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svane familieMany people often neglect children’s need to be seen and heard and valued for who they are, where their abilities are appreciated regardless of their siblings or friends achievements. A childs joy, when their parents listen attentively, and value all the siblings individually, when they are together as a family, is important. Often we wonder why some adults are so quiet and not into talking that much. When they grow up amongst many siblings, where some are very dominating, it is obvious that other doesn`t get that much chance to blossom or show their abilities. It could lead to they not cultivate their talents as much as their potential. People in general grow better in the right environment. Since everyone has different needs, we grow the best in different places. Seeing your child as the individual he/she is and value them for who they are, without comparison to other, is important.

 

Undiscovered Potential

Sitting at the dinner table with the family, and giving everyone chance to respond and talk to the family, is must, no matter how old they are, because their opinions need to be valued, to make them feel that they also have important opinions. Who hasn`t heard a toddler or a young child say something that is beyond his/her age. By excluding some children from the conversations, we can damage their self-esteem, and prevent them from believing in themselves. The saying “ghar ki murghi daal barabar”, is quite funny and accurate to prove the point. People outside of the family, sees so much potential in a child, while within the family, he/she can be neglected.

 

Values Are More Important Than Education

Our parents might have had this way of raising us. If we havent learned from their mistakes, we have not learned anything worthwhile. What can be more important than moulding our next generation into beautiful/giving people with good values who has the confidence to stand for what they believe in. I`m sure if we ask our friends all of them has something to point out about how they got raised by their parents. Good solid education won`t do any good for anyone, if the conduct, character, morals, manners, self-esteem etc are not cultivated and sound.

 

When You Are On Right, You Will Be Rewarded

Teaching children that nothing comes in this world without hard work. There is no elevator to success, everyone has to take the stairs, one step at a time, as long as you work hard and abide by the rules, you are a winner, no matter the outcome. Even if others doesn`t value your efforts know that Allah sees your struggles and will reward you, in this life and next. A good environment starts at home and as the child grows older other places like kindergarten, school, college, work and friends will have an impact on them. If we don`t cheer our children for their achievements, no matter how small, they will find someone who does. And that someone isn`t necessarily a good influence on them. For them to have a solid confidence to say no to bad things, they must have a good dose of self-esteem and confidence, that is taught from their early years. When children realize that Allah will reward, they will turn to Him, instead of other people for validation. Help them see the beauty in their conduct and character not their appearance. Having a rich character, makes one feel good. The only way to feel good is to know that you are doing something right, and having trust that you will be rewarded for it by Allah.

 

 

happy feetSee, Hear And Value Your Children

Treat them as individuals. Cheering them for having good conduct, character, and filling their bucket of esteem and confidence, and cultivating good values in them, will help them in all their struggles in life. Helping them believe in themselves will make it easier for them to cope with challenges. There is no bigger favour a parent can do for his/her child. Being fair so that no one is excluded and everyone gets a fair chance to speak, is important. It proclaims a message of equality. We need to be fair when some of the children are more dominating. When we teach children to listen to each other, they will of course do that. Growing up in an environment where we can`t express our views without fear of being ridiculed by other siblings, is damaging. The parents can make rules for a healthy conversation/discussion at home and make sure that they are also followed. Since the parents are the shepherds of the family, they need to make sure that their children are under good care and that their individual needs are filled and they are given space where they grow best. They will be questioned about their care, from Allah.

you are good enough, dont let anyone tell you otherwiseA home should be a place where everyone has sanctity. There is a huge different in being a place where you are tolerated instead of being a place where you are celebrated. A place where we accept each other, where we can be just as we are, without having people who always pinpoint something wrong in you. The parents are responsible to help children develop positive attitude towards their siblings and others. When they make a positive environment for their children, a place where they practice compassion and attentive listening, without sarcastic remarks, their attitude will rub off on their children as well. To cultivate good qualities is important both in home, at school, work or with friends.  When children and family members have space to ask question without being laughed at or feel dumb, they will grow as people, and become smarter. The same goes at school or at work. As long as there is an environment where people are welcomed just as they are, without being ridiculed or humiliated for it, they will play an active part in the goals that are for the group. We often talk about how certain people can improve their lives. Those who are succesful and smart have an idea of how it worked out for their life and so they like to share their view, to help others. That is good until they somehow indirectly put other down or somehow indirectly tell them how they failed. Without creating a positive environment, any change can be difficult to maintain for a long time.

Different Understanding

Teachers especially knows what I am talking about. Picture you are a teacher for a group of teenagers. You have just been selected for the job. After a few days of teaching you understand that the class has different level in their understanding. You can`t use the same material for all of the students. You have to use different methods to teach them. Not only that. Since some of them are slow at learning and some are quicker, the slower are making more trouble in class, because they see how in-adequate they are compared to the other who are smarter. The teacher has to make a good environment for learning if they want the children to progress.

Put Aside Differences And Work For A Common Goal

The same goes for a working place. If the manager wants all the employees to make progress he has to make sure that the environment is encouraging and people enjoy working there. The employees are often different, but as long as the management is good, the environment will also be good. Which in fact means both for the students in the classroom and the employees at a working place. The management / teacher has to have certain rules, that if and when are broken, they will be sanctioned. They should not be afraid of showing a yellow card the moment they see that some people are misbehaving. The most important point is to find out the reasons behind a persons misbehaviour. Sometimes the one that is making the most trouble is the one that is being treated unfairly by others. Sometimes people indirectly exclude some, just because they are different. Here the management/teacher has to make sure that all the rules are being followed. They can say : “We don`t have to agree about everything to cooperate about a project or task at work or school”. Surely most of the places we are either in home, school or work, most of the people are very different. So we learn to put our differences aside and work for a common goal, which is a, b or c.

