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The beauty of Islam, is the vastness of the Mercy our Lord has for us. When we sincerely repent, make tawbah, our past sins are erased from our record, we become as pure as a child. The sign of us avoiding sinfulness again, is a sign of Allah accepting our repentence. Allah knows we are weak. Allah wants to help us. So Allah has told us keep good company. They won’t let you sin, and avoid sins themselves also. They remember Allah frequently, and remind you when you forget. They motivate you to learn and practice deen. They are at peace, and their presence increase peace. 

What We Avoid. 

Who we spend time with tells a lot about us. Our friends. Those we choose to connect with. Who we decide to avoid, also says a lot about us. If we avoid those who are doing good, and spend time with those who invite to evil, it will be difficult to change for the better. If we instead, do what we can, to join events that has khair in it, we will also benefit from it’s goodness. First priority after guidance is to keep us on the right path through the ups and downs of our life. We have to work proactively for it, to keep increasing in imaan and good character. We can’t accomplish that, without good company. 

How To Prepare For A Marathon

If we don’t keep training our running abilities, after a month, our endurance will decrease. The next marathon, we will have a lower score. After we learn any kind of ability. We have to work to become better and increase our work for the next level, and so on. To improve. Our guiders our teachers boost us with confidence, knowledge and wisdom, and we are motivated to work harder to grow in our qualities as a muslim, and increase our practice of our deen. Allah doesn’t look at our results. He rewards us according to our struggle. Only He knows how much we are struggling to come closer to Him (Allah). That is exactly why, each and every muslim has a great chance of becoming a “friend of Allah”. Everyone has different challenges/abilites. Allah wants us to perfect our ikhlas and niyah in our struggle, and do what good we can within our capabilities (means). 

Unique Qualities But The Same Goal

Just imagine, if we all were alike and had the same trouble at the same time? Whom would be able to help each other, when we are struggling with the same matter at the same time? Thanks to Allah, He created us unique, no one matches another. Because we are so individually gifted in different qualities, we can help each other prosper together. For example fla fla is good in writing. Fla fla is good in delivering speech. When they team up, one of them writes the speech, the other one perfectly delivers it, and they are able to make a good difference, by them teaming up for a good cause. So there is goodness in our unique-ness. 

Catching The Cold Or Remain Healthy

When we stop growing, our endurance, qualities remain the same, or becomes worse. Time does not wait for anyone. Changes in fashion, knowledge, science, internet, stock market is rapid. When we try to keep us updated in the matters that are important for us (connected to our religion) we become more aware of what is happening in our community / country. The good and the bad. Even if we aren’t a part of everything. We can’t fight a disease without knowing about it. On the other side, we can’t feel thankfulness, if we don’t know how blessed we are. The first thing that helps us grow, is having self-insight. We are not perfect. We are not all bad, either. By learning about our mistakes, we can help ourselves and each other in overcoming them. Or protecting us and our loved ones from “catching the cold”.

O Blessed Souls, Enter Highest Paradise 

Make sincere tawbah. Spend time with people who are good friends of akhirah. Grow in your abilities. Team up with those who have same goals. Avoid bad influence. Make a change were you live. Allah will reward you according to your struggle. Just keep checking on your niyah and ikhlas. We are doing good for the sake of Allah. And that He will forgive us. And enjoin us in highest paradise, because of our efforts. Aamen. Ya Allah, make it easy for us to join good events with khair. Make us prosper in both worlds. Aamen. Ya Allah, help us avoid places and events You dislike. Make us become our best version, in what You (Allah) wants us to accomplish. Aamen. 

love increase with age, old couple, with quoteOften in life we come to a road that leads to two different places. We don`t know which one to choose. The decision is tough and we are not always familiar with all the pros and cons. That is when we seek advice from people whom has more wisdom and knowledge than us. Someone whom has travelled such a distance, can know about the dangers and the traps of the journey. Likewise when a child becomes an adult and is mature enough to take the responsibility of marriage. They will most often ask their parents for help in choosing a spouse. They have, after all, more experience and wisdom than their children. If the parents are going to find a spouse, it is crucial that they know their daughter`s /son `s wishes and goals. After all they are the one’s life it is about, not their parents wants and preferences.

