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The recipe for a good life and marriage is taqwa. Desires does not go away by marriage. Marriage give permission (halal way) for intimacy. The fitnah in the world will still be there. Desires need to be tamed by increasing godconsciousness (taqwa). If both husband and wife work together to attain and maintain a sound taqwa together, than Allah will help the marriage survive through every difficulty. Ya Allah, grant us taqwa in our life all the time. Aamen. Accept this for all ummati til the end of time. Aamen. 

When we say or do something hurtful to our spouse, it creates a distance between you two. 
For example
Lying – 5 meters
Harshness – 7 meters
Unloyalty – 10 meters
Unfaithfulness – 100 meters
When we are good to our spouse and do deeds and actions that makes your spouse feel “respected”, “loved” etc, it increases the intensity of the closeness you two share. 
For example
Kiss on the forehead – 5 meters closer
Flowers – 15 meters closer
Warm dinner – 100 meters closer
Undivided attention – 20 meters closer
When we sum up these two meters which bring closer and that which makes distance, if the sum is negative, we have been making more distance from misbehaviour. If the sum is positive, we have done more good behaviour. 
Just like that, we sum up every day, every week every month and year. If both in the marriage continously work on themselves and their relationship, most of the time, they will have a close fulfilling relationship. When both do deeds that bring each other closer, no matter the setbacks, you will overcome it. Because you two have made a good solid foundation. There is never to late to do something special together that wipes out many of the previous mistakes. Make effort to learn your spouse’s “love-languages”, “respect-languages” and “forgiveness-languages”. Just by knowing it, it is 50% done. Now all you two need to do is, speak these languages in deeds. 
Ya Allah, grant every ummati a good marriage. Aamen. Protect every marriage til the end of time. Aamen. 

When we learn something from our teacher. He (she) lights a torch of knowledge (wisdom) in us. The love for remembering Allah increases. Now it’s upto us, to take care of it, help it grow and to pass it on to others, and invite them to the mehfil. The love of Allah, is such, that no matter who your family, sibling, spouse, children, work, color, ethnicity is, without that love, everything we have gained is bitter. With the love and obedience of Allah, no matter how small achievement it is, Allah makes it good for us, increases baraqah through it for us, blesses us through the achievement. When we invite other to the khair (dhikr mehfil), we wish for them something similar as we have. Inviting someone for the sake of Allah, means we are not helping them for any personal benefit, except that if they start with dhikr, they will pray for us, and our own baraqah increases in our life. What good they will do, will also benefit us with good deeds. And the khair becomes a sadqa jariyah (ongoing charity), that lasts longer than our life. When we pray salah or do dhikr, it is for our personal benefit. Allah doesn’t need our prayers. We are in need of Him. If we only pray for a certain matter to happen for us, and it doesn’t happen, we can’t let our practice of love and obedience for Allah, die because of that. No matter what your blessing is, Allah decreases the goodness from that blessing, if you are not obedient to Him (Allah). We need Allah, just as much as when we are the most succesful human on earth, as when we are of the most un-succesful person on earth, in dunya blessings. Success without Allah, is actually failure, no matter your salary, your children, status, spouse etc. Ya Allah, grant us to win the struggle of perfecting our niyah, our ikhlas, our integrity. Aamen. Ya Allah, help us increase in doing dhikr every day. Ya Allah, Help us successfully pass on the torch of the remembrance of Allah, for the sake of Allah, to others, so it can become an ongoing charity for us for many years. Ya Allah, grant us to win the struggle in correcting those faults in us, that are coming in our way of us learning what our teacher knows we lack. Grant us to reach our fullest potential in becoming the most succesful “muttaqi of imam” of our time. Aamen

😍 beautifying your hijab. Attracts attention.

🤤 shaping eyebrows. Still attracting attention. 

💋💅 using make-up to beautify yourself. Attracts attention.

😏😉 not lowering your gaze. 

🕌 using perfume, when you go outside, easily attract attention. 

👠using shoes that makes noise. Attracts  attention.

👚 using clothing that it is possible to see through. Clothed, yet naked. 

👂😋talking in a way that attracts attention. 

🐍 mixing with others without any limitations. 

🎼 🎸🎷 listening to music. The lyrics of songs invites to matters Islam forbid. 

🎬 watching movies. Bollywood. Hollywood. Drama. It changes your perspective and misguides you. 

⭐️ following actors/ actresses on social media. Spreading matters about them. 

These matters are general prohibitions in Islam. In general no one follows them.  

🤐 gossiping. Not control of the sins of your tongue.

🤞🤥lying about others. 

🤝 😈 making enmity between friends / spouses. 

😼 making oaths about false matters. 

🤧 convey yourself as a victim to gain support against others. 

😤☠️ using magic to get what you want in life. 

🙃 spreading false information about others. Questionable sources. 

😇 being un-trust-worthy because of false statements, testimony. 

🕸 using too much time to make friends of dunya, instead of friends of akhirah (hereafter). 

🐍 supporting wrong / mean people, instead of the oppressed. 

🥝 using too much time to beautify outside, instead of inside (values, conduct, character, integrity, niyah, ikhlas). 

🍄🐖 eating non-halal food. Or earning money in non-halal way. 

🕊😬 harming people who do good. 

👉 false accusations. Bohtan. 

People who are trying to follow the basics sunnah of Islam, are experiencing so much trouble within the ummah, because we have deviated from the right path. It is difficult to live a life as a practising muslim, when most muslim practice Islam progressively. Ya Allah, don’t let us deviate from the right path, after You have guided us, grant us from yourself mercy, indeed You are the most Merciful, and You are the bestower. Aameen 

marriage-islam-couple-marriage-practising-muslims-compatibilityIf age is no guarantee for maturity, why does people give it so much presedence, when choosing a spouse. Compatibility is everything. How can any parent choose a non-practising spouse for their practising son/daughter. This is oppression.
May Allah make it easy for all un-married people to find a spouse who is compatible with them for a lasting marriage that will lead them to highest paradise. Aameen.


Although both husbands and wife should learn to express their love so they both feel loved, there is also another quality that can strenghten their bond – being more understanding. 

Both spouses express and feel loved differently based on their gender differences. To help each other and themselves, spouses should programme their mind in understanding how a man expresses love/ how a woman expresses love. In this way, when their spouse expresses something, they can link it up to their emotion and decode their language to help themself understand, what their spouse is saying and what it means. 

Although it would be perfect if a spouse express love the way the other will understand it. It might be a bit overwhelming if we expect the other spouse to express love in a way which he/she might not be comfortable with or feel natural. It is possible to learn it. It would make your own life easier. 

When that is said, spouses must also learn how their spouse feel un-loved based on their gender. Because it is different between a man and a woman. To prevent us from expressing something than can be hurtful for the relationship and decrease love. 

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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