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It is annoying sometimes, when muslim leaders tell families, to keep their women at home. It is correct that women has a bigger responsibility when it comes to raising children. But we can’t close our eyes to the society we are co-existing in.

Your Opinion Matters

Number 1. The first matter spouses often have disagreement about, is money. Number 2. If there wouldn’t be any females in different professions, the muslim women would have to go to male doctors, male nurses male teachers, males in kindergarden, males in shops for women and etc. At a time where they need to talk with people of the same gender. Number 3. The most marriages in the west need two salaries to be able to pay for their expenses. Number 4. The wifes’ that stay home for the kids upbringing usually have a small social network. In other words, their need to socialize is not met by only going to the mosque sometimes a month. Number 5. Many muslim men doesn’t pay for the expenses of their wife. They do not fulfill their duty of providing for her and giving her a certain amount every month etc. Number 6. Instead of holding back our women from work because of their hijab, why do we not at least educate muslim men, to treat other muslim women within the boundaries of haya, modesty, lowering gaze, guarding tongue and private parts? Number 7. Help the women in your family to choose profession where they can be an advantage for the community, while also keep their hijab and modesty, and also be safe, where she is. When Muslim women will take an active part in their work, they will be able to influence decisions that affect muslims in their community. They will help build strong communities. The muslim womens opinion matters. 

The Patient Can Choose The Gender Of The Doctor

If every family told the women to stay home because of Islam, within a few generations muslim women would have far more trouble in going outside. The places where the female gender is necessary would be male-dominated. That could cause more trouble. I don’t know if anyone have been in Pakistan lately. There is a reason why they have built malls (shops) for females only. Or in a specific timing, only females are allowed to go inside the mall. That means only female workers will attend them. In that way, they do not have unwanted attention that decrease their freedom. And the safety of women is also safeguarded. Imagine, a woman doctor in Norway, can`t choose to only have female patients. She has to treat both genders. Neutrally with haya, of course. If there weren`t any female asian lady doctors, many asian women today, might not be able to get the proper help they needed. In the time of the Prophet pbuh, many sahabi took part in the battles where muslims fought. Sometimes as nurses bandaging the wounded and also as fighting the enemies. It`s in our islamic heritage. The community need more women to take part in building healthy communities. Islam does not dismiss women working. It just want both genders to practice the ethics of Islam at work and school, as at home.

The Beauty Is In The Perfection

I believe Islam is beautiful. I love Islam. Alhamdolillah. But sometimes we have to be a bit practical. Islam is perfect. But the practice of Islam in the ummah, makes it look ugly. A dai (preacher of Islam) once said. There was a time when muslims practised Islam in such a way, people said, look at so- and so- to motivate other muslims. Nowadays the name is often muslim, but the practice is so poor, that when we talk to some people who are interested in learning about Islam, we tell them to learn it from the Quran and sunnah. Go back to the real source. Don’t look at muslims, who doesn’t pray, and lies, and backbites and earn money in a haram manner. Their practice is not islamic. I`m sure many muslims knows families where the whole family has been muslims for at least three generations, yet still neither of the generations is following even the basics of Islam. Yet they call themselves muslims.

Lets Look At The World

In some countries, wagons of the public transport, is different between the genders. To prevent harassment of women. Some countries have been talking about it. In Afghanistan, a woman goes out with niqab and all her body covered. Even the face. Still these women are harassed there. It is because the men aren`t lowering their gazes and practising haya. In india, group-rape of women, and rape in general is widely spread. In egypt, women have their undergarments teared off in the street, by men walking by. It is not enough to keep women at home to protect them from assault. Parents must teach both sons and daughters how to behave within the boundaries of Islam. Haya, hijab, lowering gaze, and less interaction. If these men were taught good values from their childhood, many of them would have had a good character. It`s not enough to name your son as a muslim, if you don`t teach him good values, than it will be your own loss. Remember in many countries, women are wearing hijab, yet are still being harassed. Obviously the men must also lower their gaze and protect their private parts, and practice modesty.

