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Jihad is equal to struggle. To struggle in the way of Allah. Struggle to be good with your inner self. Struggle to do righteous deeds. Struggle to be good to family, friends and kin. Struggle to remember Allah. Struggle to obey Allah. Struggle to speak good. Struggle to protect ourselves from bad matters (lying, backbiting, slander). Struggle to make our conduct good. Struggle to correct our hijab, modesty and control over our private part. Struggle to keep our soul, heart and body clean and pure. Struggle to get rid of arrogance and bad qualities. Struggle to support good and speak against wrongdoers. For the real practising muslims. The struggle is REAL. All this is jihad, to struggle in the way of Allah, to become a good practising muslim. Ya Allah, grant us to win our biggest jihad. Aamen. The struggle we fight with our own self (nafs) every day. Aamen. 

Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ manners are perfect. He has perfected how and what good manners are. We cherish him ‎ﷺ because of his ‎ﷺ way of interaction with each and every. His ‎ﷺ seerah is our guideline in how we can reach his ‎ﷺ awsome character, truthfulness, sincerity, genuine care, cheerfulness, problemsolver, comforter, supplications, obedience to Allah, Purity, Asr, strength, inclusiveness, dislikes of sins, heartmelting speech and conduc, good treatment of others regardless of what they own, gratitude to Allah, concern and mercifulness for all humanity. 

The Upper Class With Good Manners 

People nowadays, often find excuses of why people are difficult, because of their lack of manners. Just teach him/her manners. That is more important than knowledge. I dont agree with this. First of all, knowledge is useless without behaviour in accordance with what we have learned. It’s not enough to “know” that the best of men are those who are good to their wife. It must also be seen in their conduct. Second point is that many people know, how to eat, sit, what to say, not say, the prohibitions of guarding tongue and private parts. The upper class knows how to behave, but they lack the good islamic values in their life. They know what to wear, how to decorate their home, how to befriend anyone. Still they lack the basic teachings of Islam. The problem isn’t that they do not say salam to people, the problem is that when that person has passed, most people are not able to guard their tongue from sins of the tongue, eyes or private parts. This has become so ordinary, that people doesn’t see any problem with it. 

He ‎ﷺ seeked advice from his ‎ﷺ wife

It’s not enough to say that you love Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ because of how he helped everyone, and supported everyone all the time, when you are too ashamed to help your wife in front of your friends, because your friends makes fun of the sunnah of helping your wife. His wife decides everything. Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ has wives who have helped him with what he should do, when the sahaba raa were not obeying his command. His ‎ﷺ wife said, don’t tell them to cut their hair and make sacrifice. Do it and they will follow your conduct. And what she raa said, happened. 

95 % Of Muslims Are Not Doing It

How can we talk about manners without talking about Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ seerah. His ‎ﷺ most perfect treatment of others. How are we today? Do we lower our gaze? Do we read 5 salah everyday? Do we speak truthfully? Do we slander? Do we make fun of others? Are we practising humility? If only 5 % of muslims pray salah, and the salah, protect us from doing sins, it means 95% of muslims are surely sinning, not only by not praying, but because they aren’t praying, they are not able to stop themselves from those sins prayers protect them from committing. 

A New Time Of Ignorance? 

I know that the problem of the ummah, is that there has come a new time of jahiliyah (ignorance). There is no event we can attend where there isn’t people who are sinning with their tongues, with their eyes and with their private parts? The protection a practising muslim sees, is by simply decline. I don’t want to be a part of any event, where my islamic values are disrespected. 

Can You Hear Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ weeping? 

I’m sure Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ knows what we are going through. Can you imagine his ‎ﷺ feelings? He ‎ﷺ weeping. He ‎ﷺ weeping. He ‎ﷺ sobbing. What will happen to my ummah, when the ummati are just as afraid from another ummati, as they are from a non-muslim? 

Backbiting, as defined by the Prophet (pbuh) is “to mention your brother with something he dislikes”. So when one backbites his brother or sister in Islam, what he says might be true. On the other hand, to slander is to say something false about one`s brother or sister in Islam.

Sheikhul-Islam, Ibn Taimiyyah radhi Allah talah anhaa said that there are those from the people who backbite or listen to backbiting, and they do so to please the company they keep, with the awareness that the victim is likely to be innocent of some of the things that are uttered about him. Often such offenders feel that if they were to attempt to end such a conversation in a gathering, their presence might become unwelcome or burdensome.

There are many methods and guises that are employed when one mentions another in a negative way. Under the pretense of being informative, one could say that it is not ones`habit to mention others, except for the sake of relating another`s condition to someone. Or one could state that by Allah, indeed so and so is one to be pitied, thereby showing superiority over one who is to be rejected. Another method might be to say that so and so is a good person; however he has such and such qualities. Again, one is justified in revealing another’s faults`. One could also simply state that we should forget so and so and make supplications for their forgiveness as well as our own, intending only to belittle the one that was mentioned. In reality, all these tactics are designed to deceive Allah (the Exalted) and to please the creation; and in reality, the many that follow these methods only deserve to deceive themselves.

