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To build a building, vehicle, plane, we have the most advance technology today. To be able to build one has to have had difficult higher education. An ordinary man / woman is not able to understand the terminology of the builders of these buildings, vehicle, plane. Some matters are understandable, but details and full understanding can only be left to the experts. A similtude can be drawn to the most advance creation of the universe, the planets, stars, mountains, vegetation, creatures, animals, humans. The advancity of the creation, to build something all the universe and everything inside, we do not have intelligence as high to understand the wisdom of Allah. Why matters are as it is, or why He wants us to do certain things and protect us from certain matters. We believe in Allah. We trust Him. We know He made all this Alone. Since we do not have the capability to understand everything, we leave it to : Allah knows best. What Allah wants us to know He explains in Quran. If He knows the whole “puzzle” of the universe, we must admit our inability to fully understand as much as He (Allah) knows, why He has made certain rules. Our test is to trust Him, and follow Him. Alhamdolillah for what we understand. And trust Allah for that which we do not have the ability to understand. And believe that the Creator knows more about the creation than what the creation knows about the creation. 


Although both husbands and wife should learn to express their love so they both feel loved, there is also another quality that can strenghten their bond – being more understanding. 

Both spouses express and feel loved differently based on their gender differences. To help each other and themselves, spouses should programme their mind in understanding how a man expresses love/ how a woman expresses love. In this way, when their spouse expresses something, they can link it up to their emotion and decode their language to help themself understand, what their spouse is saying and what it means. 

Although it would be perfect if a spouse express love the way the other will understand it. It might be a bit overwhelming if we expect the other spouse to express love in a way which he/she might not be comfortable with or feel natural. It is possible to learn it. It would make your own life easier. 

When that is said, spouses must also learn how their spouse feel un-loved based on their gender. Because it is different between a man and a woman. To prevent us from expressing something than can be hurtful for the relationship and decrease love. 

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the worst loneliness is being without allahI was so far away from Allah. I had people around me. Friends, family, job, life. But being far away from Allah, it felt like dead. Like something is dead inside of me. I was afraid of my own shadow. My own hand. No one helped me to find Allah. Not as much as I needed Allah. I had to struggle to find Him. To come close to Him. To treasure Him. To struggle to achieve His Love.

Like The Air I Breathe

Now that I see other people who are far away from His Path. I feel so bad. I want to hug them to tell them. No matter what rizk you have in life, you will never be satisfied if you are far away from Allah. I know how hard it is to struggle, to find Him. I want to give out a hand for those who have no one to help them to find Him. Because I know how it feels like to not have Him. It hurts, it pains. I don`t know what to say than this: Find your way back to Him. No happiness is any happiness without Him. No kind of rizk, blessing will ever be a blessing without Him. All beings need Allah more than we need this air we are breathing. When we are not aware of this need, and not struggling to get near Him. Than we are truly lost. Whatever good or bad will happen in our life, we will be lost.

Worth Less Than Zero

If we have Allah, whatever good or bad happens in our life, we will succeed. The biggest treasure is not this dunya or anything in it. The biggest treasure is to love Allah, and struggle to live true to His cause, the way He wants us to live. That is how, in the moment you might lose everything, if you have Allah, and You love him, He can give you contentment in your heart, also at that moment. But if you win the dunya, and lose your faith in Him, no matter how big gain you think you have, all of it is worth, less than zero. Having faith, imaan, is everything. Without faith, imaan in Allah, we will be in loss forever. May Allah help us to preserve it and help other souls find their way back to him. If they only understood, how important this matter is for them. They would have taken out time for it. May Allah helps us find our way back to Him. Aameen.

coal hand islamMost people talk bad about women that wear hijab. Without lifting an eyebrow about women in their life, who not only doesn`t wear hijab, but also pluck eyebrows and wear perfume. These women, girls are not looked by men with good intentions.

Most people talk bad about women that avoid mix gatherings or places where there is played music. Without lifting an eyebrow about the people who think that music uplifts them. Most of who seek places where they easily can interact with the other gender. This is most people idea of having fun.

Most people backbite women who avoid certain arrangements and tv-channels even if they are for women only. While they don`t mind that many of the places, even at islamic programs, there is a lot of noise and most people are backbiting and many muslims are making fun of others.

Most people talk bad about people who care about what they eat, every ingredients so that they don`t eat anything that is not allowed. They can use a lot of time finding the right restaurant or checking the ingredients in all foods. Or questioning the employee about this. While they care little of those who eat all kinds of meat, and all kinds of food, and never dare to question for a second time if the food actually is halal. Disregarding, caring little for that the food they eat has an impact on their behaviour.

Most people think those who are always speaking the truth, are foolish, because it gets them into trouble. While they don`t care for the fact that the angels doesn`t like to company people who lies.

Most people make fun of many sunnah`s of the Prophet Muhammad pbuh. The sad part is that most of them doesn`t know that making fun of any parts of Islam, can take you/ and your children, further away from it. How can your claim of loving the prophet pbuh be true, while you make fun of his simple life-style.

Most people doesn`t like paying much money, when it comes to learning the deen, attending online courses or buying books. While they can utilize many thousands in buying a new car/ house/ vacation just to impress their friends.

Most people doesn`t get impressed by conduct/ knowledge/ hikmah/ in deen or people who takes practicing Islam seriously. They get impressed by bank-balance, expensive cars, big houses, mobile phones and clothing from expensive brands. Non of which will help them attain jannah.

