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Allah has made the world and everything in it. Humans are the only creature who have been given intellect. In every species, there is a she and a he and from them both, comes a child. Only the she over every species can bear a child and there has to be a male and female of the species to bring a child to the world. Allah decided that for the animals, to make it a sign for us humans. Since humans have to find their way back to Allah themselves, they have to understand this wisdom to stay on the right path and protect themselves from one-gender-relationships. People often find excuses that some people are born gay. I don`t think that is correct. Every human is born as muslim, a natural inclination towards accepting Islam. And then his parents and friends make him a jew, christian or a muslim. It means that the people we interact with from our childhood, their beliefs, their conduct, their morals has an effect on our own belief, conduct and morals. If the environment we are brought up in has such a great impact on our belief, why wouldn`t it also have an impact on our sexual orientation.
Gap Between “Feeling” And True State
A person who eats much despite being full in the stomach, because of some emotional disturbance, still “feels” hungry, so eat more than what he / she has the capacity of. He / she “feels” hungry, but is full. It is an emotional need that “feels” like a hunger, it is not because the body needs food. Another human who has anorexia, he / she eats less than what his body need of nutrition. He / she “feels” that eating too much will harm him / her. He / she doesn`t “feel” like eating, even though the body, is weaker because of eating less than what is needed. Often times when we have a fever, we “feel” cold and feel chilly. But when we check our temperature we find out that we are warmer than what is normal of a human being. But we are “feeling” cold. These examples explain that humans are “feeling” something else than how their body actually is. Can we then rely on their “feelings” or should we rely on the actual state of their body?
How Allah Protect Us
What we read, hear, talk about, learn, who we interact with, in what way we interact with others, all of these matters has a great impact on our personality. If we don`t protect ourself from impure information, our thoughts will become impure, which again will have an effect on our behaviour. Allah gave us rules on how to interact with the opposite gender and also the same gender. Allah gave us boundaries to protect the purity of our soul and body. When Allah warned the People of the time of Prophet Lut alahisalam, He warned them because he wanted to keep them pure.
In The World Of The Unseen
We also need to understand the world of the unseen, ghayb in this. Muslims believe in the creation of Jinns, who whispers in the breasts of people, Surah falaq ayat 5. When we remember Allah, and keep our hearts pure we are protected from such whispers. The creation of jinn, some are muslims and some are not. Those who are not, can harm the humans by whispering in their breasts. That means that we can`t be sure that the thought in our mind is actually from ourself or a whisper from shaytan or jinns. Only way to protect ourself from bad thoughts is keeping the heart pure, wudhu, remembrance of Allah, salah, morning and evening adhkar, removing the hair in the underarms and private parts, 6 kalimah of Islam. And since the eman increases and decreases, the bad thoughts will come and go. When we use the muslim ways of keeping ourself pure, we will be rewarded by Allah for our struggle. Bad thoughts come, because these shayatin and jinns wants to take us off the right path. When we try to get on the guided path, sometimes the bad thoughts increases. That is because the shaytan is trying to make us turn away so we won`t get close to Allah and granted his Qurb and forgiveness. Shaytan doesn`t go to someone who doesn`t practice eman, a heart that doesn`t remember Allah, is poor and of no value for shaytan. Shaytan only distracts those who turn to Allah, and struggle with highs and lows of eman. That is why we need to ask Allah to guide us, and keep us pure. So we can fight every battle against shaytan and the nafs, the self. There is no pleasure of this world that is better than the souls eternal bliss in paradise. Ya Allah, grant all ummah paradise Al-Firdaws. Aamen
Different Reasons For Attraction
Attraction is not equal to love. Some are attracted to others because of their intellect. Some are attracted because of others empathy and care. Some are attracted because of others beauty. Some are attracted because of conduct, morals and manners. An attraction means you admire a quality in another human. It doesn`t have to be anything sexual. You may be attracted because of the quality despite the gender of that human. Humans have a soul and a body. Both needs nourishment. The body needs food, drink and sexual activity. The soul need noorani nourishment, gained from Allah. That is achieved from practising spirituality, through Islam. Often humans make sure to nourish the body and forget the soul, while the soul is starving to connect with Allah. When our soul lives according to the morals and manners of Islam, and we nourish it by our obedience and practising of Islam, we are able to avoid the spiritual death of our soul. Obedience of Allah is equal to a good spiritual health. Muslim believes that body will die, soul will pass on to the hereafter. The soul will be rewarded or punished because of how the body lived in the world. We believe that the hereafter is for eternity. Why put your eternity for risk, by not living according to the morals of Allah in the world. Allah made the soul and the body. Only the Creator of the human knows what is good for the human. The creation can`t always grasp the wisdom behind everything. Allah is All-Wise. Even when we don`t fully understand everything, we put our trust in the fact that Allah knows best for us. And we don`t put a question to it. Allah sees everything in the universe, knows everything, even before the universe, the stars, the planets, the solar systems, and all the creatures in it. How can our mind be able to fully comprehend that? We have spent years to understand what happens beyond the earth on other planets. And still we know very little. And think that there are probably many other planets and systems beyond what we can see and know. Not to talk about all the creatures we can`t see, like angels and jinns. Allah sees the whole picture while we humans only see a pixel of the whole picture. How can we comment wisely on a picture we only have seen one pixel of. No human will be able to comment what the picture is about if he only knows that little. Impossible. Just like a mother will protect her child from any danger, because she loves her child. Children doesn`t understand the dangers of life in that fragile age. The mother protects the child, til the child becomes an adult and is able to take care of himself / herself. The Creator, Allah, wants to guide the creation because He Allah is Al-Wadud, He loves us, and wants what is best for us, paradise, and want us to keep ourselves pure, so our journey back to Him, will be easier and grant us reward and acceptance. Ya Allah, grant for us to accept the truth in what is written here and forgive us for our mistakes. Aamen.
