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Allah has made the world and everything in it. Humans are the only creature who have been given intellect. In every species, there is a she and a he and from them both, comes a child. Only the she over every species can bear a child and there has to be a male and female of the species to bring a child to the world. Allah decided that for the animals, to make it a sign for us humans. Since humans have to find their way back to Allah themselves, they have to understand this wisdom to stay on the right path and protect themselves from one-gender-relationships. People often find excuses that some people are born gay. I don`t think that is correct. Every human is born as muslim, a natural inclination towards accepting Islam. And then his parents and friends make him a jew, christian or a muslim. It means that the people we interact with from our childhood, their beliefs, their conduct, their morals has an effect on our own belief, conduct and morals. If the environment we are brought up in has such a great impact on our belief, why wouldn`t it also have an impact on our sexual orientation.

Gap Between “Feeling” And True State

A person who eats much despite being full in the stomach, because of some emotional disturbance, still “feels” hungry, so eat more than what he / she has the capacity of. He / she “feels” hungry, but is full. It is an emotional need that “feels” like a hunger, it is not because the body needs food. Another human who has anorexia, he / she eats less than what his body need of nutrition. He / she “feels” that eating too much will harm him / her. He / she doesn`t “feel” like eating, even though the body, is weaker because of eating less than what is needed. Often times when we have a fever, we “feel” cold and feel chilly. But when we check our temperature we find out that we are warmer than what is normal of a human being. But we are “feeling” cold. These examples explain that humans are “feeling” something else than how their body actually is. Can we then rely on their “feelings” or should we rely on the actual state of their body?

How Allah Protect Us

What we read, hear, talk about, learn, who we interact with, in what way we interact with others, all of these matters has a great impact on our personality. If we don`t protect ourself from impure information, our thoughts will become impure, which again will have an effect on our behaviour. Allah gave us rules on how to interact with the opposite gender and also the same gender. Allah gave us boundaries to protect the purity of our soul and body. When Allah warned the People of the time of Prophet Lut alahisalam, He warned them because he wanted to keep them pure.

In The World Of The Unseen

We also need to understand the world of the unseen, ghayb in this. Muslims believe in the creation of Jinns, who whispers in the breasts of people, Surah falaq ayat 5. When we remember Allah, and keep our hearts pure we are protected from such whispers. The creation of jinn, some are muslims and some are not. Those who are not, can harm the humans by whispering in their breasts. That means that we can`t be sure that the thought in our mind is actually from ourself or a whisper from shaytan or jinns. Only way to protect ourself from bad thoughts is keeping the heart pure, wudhu, remembrance of Allah, salah, morning and evening adhkar, removing the hair in the underarms and private parts, 6 kalimah of Islam. And since the eman increases and decreases, the bad thoughts will come and go. When we use the muslim ways of keeping ourself pure, we will be rewarded by Allah for our struggle. Bad thoughts come, because these shayatin and jinns wants to take us off the right path. When we try to get on the guided path, sometimes the bad thoughts increases. That is because the shaytan is trying to make us turn away so we won`t get close to Allah and granted his Qurb and forgiveness. Shaytan doesn`t go to someone who doesn`t practice eman, a heart that doesn`t remember Allah, is poor and of no value for shaytan. Shaytan only distracts those who turn to Allah, and struggle with highs and lows of eman. That is why we need to ask Allah to guide us, and keep us pure. So we can fight every battle against shaytan and the nafs, the self. There is no pleasure of this world that is better than the souls eternal bliss in paradise. Ya Allah, grant all ummah paradise Al-Firdaws. Aamen

