must know that anything good we have done, it is because Allah guided us. He is the only one whom guides. So he wants us to do it. It should make us feel thankful/grateful, that he chose us to be amongst those people whom does some good deeds, be it prayer, charity or someone whom helps other or anything that leads to good. Allah inspires good things to us. It is not because of ourselves.

 

People find faults even where there are few

We should not be scared of showing the world that we are muslims, by having beard/ hijab etc or performing salah. Though it is also important that if we have started with something good, let it become a norm before we share it with others. The evil eye is for real. There are some people whom no matter what good things you do, they`ll always pinpoint the mistakes, rather than appreciating the good you do. Don`t mind others. We will get back from Allah. People criticize, judge, find faults even if there aren`t many. Allah hides flaws, forgives, helps through difficult times, regardless of amount of sins. As long as we purify our intentions once in a while, we will always turn back to Him to put our trust where it belongs. He is sufficient for us. When our intention is to please Allah, we won`t mind what people say. Some times they are on your side, other times they are against you. People change quicker than the weather. If we rely on Allah alone, we will not be disappointed. There is no better support in the universe than Him. We dare to stand out in a gathering, only when we know we are on the right path. May Allah guide and keep us on the right path always. Ameen summa ameen.

marriageA double standard of the muslim community I wanted to talk about in this post is about marriage. This is something each and every will go through in their life, and there are several things about this topic that makes one think whether our conduct in this regards is correct or not.

Since parents are born in another time then their children, they often have another thought about their ideal for their children’s marriage. Here it is very important that before getting into the process of finding a suitable match, they talk together and agree about what the child wants. The reason is that it is not the parent that is getting married. It is the child. That persons preferences is the most important. Often parents choose spouses for their children without even asking them properly, which later result in breakage of the bond. Things like manners and their practice of Islam should be weighed heavier than looks, income etc.

What is very common in the muslim community is that the parents think that if they marry their daughter to a rich person, she would be happy for the rest of her life. That is not correct. As your daughter is not married to the money her husband owns, but to him. Rizk is in the hands of Allah. He will test us in loss of wealth, hunger etc. A rich person today can lose his job tomorrow just like a person without a great income can get a great job-offer the very next month after marriage. It is not in our hands, it is merely in the hands of Allah.

Often parents don`t want their children to marry earlier than finishing their degrees at the university or getting a decent job. After all how will they be able to have enough money to be able to support another spouse. And what about their future? So the child want to get marry, and is asking for the parents consent, and they are turning him down. As they are opening his eyes to the world of darkness, because when a person gets into an age of adolescent, their desires can come in their way. And they can be misguided by the free environment we have in the West and now also back in our country. These thing often result in the guy and the girl, having relations before their parents let them marry someone. To parents: are they mature old enough for these relations but not for marriage? Have you given them proper islamic education as to how they will keep themselves away from haram stuff.

When parents approve a spouse after a long process they have to plan a big and fancy wedding. So that could take years to plan and thousands to earn. Meanwhile , the now engaged couple, are having a very openly environment where they meet, and everyone is ok with that. The parents are actually opening the gate of Jahannum to them. First of all, the sunnah of marriage is simpleness. As simple as it could be. Our Prophet has married sahabis with one single date, fruit. Here we are talking about lakhs and lakhs and fancy dressing, three coarse meal and of course a pre- and after partying, mix gender wise. No wonder the baraakah of marriage are long gone before the couple gets married and result in breakage, when they use more time in planning the marriage then in the marriage itself.

Another double standard of the muslim community is the age of the wife to be. She has to be young, and a virgin. Yes, I know that our Prophet pbuh did say to the sahaba`s that they should marry young, fertile virgins, because he wants a large amount of people in his Ummah on the judgement day. But have we forgotten that he married only one virgin, and she was not able to get any child? He married a lot of women that had been previously married, with kids for example his pbuh`s first wife, khadijah. So most of the men are hurrying trying to find a suitable young, virgin girl, while the widows and single parents are having difficulties getting married because the society doesn`t want them anywhere. A few people even say that they can`t marry after becoming a widow, but the sunnah tells otherwise. We also have a high divorce-rate in the society, which means there are an increasing number of these women. How can we change the thought of young men to choose a spouse that can make them become as close as their to fingers in Jannah with the Prophet pbuh, by marrying a widow, or divorced with children. By that they will become father of orphans and making sure that they will get supported. All the choice these women have is between earning money and raising their children. The society is not making their life easy at all.

Yet we have another issue about marriages. Often we see people are very selfish in not helping people to get married. They want themselves to be first and get the best one. Whether other women of the Ummah will get a spouse is not their tension. Often people know about some that are single and looking for a spouse, but they will not help them, to tie the knot, just because it is not their responsibility. Often if two people like each other and wants to get married, people will put hurdles in their way, often out of jealousy, because they are a great match. The third point is the converts. Who will help them in getting married. They often don`t know enough people and don`t have references of being a muslim as long as someone born muslim, that might be more progressive than them, after they accepted the rules of Islam, when they converted.

Yet a very important and less discussed aspect about marriage is maturity. Often the people whom are getting into this new relation don`t know the ABC of marriage. What it means to be a husband / wife in Islam. What is the wifes /husbands rights and their duties towards each other. Purity. Children. etc. If they are not familiar with this, the marriage could end disastrous. Often we see that a few guys get married because their parents insist in it, and because they didn`t have the son`s consent he does not treat his wife in a good manner. Consent of those whom are getting married and their maturity should be valued. If a person is bad before marriage, simply marrying a girl from abroad will not make him better. If you as a parent can`t change him, how can you expect a girl whom hardly know him, to change him. Marriage is a lot of responsibility and one should be ready to carry it`s weight.

