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When I was on a trip to saudi arab Makkah and madina, our group went on ziyarah. A young guide, drove us from place to place. I still remember we asked this guide, you are so lucky, you live in the town so close to the best mosques, you can do umrah or hajj whenever you want. To this he replied, I’m very blessed to live here. The only matter that makes it difficult for the muslims who live here is the hasad (jealousy) in the people. If it wouldn’t have been for that, I would have liked it even more. This was in 2009. 

I remember what he said til today. The qualities Islam came to change, are still found in many muslims. If we would try to strengthen the brotherhood and sisterhood of the ummah, our brothers and sisters wouldn’t be in so much trouble, misery and danger. We have forgotten to practice the qualities Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ have taught. Ya Allah, grant us to win the struggle of proactively strengthening the brotherhood of this ummah. Grant us to win struggle of proactively get rid of bad qualities in our heart, that are making problem for all ummati to unite as one ummah. Aamen 

fitnaHave you heard about, a young sahabi, whom saw a naked woman doing ghusl, and been so guilty of it, and cried for a long time, until he died of it. Not only ashamed of the action, but by the fear of Allah, how Allah will punish him. This was a young sahabi named Tha‘labah ibn ‘Abd ar-Rahmaan of the time of Prophet Muhammad pbuh.

Don`t Walk Near The Pit-falls

We know that times are changing. This time is filled with fitnah. It is very easy for a child, teen or adult to easily get access to any kind of filth, without their parents, or spouse, knowing. Hazoor Paak pbuh has said, in the time when the sahabi lived, Allah expected more from muslims when it comes to good deeds and quality. Because they were many, it was easier to do good deeds, with good quality. Hazoor Paak pbuh, said the time will come when holding to your deen is like holding to a coal of fire. Allah will expect less of the muslim, because it is very difficult for muslims to do deeds with good quality in times of fitnah. So no, we can`t excpect us muslim to be as good as the muslims of the sahabi era, but Allah doesn`t tell us to give up. We must struggle. Allah rewards us according to our struggle, niyah and ikhlas. So we must try to find ways that can help each other to remove pitfalls, so we can protect our own home and every muslim from the ummah, who is listening.

Your Charges Are Dropped, If You Marry Who You Raped

There is a country with many muslims. In that country, when a man rapes another woman, if he agrees to marry her, he will not get punished by the court. I don`t understand how it is possible that a country can make such rules. I do understand that this can`t be ok for the girl/woman who is raped. First of all, no girl / woman can be ok with marrying someone who doesn`t respect her. Someone who doesn`t respect a “no”. By letting these men of the hook, may put out the fire, but it won`t prevent more men to do the same. Easy way out. We rape her, we marry her for some time and divorce her when we want to. This is not ok. Instead of this rule, that country, should try to change the mindset of the younger teens and men, how to respect a girl/women. You might have other from the same gender in your family? A sister, a mother, a wife, a daughter. We must teach the male gender that they have to work on their self-control. Be in control of themselves in tough times. No matter what a girl, women does or says, nothing can justify a rape, in any way. But the girl and women, need to be responsible with how they behave. We have to be careful how we behave, in front of other men. We can revive the sunnah of modesty in our life.

coal-hand-islamNon-muslims Are Attracted To Modesty In Muslims

Another side of the story, if a muslim girl/woman wears perfume, and goes outside where other non-mahram might be. This is not allowed, because men will experience fitnah. So some people asked a scholar, what if a man puts on perfume? A woman experience fitnah. Then what? Some scholars say the reason this is not applied to men, women don`t stalk men. But men can easily stalk a woman. Time is changing. Here in the west, the husbands, sons, brothers of our family, is a muslim minority. When they step out of their homes, most people they meet at school, college, work are men and women who are non-muslims. Non-muslim women has less barriers to interact with the opposite gender. At the same time single people are increasing in our country. Muslim mens modesty and faith, is very attractive. I`m talking about non-muslim women who are almost always being lusted by others, wherever they are. Many of them who get tired of this, wants to be loved for who they are not what they look like. It is not only a muslims identity to practice modesty, but can be seen in general in asian cultures, no matter what religion. Many non-muslim women easily fall in love with muslim men, because they see in them qualities they hardly find in their own people. So the fear of being stalked by a non-muslim women is not to fare fetched. A non-muslim woman can create more difficulties for muslim men who are in the struggle of correcting their hijab. The struggle becomes more dangerous. You can read any book about the struggle men have when a beautiful women is nearby. They struggle to perfect the hijab, is much more difficult. A readable book: what you need to know about the inner life of men, by shaunti Feldhahn.

Muslim Girls Who Travel Alone

Non-muslim girls and women aren`t the only who make the struggle harder for men. Because of the weak iman in many muslim girls and women, they can easily become a stalker themselves. Nowadays, it`s not seen as difficult, for a group of muslim girls/ women to go for a vacation without any mahram. Many travel only with their female friends to many countries. If a muslim girl can take the airplane to scotland, to visit a friend, or relax for a weekend trip, it can most certainly, not be difficult for her to find out about another male muslim, where he lives, matters about his life, and try to make him like her, and want to marry her. In other words, men who aren`t working on their hijab, and use perfume, and look good, will experience fitnah from non-muslim girls/women AND muslim girls/women. So yeah their struggle is real. I can`t say I want muslim men to not go outside, they are the provider. They have to. But they must be aware of these matters. Ya Allah, grant all muslim men of the ummah to win the struggle to perfect their hijab, in public and private. Protect them from experiencing fitnah and bad company. Aameen