 

Level Of Imaan

When the family are informed about a potential spouse, they spend time to find out more about that person through a third-party, the advisors.  An important aspect of seeking advice is to know the advisors personally, whether they have the same values as yourself. The advice you receive will depend on the advisors being a practising muslim or a non-practicing muslim. Whatever suits your child. The important point here is to find someone who’s level of imaan is compatible to your childs.

 

An Eligible Advisor

Parents, when you ask someone for advice about a potential spouse for your child, remember to ask someone whom is known to be just/fair. A just person would only say the truth. A friend would only praise the person. An enemy would only tell negative things. A just person will tell the positive and negative he/she knows, without adding extra spice/sugar to the information. There is no person without some negative qualities. The main thing is that the two individuals add up to each others qualities.

 

Their Answers Depend On Their Benefit

Your criteria for liking/disliking someone can be different from others. People often look for their own benefit in the matter before they give any advice. These kinds of people are mostly not truthful because they base their answers on their on benefit of the situation and it could change.

 

Be Just

Advisors beware: today someone is asking you about another muslims daughter. You will be asked from Allah about how you answer. Be just. Today it is someone else`s family, tomorrow it could be someone in your own family. People whom misguide others on purpose, will have a tremendous sanction for it from Allah. May Allah protect the Ummah from seeking advice from people whom aren`t eligible for giving it and help us not accept advice from people whom are not truthful. Aameen.

you are good enough, dont let anyone tell you otherwiseA home should be a place where everyone has sanctity. There is a huge different in being a place where you are tolerated instead of being a place where you are celebrated. A place where we accept each other, where we can be just as we are, without having people who always pinpoint something wrong in you. The parents are responsible to help children develop positive attitude towards their siblings and others. When they make a positive environment for their children, a place where they practice compassion and attentive listening, without sarcastic remarks, their attitude will rub off on their children as well. To cultivate good qualities is important both in home, at school, work or with friends.  When children and family members have space to ask question without being laughed at or feel dumb, they will grow as people, and become smarter. The same goes at school or at work. As long as there is an environment where people are welcomed just as they are, without being ridiculed or humiliated for it, they will play an active part in the goals that are for the group. We often talk about how certain people can improve their lives. Those who are succesful and smart have an idea of how it worked out for their life and so they like to share their view, to help others. That is good until they somehow indirectly put other down or somehow indirectly tell them how they failed. Without creating a positive environment, any change can be difficult to maintain for a long time.

Different Understanding

Teachers especially knows what I am talking about. Picture you are a teacher for a group of teenagers. You have just been selected for the job. After a few days of teaching you understand that the class has different level in their understanding. You can`t use the same material for all of the students. You have to use different methods to teach them. Not only that. Since some of them are slow at learning and some are quicker, the slower are making more trouble in class, because they see how in-adequate they are compared to the other who are smarter. The teacher has to make a good environment for learning if they want the children to progress.

Put Aside Differences And Work For A Common Goal

The same goes for a working place. If the manager wants all the employees to make progress he has to make sure that the environment is encouraging and people enjoy working there. The employees are often different, but as long as the management is good, the environment will also be good. Which in fact means both for the students in the classroom and the employees at a working place. The management / teacher has to have certain rules, that if and when are broken, they will be sanctioned. They should not be afraid of showing a yellow card the moment they see that some people are misbehaving. The most important point is to find out the reasons behind a persons misbehaviour. Sometimes the one that is making the most trouble is the one that is being treated unfairly by others. Sometimes people indirectly exclude some, just because they are different. Here the management/teacher has to make sure that all the rules are being followed. They can say : “We don`t have to agree about everything to cooperate about a project or task at work or school”. Surely most of the places we are either in home, school or work, most of the people are very different. So we learn to put our differences aside and work for a common goal, which is a, b or c.

