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Allah didn’t say : Men are not allowed to oppress. Or. Women are not allowed to oppress. He said. Don’t oppress another muslim. As an oppressor can be from both genders. 

There are different types of oppression between the genders. When men are oppressed, they shy away from speaking up or getting help. Most men thinks it’s embarrassing to be known as the weak. Especially if the oppressor is a woman. Because of the crying, people often think that women is not at fault. Overlooking the fact that many women are good at manipulation. Getting their way from sobbing and crying. Instead of understanding the situation, most people automatically judge the man as the oppressor. Often times oppression can be so hidden, that only few understand it’s reality. 

Oppression is not allowed in Islam. The supplication of the oppressed is always accepted by Allah. Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ has said, protect muslims from being an oppressor, and protect muslims when they are oppressed. 

Det er ikke bare kvinner som er opptatt av sitt utseende. Mange menn tror fortsatt at de må ha en perfekt kropp for å finne den riktige kvinnen i sitt liv. Menn blir målt utifra utseende. Det er derfor det ikke er rart om noen tyr til doping. Selv om de langsiktige negative virkningene ødelegger livene deres. 

Respekter Menn

Islam sier at man ikke skal objektifisere verken mann eller kvinne basert på deres utseende. Dersom man ønsker å få vite mer om andre, finn ut mer om deres karakter. Uansett hvor store muskler en mann har, eller kjekt utseende, så vil han ikke greie å forbli gift med sin kone om han har lite taqwa. Derfor er det viktig å jobbe for velvære og se og føle seg bra, men ikke bli sykelig opptatt av det. Til syvende og sist, vil et ektepar med god taqwa ha større sjanse for at ekteskapet varer livet ut, enn om de ser ut som modeller begge to. Ya Allah, hjelp oss å ikke basere våre meninger om andre basert på kvaliteter som utseende. Hjelp oss å forbedre våre indre kvaliteter for alltid. Og bruke riktige verdier som grunnlag når vi velger en ektefelle. Aamen 

fitnaHave you heard about, a young sahabi, whom saw a naked woman doing ghusl, and been so guilty of it, and cried for a long time, until he died of it. Not only ashamed of the action, but by the fear of Allah, how Allah will punish him. This was a young sahabi named Tha‘labah ibn ‘Abd ar-Rahmaan of the time of Prophet Muhammad pbuh.

Don`t Walk Near The Pit-falls

We know that times are changing. This time is filled with fitnah. It is very easy for a child, teen or adult to easily get access to any kind of filth, without their parents, or spouse, knowing. Hazoor Paak pbuh has said, in the time when the sahabi lived, Allah expected more from muslims when it comes to good deeds and quality. Because they were many, it was easier to do good deeds, with good quality. Hazoor Paak pbuh, said the time will come when holding to your deen is like holding to a coal of fire. Allah will expect less of the muslim, because it is very difficult for muslims to do deeds with good quality in times of fitnah. So no, we can`t excpect us muslim to be as good as the muslims of the sahabi era, but Allah doesn`t tell us to give up. We must struggle. Allah rewards us according to our struggle, niyah and ikhlas. So we must try to find ways that can help each other to remove pitfalls, so we can protect our own home and every muslim from the ummah, who is listening.

Your Charges Are Dropped, If You Marry Who You Raped

There is a country with many muslims. In that country, when a man rapes another woman, if he agrees to marry her, he will not get punished by the court. I don`t understand how it is possible that a country can make such rules. I do understand that this can`t be ok for the girl/woman who is raped. First of all, no girl / woman can be ok with marrying someone who doesn`t respect her. Someone who doesn`t respect a “no”. By letting these men of the hook, may put out the fire, but it won`t prevent more men to do the same. Easy way out. We rape her, we marry her for some time and divorce her when we want to. This is not ok. Instead of this rule, that country, should try to change the mindset of the younger teens and men, how to respect a girl/women. You might have other from the same gender in your family? A sister, a mother, a wife, a daughter. We must teach the male gender that they have to work on their self-control. Be in control of themselves in tough times. No matter what a girl, women does or says, nothing can justify a rape, in any way. But the girl and women, need to be responsible with how they behave. We have to be careful how we behave, in front of other men. We can revive the sunnah of modesty in our life.

