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the worst loneliness is being without allahI was so far away from Allah. I had people around me. Friends, family, job, life. But being far away from Allah, it felt like dead. Like something is dead inside of me. I was afraid of my own shadow. My own hand. No one helped me to find Allah. Not as much as I needed Allah. I had to struggle to find Him. To come close to Him. To treasure Him. To struggle to achieve His Love.

Like The Air I Breathe

Now that I see other people who are far away from His Path. I feel so bad. I want to hug them to tell them. No matter what rizk you have in life, you will never be satisfied if you are far away from Allah. I know how hard it is to struggle, to find Him. I want to give out a hand for those who have no one to help them to find Him. Because I know how it feels like to not have Him. It hurts, it pains. I don`t know what to say than this: Find your way back to Him. No happiness is any happiness without Him. No kind of rizk, blessing will ever be a blessing without Him. All beings need Allah more than we need this air we are breathing. When we are not aware of this need, and not struggling to get near Him. Than we are truly lost. Whatever good or bad will happen in our life, we will be lost.

Worth Less Than Zero

If we have Allah, whatever good or bad happens in our life, we will succeed. The biggest treasure is not this dunya or anything in it. The biggest treasure is to love Allah, and struggle to live true to His cause, the way He wants us to live. That is how, in the moment you might lose everything, if you have Allah, and You love him, He can give you contentment in your heart, also at that moment. But if you win the dunya, and lose your faith in Him, no matter how big gain you think you have, all of it is worth, less than zero. Having faith, imaan, is everything. Without faith, imaan in Allah, we will be in loss forever. May Allah help us to preserve it and help other souls find their way back to him. If they only understood, how important this matter is for them. They would have taken out time for it. May Allah helps us find our way back to Him. Aameen.

brother for sale.When we go through something painful that happens to ourselves it is painful and hurting. Sometimes it`s so tough to cope with that we really go ten feet under the floor. I`ve talked about this a few times before. Parents know how this feels like. Imagine when your child is in pain/hurt or any sickness. I can imagine parents must feel that their child is like a part of them, and extended version of their heart. Imagine when he/she is in pain and you are not able to remove it. So we pray and pray. We ask everyone we know for help. Some join us and help, other ignore. It is out of our hands. Only the All-Healing can help us. For Allah nothing is impossible.

Job With The Best Paid Wages – Love

Bringing children into this world that is becoming more and more dangerous and difficult to live in, is a dary job. I`m sure it is worth it. May Allah help parents learn good methods to give a healthy upbringing to their children. And give righteous children to everyone. May Allah give all families good health and aafia and barakah in their life, so they can share each others joys and happiness, and comfort each other in difficult times and give them constant increase in imaan and guidance so they can become resourceful for the community, muslims and non-muslims, and a ongoing-charity for their parent til the end of time. Allah, remove all pain and suffering. Aameen.

If you open the door to the heart
You can hear the beat of your soul
as it contemplates on our Lord.

When we see with the eyes in our heart
We often see the brokenness that is living inside.
The hurt that people cause,
No person is without,
It can only be mended with Allah`s Love.

The heart is starved to mention Allah,
But we don`t have time for the pleasure of our soul.

So lost to sort out worlds`puzzle
We haven`t understood our real cause,
And what we`re made for.

There is only one thing
That gives contentment,
Mentioning Allah in every moment.

People who have found this treasure,
Are not happy with money or gold.
Even with little
They are satisfied till they`re old.

Living a meaningful and happy life,
They long for the day they will meet again.
Those souls that were true to their Lord,
Not always from the start,
But eventually in the end.

The life of this world and it`s enjoyment,
May shift our focus.
The true believers won`t let it`s mirage,
capture the soul and look it inside.

They will help each other to work and strive,
For the eternal life in Paradise. ❤ ❤

If this world was free of problem, paradise would lose its value, mufti menk

hearts are fragile, be careful with your wordsAlmost everyone are on fb now. If you’re not online in these ages than it is quite strange. So like there is a manual for almost every thing, there should also be a manual for how to update statuses on FB. A lot of times people try to be funny and end up being very rude. I have also burnt myself on that. Sometimes words can`t describe what you want to say, or you don`t find the right words to proclaim your message. And sometimes you just want to be funny.