Instead of looking with disgust at people who are trying to be more practicing, we should actually give these people a break. Today many people say that people force other muslims to practice Islam. Where? As I see it, the community, so-called muslims by name, are making it difficult for practicing muslims, to practice Islam, as it came. Instead of pointing fingers at people you don`t know. Try to understand certain people by what they are avoiding. Maybe we can understand them more after that.

light candle for peaceIt is quite interesting what the muslims has become. Whole her 20 years our daughter hasn’t prayed, worn hijab, or had the character of a good muslimah. But on her wedding (21 years old), we are holding a Quran over her head, as she leaves the wedding hall with 2000 people, when she is heading towards expensive car, with her non-hijabi wedding-dress. Somehow parents think that this will save her life she is starting with her husband.  Even though the parents didn’t spend time in teaching her good values, manners, sunnah and knowledge of Islam. Parents maybe think that keeping the Quran over her head would, in a magically way, make everything perfect. Most asian live their life, totally progressive of their religion. We backbite, we lie, we quarrel, we disrespect, we don’t pray, we listen and watch totally un-islamic media, we stab our friends for our personal benefit. In fact, most of us, live over 70% of our lives in a way that is totally un-islamic.

We remember Islam When

When someone disrespect our Prophet pbuh. Oh our eyes becomes read with anger and we will kill and destroy anything that comes in our way when we find out. Although the, car or people on the road nearby didn’t have anything with one person disrespecting our Prophet pbuh, we think that killing and destroying anything when we get angry because of our love for the Prophet pbuh, is justified. After all were saving his honour pbuh.

Anger Or Not Anger That Is The Question

Were not actually living life according to his pbuh sunnah or Quran, but still when someone says anything bad about our Prophet pbuh we get angry. Aren’t we being just as disrespecting of our prophet when we don’t cultivates his values, conduct, character in our lives and our families lives? When we ourselves are making fun of him by saying we are his followers but not following his pbuh way. There was a sahabi raa that wanted the prophet pbud to advice him, so he asked: “Advice me”. Prophet Muhammad pbuh said :” don’t get angry”. The sahabi asked again, because he was expecting another message. The Prophet pbuh said to him three times :”don’t get angry”.

The Sunnah Of Taif

Here is our situation. We are killing a person that disrespected our Prophet pbuh. When the sunnah of our Prophet, when he walked back from Taif, when he was brutally wounded, and blood on his clothes, he prayed for the people of Taif. And alhamdolillah a few years generations later, the muslims in Taif increased.
We don’t behave or talk or deal with others in a muslim way. Because of our un-islamic behaviour, people think that if this is what Islam is, than they are not good people. Since we are so poor ambassador of the religion we love, people talk bad about our religion. But they don’t understand. The religion is in fact great, but we don’t live our life as beautiful as a good muslim. When we make mistakes and people know we claim we are muslims, they interpret, this behaviour is Islam. But they are wrong. The sunnah of our Prophet and the Quran, is Islam. How we manage or don’t manage to implement it in our life, is our attempt to be a muslim. Our actions tells us if we are true in our claim.

An Easily Approachable Leader – Even for Poor People

When people once in a while came to talk with Prophet Muhammad pbuh, they didn’t know the etiquette of how to behave towards him with respect. Some times when people were very rude while addressing the Prophet pbuh when he pbuh was with his companions, because of the companions love for our Prophet pbuh, they easily took out their sword, and was thinking of killing this person. The Prophet pbuh because of his perfect wisdom, calmed them down and addressed the person in the most nice way. He pbuh didn’t say : he disrespected me, cut his throat”. He had such a good dealings with people. It is because of his good manners and dealings he managed to change hearts. Not by killing anyone or everyone who disagreed with him or didn’t give him the esteem he has. It is only through good behaviour we can change bad behaviour. Hate will not decrease hate. Only love can do that. When we start living our 70% of lives practising his deen we will be able to change other people’s bad opinion of our Islam and our Prophet pbuh. If we are not going to follow his ways, than we should be careful of claiming that we are muslims. Because our wrong behaviour is disrespecting and dishonouring him pbuh. And most people hate Islam, because it is true that we are more progressive than practising of the beauties of it. May Allah guide us of becoming good practising muslims. And understand that killing one person that disagrees with us today, will make ten more people on that persons side tomorrow. Instead use good aadab, sunnah, reasoning a try to change their thinking. Killing them won’t change the fact that they think wrong of us. And keep in mind that german person that used a lot of his life talking bad about Islam and even disrespecting our prophet pbuh. A few years later he converted to Islam, because he found beauty in it. After converting he was so guilty of his disrespect of our Prophet pbuh, he went on Umrah in the Masjid Nabvi and asked for forgiveness. Allah managed to turn his heart towards the truth. From that example we can learn if we stop killing people who hate us, and instead try to reason with them and show them through our behaviour why we are muslims. Not only by lip-service. May Allah make it easy for us. Aameen.

Today One Person Disagrees With Us

We kill him. Tomorrow, ten more people says the same as him. We kill them ten, the day after that, a hundred people say the same as he does. We don`t get more followers of our deen by killing everyone who disagrees with us? We can rather try to change people`s opinions by reasoning with them. Show them why Islam is beautiful. If we do the exact opposite of Islam, and somehow expect that people will love it, we do not have much hikmah to know that were breaking a bridge. Prophet Muhammad didn`t get more followers by killing others. He changed their hearts and reasoned with them, and that reasoning was backed up by his good behaviour, character, conduct. In public and in private. If we follow his pbuh way, we will also one day manage to change hearts and be the reason why people come back to Islam. May Allah make it easy for us. Aameen.

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“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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