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Sisterhood, brotherhood, world, earth, united, care jpgMost people with a caring nature and good values, would happily give a helping hand to anyone in difficulty, even if they wouldn`t personally know who the other person is. Sometimes without even thinking of it having any consequence for themselves in the future.

Are You Careful Who You Help?

As time has become more rough and many people are in difficulties nowadays, many people with good intentions of helping others, are experiencing corruption in many cases. Many examples are known from the media, were good and caring people help others in need and are in return either hurt or somehow criminals steal their belongings. Leaving them in worse case, than if they would`ve not cared and just walked away, like they didn`t see that someone needed help. Since the rise of corruption is at its peak, many good people are now very aware of the fact that they have to be careful who they trust and help. Giving a helpful hand, is not the same as for a few years ago. The consequence is of course that people who are entitled of help, doesn`t get any help they need. Because we don`t know if they are true/sincere. So we choose to do a background check before we send any money or give charity through any company. We don`t always know if the money is truly being utilized where it was sent for.

Ulterior Motives For Helpfulness

When our parents bring us to life in this world. They do not bring us in order to make us dependent of them. Most parents want us to be able to live a good life and be independent. If we are too dependent of them, one day when they no more, we would have difficulty adapting to this. Their goal is to raise children who can contribute positively to the community, muslims and non-muslims. If a police-woman sees a man wanting to take suicide from a bridge, and she manages to talk him out of it, believing that he has a purpose in life, even though it looks a bit dark right now, doesn`t mean that the police-woman had ulterior motives for being helpful. It is her duty. So when some people help other people, because of their softheartedness, believe in the good in them. Most of us are just practising the life of our Prophet pbuh. We can`t start spinning on the idea that she saved him, because she wants to marry him or would want some money in return for being helpful.

politenessWe Want Humanity To Win

Good-natured people are helping. Although so many countries are facing severe trials. Lets not be the reason why people stop believing in goodness. A life is precious no matter whose it is. To save a life is like saving humankind, and to take a life, is like killing mankind. -Quran 5:32. Allah sees and knows those who do good. Don`t come in the way of others success. If someone has helped you through a difficult situation, just supplicating for them when you pray, would be sufficient for you to repay the favour. You don`t have to be a part of their life for it. It so happens often that when someone from the opposite gender helps us, we think they help us because they love us etc. It is important that we regain believe in kindness. Not always mistaking kindness /politeness for flirtation/love. Bottom line, kind people with a sound heart and good intentions help others out of difficulty. That`s it. Nothing more. Don`t expect or put so much in a nice gesture that because of this, people stop doing good deeds. If we get the idea that a good gesture will backfire, goodness will decrease. People falling on a sidewalk, where thousands are walking, won`t be helped by anyone. We don`t want that kind of world? We want a safe world where people help each other. No matter if anyone is rich or poor, just because we want humanity to win. If people fear for their family’s security when they help other people, they might stop helping other people in need. We don`t want such a society. Very few people are so un-selfish that they dare to risk their loved ones lives in order to save someone they barely know. Our a priority is our family. May Allah make it easy for us to practice kindness without it backfiring. Aameen.

brotherhood1There is a lot of malice and hatred between muslims of different madhabs. A lot of people in social media use more time in explaining why some brother from another madhabs is wrong in something instead of giving isla or dawa in general stuff people lack. Instead of strengthening the bond of brotherhood in Islam, we are having some serious issues of unity. We are fighting each other instead of being together against our enemies. The non-muslims are taking advantage of this and putting oil to the fire, and we behaving like puppies. We don`t understand that we are hurting only ourselves.

 

The Ummah Needs Unity

Without unity how are we able to cope with the difficulties the Ummah is facing today? Rather than correcting each others madhabs aalims why can`t we talk about those things that we agree about? There will always be some differences, that doesn`t mean that we should not be able to co-operate. We can rather look at the benefit our cooperation can help the Ummah whom is in a very difficult time. We need to show mercy to each other, and help each other when any of us falls.

 

Trust Is Diminishing

I listen to story`s from my parents that things were different before. Nowadays we have difficulties trusting even our own family, than how on earth will we be able to trust someone from outside, muslim or not. There is a hadith from the Messenger of Allah pbuh that there will come a time that when the muslims will start to fight each other, than Allah will not help them. Isn`t that what has happened. Our Ummah is bleeding on different places and we are not helping or caring for each other. Greed, jealousy, animosity, envy, hatred, backbiting, pride, bitterness is ruining us.