Different Reasons For Attraction

Attraction is not equal to love. Some are attracted to others because of their intellect. Some are attracted because of others empathy and care. Some are attracted because of others beauty. Some are attracted because of conduct, morals and manners. An attraction means you admire a quality in another human. It doesn`t have to be anything sexual. You may be attracted because of the quality despite the gender of that human. Humans have a soul and a body. Both needs nourishment. The body needs food, drink and sexual activity. The soul need noorani nourishment, gained from Allah. That is achieved from practising spirituality, through Islam. Often humans make sure to nourish the body and forget the soul, while the soul is starving to connect with Allah. When our soul lives according to the morals and manners of Islam, and we nourish it by our obedience and practising of Islam, we are able to avoid the spiritual death of our soul. Obedience of Allah is equal to a good spiritual health. Muslim believes that body will die, soul will pass on to the hereafter. The soul will be rewarded or punished because of how the body lived in the world. We believe that the hereafter is for eternity. Why put your eternity for risk, by not living according to the morals of Allah in the world. Allah made the soul and the body. Only the Creator of the human knows what is good for the human. The creation can`t always grasp the wisdom behind everything. Allah is All-Wise. Even when we don`t fully understand everything, we put our trust in the fact that Allah knows best for us. And we don`t put a question to it. Allah sees everything in the universe, knows everything, even before the universe, the stars, the planets, the solar systems, and all the creatures in it. How can our mind be able to fully comprehend that? We have spent years to understand what happens beyond the earth on other planets. And still we know very little. And think that there are probably many other planets and systems beyond what we can see and know. Not to talk about all the creatures we can`t see, like angels and jinns. Allah sees the whole picture while we humans only see a pixel of the whole picture. How can we comment wisely on a picture we only have seen one pixel of. No human will be able to comment what the picture is about if he only knows that little. Impossible. Just like a mother will protect her child from any danger, because she loves her child. Children doesn`t understand the dangers of life in that fragile age. The mother protects the child, til the child becomes an adult and is able to take care of himself / herself. The Creator, Allah, wants to guide the creation because He Allah is Al-Wadud, He loves us, and wants what is best for us, paradise, and want us to keep ourselves pure, so our journey back to Him, will be easier and grant us reward and acceptance. Ya Allah, grant for us to accept the truth in what is written here and forgive us for our mistakes. Aamen.

Jihad is equal to struggle. To struggle in the way of Allah. Struggle to be good with your inner self. Struggle to do righteous deeds. Struggle to be good to family, friends and kin. Struggle to remember Allah. Struggle to obey Allah. Struggle to speak good. Struggle to protect ourselves from bad matters (lying, backbiting, slander). Struggle to make our conduct good. Struggle to correct our hijab, modesty and control over our private part. Struggle to keep our soul, heart and body clean and pure. Struggle to get rid of arrogance and bad qualities. Struggle to support good and speak against wrongdoers. For the real practising muslims. The struggle is REAL. All this is jihad, to struggle in the way of Allah, to become a good practising muslim. Ya Allah, grant us to win our biggest jihad. Aamen. The struggle we fight with our own self (nafs) every day. Aamen. 

It’s very interesting how elders, aunties and uncles are. When it comes to their son, they want their son to have the “upper hand” in the marriage, always. When it comes to their daughter, they want their daughter to have the “upper hand” in the marriage. The elders want their own children to decide. Most of them have learned this from the culture (society). If we as practising muslim look at it in the light of quran and sunnah of ‎ﷺ they have told us how rights and responsabilities is to be shared between husband and wife in a marriage. If husband and wife fulfil their duties towards each other, In sha Allah they will have a blessed life. When we deviate from islam to culture, many problems arise. Ya Allah, protect every marriage. Aamen. Ya Allah, grant every spouse to fulfil their duties towards each other with goodwill. Aamen. Protect us from following culture when it misguides us away from Islam. Aamen 

The beauty of Islam, is the vastness of the Mercy our Lord has for us. When we sincerely repent, make tawbah, our past sins are erased from our record, we become as pure as a child. The sign of us avoiding sinfulness again, is a sign of Allah accepting our repentence. Allah knows we are weak. Allah wants to help us. So Allah has told us keep good company. They won’t let you sin, and avoid sins themselves also. They remember Allah frequently, and remind you when you forget. They motivate you to learn and practice deen. They are at peace, and their presence increase peace. 

What We Avoid. 

Who we spend time with tells a lot about us. Our friends. Those we choose to connect with. Who we decide to avoid, also says a lot about us. If we avoid those who are doing good, and spend time with those who invite to evil, it will be difficult to change for the better. If we instead, do what we can, to join events that has khair in it, we will also benefit from it’s goodness. First priority after guidance is to keep us on the right path through the ups and downs of our life. We have to work proactively for it, to keep increasing in imaan and good character. We can’t accomplish that, without good company. 