People often want Allah to support them. People want Allah to love them. We can’t compare the creation with the Creator. But still when we do, we will get a glimpse of how we can achieve Allah’s love and support through it.
A Mother And Her Child
Every mother is different. But every mother has one thing in common; she loves her child. The child who was made out of her own self, is dearer to her than almost everything. We know that even if our mother is angry at us. She is not able to hate us. If only for a little while. Maybe because we are made from her flesh, and Allah has put mercy in a mother for her child. When we behave in a manner she dislikes, she will most probably get upset. But as time passes, she easily forgives. Even if she denounces the action. She is not able to not love her child. When we want anyone we like to like us, to love us, that person will like us if we behave in a manner that person likes. And when we behave in a manner that person dislikes, that person will dislike us. People does not have such mercy towards us as our mother. If they dislike or hate us, they will still do that. No matter what we do for them. If we draw the similtude to our Creator in this matter, we can easily understand; when we do deeds Allah, likes, with the right intention and sincerity, He loves us. When we make mistakes, and don’t make astagfar and tawbah, He dislikes us. But He doesn’t hate us. He (Allah) hates our bad deeds. And He loves us so much that the door to Him is always open through sinsere tawbah and repentence. Til our last breath He (Allah) awaits that we will return to Him. When we knit a jersey or draw a drawing, we feel a ownership to it. Allah, our Creator feels a ownership of His creation. Like a parent feels ownership of his child. When a child does something good, the father mother will say to his/her friends, “That’s my son” or “That’s my daughter”. So If our child leaves us to another country or because of anger, and as purily as parents love their children, a part of them will always, wait for their children to come back to their parents, repenting. Allah does also feel ownership to His creation. Through Allah’s beautiful creation (world, sun, moon, weather, planets, creatures, humans- inside and whom are eaten and who eats. We can see and comprehend how smart Our Creatur must be. Because everything is so perfectly made, without any mistakes. If Allah’s creation is so beautiful and in such perfect system, it is because everything is created by the Most Beautiful and the most perfect in all ways. Allah’s Qualities/ Attributes are the Most Perfect. When we do deeds, that Allah likes, He raises our status and says, “you’re my friend”. Imagine people are very proud of having good, influental people as friends. If the Creator of the whole universe says, that you’re his /her friend, you’ve got yourself the most influential friend there dude. A friend Who just says to it “be” and it is. Don’t ever downplay that. And be truly thankful. And correct yourself when your gratefulness decreases. So if we want Him (Allah) to like us, we will accomplish that by living the way He wants us to live our life. And protect us from those things he dislikes. When we will accomplish that, according to our means/ resources, He will love us. If we lack, the ability to do this, we will not be able to achieve this. But a beautiful fact about Allah, is that he does not reward according to results, he rewards us according to our effort. In other words, even if we make mistake often, and we with pure intention and sincerity make tawbah, often, he will help us, and reward us for believing in His Mercy, and not giving up on ourselves. And standing up and trying again, every time we fail.
