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Allah has made the world and everything in it. Humans are the only creature who have been given intellect. In every species, there is a she and a he and from them both, comes a child. Only the she over every species can bear a child and there has to be a male and female of the species to bring a child to the world. Allah decided that for the animals, to make it a sign for us humans. Since humans have to find their way back to Allah themselves, they have to understand this wisdom to stay on the right path and protect themselves from one-gender-relationships. People often find excuses that some people are born gay. I don`t think that is correct. Every human is born as muslim, a natural inclination towards accepting Islam. And then his parents and friends make him a jew, christian or a muslim. It means that the people we interact with from our childhood, their beliefs, their conduct, their morals has an effect on our own belief, conduct and morals. If the environment we are brought up in has such a great impact on our belief, why wouldn`t it also have an impact on our sexual orientation.

Gap Between “Feeling” And True State

A person who eats much despite being full in the stomach, because of some emotional disturbance, still “feels” hungry, so eat more than what he / she has the capacity of. He / she “feels” hungry, but is full. It is an emotional need that “feels” like a hunger, it is not because the body needs food. Another human who has anorexia, he / she eats less than what his body need of nutrition. He / she “feels” that eating too much will harm him / her. He / she doesn`t “feel” like eating, even though the body, is weaker because of eating less than what is needed. Often times when we have a fever, we “feel” cold and feel chilly. But when we check our temperature we find out that we are warmer than what is normal of a human being. But we are “feeling” cold. These examples explain that humans are “feeling” something else than how their body actually is. Can we then rely on their “feelings” or should we rely on the actual state of their body?

How Allah Protect Us

What we read, hear, talk about, learn, who we interact with, in what way we interact with others, all of these matters has a great impact on our personality. If we don`t protect ourself from impure information, our thoughts will become impure, which again will have an effect on our behaviour. Allah gave us rules on how to interact with the opposite gender and also the same gender. Allah gave us boundaries to protect the purity of our soul and body. When Allah warned the People of the time of Prophet Lut alahisalam, He warned them because he wanted to keep them pure.

In The World Of The Unseen

We also need to understand the world of the unseen, ghayb in this. Muslims believe in the creation of Jinns, who whispers in the breasts of people, Surah falaq ayat 5. When we remember Allah, and keep our hearts pure we are protected from such whispers. The creation of jinn, some are muslims and some are not. Those who are not, can harm the humans by whispering in their breasts. That means that we can`t be sure that the thought in our mind is actually from ourself or a whisper from shaytan or jinns. Only way to protect ourself from bad thoughts is keeping the heart pure, wudhu, remembrance of Allah, salah, morning and evening adhkar, removing the hair in the underarms and private parts, 6 kalimah of Islam. And since the eman increases and decreases, the bad thoughts will come and go. When we use the muslim ways of keeping ourself pure, we will be rewarded by Allah for our struggle. Bad thoughts come, because these shayatin and jinns wants to take us off the right path. When we try to get on the guided path, sometimes the bad thoughts increases. That is because the shaytan is trying to make us turn away so we won`t get close to Allah and granted his Qurb and forgiveness. Shaytan doesn`t go to someone who doesn`t practice eman, a heart that doesn`t remember Allah, is poor and of no value for shaytan. Shaytan only distracts those who turn to Allah, and struggle with highs and lows of eman. That is why we need to ask Allah to guide us, and keep us pure. So we can fight every battle against shaytan and the nafs, the self. There is no pleasure of this world that is better than the souls eternal bliss in paradise. Ya Allah, grant all ummah paradise Al-Firdaws. Aamen