How To Prepare For A Marathon

If we don’t keep training our running abilities, after a month, our endurance will decrease. The next marathon, we will have a lower score. After we learn any kind of ability. We have to work to become better and increase our work for the next level, and so on. To improve. Our guiders our teachers boost us with confidence, knowledge and wisdom, and we are motivated to work harder to grow in our qualities as a muslim, and increase our practice of our deen. Allah doesn’t look at our results. He rewards us according to our struggle. Only He knows how much we are struggling to come closer to Him (Allah). That is exactly why, each and every muslim has a great chance of becoming a “friend of Allah”. Everyone has different challenges/abilites. Allah wants us to perfect our ikhlas and niyah in our struggle, and do what good we can within our capabilities (means). 

Unique Qualities But The Same Goal

Just imagine, if we all were alike and had the same trouble at the same time? Whom would be able to help each other, when we are struggling with the same matter at the same time? Thanks to Allah, He created us unique, no one matches another. Because we are so individually gifted in different qualities, we can help each other prosper together. For example fla fla is good in writing. Fla fla is good in delivering speech. When they team up, one of them writes the speech, the other one perfectly delivers it, and they are able to make a good difference, by them teaming up for a good cause. So there is goodness in our unique-ness. 

Catching The Cold Or Remain Healthy

When we stop growing, our endurance, qualities remain the same, or becomes worse. Time does not wait for anyone. Changes in fashion, knowledge, science, internet, stock market is rapid. When we try to keep us updated in the matters that are important for us (connected to our religion) we become more aware of what is happening in our community / country. The good and the bad. Even if we aren’t a part of everything. We can’t fight a disease without knowing about it. On the other side, we can’t feel thankfulness, if we don’t know how blessed we are. The first thing that helps us grow, is having self-insight. We are not perfect. We are not all bad, either. By learning about our mistakes, we can help ourselves and each other in overcoming them. Or protecting us and our loved ones from “catching the cold”.

O Blessed Souls, Enter Highest Paradise 

Make sincere tawbah. Spend time with people who are good friends of akhirah. Grow in your abilities. Team up with those who have same goals. Avoid bad influence. Make a change were you live. Allah will reward you according to your struggle. Just keep checking on your niyah and ikhlas. We are doing good for the sake of Allah. And that He will forgive us. And enjoin us in highest paradise, because of our efforts. Aamen. Ya Allah, make it easy for us to join good events with khair. Make us prosper in both worlds. Aamen. Ya Allah, help us avoid places and events You dislike. Make us become our best version, in what You (Allah) wants us to accomplish. Aamen. 

Everyone wants to protect the people they care for. No matter what religion, color, ethnicity you have. You try your best to help, protect, provide for the people you love. If their air is polluted in your city, and your child has allergies or asthma, you will do everything you can to move to a place where he can live a healthy life. If and when we hear about a disease that is spreading because of a virus, almost every family member are eager to help those they love to take a vaccine against it. People are afraid of contagious diseases. When any person is infected with a contagious disease, that person is transferred to a special room in the hospital. Each and every who goes in and out has to wear special clothing. And the things that goes into the room, has to be special cleaned. This is to prevent the disease from spreading to the whole community or town.

The Types Of Diseases Are Many

Some have psychological diseases. Some has physical sickness. Some has sickness in their soul/heart. The last type of sickness, the sickness of the spiritual heart. The place where feelings, emotions take life. Both good and bad. Since we are talking about sickness, I mean feelings like, envy, jealousy, hate, harshness, backbiting, lying, arrogance, making fun of others, looking down on others, slander, etc. Something negative. Since niyah, ikhlas and integrity comes from the spiritual heart. The quality of these three, will affect the disease of the heart. If our heart is diseased, there is no way we will have pure good niyah, ikhlas or integrity. So as being a muslim. If we want Allah to accept our deeds, we have to correct this. Or else no matter how big or gracious deeds we are doing, or people think we are doing, it will be rejected by Allah. What good will it do for us, if the good we do is rejected, in the final account? Ya Allah, grant us to win the struggle of perfectly getting rid of our diseases in our spiritual heart. Aamen.