First Look At Your References

Keeping the women at home, to protect them isn`t the answer here. It is the time of internet, YouTube, snapchat, Skype. Filth can be found, in the media, within your home. With free time, and boringness, many people can go astray. Ya Allah, protect us. Aamen. If you don`t teach your children to fear Allah, they can easily get misguided. The reason why such, problems are on the increase is because we think just knowing Islam is enough. That`s completely wrong. Even non-muslims know about Islam. Many times more than many muslims. Yet they don`t accept it in their heart nor do they practise it. We muslims accept the message, but do not live according to it. It is not enough to know that salah is important. Unless you pray the prayers every day, you will not be granted khusho, or the sweetness of salah. That which is the coolness of Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ  and his biggest comfort in hardships. We need a spiritual awakening of the ummah. Where we also are doing the good we know. It`s like when your supervisor is going to hire a new colleague. No one hires a new employ based on what they know. Even if they have a master degree. First they look at their references. Do they have practise from the subjects they have studied. That`s why most people have many difficulties finding their first job. To have that first reference, that will open doors for better opportunities. When we improve on our sprituality we will practice islam also in private, not only in public. The wisdom of Islam comes from practising what you have learned, not just talking about it.

Housewife From Back Home

Many women in arrange marriages, who travel to norway, with their spouse, live at home for the first 10 years of their marriage. In Pakistan still many women are housewifes. Many gain weight. Many sleep the day and wakes after mid-day. No specific routine of day. The social life in Pakistan is better than in Norway.  A wife that is married to a pakistani here in norway, often have small social circles, and have to start from scratch, in building network. After these women have stayed home the first ten years of their marriage, raising children, they are often very eager to start an employment. Socialize with other. The children doesn`t need them that much. Their expenses have increased or not paid by their husband. Very little social life at home. Many eagerly start learning the language of their country. In hope of a job. Many health issues from poor diet. These women, most of them, wants to get out more. They have lived the life of being a housewife, in Norway. Their problems are underrated. Few talk about it. Many are also struggling in their marriage.

The Community Need Muslim Women In Many Professions

We can live in a bubble and think that this is what we want. Unless the world is able to offer it, we have to seek insight in the reality of our time today. Keeping women at home, is not the only option. First parents need to educate both genders about ethics of islam. Cultivate in them fear of Allah. Help them choose good friends and good education according to their gender. If you really want to protect your wife from the ill of this community, talk with others about how we can educate men and sons to practice islam also outside the home. Social life in norway is very different from Pakistan, and many wife`s lead a very deppressive life, staying home as housewifes. Help them choose profession where they can utilize their abilities, earn salary, socialize. All this within the boundaries of Islam. All this will help the muslim women increase their  quality of life. They will be happier. Active. Learning. Changing. Growing as people. Know more about the society they live in. That is important to raise good obedient children. They can positively  influence the development of our community. Ya Allah, help the community succeed in making it easy for muslim women, if they wish, to have an employment where they can use their qualities, while also taking care of all of her duties at home. Aamen 

Everyone wants to protect the people they care for. No matter what religion, color, ethnicity you have. You try your best to help, protect, provide for the people you love. If their air is polluted in your city, and your child has allergies or asthma, you will do everything you can to move to a place where he can live a healthy life. If and when we hear about a disease that is spreading because of a virus, almost every family member are eager to help those they love to take a vaccine against it. People are afraid of contagious diseases. When any person is infected with a contagious disease, that person is transferred to a special room in the hospital. Each and every who goes in and out has to wear special clothing. And the things that goes into the room, has to be special cleaned. This is to prevent the disease from spreading to the whole community or town.

The Types Of Diseases Are Many

Some have psychological diseases. Some has physical sickness. Some has sickness in their soul/heart. The last type of sickness, the sickness of the spiritual heart. The place where feelings, emotions take life. Both good and bad. Since we are talking about sickness, I mean feelings like, envy, jealousy, hate, harshness, backbiting, lying, arrogance, making fun of others, looking down on others, slander, etc. Something negative. Since niyah, ikhlas and integrity comes from the spiritual heart. The quality of these three, will affect the disease of the heart. If our heart is diseased, there is no way we will have pure good niyah, ikhlas or integrity. So as being a muslim. If we want Allah to accept our deeds, we have to correct this. Or else no matter how big or gracious deeds we are doing, or people think we are doing, it will be rejected by Allah. What good will it do for us, if the good we do is rejected, in the final account? Ya Allah, grant us to win the struggle of perfectly getting rid of our diseases in our spiritual heart. Aamen.