Different Reasons For Attraction

Attraction is not equal to love. Some are attracted to others because of their intellect. Some are attracted because of others empathy and care. Some are attracted because of others beauty. Some are attracted because of conduct, morals and manners. An attraction means you admire a quality in another human. It doesn`t have to be anything sexual. You may be attracted because of the quality despite the gender of that human. Humans have a soul and a body. Both needs nourishment. The body needs food, drink and sexual activity. The soul need noorani nourishment, gained from Allah. That is achieved from practising spirituality, through Islam. Often humans make sure to nourish the body and forget the soul, while the soul is starving to connect with Allah. When our soul lives according to the morals and manners of Islam, and we nourish it by our obedience and practising of Islam, we are able to avoid the spiritual death of our soul. Obedience of Allah is equal to a good spiritual health. Muslim believes that body will die, soul will pass on to the hereafter. The soul will be rewarded or punished because of how the body lived in the world. We believe that the hereafter is for eternity. Why put your eternity for risk, by not living according to the morals of Allah in the world. Allah made the soul and the body. Only the Creator of the human knows what is good for the human. The creation can`t always grasp the wisdom behind everything. Allah is All-Wise. Even when we don`t fully understand everything, we put our trust in the fact that Allah knows best for us. And we don`t put a question to it. Allah sees everything in the universe, knows everything, even before the universe, the stars, the planets, the solar systems, and all the creatures in it. How can our mind be able to fully comprehend that? We have spent years to understand what happens beyond the earth on other planets. And still we know very little. And think that there are probably many other planets and systems beyond what we can see and know. Not to talk about all the creatures we can`t see, like angels and jinns. Allah sees the whole picture while we humans only see a pixel of the whole picture. How can we comment wisely on a picture we only have seen one pixel of. No human will be able to comment what the picture is about if he only knows that little. Impossible. Just like a mother will protect her child from any danger, because she loves her child. Children doesn`t understand the dangers of life in that fragile age. The mother protects the child, til the child becomes an adult and is able to take care of himself / herself. The Creator, Allah, wants to guide the creation because He Allah is Al-Wadud, He loves us, and wants what is best for us, paradise, and want us to keep ourselves pure, so our journey back to Him, will be easier and grant us reward and acceptance. Ya Allah, grant for us to accept the truth in what is written here and forgive us for our mistakes. Aamen.

The recipe for a good life and marriage is taqwa. Desires does not go away by marriage. Marriage give permission (halal way) for intimacy. The fitnah in the world will still be there. Desires need to be tamed by increasing godconsciousness (taqwa). If both husband and wife work together to attain and maintain a sound taqwa together, than Allah will help the marriage survive through every difficulty. Ya Allah, grant us taqwa in our life all the time. Aamen. Accept this for all ummati til the end of time. Aamen. 

There is a reason why Allah had to state explicitly whom we can interact with and whom it is not allowed for us to interact with, whom we are allowed to marry and whom we can’t marry, when and whom we need to have a hijab in front, and whom we do not need this. 

In the time before quran (islam) those souls transgressed into sin and ruined their lives. So Allah had to make it clear for them, how they could save their souls. Ya Allah, protect us from going back to the practice of the time of jahiliyah. Aamen. Ya Allah, help every ummati out of their ignorance into the guidance of Islam. Aamen 

It’s very interesting how elders, aunties and uncles are. When it comes to their son, they want their son to have the “upper hand” in the marriage, always. When it comes to their daughter, they want their daughter to have the “upper hand” in the marriage. The elders want their own children to decide. Most of them have learned this from the culture (society). If we as practising muslim look at it in the light of quran and sunnah of ‎ﷺ they have told us how rights and responsabilities is to be shared between husband and wife in a marriage. If husband and wife fulfil their duties towards each other, In sha Allah they will have a blessed life. When we deviate from islam to culture, many problems arise. Ya Allah, protect every marriage. Aamen. Ya Allah, grant every spouse to fulfil their duties towards each other with goodwill. Aamen. Protect us from following culture when it misguides us away from Islam. Aamen 