Choose Good Company And Halal Fun

A spiritual alive heart, who knows the value of spirituality and good behaviour, will not be able to spend time with people who has diseases in their hearts. Their idea of halal fun, differs. A spiritually dead heart, doesn`t mind going to places where he / she can do more sins, like backbiting, lying, slander, vicious tongue, chugl khaur, etc. The heart is dead meaning, these sins doesn`t seem bad. They have fun doing these sins. It`s darkening their heart making it black. On the other side, we have a heart who is spiritually alive, he / she is aware of the effects of sins on their life. They want to make sure that the fun they are doing is actually allowed in Islam. Doing sins, that increase your punishments, is not funny. But rather doing deeds that make their ranks raised in this world and the next, is fun. In other words, when these people step out of their house, towards work or school or any event, they will do the background check, how can I spend my day, doing the right matters, correctly, and also be in constant struggle of correcting myself in the process, because I really want to earn those rewards, without them being rejected. So someone they know, invites them to an event. They will ask for the details. Will there be music there? Will there be a mix gathering between the genders? What is the dress code of the event? hijabi or non-hijabi? What kind of people are attending? Sinners or practising muslims? Will there be halal food? Where is it? How will I be able to get there safely, while also in hijab? From these questions one can imagine, these people doesn`t play with their life. Going on an event, where they might commit sins, is a big issue. They do not want to increase in sins. These people are serious about where they want to spend their eternity. Spending time with people who has diseases in the heart can be very contagious. And it does have an effect on our lives. That is why it is so important to help oneself, to only attend events , where these matters shouldn`t be any issue. There is a reason why Allah has said, that the majority of people in hell-fire will be women. One of the reason is the sins of the tongue. We who have been raised in this community, knows how fast any information travels, before the entire community is talking about it. In other words. We aren`t doing enough when it comes to increasing the healthy-ness of our spiritual heart. How can we explain how fast the whole community knows something, if we muslims in the community weren`t backbiters? If we were obeying Allah and protecting ourself from the sins of the tongue, the info would have died a permanent death, with the first who heard it. Instead the reality is that everyone knows it, within in day.

An Act Of Worship With Highest Reward And Acceptance

If and when we are able to correct our niyah, ikhlas, quality of deed, our deeds will be rewarded and accepted with the highest rewards. No matter how little the deed is. Our intention will be to do every deed for the sake of Allah. I will please my spouse for the sake of Allah. I will fulfil my duties towards my children for the sake of Allah. I will work with integrity at my school and work, for the sake of Allah. I will be good to neighbours, to strangers, to kin for the sake of Allah. I will be good to animals for the sake of Allah. I will help the community for the sake of Allah. When we are able to have these kinds of intentions, Allah isn`t stingy in rewarding us. Allah, has made us because he wants us to come back to Him in a good obedient way. When we are doing good deeds with right intentions and ikhlas, the same right intention and ikhlas will protect us from doing bad deeds. I am not going to lie, because Allah dislikes dishonesty. I am not going to backbite, because Allah dislikes eating your own brothers flesh. I am not going to be selfish and only think about myself. I am not going to slander other people. I am not going to help a marriage break. I am not going to only think about my rights, but I will balance that with also thinking about my duties. If and when we are able to correct ourselves by helping our spirituality to grow, every deed of our conduct, will become an act of worship. Because the intention and sincerity is correct. We aren`t only in the state of ibadah when we are in salah, but also when we are good to our spouse, take care of our children, fulfil our duties for the sake of pleasing Allah. Even that day our spouse is angry at us, we dig in our goodwill, to be good to him / her. I know how difficult fitnah is for a man when he steps out of the house, I will make sure I please my husband sufficiently every day. I know my wife, has had a tough day, I will make dinner for her today. Our parents get angry at us because of their old age, trying to practice sabr with them. My teen is giving my a hard time, maybe he /she is need of more positive attention. When we feed our spiritual heart with Allah`s remembrance our goodwill increases, and we are able to do more for Allah`s Creation. We want to please Allah, to gain Allahs love and because we want to thank Him. Allah has said, You have not thanked me, if you haven`t thanked people. So when we are grateful to others, because we have so many matters we have been helped, we are thanking Allah. And Allah will love us more. And a true alive spiritual heart, wants Allah`s love. When we do good deeds to please Allah and thank Him, He loves us and make the good righteous, also love us. There is no better validation of being a good person, than that the Creator of everything in this Universe, is saying, that He loves you. Ya Allah, make us of those You love. Ya Allah make us of those Hazoor Paak pbuh loves. Ya Allah make us of those, hadrat Jibreel alayhisalam loves. Aamen. Ya Allah, grant us to win the struggle of purifying our hearts from the diseases it has, with tawbah and repentance and shining it up with dhikr of You, every day. Aamen. Ya Allah grant us to win the struggle of correcting our niyah, ikhlas and quality of every deed, so every deed of our conduct is filled with sunnah and becomes an act of worship, which You, Allah accept with the highest rewards and acceptance. Aamen. Grant this to me, my family, my friends, and all ummati, till the end of time. Grant us to win the struggle of perfecting the quality of the purity of our heart, of our soul, of our deeds, of our speech, of our thoughts, of our conduct all the time. Aamen summa aamen.