Compassion Will Change Your Thinking

It is so easy for those who have a succesful recipe for life, to point out mistakes in other people`s life. If they had done certain things differently everything would have been better. No. We don`t know what other people are going through. What kind of obstacles that are in their life. We can`t be indifferent to people’s struggles when they are coping with anything, without being in the same shoes. We have to practice compassion. As easy as it seem to do things differently, a bad environment won`t make it easier to change anything. It boils down to creating a good environment for learning to apply what we learn. As long as we don`t have that, it will take more time to improve, if at all possible to make any change.

muslimah, hijab, crown, princessNote To Myself And The Women Of The World:

Don`t let the world degrade you to an object to please strangers eyes. You are worthy of being the slave of Allah. Which is the highest status any woman can have. Don`t dress to impress men that would degrade you to a thing. Rather dress for your Lord. Your hijab protects you against being just an attraction for men. Your status as a human being, a woman, is so much more. As a mother; jannah lies at your feet, as a wife; you fulfil half of the deen of your Husband, as a Daughter; you are a rahma for the family and your parents and brothers ticket to heaven, depending on how they treat you and what kind of islamic upbringing they give you.

Your hijab doesn`t hide your opinion, rather it gives you freedom to express them by people focusing on what you say, rather than how you look like. How you dress yourself proclaims how you think about yourself, and how you want others to think about yourself. Respect yourself, and don`t let the world put standards for you. Raise your standards to what position Allah has given you, and you will in sha Allah reap the reward for the good you do in this world.

-Inspired by dai`s around the world.

i love holmliaHolmlia er er en av de delene av byen hvor det er en samling av folk med forskjellige nasjonaliteter og en befolkning hvor over halvparten er under 30 år og hele 27,5 er under 15 år. Det sier seg selv at dette vil sette sitt preg på stedet. Likevel er det ikke gjort nok for disse unge menneskene. Istedet for å utvide tilbud ved ulike fritidsklubber. Er de fleste blitt stengt ned og ungdommen må ta bussen til nærmeste klubb. Dette fører til at flere ungdommer henger på “hjørner” og havner i galt miljø. Dersom det ikke blir lagd steder og aktiviteter for ungdommen er det dette som kommer til å skje. Når miljøet først blir dårlig tar det lenger tid for å gjøre om et onde til noe bra. Hvorfor ikke heller lage flere muligheter for ungdommen. Dette vil forme dem til å bli en bedre framtid for landet vi lever i. Bare siden de ikke har stemmerett betyr ikke at de ikke er verdifulle. Det er dagens ungdommers meninger som vil forme hvilken vei landet vil ta. Hvorfor ikke derfor investere i dem. Vi må ikke bare sette inn mot-tiltak når det dannes et problem, men heller sette inn positive tiltak som fremmer et bra miljø og ikke lar det på plass til å utvikle seg til å bli noe dårlig.

kameraNå tenker jeg på alle de journalistene vi har verden. Journalistikk er en veldig artig jobb, siden de kommer veldig tett innpå de menneskene de skal fortelle om i reportasjene sin, eller artikkelen sin. Samtidig har de masse kunnskap om små og store ting, og kan skrive om alt som rører seg i sitt eget land og resten av verden. Men man skal ikke glemme at disse menneskene har som andre mennesker også meninger om ting. De tenker og oppfører seg på sin måte utifra det de har tillært seg eller opplevd gjennom sitt liv. Det er nettopp derfor vi som leser deres budskap eller ser på tv må bli flinkere til å se med litt mer kritske øyne. Alt som blir sagt ordrett gjenspeiler seg ikke alltid i virkeligheten. Noen ganger kan små saker bli blusset opp til et stort fenomen, mens kanskje andre viktige saker ikke kommer frem siden det krasjer med meningene til journalistene. Det er jo sant. Og vi alle vet jo det. Men vi lukker øynene litt, kanskje. Alle og ethvert individ burde faktisk tenke over dette og ikke la all info som siger gjennom reportasjer og artikler komme inn over seg, før en selv har nok informasjon rundt emnet det skrives eller snakkes om.

” With great power comes great responsibility”.

Kanskje dette er noe journalister bør bli flinkere til å leve etter. Å skrive om det som faktisk skjer i verden, enn å dreie vinkelen på en slik måte at ting blir tatt

“way out of their proportion”.

Jeg sier ikke at alle gjør slik. Men må si at jeg er blitt mer obs på det etter å ha fått med meg artikler fra journalister som er meget kunnskapsrike og som får frem bildet av virkeligheten, uten å skjule noe og uten å henge ut noen.

Er det slik at journalister ikke vil skrive om virkeligheten, siden det ikke selger eller skaper oppmerksomhet? Hvilken verden har vi kommet i når løgn selger mer enn sannhet. Det er utrolig synd at vi har fått en slik verden. Og at noen mennesker misbruker den makten de har. Dette skjer blant folk i mediebransjen mer enn før.

Det er klart at det rører seg noe inni folk når man snakker sant. Kanskje fordi den ikke alltid er sukkersøt, men kan være ganske deprimerende, men det betyr ikke at vi skal lukke øynene våre for den. Eller at mennesker generelt skal bli servert med løgner, for å holde dem oppe. Moderasjon kreves, si det med måte, men snakk for all del utifra sannheten uten å ha et ønske om å lage overskrifter.

“Show the real picture and try to be like the truthful one”

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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kjærlighet:)

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