Compassion Will Change Your Thinking

It is so easy for those who have a succesful recipe for life, to point out mistakes in other people`s life. If they had done certain things differently everything would have been better. No. We don`t know what other people are going through. What kind of obstacles that are in their life. We can`t be indifferent to people’s struggles when they are coping with anything, without being in the same shoes. We have to practice compassion. As easy as it seem to do things differently, a bad environment won`t make it easier to change anything. It boils down to creating a good environment for learning to apply what we learn. As long as we don`t have that, it will take more time to improve, if at all possible to make any change.

True happiness is being obedient and submissive to Allah, white flowerThe people we interact with influence us according to their values. Even if they aren`t our closest friends, their values can rub off on us. Some people say we become like the 5 people we spend the most time with. Be it at home, work, university etc. We can`t choose the people who are in our family, but we can choose whom we will befriend. Even if we have to work or study with people who are very different from us, we don`t have to let their differences affect our values. To be able to do that we have to have control over ourself with understanding and believing in our goals and be determined that we are going to make it, no matter how difficult the road might seem. Guidance comes from Allah. He is the only One whom guides us. We should always supplicate to him to ask for the straight path of guidance with a heart that accept guidance as well. Without His Help we are indeed lost. As long as we rely only on Him we can`t be lost. When we start to rely on ourself and our abilities, He will send us a difficulty to teach us who is in charge. If we have any ability to do anything it is merely because of His Love. He can take away whatever He has blessed us with. So it remains to practice patience and gratefulness side by side, and turn to Him always, every day, as often as possible.

 

It Is Better To Die Than To Be Disobedient To Allah

Who hasn`t had some friends with different set of values that has influenced them without thinking of the consequences of it being harmful for ourself. When we are practising muslims, doing the right thing might be hard, but it will be the only way. Your choice will be between: 1. Doing the right and 2. Doing the right thing. Even and despite the road being packed with difficulties. When we are so strict with ourself, we won`t allow ourself to fall into sin, and if and when we do, and yes it is inevitable, we would feel that dying is better than being disobedient to Allah. His true slaves turn to Him whenever they fail.

 

Leave The Place

To be able to control our desires and our emotions we need to be in control of our heart. When we keep on doing sins, it`s sickness is increased. It can only be healed by listening to Quran and doing good deeds, keeping wudhu, avoiding bad company, and avoiding sin. When our heart has come a bit on the way to becoming healthy, it won`t even like the places that leads to sin. If we ourself are struggling it is difficult for us to help others. When we are strong, we can face the fitna/tribulations that would be in such a place. We can`t save others before we save ourself.

 

Allah, Jannah, Muslim, proveA bad Friend Is Worse Than Shaytan

We need to be aware of our worth. When we know something is bad for us, we can`t be persistent in it. For example, a friend of yours ask you to jump off a mountain. Every sane person knows that you`ll die or break a lot of bones in your body, from the fall. Never mind that, he`s my best friend, how can I not do what he said, he knows me so well, and what would help me, right? The same goes for sinning. We need to stand up for Islam and be able to say “no”, and not follow a bad advice that will harm our Hereafter. Even if our so-called friends is cheering us to do it. We know that it`s not right, so we abstain. There is a saying in urdu that when one in a group of people is wrong, all the others will guide him to become good but what will the people do when most of the people in the group are wrong and only one is right. Avoid. It is like a group of young boys that just got their driving license. They are not perfect drivers but has got permission to drive. That means they need to be extra careful to not break any rules. The rules are new to them and they need to be familiar with them to know how to drive correctly.  If one of them cheers the driver to overspeed, they have only themselves to blame if they they come in an accident. Even those that doesn`t practice Islam knows that when we sin, we are going in the direction of Hell-fire, if we don`t repent and make amends. If we still wan`t do be persistent in going on that way, when we know the consequences, we are indeed stupid. That is why I believe in the saying of some elders that a bad friend is worse than shaytan, because shaytan only whispers to you, but that friend, he takes you to that place of sinning and doesn`t stop until you have sinned, so that you become like him. And then he can say, “Way to go, yeah I can see, you are a muslim”. The only goal of a bad friend is to make you just as bad as him.