When we say or do something hurtful to our spouse, it creates a distance between you two. 
For example
Lying – 5 meters
Harshness – 7 meters
Unloyalty – 10 meters
Unfaithfulness – 100 meters
When we are good to our spouse and do deeds and actions that makes your spouse feel “respected”, “loved” etc, it increases the intensity of the closeness you two share. 
For example
Kiss on the forehead – 5 meters closer
Flowers – 15 meters closer
Warm dinner – 100 meters closer
Undivided attention – 20 meters closer
When we sum up these two meters which bring closer and that which makes distance, if the sum is negative, we have been making more distance from misbehaviour. If the sum is positive, we have done more good behaviour. 
Just like that, we sum up every day, every week every month and year. If both in the marriage continously work on themselves and their relationship, most of the time, they will have a close fulfilling relationship. When both do deeds that bring each other closer, no matter the setbacks, you will overcome it. Because you two have made a good solid foundation. There is never to late to do something special together that wipes out many of the previous mistakes. Make effort to learn your spouse’s “love-languages”, “respect-languages” and “forgiveness-languages”. Just by knowing it, it is 50% done. Now all you two need to do is, speak these languages in deeds. 
Ya Allah, grant every ummati a good marriage. Aamen. Protect every marriage til the end of time. Aamen. 

It is annoying sometimes, when muslim leaders tell families, to keep their women at home. It is correct that women has a bigger responsibility when it comes to raising children. But we can’t close our eyes to the society we are co-existing in.

Your Opinion Matters

Number 1. The first matter spouses often have disagreement about, is money. Number 2. If there wouldn’t be any females in different professions, the muslim women would have to go to male doctors, male nurses male teachers, males in kindergarden, males in shops for women and etc. At a time where they need to talk with people of the same gender. Number 3. The most marriages in the west need two salaries to be able to pay for their expenses. Number 4. The wifes’ that stay home for the kids upbringing usually have a small social network. In other words, their need to socialize is not met by only going to the mosque sometimes a month. Number 5. Many muslim men doesn’t pay for the expenses of their wife. They do not fulfill their duty of providing for her and giving her a certain amount every month etc. Number 6. Instead of holding back our women from work because of their hijab, why do we not at least educate muslim men, to treat other muslim women within the boundaries of haya, modesty, lowering gaze, guarding tongue and private parts? Number 7. Help the women in your family to choose profession where they can be an advantage for the community, while also keep their hijab and modesty, and also be safe, where she is. When Muslim women will take an active part in their work, they will be able to influence decisions that affect muslims in their community. They will help build strong communities. The muslim womens opinion matters. 

The Patient Can Choose The Gender Of The Doctor

If every family told the women to stay home because of Islam, within a few generations muslim women would have far more trouble in going outside. The places where the female gender is necessary would be male-dominated. That could cause more trouble. I don’t know if anyone have been in Pakistan lately. There is a reason why they have built malls (shops) for females only. Or in a specific timing, only females are allowed to go inside the mall. That means only female workers will attend them. In that way, they do not have unwanted attention that decrease their freedom. And the safety of women is also safeguarded. Imagine, a woman doctor in Norway, can`t choose to only have female patients. She has to treat both genders. Neutrally with haya, of course. If there weren`t any female asian lady doctors, many asian women today, might not be able to get the proper help they needed. In the time of the Prophet pbuh, many sahabi took part in the battles where muslims fought. Sometimes as nurses bandaging the wounded and also as fighting the enemies. It`s in our islamic heritage. The community need more women to take part in building healthy communities. Islam does not dismiss women working. It just want both genders to practice the ethics of Islam at work and school, as at home.

The Beauty Is In The Perfection

I believe Islam is beautiful. I love Islam. Alhamdolillah. But sometimes we have to be a bit practical. Islam is perfect. But the practice of Islam in the ummah, makes it look ugly. A dai (preacher of Islam) once said. There was a time when muslims practised Islam in such a way, people said, look at so- and so- to motivate other muslims. Nowadays the name is often muslim, but the practice is so poor, that when we talk to some people who are interested in learning about Islam, we tell them to learn it from the Quran and sunnah. Go back to the real source. Don’t look at muslims, who doesn’t pray, and lies, and backbites and earn money in a haram manner. Their practice is not islamic. I`m sure many muslims knows families where the whole family has been muslims for at least three generations, yet still neither of the generations is following even the basics of Islam. Yet they call themselves muslims.