Fear Of Tribulations For Both Genders

An aspect that is less talked about because of the tabu issue, is the fact that a girl/ woman raping a boy/ man. Just because it is less addressed doesn`t mean it doesn`t happen. Mostly men are seen as the strong, so it is very difficult for them to admit that a girl/ woman tried or succeeded in raping them. Since we already have realized the big tribulations are on rise, there are girls/women who are guilty of this. This is a very sensitive topic. But it needs to be addressed. The numbers are unknown. This is a very important reason, why muslim girls / women must be helped to correct their hijab by their family, friends or the muslim women leaders of the community. When a girl/ woman says she has been raped, everyone immediately, accepts that as the truth, because she is the weak part, most of the times. When boys / men have been raped, it`s more difficult for them to complain to the police, because of shame of being man and weak. If and when they feel that, they need to read the surah Yusuf, chapter of Quran. Both gender can experience someone trying to seduce them. We must help each other and all the community to find solutions, and help to protect every marriage in the community. Ya Allah, make it easy for all the ummah to win the constant struggle of perfecting our hijab, in public and private. Ya Allah grant every ummati to master their self-control in public and private. Ya Allah, grant the ummah to win the struggle of protecting ourself and each other from bad company. Ya Allah, help all the ummati to win the struggle of being in good company all the time. Don`t let bad qualities have any effect on any ummati. Inspire the muslim women/men leaders, to address their followers about this, in a way that will have good effect on those listening. Aameen

love people who dont look at their schedule when you need themOften when something happen to someone you expect a certain reaction to what to what they will say or do. When you give a gift, you expect a positive reaction. When something unexpected happens, since we didn`t know it to happen, we are not aware of what kind of reaction it will create.

 

Bursting Out In Rage

For those whom have younger siblings or children in their family. If and when they fall and get hurt, their parents reaction can be quite different from what is expected. For instance they can be yelled at or even shaken by their elders; “What were you thinking, crossing the road without looking at both sides”. The reaction of their parents, may seem a bit hard, but actually displays that they care. The reason why they burst out in rage, was because they were afraid of you getting hurt. The parents got scared and because of that feeling of being afraid of loosing you, they yelled at you. Instead of thinking that they are to strict, be thankful that they doesn`t want you to hurt yourself, or see you hurt.

 

The value of having someone who cares

Those whom have lost someone in their family knows the value of having somene who cares for you. Someone whom make sure that you`ve had you meal on time, prayed you salat, come home in time, and that you wear clothes according to the weather, are not up to late and that you take care of yourself when you are ill and that you get a good dose of hugs. The ironic thing is that we value people more when they aren`t there than when they are. For years we think that our parents, or elder siblings are really giving us a hard time. But when they are somewhat away, we realize they are the one that has our back, when we fall or something negative happens. The ones that stick with you, when everyone else is out the door, no matter if they are friends or family, those people are the one that truly care. Those that help you not because of what you have, but because they love you no matter what you have or are, unconditionally caring people, are hard to find. Make sure that you appreciate them when you realize who they are, because they are your true treasure.

womens rights in islamIf a female member of your family had a doctor’s appointment, I`m sure you would have preferred it, that she was going to a female doctor. If your daughters wanted to learn swimming, I`m sure you would want the teacher to be a female. If we want less issues for girls/women in this society, we would have preferred that there were some women in the places where they interact the most.

It is so weird that people want their girls to be educated, but after their marriage, most of them has to stay home. Men want doctors as their wife, but yet would prefer it if she stayed home. What is the point of taken a degree if you`re not going to make it of any use? If we want the women of this Ummah to be active in the community we have to help them through the hurdles of everyday life so that they also can contribute. Because they have a lot of potential, and should be heard.

When we let the girls and women of this Ummah take an education or work, we have to know that they are going outside of the safe zone “home”. We need to make sure that they are safe. They will meet all kinds of people be it at workplace or at the university. Some people would look at them with the wrong intentions. We need to prepare them for how they are going to react to that, how they can prevent it, and if they come in a dangerous situation, how to get out of it.

Some points that can keep you safe :

  1. Correct hijab is very important. A least it would minimize the dangers.
  2. Girls/women should learn self-defence.
  3. Walk in groups.
  4. Ask your parents to pick you from the station. If it`s dark outside and late.
  5. When you`re alone, don`t take shortcuts through the forest.
  6. Walk where there are people.
  7. Don`t talk with strangers.
  8. Always let your family know where you are and who you`re with.
  9. Stay away from cars that stop by to ask the address of any place.
  10. Another thing that is quite important is that, just because there are other people in a place, doesn`t make it safe. I heard about some young boys here in Norway, who were drowning. They called for help. Even though there were people there that heard them, no one helped them.

These point will at least minimize the risks. Girls /women has to be cautious wherever they are and whoever they`re with.

Just think about it, if you raise a daughter/sister and she becomes a doctor, teacher, nurse, scientist or anything similar within the boundaries of Islam, she would be a powerful contributor to the community. We need people in the community that helps the Ummah rise again. To help them through their difficulties. Every good deed she does, even if it is in her job-description, you would reap a reward as well, because you made it possible for her. Every person she helps, good deeds will be transferred to your account, without it decreasing in her own reward. You can do the calculation. Allahu Akbar ❤

May Allah give us barakah in our lives, keep us steadfast on the deen, help and guide us throughout our lives, accept our good deeds and sincere efforts and give us inspiration to help the Ummah rise out of every problem. ❤ Ameen summa ameen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

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(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
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(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

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Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

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Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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