 

In Good And Bad Always Turn To Allah

Bottom line. Avoid. Avoid. Avoid. The more a person want to sin, the more Allah loves him, when he is able to abstain from it. Don`t rely on yourself or others. Rely only on Allah. People are sometimes good to you and sometimes bad, mostly according to what you benefit them with. Don`t lose your focus. Keep yourself determined to go to Paradise. And be aware that the way to Paradise is a road that is packed with difficulties. Though as long as we are persistent, we can find blessings in the difficulties. Whatever good or bad happens, always turn to Allah. Allah is in charge, He is the one Who has made the rules and regulations. He decides how matters are and how we can respond, out of His Wisdom. We don`t know as much as a grain according to Allah Who knows All that is in the Universe. How can we for one minute think that we know better than Him. It is plain impossible. When he asks us to abstain from something, even if we in our minds are not able to understand the wisdom, we have to trust in Him. He made us and know what is good for us. Only the maker of a vehicle, knows what is good and bad for it. Similarly, it is by Allah`s command that we are here in this world, so we must rely on the fact that he knows best what He wants for us. Accordingly He knows best how to handle our heart, and how to keep it away from all kinds of diseases. People wonder why some believers are in tension most of the time. How can they relax before they enter Paradise? The day they enter Paradise, with those they love, they will be content and rejoice over the fact that they made it to their goal. Sinning takes them further away from their goal, and being obedient makes them closer to their goal. May Allah preserve us, guide us and give us a heart that accept guidance, give us righteous company, and give us strong imaan and will to do what is right according to Islam and make it easy for us to follow Him. Aameen summa aameen.

wall of positivityEach and every person wants to be positive. People admire others whom are positive and wants to learn as much they can from they because having a positive outlook to life not only increases their success rate but also makes sure that they have good surroundings. Some people read positive books to learn from the best. Other listen to lectures and learn from people they admire the most.

Once in a while each and every can lose their positivism, but mostly people bounce back after having a hard time. It is mostly because they have positive surroundings and have that inner positive feeling that keeps them going no matter how hard life becomes. It is important to be positive because no matter what happens in life there is always something to be thankful for. And Allah loves Muslims whom are thankful. Because of their gratefulness to Allah they become even more succesful than before.

One should always be positive, but that doesn`t mean that one should be blind to reality. If something isn`t going to happen, than one needs to make new goals and try better to achieve them instead of running after something that they have lost.

Sometimes one makes wrong choices in life, and these choices decide what is going to happen in our future. It`s never late to change ones way, try your best and making new goals. Because each and every person in this world can be succesful without dragging others down. What one can try is to focus on now, be a good muslim / muslimah, do good deeds and focus on Islam.

I guess if one focuses on Islam with a real intention about becoming a better human being first and then a good Muslim / Muslimah than ones i bound to succeed, some way or the other. Allah makes the way and one just follows. The best guidance we can get is from Prophets Muhammed (pbuh) Sunnah and the Quran. Be a good Muslim / Muslimah and every thing else will follow. Alhamdolillah, May Allah make us amongst the Muslims whom will achieve Jannah and forever bliss in the hereafter. Ameen summa ameen.

I`m not sure about the amount of arranged marriages or love marriages. Though I think it is very important that the two people who are getting married should be given the opportunity to find out if they have the same goals in life. They should not only get married because their parents say that this person is going to be a good match for you but they should also be given the chance to have a talk with that person and find out if they have the same ground values, or same way they want to live their life. For instance if one has the goal as to live beautifully in this world and have a great mansion and lots of money and the other person wants to strive to become a better muslim for a better hereafter and is striving for a better life after death when one will be accountable for our deeds, than I would say that their goals are differing them from each other so they should not even think of getting married. Those who`m have the same goals will together head for the trip of life 🙂 two passengers :hubby and wifey: on the same journey being each others pillar of strength to what they want to achieve and Inshallah they will achieve it. If they only put their mind to it, nothing is impossible 🙂

May Allah give us all guidance so that we can become a better person and not let us neglect the duties our deen has put upon us. Ameen sum ameen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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