Everyone has different values from each other, even if their brought up in the same family there will be differences. What I understand in a certain way, another person will understand differently, no matter what. When we write a status on FB we will never be guaranteed that we will not hurt another person. What we might say in a manner just to be funny, can very easily offend another person. I`m thinking that as muslims, we know that if we hurt someone`s feelings in this world, and are for any reason not able to apologize to them before our or their death. Those people will stand in the way of us going to Paradise. It is better to settle a matter in the dunya then the Hereafter, if you would like to make it to Paradise.

Sometimes we see different things in the community that we want to point out. We must be very careful that are status don`t end up known as backbiting. Checking our intentions and making them pure for the sake of wanting a better change in the society is a must. We must be careful not to belittle someone. Will what you are about to say, change the other person, make him/her think, or will it make him/her worse. No one I`ve ever heard about has changed a person by offending them. If your intention is to create a change, it can only be done through love and a positive way of proclaiming your message, without bringing others down. If you are doing dawa or Islah the wrong way, you could end up in making others feel hopeless and make their situation even worse. Don`t make others`feel hopeless, make them feel hopeful. Each and every has a very fragile heart. Even if they try to hide their feelings behind a happy face. Know for sure that what we say and do, does have an impact on the people you interact with, either we want it or not.

We need to evaluate what we say to make sure that it is with the right intention, and to make a positive change in others, without backbiting. If not, than our messages are better left unsaid.

say im sorryYou may be thinking, is it that difficult to apologize? I didn`t know it either, before I bought this. In the book ” the things I wish I knew before i got married”, by Gary Chapman. It is written the rules of apologizing. Gary says that everyone does mistakes, but if we don`t ask for sincere apology, we won`t be forgiven and the resentment won`t go away, instead it will build up to become bigger. Here are a simple formula to how you can apologize to your spouse, five apology languages :

  1. Expressing regret : “I`m sorry” may well be the first words in expressing this apology language. However, you need to tell what you are sorry for. The words “I`m sorry” spoken alone, are much to general. For example, you might say, “I`m sorry I came an hour late, I know you have been waiting for me so we could go to the movie. I realize that we`ve already missed the first thirty  minutes, and you probably don`t want to go. I feel bad that I did not pay more attention to the time. I got busy with work at the office. I can`t blame anyone but myself. I feel like I have let you down big time”. This apology language is an emotional language. It is seeking to express to the other person your emotional pain that your words or you behaviour have hurt them deeply. If this is the apology language of the one you have hurt, what they want to know is: “Do you understand how deeply your behaviour has hurt me?”. Anything short of this kind of apology will seem empty to them.
  2. Accepting Responsibility :  This apology begins with: ” I was wrong” and then goes on to explain what was wrong about your behaviour. The person who has spoken harshly might apologize in the following manner. ” The way I talked to you was wrong. It is not loving or kind to raise my voice and speak harshly to you. I should not have allowed my temper to get out of control. I`m not blaming you. I`m accepting responsibility for my behaviour and I know it was wrong. The person who`s primary language is accepting responsibility, is waiting for you to admit that your behaviour was wrong.
  3. Making restitution : This apology language seeks to “make it right”. What people with this apology language wants to know is ” do you still love me?”. Your behaviour seems so unloving to them that they wonder how you could love them and do what you did. What they request for you to do will be in keeping with their love language.
  4. Genuinely expressing your desire to change your behaviour :This apology seeks to come up with a plan to keep the bad behaviour from reoccurring.
  5. Requesting forgiveness : “will you please forgive me? ” These words are music to those whose apology language is requesting forgiveness. In their mind if you are sincere, you will ask them to forgive you. This is what an apology is all about. You have hurt them and they want to know  “do you want to be forgiven?”.  “Do you want to remove the barrier that your behaviour has caused?”. Requesting forgiveness is what touches their heart and rings of sincerity. What most people want to know when you are attempting to apologize is ” are you sincere?”. However, they judge your sincerity by whether or not you are speaking what to them is a genuine apology. That means you must learn to speak your apology in their primary apology language. When you do, they sense your real sincerity.

Gary says that there are no healthy marriages without apology and forgiveness. He says he draws this conclusion from the reality that all of us are human and humans sometimes do and say things that are demeaning to other people. These unloving words and actions create emotional barrier between the people involved. Those barriers do not go away with the passing of time. They are removed only when we apologize and the offended party chooses to forgive.

Excerpt taken out from the book ” Things I wish I `d known before we got married ” , by Gary Chapman.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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