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We know that many muslim families in the west, help their children start wearing hijab from primary school. Many non-muslim disagree about this practice. Even politicians have spoken against it, and want the authorities to ban hijab from school. Hijab is fardh, obligatory, from puberty, in Islam. The years before puberty it is optional for the child if she prefers to wear it. Often parents want the child to start with hijab early, because parents want their child to use hijab from their early teens. If they get used to the idea, it will become an easy choice for them to choose it also for their early adulthood. The problem arises because non-muslims think that children are forced to wear hijab. So they are thinking about banning it so no child is forced to wear it. The parents here are helping children wear covering clothing that increases the dignity and honour of girls. That can prevent them from becoming easy victims of sexual abusers.

Teens Who Hide Their Age

How do they dress in the west? Children are influenced to wear clothing like adults. The media, commercials, socializing with friends, celebrities sites. A whole industry of buying what is “popular” right now. The pressure is immense. Many children wear revealing clothing that adults wear, that while their real age is 10, they look like they are adults. In other words, 15-20 years ago, it was easy to see the real age of children from what clothing they wear and their behaviour. Now that is impossible. The influence of youtube and media, how a child behaves and what she chooses to wear, often robs them from their childhood. The children’s mind and thoughts mature faster than their age. When children, girls, behave and think and wear clothing that is above their age, they will easily attract the opposite gender who are more mature and elder than them. When they go places no-one knows their real age, they can easily fake being 18 etc. We know the issue about under aged children, fake ID and trying to get in contact with elder people, just to experience the thrill of having done something brave, and a good story when they meet their ordinary friends. We have heard real incidents in Norway and in uk about underaged girls having sexual relations with men in their twenties. There is a possibility that these girls have hid their real age. We can`t be assured that it is only the mens fault. It is of great trouble for the community when children look like adults, because of what they wear and how they behave. It is very important for a child to have friends that are on their own age and not above their age. When they first grow up, they can`t be a child again. But if they grow up too early, and we could prevent it, we robbed their childhood from them. That is really sad. If we are to decide that a muslim child can`t cover themselves completely, I think it is also about time we decide that non-muslims are not allowed to wear certain revealing clothing at the primary school. If we Morally evaluate the effect of half-naked children at school, compared to all-covered children at school, the effect of lesser clothing, is worse than the effect of those who choose to cover themselves completely.

How A Rapist Choose His Victim

When we read about those who have raped, some people have done a study of these people. As to why they rape, and who they choose. In these studies, they have come to the conclusion that if the rapist saw two women coming to the area he wants to attack, and one of them are dressed half-naked and the other is wearing covering clothing, he will choose the woman with less clothing. In other words, the rapist won`t choose a woman who is covered. Even though we agree that raping is not allowed. And those who rape are not allowed to rape, even if the whole town doesn`t wear clothing. Even if it is not the victims fault that she is being raped. To protect her from being raped, every caring mother would tried to convince her daughter to not wear these clothing outside the house, where she is in danger of being a victim of abuse. Where she can come across other rapists. We have to help our children make good choices so we can save them from these dangerous people. No-one sends their children to dangers. We love our children more than we love ourselves.

How Can Our Sons Focus Easier And Learn More At School

When there comes to understanding relationships and why and how men or women behave, we all agree that they are different. Different in how they understand love, how they understand respect, different in what qualities are important for them in their relationship. Men are turned on differently then women. Men are visual. The more of beauty that can be seen of a woman the more the man will have difficulties to not look. In the book “What you need to know about inner life of men” by Shaunti Feldhahn, she explains how men think and why. This is how Allah made men. This is the test of men. If women are more aware of their clothing when they step outside their home, and hide their beauty with hijab, many men would have easier days outside their homes. If men lose focus of what they are doing when they see a beautiful woman, I`m positive so does a boy lose focus of what they are doing when they see a beautiful girl at school. As a mother of boys, how well do you think your sons focus is in school, if a girl, a class-mate of his is wearing half-naked clothing every day of summer?