Choose Good Company And Halal Fun

A spiritual alive heart, who knows the value of spirituality and good behaviour, will not be able to spend time with people who has diseases in their hearts. Their idea of halal fun, differs. A spiritually dead heart, doesn`t mind going to places where he / she can do more sins, like backbiting, lying, slander, vicious tongue, chugl khaur, etc. The heart is dead meaning, these sins doesn`t seem bad. They have fun doing these sins. It`s darkening their heart making it black. On the other side, we have a heart who is spiritually alive, he / she is aware of the effects of sins on their life. They want to make sure that the fun they are doing is actually allowed in Islam. Doing sins, that increase your punishments, is not funny. But rather doing deeds that make their ranks raised in this world and the next, is fun. In other words, when these people step out of their house, towards work or school or any event, they will do the background check, how can I spend my day, doing the right matters, correctly, and also be in constant struggle of correcting myself in the process, because I really want to earn those rewards, without them being rejected. So someone they know, invites them to an event. They will ask for the details. Will there be music there? Will there be a mix gathering between the genders? What is the dress code of the event? hijabi or non-hijabi? What kind of people are attending? Sinners or practising muslims? Will there be halal food? Where is it? How will I be able to get there safely, while also in hijab? From these questions one can imagine, these people doesn`t play with their life. Going on an event, where they might commit sins, is a big issue. They do not want to increase in sins. These people are serious about where they want to spend their eternity. Spending time with people who has diseases in the heart can be very contagious. And it does have an effect on our lives. That is why it is so important to help oneself, to only attend events , where these matters shouldn`t be any issue. There is a reason why Allah has said, that the majority of people in hell-fire will be women. One of the reason is the sins of the tongue. We who have been raised in this community, knows how fast any information travels, before the entire community is talking about it. In other words. We aren`t doing enough when it comes to increasing the healthy-ness of our spiritual heart. How can we explain how fast the whole community knows something, if we muslims in the community weren`t backbiters? If we were obeying Allah and protecting ourself from the sins of the tongue, the info would have died a permanent death, with the first who heard it. Instead the reality is that everyone knows it, within in day.

An Act Of Worship With Highest Reward And Acceptance

If and when we are able to correct our niyah, ikhlas, quality of deed, our deeds will be rewarded and accepted with the highest rewards. No matter how little the deed is. Our intention will be to do every deed for the sake of Allah. I will please my spouse for the sake of Allah. I will fulfil my duties towards my children for the sake of Allah. I will work with integrity at my school and work, for the sake of Allah. I will be good to neighbours, to strangers, to kin for the sake of Allah. I will be good to animals for the sake of Allah. I will help the community for the sake of Allah. When we are able to have these kinds of intentions, Allah isn`t stingy in rewarding us. Allah, has made us because he wants us to come back to Him in a good obedient way. When we are doing good deeds with right intentions and ikhlas, the same right intention and ikhlas will protect us from doing bad deeds. I am not going to lie, because Allah dislikes dishonesty. I am not going to backbite, because Allah dislikes eating your own brothers flesh. I am not going to be selfish and only think about myself. I am not going to slander other people. I am not going to help a marriage break. I am not going to only think about my rights, but I will balance that with also thinking about my duties. If and when we are able to correct ourselves by helping our spirituality to grow, every deed of our conduct, will become an act of worship. Because the intention and sincerity is correct. We aren`t only in the state of ibadah when we are in salah, but also when we are good to our spouse, take care of our children, fulfil our duties for the sake of pleasing Allah. Even that day our spouse is angry at us, we dig in our goodwill, to be good to him / her. I know how difficult fitnah is for a man when he steps out of the house, I will make sure I please my husband sufficiently every day. I know my wife, has had a tough day, I will make dinner for her today. Our parents get angry at us because of their old age, trying to practice sabr with them. My teen is giving my a hard time, maybe he /she is need of more positive attention. When we feed our spiritual heart with Allah`s remembrance our goodwill increases, and we are able to do more for Allah`s Creation. We want to please Allah, to gain Allahs love and because we want to thank Him. Allah has said, You have not thanked me, if you haven`t thanked people. So when we are grateful to others, because we have so many matters we have been helped, we are thanking Allah. And Allah will love us more. And a true alive spiritual heart, wants Allah`s love. When we do good deeds to please Allah and thank Him, He loves us and make the good righteous, also love us. There is no better validation of being a good person, than that the Creator of everything in this Universe, is saying, that He loves you. Ya Allah, make us of those You love. Ya Allah make us of those Hazoor Paak pbuh loves. Ya Allah make us of those, hadrat Jibreel alayhisalam loves. Aamen. Ya Allah, grant us to win the struggle of purifying our hearts from the diseases it has, with tawbah and repentance and shining it up with dhikr of You, every day. Aamen. Ya Allah grant us to win the struggle of correcting our niyah, ikhlas and quality of every deed, so every deed of our conduct is filled with sunnah and becomes an act of worship, which You, Allah accept with the highest rewards and acceptance. Aamen. Grant this to me, my family, my friends, and all ummati, till the end of time. Grant us to win the struggle of perfecting the quality of the purity of our heart, of our soul, of our deeds, of our speech, of our thoughts, of our conduct all the time. Aamen summa aamen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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