coal-hand-islamNon-muslims Are Attracted To Modesty In Muslims

Another side of the story, if a muslim girl/woman wears perfume, and goes outside where other non-mahram might be. This is not allowed, because men will experience fitnah. So some people asked a scholar, what if a man puts on perfume? A woman experience fitnah. Then what? Some scholars say the reason this is not applied to men, women don`t stalk men. But men can easily stalk a woman. Time is changing. Here in the west, the husbands, sons, brothers of our family, is a muslim minority. When they step out of their homes, most people they meet at school, college, work are men and women who are non-muslims. Non-muslim women has less barriers to interact with the opposite gender. At the same time single people are increasing in our country. Muslim mens modesty and faith, is very attractive. I`m talking about non-muslim women who are almost always being lusted by others, wherever they are. Many of them who get tired of this, wants to be loved for who they are not what they look like. It is not only a muslims identity to practice modesty, but can be seen in general in asian cultures, no matter what religion. Many non-muslim women easily fall in love with muslim men, because they see in them qualities they hardly find in their own people. So the fear of being stalked by a non-muslim women is not to fare fetched. A non-muslim woman can create more difficulties for muslim men who are in the struggle of correcting their hijab. The struggle becomes more dangerous. You can read any book about the struggle men have when a beautiful women is nearby. They struggle to perfect the hijab, is much more difficult. A readable book: what you need to know about the inner life of men, by shaunti Feldhahn.

Muslim Girls Who Travel Alone

Non-muslim girls and women aren`t the only who make the struggle harder for men. Because of the weak iman in many muslim girls and women, they can easily become a stalker themselves. Nowadays, it`s not seen as difficult, for a group of muslim girls/ women to go for a vacation without any mahram. Many travel only with their female friends to many countries. If a muslim girl can take the airplane to scotland, to visit a friend, or relax for a weekend trip, it can most certainly, not be difficult for her to find out about another male muslim, where he lives, matters about his life, and try to make him like her, and want to marry her. In other words, men who aren`t working on their hijab, and use perfume, and look good, will experience fitnah from non-muslim girls/women AND muslim girls/women. So yeah their struggle is real. I can`t say I want muslim men to not go outside, they are the provider. They have to. But they must be aware of these matters. Ya Allah, grant all muslim men of the ummah to win the struggle to perfect their hijab, in public and private. Protect them from experiencing fitnah and bad company. Aameen

Fear Of Tribulations For Both Genders

An aspect that is less talked about because of the tabu issue, is the fact that a girl/ woman raping a boy/ man. Just because it is less addressed doesn`t mean it doesn`t happen. Mostly men are seen as the strong, so it is very difficult for them to admit that a girl/ woman tried or succeeded in raping them. Since we already have realized the big tribulations are on rise, there are girls/women who are guilty of this. This is a very sensitive topic. But it needs to be addressed. The numbers are unknown. This is a very important reason, why muslim girls / women must be helped to correct their hijab by their family, friends or the muslim women leaders of the community. When a girl/ woman says she has been raped, everyone immediately, accepts that as the truth, because she is the weak part, most of the times. When boys / men have been raped, it`s more difficult for them to complain to the police, because of shame of being man and weak. If and when they feel that, they need to read the surah Yusuf, chapter of Quran. Both gender can experience someone trying to seduce them. We must help each other and all the community to find solutions, and help to protect every marriage in the community. Ya Allah, make it easy for all the ummah to win the constant struggle of perfecting our hijab, in public and private. Ya Allah grant every ummati to master their self-control in public and private. Ya Allah, grant the ummah to win the struggle of protecting ourself and each other from bad company. Ya Allah, help all the ummati to win the struggle of being in good company all the time. Don`t let bad qualities have any effect on any ummati. Inspire the muslim women/men leaders, to address their followers about this, in a way that will have good effect on those listening. Aameen

coal hand islamMost people talk bad about women that wear hijab. Without lifting an eyebrow about women in their life, who not only doesn`t wear hijab, but also pluck eyebrows and wear perfume. These women, girls are not looked by men with good intentions.

Most people talk bad about women that avoid mix gatherings or places where there is played music. Without lifting an eyebrow about the people who think that music uplifts them. Most of who seek places where they easily can interact with the other gender. This is most people idea of having fun.

Most people backbite women who avoid certain arrangements and tv-channels even if they are for women only. While they don`t mind that many of the places, even at islamic programs, there is a lot of noise and most people are backbiting and many muslims are making fun of others.

Most people talk bad about people who care about what they eat, every ingredients so that they don`t eat anything that is not allowed. They can use a lot of time finding the right restaurant or checking the ingredients in all foods. Or questioning the employee about this. While they care little of those who eat all kinds of meat, and all kinds of food, and never dare to question for a second time if the food actually is halal. Disregarding, caring little for that the food they eat has an impact on their behaviour.

Most people think those who are always speaking the truth, are foolish, because it gets them into trouble. While they don`t care for the fact that the angels doesn`t like to company people who lies.

Most people make fun of many sunnah`s of the Prophet Muhammad pbuh. The sad part is that most of them doesn`t know that making fun of any parts of Islam, can take you/ and your children, further away from it. How can your claim of loving the prophet pbuh be true, while you make fun of his simple life-style.

Most people doesn`t like paying much money, when it comes to learning the deen, attending online courses or buying books. While they can utilize many thousands in buying a new car/ house/ vacation just to impress their friends.