marriage-quran-strong-bond-enemies-husband-wife-help-from-allahMany men talk about having more than one wife. According to Islam, it is allowed. The time of the sahaba, many widows needed support, and men were allowed to marry them. The orphans would get helped, and the women get supported. In that time the sahaba raa didn`t either see any bad in marrying any women whom had been married before. Also the muslim women, were more reliable.

Friendships With Opposite Gender Outside Marriage

Nowadays, men frighten their first wife, if you don`t stop the discussion, I would marry another. Alhamdolillah, it is allowed in Islam. It is only that the society of today, is much different from the time of the sahaba. The era of today is full of fitnah everywhere. Many are struggling with hijab and modesty. Integrity is seen less. People have become more materialistic. There is more lying than before. Good conduct and decent values are rarily found in people. In these trying times, most wives wonder about their husbands integrity. Most husbands wonder about their wife`s integrity. Husbands are wondering about one wife, what if you had four, demanding the same right? So one day you`re with one wife. Can you trust the second, third and fourth at that time? What reason do you have to be assured, that they are not with anyone else? Most women of today, can`t wait a day for her husband, when he is away. Also internet makes it easy to get friends, easily. When friends between the genders are ok, when do we know if both husband and wife have haya and practice modesty, when they are with other people? That is why it is important to choose spouse because of good character and decent values. Don`t choose spouse because of beauty, status or money. You are not choosing a car.  You are choosing the mother of your children. The qualities you see in her, will be seen in your children. The purity of the children is dependent on the purity of the husband and wife. If you want good children you can`t afford to choose wrong. Imagine your children imitating their mother. Dancing at bollywood songs and addicted to dialogues from indian dramas or movies. I would prefer to have a spouse where we both remember our Lord in everything we do, by practising obedience to Him in public and private. Following sunnah guidelines. Your married life isn`t dependent on your wife`s appearance. Your married life is dependent on you and your wife`s good qualities and abilities.  If your too obsessed about the beauty or luxury of this dunya, how will you be able to work for your souls home? The place you`re going to spend an eternity.  Ya Allah, protect us from bad faith. Aamen. Grant every ummati a righteous spouse. Aamen.

What If You Make The Same Mistake With Second Wife?

One can understand from this, that even if a man marries a second wife, there will be a half-year happy time, after that both will get used to each other. Than the same mistakes he made in the first marriage, will be seen in him towards his second wife? He didn`t fix them then. Of course, it wasn`t his faults. So the solution of disagreements between couple, is not to get another wife. It is to find ways of increasing love between the husband and wife in the first marriage. Finding ways of increasing compatibility. Understanding how your spouse feels loved and how your spouse accepts apologies. Showing love through gestures of respect, appreciation and gifts.

A Husband And Wife Of This Trying Time, Need To Prove Their Integrity To Each Other Every Day

One matter is settled. Men and women has a responsibility to cultivate in them good conduct, in private and public. Even if someone might win a blessing. He / she can easily lose it, if he / she doesn`t know how to value it. When it comes to Allah`s friends. Allah will never give His diamond, to a man who is not able to protect it and take care of it. That is something, that must be proven every day. Not just one day of a year. Ya Allah, grant every husband and wife to win the struggle of correcting their integrity, niyah, ikhlas and haya. Aamen. Protect every ummati from those who are un-reliable, untrustworthy, and those who have bad character. Aamen. A woman is tested when her man has nothing. A man is tested when he has everything. Let`s see who really passes the test? Ya Allah, grant every ummati help to make good decisions in life. Protect every marriage from envy, jealousy, magic and evil eye til the end of time. Aamen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

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(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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