I Worry More About My Daughters

Often people worry about mothers of daughters, because they think that they have a more difficult job raising their children than those mothers of sons. I don`t think the one is easier or more difficult than the other. Both jobs, raising a son or a daughter is challenging. It is important to teach both genders to behave modestly and good. Sons must be taught to respect women regardless of how they behave. Women must be taught to respect themselves and behave with dignity and honour and protect their beauty. If we allow children to go around half-naked at school and ban those people who choose to cover themselves completely, we are shooting ourselves, by making it more troublesome for the children to focus in their learning, and may not be able to protect them from illicit relations / problems were the moral standards are low. If the authorities could balance their decision, it would be more helpful. Do not allow children to wear half-naked clothing of sexual art at school. Those children who choose to cover themselves should be allowed. If we think from what the child says, that she is being forced to wear a hijab, than take action. If we find out that children are wearing hijab with free will, it should be allowed. There should be some sort of balance. Non-muslims do not understand the detrimentalness of socializing between boys and girls who have no sence of modesty, dignity and honour. The police in Norway often update their social media platform, with info about crimes in Norway. Lately they have said that there is an increase of sexual offences. Many experts in the field assume there are much higher number of sexual assaults than what is reported to them. This often comes from filth in the media, nudity, weird programs on internet and tv, internet and socializing with the wrong people and alcohol and drugs. No boundaries is equal to chaos. If we look at the behaviour of places in Norway there is more muslim youth and places where there are less muslim youth, experts say in places with many muslims, the youth smoke less and drink less alcohol. And places where there are less muslim youth, the youth drink more alcohol. It is said that if the parents drink alcohol, it is likely that their children will adopt the drinking habits of their parents. If we look at the education of muslims and foreigners, they are on top when it comes to taking higher education. Especially the girls. The boys are behind. Maybe the reason why boys are behind when it comes to higher studies is the fitnah, tribulations they experience. So we see that the muslim community has also increased the communities with goodness. It is not all negative. But negative information gets more coverage in media. They blow up information. People who don`t know or check the real facts, start believing the mis-information of many journalists. Ya Allah, please help us to protect every ummati from negative influence and grant every ummati all good righteous company everyday, all day. Help us to protect our communities for our families and for the families that will live here in the future. Aamen

img_2381Personally I have nothing against any non-muslim. But when it comes to sects (Qadiani) that claim they are muslim and make other who are interested in Islam a non-muslim by following their beliefs. I do not like that at all. I also am not fond of the idea that maybe they by their work are making muslims, become non-muslims by becoming their followers. 

When A Brother Leaves His Prayer 

It sort of is a feeling like when one muslim prays all his prayers on the scheduled timings, but suddenly comes in the wrong group of people and leaves the salah. I would hate that to happen to anyone. In this case the other person who starts following their sect becomes a non-muslim. I hate that. In this case he doesn’t only leave his salah but also the religion Islam. 

What Concerns The Ummah, Must Concern Us 

Brotherhood in Islam is supposed to be that when anyone from our muslim brothers and sisters are in pain/suffering/decreasing in faith/guidance, it should worry us. If it doesn’t, we are not on the right path and haven’t got rid of bad feelings in our hearts for each other. Everyone does anything to help the situation according to their means. But not seeing it as an issue, is in itself an issue. 

Put Aside All Differences 

There won’t come someone from the outside to help us with this. We must put our differences aside and struggle to keep each other on the right faith. A person becoming an atheist/jewish/hindu/christian should also be our concern. But when Qadianis claim to label their belief with our belief they are misusing our name. That is not ok. 

We Need Tools To Decline Any Pressure 

Living in the west we can’t take it for granted that all of the next generations will stay muslims. That is why we must teach our children and youth – give them good tools so they can fight the troubles we meet living as a minority in the west. We must unite on this cause, if we want our generations to come to be an ongoing charity for us, when we are no more, and not generations that will send punishments to us, because they are not following Islam. The hope and fear a good muslim parents for their child to be good, must be pro-active. If the sect (Qadianis) or any other religion is actively trying to misguide our children. We must help them to be able to decline their pressure. We must give them the social environment and good friends, feeling loved and a part of our Ummah (not outsiders) strengthening brotherhood/sisterhood, so they won’t join other groups without being able to denounce the pressure of them preaching them wrong information/making them leave Islam.

Make Them Feel They Belong To Our Ummah 

Often i think when other faiths (sects) sees an outsider” they easily can give that person a feeling of belonging to a group. We need to accept our children and youth as they are and be patient with them following our ways. We must not once make them feel like they do not belong in the click in the mosque or any other group. Or that they are not good enough. That could easily make them feel like an outsider and an easy victim for someone preaching another belief.

An outsider” – An Easy Target

I’m afraid that even if one person leaves Islam because of this, we have not done enough to enlighten our youth that they are not on the right path. Now it is not merely about they having freedom to practice their deen. It is about the fact that they are misguiding our muslims to leave Islam. That is not ok. That is why our mosques in Norway must do more to keep us away from them. And we can’t do that without talking about how and why their belief is not Islam. The most important rizq we have is our faith and guidance. We can`t let anything or anyone jeopardize that. Giving a deaf ear to dangers we are facing is not a good tactic if we want to succeed. What faith and values we leave in our children should be our biggest concern. This is our real sarmaya, that will benefit us also in the hereafter. May Allah help us find solutions. Aameen.