Most people doesn`t get impressed by conduct/ knowledge/ hikmah/ in deen or people who takes practicing Islam seriously. They get impressed by bank-balance, expensive cars, big houses, mobile phones and clothing from expensive brands. Non of which will help them attain jannah.

Instead of looking with disgust at people who are trying to be more practicing, we should actually give these people a break. Today many people say that people force other muslims to practice Islam. Where? As I see it, the community, so-called muslims by name, are making it difficult for practicing muslims, to practice Islam, as it came. Instead of pointing fingers at people you don`t know. Try to understand certain people by what they are avoiding. Maybe we can understand them more after that.

let me show you something that is better for youThe upbringing of girls and boys cannot be alike. I still see a lot of mistakes parents are guilty of, in raising their children. One of the most noticable one is teaching them respect.

Even though times have changed but the mindset that is taught to boys hasn`t changed. The majority of boys and even men these days think to be nothing wrong in behaving rudely to other girls they aren`t related to. They wouldn`t tolerate the same for their own sisters. If parents and especially the father has a solid muslim upbringing, he would try to teach the same values to his son. The main thing here is that every young son should be taught to respect women regardless of how they are dressed, how they behave and who they are with. Often muslim brothers doesn`t find anything wrong in insulting another girl because of her appearance and the other points mentioned before. The majority of muslims living in the West are educated to a certain degree, but they lack such manners that would weigh heavier on their scale on Judgment Day. We have no right to look down on other people no matter what state they are in. Maybe they some time would become more guided than us.  It is a matter of guidance and that is not in our hands. Backbiting or insulting them would not better the situation. Though one thing is for sure, if we don`t apologize to them in our life, we are going to lose in the Hereafter when our good deeds will be given to them till they forgive us, IF they forgive us, or else we will have to bear their bad deeds.

If you have made such a mistake, repent and make amends, apologize if possible or at least pray this dua :

In Arabic:

“Allahumma fa`ayyuma mu`minin sababtuhu faj`al thaalika lahu qurbatan ilayka yawmal-qiyaamati”.

Translation:

“O Allah, whomever of the believers i have abused, give him the reward of a sacrificial slaughter for it on the Day of Resurrection”.

You can get more dua`s from IhsaanFusion App.

May Allah give us good manners. Ameen.

treating women honourably, household chores, menMen are the protectors and maintainers of the family. When they have the right universal values, so will their offspring too. I guess most of the parents that came to the West were more busy with earning money than Islam. Ma Sha Allah, now we see a lot of their children have become very religious, despite their parents not being the best role-models.

It is very important that we also teach our next generation the right values. For instance, it is very common that in a family with siblings, the daughters have to do most of the chores. I mean, has the Imam at the Mosque ever talked about this? We have to read sunnah and nawafil in the prayers, but what about following the sunnah in our life outside of the prayer. If we don`t teach our kids, mainly young boys that they have to help around in the house, and not leave all the work for the women, what kind of husbands do you think they will turn out to be? We have forgotten a lot of sunnahs. The Prophet (pbuh) was never shy to help around the house. He also mended his own clothes and shoes. Nothing will happen to your status if you give the women in your family a helping hand. Even when your friends and family are around. Are you to shy to follow the sunnah? It is ok when it suits your life, right? If it doesn`t than, never mind. It is very important that we try to think more about what Islam says, rather than what our culture is. There has developed clashes between religion and culture. You decide what will win.

Men have a lot of responsibility and I understand that. Another important aspect they have forgotten is to make sure that the people in their family doesn`t go away from Islam. They should rather make sure that the women in their life come closer to Islam. One thing that is very important is for example the prayers. Don`t just make sure you yourself read it on time, but make sure that your daughter, sister, mother and wife also get a chance to read it with proper concentration without having to hurry because the children are crying or that the dinner will burn. So that they also get a good equal chance to earn those rewards that you now have become so eager to earn. Remind them. Remember you have a responsibility. From character to spirituality, Islam is a way of life.

May Allah help all the men of this Ummah understand the responsibility that is put on their shoulders, and help them in fulfilling it in the best possible way. Ameen summa ameen.

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“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

:) W & R one 2 one :)

(",) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (",)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

Når du er forent med en
du elsker, er det ingenting
du ikke klarer :)

Gode ord skaper tillit.
Gode tanker skaper
Inderlighet. God
giverglede skaper
kjærlighet:)

Mood :)

Overjoyous :) I wonder which song is always on my mind (",)

(“,) Always on my mind (“,)

Be mine all the time,
never cross the line,
I`m a one man woman,
I don`t share
what`s mine,
never settle for less..

Song of the moment :)

:) If you just love me, i will let you see, how more you need? :)

:) Discover enlightenment
holding your hand.. :)