 

Deen Is Easy Don`t Make It Difficult

The Messenger of Allah pbuh said, that if one brother proposes to a woman, than the other brother is not allowed to propose to the same girl, until one of them turns down the proposal. Nowadays, sending a proposal is one thing, but people are deliberately putting hurdles in the way of other to get married, making troubles for them, that could lead them to haram consequences. If one person turns down a proposal, the people whom were denied put hurdles in the person’s life so that they`ll regret that they ever did that. Even if they later are not interested, but just so that those whom are more blessed than them gets turned down. What is their fault? They came in their way? They forgot the fact that our hearts are in the hands of Allah and he turns them wherever he wants. If you sincerely want something turn to Allah, instead of the creation. Using haram tactics to win, will not give any barakah in the marriage, but rather cause trouble. To win has become more important than the goal. People don`t think about whether they use halal or haram ways to achieve their goal. Belittling other and putting hurdles in their way so that they lose has become common.

i am to busy working on my own grass to notice if yours is greener

 

Water Your Own Grass 

What has come to the world, when a brother or sister in Islam can`t swallow the fact that some people are a tad more blessed than them. So instead of watering their own grass, they put hurdles in others life. It has become a crime to be succesful. Why can`t we instead try to water our own grass, before we complain that others grass is more greener?

 

 

The Best Of Us Are Those With Highest Taqwa

Muslims with different colors and ethnicities are hating each other because they feel that they are better than the other because of their heritage, color etc. Isn`t that one of the things our Messenger pbuh fought to diminish. He said that no one is better than another no matter what their wealth, position, color or ethnicity is. If one of them are better than the other it is the one with the best taqwa / godfear that has the highest status. Haven`t we often seen that people with lesser positions in dunya, for instance someone whom is a cleaner, leads the salah, where people whom are wealthy is praying behind him. That is because the cleaner is with more knowledge of the deen than those in prayer behind him. Or the fact that everyone in prayer,  no matter what status they have in dunya are standing beside each other in prayer. No one is ahead of anyone else, except for the Imam. We are all going into the same place in graveyard no matter how much wealth we collect. We have definitely forgotten the teachings of our Prophet pbuh when some people are behaving superior of others.

 

Preferring Beauty Over Deen

Isn`t it a shame that people with good deen but not the best beauty have difficulty in getting married. People give preference to insignificant matters when they are looking for a spouse. The browner you are, the less proposals you get. Shouldn`t our first priority be to check if the deen is ok? How on earth will a man be able to lead his family in Islam, if he doesn`t know even the basics of Islam. How on earth is a woman going to be a good wife, if she doesn`t give any importance to Islam in her life.

 

What is our solution?

  1. Like the Messenger of Allah pbuh has said, wish for your brother what you wish for yourself.
  2. If he is blessed in one thing, you might be blessed in something he lacks. We are all blessed differently, try to count your blessings when you see others are doing better than you.
  3. In deen look at those better than you, in dunya look at those below you.
  4. Remember: with every blessing there are also difficulties, with every difficulty there are also blessings.
  5. Instead of becoming jealous or envious of others, water your own grass, and see that the fruit of hard labour does give results.
  6. If you fall back at start, remember there must have been some lesson in the game of life you didn`t learn what you needed to learn to reach to the goal. So life threw you back to start, to teach it to you.
  7. Look at what we have in common instead of what differs us. Our goal should be to better the condition of the Ummah. That is not one-man-job. We can only do that if we unite and help each other instead of throwing stones at each other. The youth can become lost while we are discussing petty differences, that doesn`t mean anything in the long run.
  8. Look for deen rather than beauty. People with good character becomes more and more beautiful as the years pass by, regardless of their physical appearance. If you both are on deen, there is much chance you will re-unite in Paradise. Shouldn`t that be our ultimate goal?
  9. Learning from others`s mistakes is intelligence. That is a great way to raise the status and condition of the Ummah from generation to generation.

We need to check ourselves before Allah does it. May Allah help us perfect and complete our light and strengthen our brotherhood and guide the Ummah to do good in all our endeavors. Ameen summa ameen

a proposalWhen someone turns down a proposal the other party often take this as an insult. Their way of handling that insult is to make that person look bad in other people`s eyes somehow.

Just because they wasn`t selected themselves they want to hurt the others by spreading rumours about the other persons reputation. This happens a lot in asian cultures. Where they would make the person who is selected by others look bad, just because they weren`t selected themselves. And the other party will have difficulties getting married. Or somehow putting obstacles in their way, so that their marriage get postponed. A very bad kind of jealousy, I would call it.

I compare this people with the story of Habil and Cabil in the Quran. In tafsir ibn kathir it is written: “Several scholars among the Salaf and the later generations said that Allah allowed to marry his daughters to his sons because of the necessity of such action. They also said that in every pregnancy Adam Ra was given twins, a male and a female, and he used to give the female of one twin, to the male of the other twin, in marriage. Habil`s sister was not beautiful, while Qabil`s sister was beautiful, resulting in Qabil wanting her himself, instead of his brother. Adam ra refused unless both of them made a sacrifice and the one whose sacrifice will be accepted would win her. Habil`s sacrifice was accepted, while Qabil`s sacrifice was rejected. So the latter killed his brother”.This story is showing what the result of jealousy is. Habils jealousy made him kill his brother. (Quran 5:27-31).

If the people who are turned down, really care or love that person they would actually want the other person to be happy with whom ever he/she wants. Instead of putting hurdles in their way, they would make it easier for them to marry the one they want, by not being in the way.

I mean what is love if it isn`t seeing the person you like/love happy with whomever he/she loves? Would you like to see the person you like unhappy for the rest of their life instead? That is not love that is obsession!

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

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(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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