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islamic school necessaryThe muslims that migrated to Britain must have been different from the muslims that migrated to Norway. Although they are a few generations more than us. They have also succeeded much more in many ways. For example. The halal food industry is really huge there. Certified halal food is easy available in food stores and in restaurants. They have managed to build popular islamic schools that are doing great for the children’s islamic values as well as education in West. It seems to me that the muslims in britain take Islam more seriously than what muslims in Norway have done.

The Case In Norway

Here in Norway, most restaurant’s have asian cuisine, but only a few have certified halal. Is it that the muslims doesn`t demand halal. Do they not take it that seriously? What we eat has an effect on our behaviour. Muslim parents are worried about the islamic education of their children. Youth are having adaab issues. Yet we are not able to build an islamic school because of disunity and not able to find a common ground within the four schools of law. Practising muslims in Norway are really struggling. May Allah make it easy for us. And help us find solutions. Aameen. The ones that will lose is the coming generations here. When we are not doing enough for them to stay as muslims for the rest of their lives as well as live as practising muslim in norwegian communities.

Why Is Britain Ahead Of Us?

One reason can be that since the generations of muslims in Britain are ahead of us, their own culture and language is fading away. They are giving their religion more precedence instead of culture or language. Most of teens and children don’t talk their mother tongue. They communicate fluently in english at school and home. I don’t think I will be exaggerating if I also dare say, that most probably the parents of the teens and children has also left their mother tongue. One of the biggest minus points for a islamic school in Norway, is the fear of ghetto. When children and teen talk their mother tongue with class-mates at school, they will not be able to learn norwegian as fluently as they will need, later in life. Which can create difficulties for them when searching for job etc.

Media Is Not Accurate

The talk about Muslim schools in Norway create a lot of bad vibes in the media. They want to control the curriculum more because of their negative ideas about our religion. They stir up small issues, and make them look dangerous for the community. The population of Norway is 5,2 million. (Key figures from SSB) 848 200 of the total are immigrants. Of these immigrants 55 % are European, 28% are Asians, 12 % are African and 3% are South American. 149 600 of the immigrants are from the second generation. When we understand that we are talking about a group of people who are only 16.3% og the population, we easily can put it into perspective. Before we talk about that muslims are taking over Norway, we don`t know how many of the 16.3% of the immigrants are muslims. Or need i say practicing muslim. Media knows how to blow some issue out of its proportion as it’s a huge problem. When in fact the opposite is more accurate. It becomes a huge discussion and the government have made laws that are making it even more difficult for us. They know we are not able to perform at the same level as them, because we are not as educated in the rules and regulations as the native Norwegians are. But of course a few more generations and that will change. But we can’t dare to wait for long. One youth leaving our religion is one too much. We can’t risk that. We need to take action. If we want our children to be on-going charity for us after we are gone, we have no time to waste. Better prepare before were too late. May Allah make it easy for us. Aameen.

sunnah is helping around in the house, men, husband, fatherRamadan is a month to let our soul connect with Allah through ibaadah. It is important that all the family members get a chance to improve themselves, not only the men. Often the women in the house, daughter, sister, mother, wife does not get the chance to spend as much time for ibaadah because of the chores of the house. It is important that the whole family helps around, so that it doesn`t burden a few. Ramadan is not about the iftars and food we are going to eat at the end of the day, it is about getting closer to Allah and how can we possibly achieve that if we are over-burdened.

It is important that men help around the house more in ramadan. The same if you have children, keep them also busy helping. Good family ties kan only be kept from team work, we are in this together, one goal, and we help each other to do good. If ramadan is meant for us to forget the women in the house and overburdening them with our request for iftar meals, we are not living the essence of ramadan.

help me draw closer to you this ramadan.You are not the only one whom prayers are obligatory for. Your family must also pray. Make it easy for each other to pray. Give the women in your family breaks at salah time to complete the salah with khusoo and no concern for the food that is cooking. Men will be held accountable for every salah their daughters, sister, mother and wife missed or read being overburdened. Work chores can easily become family time, if we try to keep a good environment for each other. Maybe that is something that won`t make the chores that unwanted, especially by the children or teens. If these teens boys and girls are given good values from the start they will grow up and become an asset to the whole community, not only for themselves. Parents can teach them good qualities. It is vital that we give them time as the fragile age they are in. A good muslim is first and foremost good to his family. Ramadan is a time to grow spiritually. Make this a time for the whole family to help become better people and better muslims.

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Surah 105 Al Fil

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