Then there are those that backbites to raise their own status. When they hear someones`error, they employ words like, “had i prayed for so and so last night in my prayer, the news of their sin would not have reached my ears”. Again when a person states of another that he lacks the understanding in a matter, the implication is personal superiority for the one that mentions others`shortcoming.

There are also those that couple jealousy with backbiting the act of being critical or belittling to those that are praised in the company of others. Some also backbite for the sake of humour, playfulness and lightheartedness. A person finds a certain amount of satisfaction from being appreciated for his story-telling abilities; speaking ill of someone in a humourous fashion adds flavour to a tale. Others engage in backbiting by showing surprise and amazement at anothers`actions: ” how is it that someone could do such a thing?”. Yet others mention people and their actions with the pretense of sympathy for their actions or misfortunes. In reality, the one who backbites actually finds contentment and satisfaction at the mention of others and their misdeeds. Another form of backbiting is relating someones` misfortune to their enemies, so that they, too, may find pleasure in putting them down. From these examples one can summarize that backbiting pertains to a disease of the heart.

Allah says in the Quran:

“And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it ( so hate backbiting). And fear Allah. Verily, Allah is the One who accepts repentance, Most Merciful”. (Quran 49:12).

Hudhaifah narrates that he has heart the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) say:

” A slanderer will never enter Paradise”.

When a slanderer comes to you with news about a brother or a sister you need to do these things :

  1. You must not believe him; a slanderer is an evildoer, which makes him / her untrustworthy source of news.
  2. You should reproach him /her for his /her slander and try to show him the reprehensibility and vileness of his deed.
  3. You should hate him for the sake of Allah. Allah hates him /her for being a slanderer, and you should hate him too, for a Muslim must hate whom Allah hates.
  4. You must not have evil thoughts about your brother who is being slandered.
  5. After hearing what the slanderer said, you must not go out and spy on the person he spoke about, so as to ascertain whether what he said is true.
  6. Having reproached the slanderer for the vileness of his deed, you should not commit the same vile deed yourself, even if your intention is not malevolent. Therefore you  must neither pass on what he said nor say to another, “so and so said so and so”, in which case you will become like him. Everything we mentioned here are about slandering is valid when there is no islamic benefit that requires one to speak ill about another person.

The Prophet (pbuh) has said:

” a person is sufficiently considered to be lying when he relates all that he hears”

On the other hand if you defend another muslim you will be saved from the fire. The Prophet (pbuh) has said :

“Whoever defends the flesh of a brother or sister in Islam in his / her absence, Allah will save him from the fire”. (Reported by Ahmad).

The Prophet (pbuh) has said :

“the worst of people are those who spread malicious gossip”. (Reported by Ahmad).

May Allah save us from this most evil of actions and protect us from its temptations.

(Exctract taken out of the book “Gems and Jewels” and ” the book of manners” and the book ” the Ideal Muslimah “.

I`ve thought about this several times. Slandering has become so common these days. Sometimes at a workplace, between acquaintances, home or some friends it can happen everywhere… If someone has a problem with anyone the first thing they`ll do is to talk behind their back with people they know. Probably try their best to give the worst picture of that person to others just to make themselves look better. What actually happens is that this makes the person slandering look even worse in the eyes of the person they are slandering with. People tend to try the easy way out, which in my view is lot worse than what it seems. Instead of talking to the person they have an issue with. To try to resolve it somehow. They`ll tell everyone else about the issue they have. But the person that it`s about doesn’t know anything or he/she will hear it from someone else. This “disease” is common in all types of cultures and I can surely say one thing gender wise it`s more common between girls than boys. The other side of the coin is that this also leads to different types of clicks… someone freezing out others by keeping them out of the “inner circle”. It could be that they`re jealous about something or that they dislike something about them or want to prove themselves being “right” or being better in a way.

My opinion is that I don’t really want to be friends with slanderers. I mean how can I know that they`ll not talk behind my back when I`m not there??? I`ve always thought one thing that if you don’t have anything nice to say than please simply zip it / stay quiet… And I do stand for that. I try my best to live up to this motto. Whenever someone comes to me and complains about someone I always try to make the other one understand that there are so many reasons behind this. Just because you look at it this way doesn’t mean that the other person also does that. Each and every person has their own perspective. Another person can have thousand other issues in his/her life that makes him/her behave in a special manner.

Even though I don’t have that many friends I know I can trust the ones I have with anything and that they`ll always be there for me just like I`ll be there for them. I value them a lot. The same goes for my loved ones 🙂 What really impresses me is when people try to find the best in others and always try to do what is right.. That makes me very happy :)Instead of putting others in a bad light of course 🙂 Someone who deliberately tries to pull a person down is having a bad time himself/herself. But is just not able to tell anyone…

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

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USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

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you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
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Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
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Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

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Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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