Lets Look At The World

In some countries, wagons of the public transport, is different between the genders. To prevent harassment of women. Some countries have been talking about it. In Afghanistan, a woman goes out with niqab and all her body covered. Even the face. Still these women are harassed there. It is because the men aren`t lowering their gazes and practising haya. In india, group-rape of women, and rape in general is widely spread. In egypt, women have their undergarments teared off in the street, by men walking by. It is not enough to keep women at home to protect them from assault. Parents must teach both sons and daughters how to behave within the boundaries of Islam. Haya, hijab, lowering gaze, and less interaction. If these men were taught good values from their childhood, many of them would have had a good character. It`s not enough to name your son as a muslim, if you don`t teach him good values, than it will be your own loss. Remember in many countries, women are wearing hijab, yet are still being harassed. Obviously the men must also lower their gaze and protect their private parts, and practice modesty.

First Look At Your References

Keeping the women at home, to protect them isn`t the answer here. It is the time of internet, YouTube, snapchat, Skype. Filth can be found, in the media, within your home. With free time, and boringness, many people can go astray. Ya Allah, protect us. Aamen. If you don`t teach your children to fear Allah, they can easily get misguided. The reason why such, problems are on the increase is because we think just knowing Islam is enough. That`s completely wrong. Even non-muslims know about Islam. Many times more than many muslims. Yet they don`t accept it in their heart nor do they practise it. We muslims accept the message, but do not live according to it. It is not enough to know that salah is important. Unless you pray the prayers every day, you will not be granted khusho, or the sweetness of salah. That which is the coolness of Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ  and his biggest comfort in hardships. We need a spiritual awakening of the ummah. Where we also are doing the good we know. It`s like when your supervisor is going to hire a new colleague. No one hires a new employ based on what they know. Even if they have a master degree. First they look at their references. Do they have practise from the subjects they have studied. That`s why most people have many difficulties finding their first job. To have that first reference, that will open doors for better opportunities. When we improve on our sprituality we will practice islam also in private, not only in public. The wisdom of Islam comes from practising what you have learned, not just talking about it.

Housewife From Back Home

Many women in arrange marriages, who travel to norway, with their spouse, live at home for the first 10 years of their marriage. In Pakistan still many women are housewifes. Many gain weight. Many sleep the day and wakes after mid-day. No specific routine of day. The social life in Pakistan is better than in Norway.  A wife that is married to a pakistani here in norway, often have small social circles, and have to start from scratch, in building network. After these women have stayed home the first ten years of their marriage, raising children, they are often very eager to start an employment. Socialize with other. The children doesn`t need them that much. Their expenses have increased or not paid by their husband. Very little social life at home. Many eagerly start learning the language of their country. In hope of a job. Many health issues from poor diet. These women, most of them, wants to get out more. They have lived the life of being a housewife, in Norway. Their problems are underrated. Few talk about it. Many are also struggling in their marriage.

The Community Need Muslim Women In Many Professions

We can live in a bubble and think that this is what we want. Unless the world is able to offer it, we have to seek insight in the reality of our time today. Keeping women at home, is not the only option. First parents need to educate both genders about ethics of islam. Cultivate in them fear of Allah. Help them choose good friends and good education according to their gender. If you really want to protect your wife from the ill of this community, talk with others about how we can educate men and sons to practice islam also outside the home. Social life in norway is very different from Pakistan, and many wife`s lead a very deppressive life, staying home as housewifes. Help them choose profession where they can utilize their abilities, earn salary, socialize. All this within the boundaries of Islam. All this will help the muslim women increase their  quality of life. They will be happier. Active. Learning. Changing. Growing as people. Know more about the society they live in. That is important to raise good obedient children. They can positively  influence the development of our community. Ya Allah, help the community succeed in making it easy for muslim women, if they wish, to have an employment where they can use their qualities, while also taking care of all of her duties at home. Aamen 

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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