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muslim-child-boy-sujodWhen a child steps out of the toilet, most mothers will ask: “Did you remember to wash your hands, dear?”. If the mother is a practising muslimah, she will most probably add: “Did you remember to wash yourself behind with water, and did you remember to wash your hands after that?”. Muslims take cleanliness very seriously. We have been taught from our religion that the purity of our income (halal earning), the purity of what we eat (halal food), has an effect on how we behave, what we think etc.

A Man And The Desert

There was a man in the desert who had lost his camel, with food and water. He was all alone. Left to die. In his last effort to find help, he falls on his knees and prays to Allah “help me”. In response of this Allah says, ” how can I help you, when what you are wearing comes from un-halal resources. What you have eaten is un-halal food. What you have been doing is un-halal. How can Allah, accept your prayer.

marsmallow-white Say No To Marshmallows With Gelatine

We have difficulties in controlling our desires for money, status, beauty, position, wealth, satisfy needs of body. This is because, just like our body needs to exercise to be strong, and our intellect is in need of training to increase IQ, our soul needs spirituality to keep it strong, our will (nafs – myself) needs exercise to make good decisions in life and being able to withhold oneself from prohibitions. To be able to not steal a marshmallow, when your hungry, just because, there is some time before you will have your own marshmallow. Ability to say no to women / men who wants to have sex with you. (Like Yusuf a.s in surah Yusuf). The lesson talks about a young man who was seduced by a woman, but muslim women, young and beautiful, have difficulties, stepping out of their homes too, for college, for work, for mosque etc. Many have hijab, and many don’t. Nowadays many women beautify their hijab, which caused fitnah, and the main purpose of hijab is lost. How can youth and adults win the control over ourself in times of fitnah?

Cultivate Sweetness Of Salah, Khusho, Complete Fardh

Hazoor Pak pbuh has said, the first matter we will lose, when the fitnah occurs is the khusho. The salah was the greatest comforter for our Prophet pbuh. When he lost his first wife, Khadijah raa and His pbuh uncle, and his pbuh enemies increased, and he pbuh had no tribe leaders who could support him like his pbuh uncle. The incident of Taif, when he pbuh tried to win some support, and was humiliated and injured, by the people in that city. Allah gave him the gift of salah to find comfort. Imagine if the fitnah in world is increasing and we will lose what will take away our biggest comfort, what state will we be in than. Trying to find another comfort. Is there anyone who can comfort us as the deen of Allah? NO. Most of those who pray, knows how difficult it is to develop khusho in salah. It is a bit like sweetness of salah. No one will be granted the sweetness of anything, unless they first do the minimum fardh. So if the state of the ummah is, that about 10 percent of us read salah 5 times a day, those who read it once in a while, will not be able to cultivate proper khusho. So we need to help each other to encourage reading the five daily prayers, everyday, no matter what.

At The Time Of Desires Or Anger

In times of anger and desire, many people are not able to control their nafs. They go out of control, and later regret. Hazoor Paak pbuh has taught us to do wudhu in times of anger and desires. That will reduce it, and give us a control back. At the same time it cleans us from our impurities, when the sins falls with the drops that goes into the sink. We need to revive the sunnah of doing wudhu and keeping wudhu. A muslim who prays, must do wudhu minimum 5 times a day. If we keep ourselves in the state of wudhu, we will also have angels accompany us. And Allah will protect us. Purity is not only for the soul and the body. We must do tawbah and repentance everyday, to clean our impurities of bad qualities in the heart. The gossiping, envy, jealousy, arrogance comes from an un-clean heart. If we clean it everyday, the good of it will be seen more often. Our deeds says a lot about the state of our heart. If we are good in public and private, it is because of a good heart, purified from bad qualities. Ya Allah grant us to win the struggle and master our effort of perfecting our tawbah and repentance every day. For us, our family, friends and all ummati. Another aspect of purity is, to keep our clothes clean from impurities. Cleaning the private part, and clothing, in a way that it stays clean and pure. If it wouldn`t have been for or Islam, would we have done this? How different stains of najasa, impurity, has to be washed. If our clothing is not clean and our wudhu not properly done, our salah will not be accepted. Keeping ourself pure, in soul, body, clothing and food, is because of what we learn from our religion.