Both the parents and the children need to talk together and look for each others consent. If people don`t help the women in the community to get married and making their life easier, they are far away of the sunnah of our Prophet pbuh. It is important that we as an Ummah try to make people`s life more easy and not difficult. We have a responsibility to make the best of what we can do. If every family spend less on their marriage and give away sadqah to those who can`t afford one, the barakah of their marriage will be increased. May Allah help us help others. ❤ ❤ Ameen summa ameen.

an islamic school yes or noThe youth need education. Not only education about the dunya but also about the hereafter. In many countries we muslims have migrated to, there isn`t any islamic school for children. Norway is such a country. Here we have Mosques where children learn arabic, but none muslim schools.

There are many advantages of having a school for only muslims. For instance, there will be segregation between the genders, and the food will be halal, the education will be seen from an Islamic perspective, the children will have friends that are muslims, they will read salah and learn arabic from the start. Just think about the impact this will have on the child. Getting in everything muslimized from the start. MashaAllah. I salute those people abroad, for instance in Britain where they have such alternatives for children. MashaAllah they are really lucky for having such an opportunity to give their children the proper Islamic education. I wish we had such alternatives here in Norway as well.

On the other side there could be some disadvantages if one has such schools. One of them would be that the children would talk their own mother tongue at school, so they won`t learn how to talk norwegian properly, from the pronunciation to the writing. My guess is that most of the kids will be from different muslim countries, and only a few native Norwegians, if any. So in a way they will get segregated from the Norwegians. Another thing is that later in life, when these people will become adults and will go searching for the right job, people whom are racist could try to put aside those people whom are apparently muslims and say that we don`t know if the children have gotten proper education at that muslim school. Though this is happening even know when we don`t have any school like this, people whom have an islamic name are singled out from the joblist, just because their muslims.

I guess eventually people would understand how resourceful we muslims are and muslim will be given jobs more easily, in sha Allah. I guess those racist people are getting old and will soon retire from their jobs. Young people nowadays have grown up in a multicultural society, so they know that muslims can and are doing a great job where they are hired. I guess as the muslims are proving themselves by taking higher education and with better jobs, as well as being an active part in building up Islam in their neighbourhood, i guess people will soon see them as a diamond instead of a stone, in sha Allah. To make this happen, WE muslim living in Norway, or any other country in the west, has a big responsibility to portray the right character from our conduct, the kind of character and dealing our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) had in his business dealings. If we are far away from that conduct, we need to realize that our children or next generations are the ones that will reap what we sow. If we really care for them, we would do our best that our integrity as a muslim is on the highest level, as it should be in all our matters, in sha Allah. If not we need to look inside ourselves and see where our road is taking us, to hell or jannah?

As the muslims are increasing in number worldwide, mostly because of the converts/reverts and also the birthrate, we need to see such alternative school as a future for our next generation. Living in a society that is so un-islamic it is very important that we are able to take care of our good values in Islam. So that our next generation are protected from taking the wrong road. I guess the question isn`t if or not, the question is more about when and how. I believe there are a lot of people thinking about this, as they are becoming a family. We need a society where our values could rub off on Norwegians. So we need to show them the conduct that can motivate them to accept Islam. On the other hand we ough this to the next generation that is growing up now or in the future. If not many will be lead astray.

Learning Islam from an early age, and having friends that practice your deen from the start, can make a big difference in a child`s life. The difference of how serious those children will be in becoming a mohsin, the highest degree of a muslim in Islam. We want our kids to have this opportunity. If you are the one that is thinking of this future, do your best to talk with the right people and make it happen, in sha Allah. I guess from thought to action all we need is one person that takes his/her dreams seriously and is also putting them to action. In sha Allah there won`t be so long till we have such a wonderful place where the next generation of muslims in Norway will have a healthy environment to build their spiritual life as well as their worldly life.

The schools in Norway, where they teach lots un-islamic things, children aren`t segregated and have to have gym with both the genders together. Not to talk about the fact that children learn everything from an christen perspective instead of the islamic perspective. The food is not halal, and neither is the gender mixing halal. We need to give our children the proper way of thinking “Islam” from the start, that they don`t get from other schools before they are way past thirty years. And then they are too indulged in their family that they don`t have enough time to learn about Islam.

The person whom has such an idea and will put in to conduct just think about the amount of sadqa jariah, charity and bounties of sawabh that person will reap from it in the hereafter, in sha Allah. And all the children lives, that will be changed for the better. It`s no end to see that this is something that could be your door-opener to jannah. If you have the ability don`t let this chance go by. Do something, talk with people, one idea put to action can change mountains, all one need is a confident thought. In sha Allah. I pray that our next generations will get the proper understanding of Islam from an early age that they could live their lives according to it as well, to protect them from the ills of the society we are living in Norway. Ameen summa ameen.

Remember that even if this doesn`t apply to you yet because you don`t have any children, some day you would regret you thought like that. If you don`t see the children of this Ummah as your children, one day could come when your children would not get the proper guidance because others don`t see them as their responsibility. It is important that we unite and look at each others with one goal, to do give each other motivation to do better in this world and the hereafter, for us, for our family`s, for the next generations and for the potential muslims out there.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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