Support Of A True Friend
The quality, most people appreciate in a good friend, is support. In good days. In bad days. When we support someone, our love for that cause, is seen through our actions. In other words, if we love Allah, and want Him to support us, we can start with supporting the matters He likes. And Allah, Who is All-Hearing and All-Seeing, and knows what we do in private and in public. The All-Knowing of what we do at all times. In other words, we can’t hide anything from Him. So when we want to gain His support, we have to be true to ourselves, and clean in our actions, because He knows, when we are un-true. What will we gain of reward, when He can easily read that we just wanted people to know, we didn’t do the deed solely for Him. The deed will not be accepted. Such liars, we do not want to become. Lie to our own souls. What is the need for that, when Allah will punish us for it. If we want Allahs support, we have to correct our intention and sincerity and be just as devoted when we are alone as we are in public. Because Allah knows. He can see through us. How foolish we are, and false, when we can’t stick to important basic principles of Islam, when we are alone. Just because no-one can see us. A part of imaan/faith is believing that Allah is All-Aware of what we are doing at all times (ihsan). Do we comprehend that the biggest witness of our deeds is our Creator. If He will witness against us, how lost will we be in the hereafter, when our Creator will not even look at us because of His anger towards our disobedience of His rules. Ya Allah, grant us to win our struggle of perfecting our obedience to You (Allah) in public and in private of every moment and deed. For me, my family, my friends and every ummati, till the end of time. Ya Allah, inspire in us good, and protect us from the evil within ourselves. Help us to recognize the good within ourselves, and make it increase our imaan, humility and humbleness with full submissiveness to You. Grant us self-empowerment. Grant us proactiveness in doing good deeds with great sincerity and intentions, so we accomplish deeds with the greatest reward and that You accept. Aameen summa aameen.
Hazoor Paak pbuh has said a muslim is a mirror to another muslim, when he /she sees anything wrong in it, he / she tells him / her. Often times when we are low in imaan, we dislike being advised from others. When anyone corrects us, we are greatly wounded. We forget that part of being a muslim is not only want yourself to prosper but also others. When someone corrects us, the sunnah way, we can try to immediately think that it is part of our faith. And those who have strong faith, they correct others, within their means. The weak-faithed think of the sin as bad only in their heart, and dis-allow themselves to correct anyone.
How Dhikr Helped Me
Dhikr is something that changed me in many ways and helped me deal with my heart. Often times we have knowledge of what deeds are sinful and what deeds are rewarding. Still we don`t manage to save ourselves from the bad stuff. The issue here is, as I have learned in dhikr mehfil, that if our heart is not good, no matter how much good information we have knowledge of, our actions will not change according to it. To be able to act upon the good we know and here in mehfil in the mosque etc, we need to have a good, sound heart. The only way to achieve that is first repentance, with following dhikr of Allah. Slowly we will be able to clean our heart for all kind of bad qualities and become receptive of good advice and gentle and firm corrections. That is the only way. There is no shortcut to success. Everyone has to take the stairs. In other words, it is recommended to do dhikr of Allah every day. As repentance cleanses the heart and dhikr polishes it.
When Your Heart Reminds You
When we are low in imaan, we have to drag ourselves to prayer and other good deeds. Our imaan increases by doing good deeds, and decreases by doing bad deeds. If you keep yourself motivated and make yourself do good deeds, even though you don`t feel like it. If you are consistent in doing this, one day your heart, soul will remind you of the good deeds you need to do. You will not be able to have peace without having done those good deeds.
Change Your Focus Towards The Quran
Self-motivation, self-empowering is the key. We can`t always rely on others, when we are down. Of course others also have increasing and decreasing imaans. Whenever we are down, turn to Allah`s book, read surah`s, listen to famous reciters. It will change your focus, whenever you forget. Nothing makes the soul and heart happy and content as the speech of Allah.
Choose The Company Of Wisdomful Muslims
If you feel you are not able to do as good deeds as you want to. Change your company. Sometimes we don`t realize that others heartbreaking comments about our deen does have a bad effect on us. In other words, surround yourself with people who not only have the knowledge of Islam but most importantly, also have wisdom of it. In other words, their knowledge is rooted in their actions. They don`t only talk about the salah but also know about tactics of how to increase concentration in salah and ibaadah. They don`t only talk about the strength of Hazoor Paak pbuh and his followers ra but they have also gained these strengths themselves.
Does It Change Your Behaviour?
I have learned from dhikr mehfils, that often time, we go to gatherings where special islamic days are celebrated. When we sit there our hearts are filled with imaan. When we leave the gathering and come home, almost the most of it is forgotten, and life is the same as before we went there. What I have learned through dhikr mehfil is that, if the gathering doesn`t change your behaviour for the better. Than what is the point of going there. For example, in his dars the imaam sahib is talking about the bad effects of gheebat, chugli, bohtan, envy and other diseases of the heart. He explains that we must get rid of it, because it destroys our good deeds. What effect has the information had on anyone, when minutes after the gathering is finished, we start doing these deeds. Inside the mosque? If good knowledge doesn`t have any effect on us, maybe our heart must be cleaned and the advisors has to be wisdomful advisors, in other words, themselves also living according to the advice they are giving. Or else the time will be wasted, by the attendees and the imaam.