Tools For Youth To Find Comfort

From our child turns 9, he is guided to start salah. From the reading of the daily prayers he understands cleanliness. As he turns into a teen, he will experience more fitnah, at the same type of feelings he has to understand. His body is changing. He has to find himself. Wants and dislikes, hobbies, friends. Allah didn`t make salah a fardh from year of 9 without any wisdom behind it. If your child learns to do wudhu often to get control over desires, anger in puberty. At the same time finds comfort through salah. You have helped him find a way to cope through his teens, with tools that can help him prosper. Not only is he completing the fardh, his ranks are raised because of it. He is of those who will achieve the Throne of Allah on his head, because he turned to Allah in his youth. Allah has said it himself, the way to find peace is in the remembrance of Allah. As the youth starts praying, he can increase duas. Strengthen connection with Allah through supplications. Read drud sharif to increase love of Hazoor Paak pbuh. If we manage to instill these qualities in our children. There is not much that can stand in their way of bliss in this world or the next. And when something negative happens, they can find comfort through the salah and remembering Allah. When our earnings are halal, we keep ourself pure, inside and outside, and are able to develop sufficient self control, what we say and do, especially for the youth, will be good. All this is to manage the ups and downs of life, and keep us firm on the right path. If we are not clean in our private parts, or our soul, our the clothing is not from halal money, and we eat haram food. That will have a bad effect. We will be doing and saying things that are completely prohibited. When we help the youth and give them the proper tools, and good example through our practice, help them make good habits in their life. Allah will support them and keep them pure. Encourage them to make tawbah and repentance often, to cleanse their heart, every day. Ya Allah, make it easy for us, to help the youth master the muslim tools to finding comfort, help, support. So they can become the most succesful muttaqi of imam, of their time, Aameen.

Hvis det ikke er lov med klaps på rompa, klyping i øret og det å ta et barn hardt i armen, hvilke sanksjoner kan foreldre iverksette for å oppdra bra barn? Vi ser jo at dagens barn ofte er ganske bortskjemte og uoppdragne. 
Spørsmålet er om de sanksjoner barnevernet mener vi bør bruke, faktisk virker? Det finnes jo et stort spekter innenfor barnets personlighet. Alle barn kan ikke oppdras på lik måte. Noen barn er vanskeligere enn andre barn. Vil for “snille” sanskjoner gi noe effekt i oppdragelsen? 

Mange synes at barnevernets regler ift oppdragelse er for strenge og urimelige og noe av årsaken til at barna blir “ute av kontroll”. 

Det er stor forskjell mellom å slå et barn sanseløst til det blør/får blåveis e.l og en ørefik eller klyp i armen for at de skal oppføre seg i en gitt situasjon. Hvordan er barna i norge idag? Tar myndighetene for stor kontroll over oppdragelsen? Tåler staten for lite? Er det forskjell på hvordan barna blir ift de som aldri har blitt slått og de som får et klyp/ørefik i ny og ne. 

Jeg tror at av de som i barndommen har opplevd et klyp/ørefik/holde armen hardt e.l idag som voksne, føler at de har hatt godt av det. Ift de som ikke har fått slike sanskjoner. Jeg tror de er kommet bedre ut av en slik oppdragelse. Barn som blir oppdratt for “snilt” blir ikke enklere å ha med å gjøre når de blir tenåringer og voksne. 

Dersom vi ønsker en viss kvalitet/verdibygging i barna våre, synes jeg det er lurt om det er lov med visse type enkle sanksjoner.

destiny, worry, decree,You know when you fall from eleventh floor to ground zero a couple of times in the elevator, you learn that it is better to take the stairs, at least the risk of falling would be somewhat less there. We spend our whole life planning for that vacation, project, education, wedding or children. Most often we forget that we are not the best of planners, but Allah is. Often the circumstance changes and we have to make a new plan. It is actually because we are not in control of what is going to happen in our life. Allah is in control. He knows what we need and gives us what we need, not always what we want. Sometimes because He knows that what we want might be hurtful for us, either now or maybe sometime in the future. So He re-directs us to something else. Most probably years after we thought we`d die if we wouldn`t achieve something, we are actually living a more happy and contented life, without that thing or achievement.

 

He Gives Even To Those Whom Don`t Ask Him

No one is in control of what is going to happen to them, but we are in control of our reaction to it. Instead of cursing the fall and wailing, we should be content about what happens, and have faith that Allah knows what He is doing. He gives to does that doesn`t ask Him, how can we think that He wouldn`t give to those whom remember and prays to Him throughout their day. Sometimes most often we make a cup of tea or some food for some guests. In the meanwhile some other guests come before the ones it supposedly was made for. So they eat and drink the food instead. For example you have a cup of coffee, you take the cup to you mouth to take a sip. Suddenly you spill the coffee. It wasn`t in your destiny. Allah had written that you weren`t supposed to drink it.

 

Ask For The Shoe-lace

That is exactly why the alims quote our Prophet Muhammad in the famous hadith about the shoelace. Where, Mother of the Ummah Aisha raa was told from the her husband pbuh, if you don`t ask Allah for that shoelace you wanted, and he doesn`t make a decree about the fact that you are going to have it, no power in the universe can give you that shoe-lace. So instead of putting the power in your own hands. Put it to the one who can, Allah. Have faith in Him and His Decisions. If and when you want something, pray to Allah for it and work to achieve it. If it is decreed by Allah, no one can take it away from you, and if it isn`t decreed for you nothing can make it yours. If you get what you want, be happy, and if you don`t get what you want, be happier because than Allah has something better in store for you. What you and everyone else need to do is to show some patience and have trust in His Giving. We are not in charge here, Only Allah is. And He knows what He is doing, but we don`t. Surrender to the will of Allah. May Allah help and preserve each and every person. And remember supplication can change qadar / destiny.

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“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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