Few Pointers To Summarize:
1. Surround yourself with good people.
2. Work on your heart with repentance and dhikr.
3. When you gain knowledge work to gain the wisdom by internalizing it in your conduct.
4. Self-empowerment. Self-motivation. Don`t rely on others. Turn to Allah, through Quran, sunnah.
5. Constantly work on the qualities of your heart. There is no other way to prosper. Advice has no effect without qalbe-salim.
6. Your imaan will decrease and increase. It is inevitable. Learn how to recognize the signs of low imaan, to protect yourself from it.
7. Allah`s mercy is greater than His wrath. Mistakes are inevitable. Allah forgives all sins. Turn to Allah every time and re-start your life.
Ya Allah, Help Us, Help Ourselves. Aameen.
May Allah grant a heart that has a good balance between fear of Him and Love of Him. Grant us a heart that accepts advice. Grant us a heart that is firm on Your path, Islam. Don`t let our hearts, souls deviate from your seeratul-mustaqim. Grant us knowledge and wisdom of deen and dunya, so that we can prosper in both. Grant us your khaas qurbat and Hazoor Paak pbuh khaas hazoori, rehnomai and rohaniyat. Cleanse our heart, soul and eyes, and grant us a khaas reflection of Hazoor Paak pbuh in all of these. Aameen summa aameen.
Hazoor Paak pbuh talked about racism in his final khutbah. And till today we are still suffering from rasicm between different ethnicities and different colors within the ummah. Being arab versus ajam.
Nowadays in some countries if an important person give his recomendations about a person for a position in a organisation, he will get employed. In some countries if people pay money to get hired, they get the job, even when other people are more qualified for the position. Hazoor Paak pbuh told his own daughter, Fatma raa, if you want to be granted jannah, don’t rely on your lineage, but be consistent in doing good deeds. Imagine, his telling this to his pbuh own daughter.
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Allah raised the rank of a black slave to stand on what is the most sanctified in Islam, the kaabah, to give a Bilali (raa) adhaan (call to prayer). His ranks were raised. His color didn’t matter, his obedient mattered.
We should not avoid certain people just because they are weird or unusual people. Allah also told Hazoor Paak to not avoid certain companys, just because some of the chiefs, disliked being in their company of the poor and weird. That is what is happening today. People avoid each other because of what others own, and wear. Not realizing that the true person is not mere there outside, but it is their values, conduct, behaviour, character, god-consiousness/god-fearingness.
We have lost such an important part of the sunnah. We have become arrogant (arab). May Allah help us humble ourselves without becoming a dormat. Aameen
Most people talk bad about women that wear hijab. Without lifting an eyebrow about women in their life, who not only doesn`t wear hijab, but also pluck eyebrows and wear perfume. These women, girls are not looked by men with good intentions.
Most people talk bad about women that avoid mix gatherings or places where there is played music. Without lifting an eyebrow about the people who think that music uplifts them. Most of who seek places where they easily can interact with the other gender. This is most people idea of having fun.
Most people backbite women who avoid certain arrangements and tv-channels even if they are for women only. While they don`t mind that many of the places, even at islamic programs, there is a lot of noise and most people are backbiting and many muslims are making fun of others.
Most people talk bad about people who care about what they eat, every ingredients so that they don`t eat anything that is not allowed. They can use a lot of time finding the right restaurant or checking the ingredients in all foods. Or questioning the employee about this. While they care little of those who eat all kinds of meat, and all kinds of food, and never dare to question for a second time if the food actually is halal. Disregarding, caring little for that the food they eat has an impact on their behaviour.
Most people think those who are always speaking the truth, are foolish, because it gets them into trouble. While they don`t care for the fact that the angels doesn`t like to company people who lies.
Most people make fun of many sunnah`s of the Prophet Muhammad pbuh. The sad part is that most of them doesn`t know that making fun of any parts of Islam, can take you/ and your children, further away from it. How can your claim of loving the prophet pbuh be true, while you make fun of his simple life-style.
Most people doesn`t like paying much money, when it comes to learning the deen, attending online courses or buying books. While they can utilize many thousands in buying a new car/ house/ vacation just to impress their friends.
Most people doesn`t get impressed by conduct/ knowledge/ hikmah/ in deen or people who takes practicing Islam seriously. They get impressed by bank-balance, expensive cars, big houses, mobile phones and clothing from expensive brands. Non of which will help them attain jannah.
Instead of looking with disgust at people who are trying to be more practicing, we should actually give these people a break. Today many people say that people force other muslims to practice Islam. Where? As I see it, the community, so-called muslims by name, are making it difficult for practicing muslims, to practice Islam, as it came. Instead of pointing fingers at people you don`t know. Try to understand certain people by what they are avoiding. Maybe we can understand them more after that.
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