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๐Ÿ˜ beautifying your hijab. Attracts attention.

๐Ÿคค shaping eyebrows. Still attracting attention. 

๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’… using make-up to beautify yourself. Attracts attention.

๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‰ not lowering your gaze. 

๐Ÿ•Œ using perfume, when you go outside, easily attract attention. 

๐Ÿ‘ using shoes that makes noise. Attracts  attention.

๐Ÿ‘š using clothing that it is possible to see through. Clothed, yet naked. 

๐Ÿ‘‚๐Ÿ˜‹talking in a way that attracts attention. 

๐Ÿ mixing with others without any limitations. 

๐ŸŽผ ๐ŸŽธ๐ŸŽท listening to music. The lyrics of songs invites to matters Islam forbid. 

๐ŸŽฌ watching movies. Bollywood. Hollywood. Drama. It changes your perspective and misguides you. 

โญ๏ธ following actors/ actresses on social media. Spreading matters about them. 

These matters are general prohibitions in Islam. In general no one follows them.  

๐Ÿค gossiping. Not control of the sins of your tongue.

๐Ÿคž๐Ÿคฅlying about others. 

๐Ÿค ๐Ÿ˜ˆ making enmity between friends / spouses. 

๐Ÿ˜ผ making oaths about false matters. 

๐Ÿคง convey yourself as a victim to gain support against others. 

๐Ÿ˜คโ˜ ๏ธ using magic to get what you want in life. 

๐Ÿ™ƒ spreading false information about others. Questionable sources. 

๐Ÿ˜‡ being un-trust-worthy because of false statements, testimony. 

๐Ÿ•ธ using too much time to make friends of dunya, instead of friends of akhirah (hereafter). 

๐Ÿ supporting wrong / mean people, instead of the oppressed. 

๐Ÿฅ using too much time to beautify outside, instead of inside (values, conduct, character, integrity, niyah, ikhlas). 

๐Ÿ„๐Ÿ– eating non-halal food. Or earning money in non-halal way. 

๐Ÿ•Š๐Ÿ˜ฌ harming people who do good. 

๐Ÿ‘‰ false accusations. Bohtan. 

People who are trying to follow the basics sunnah of Islam, are experiencing so much trouble within the ummah, because we have deviated from the right path. It is difficult to live a life as a practising muslim, when most muslim practice Islam progressively. Ya Allah, don’t let us deviate from the right path, after You have guided us, grant us from yourself mercy, indeed You are the most Merciful, and You are the bestower. Aameen 

dawa is a an art, dealing with heartsWhen inviting others to Islam, it is important that we don’t scare others away. By telling the hard-core truth, at every start. The dai most talk such sentences he/she thinks will touch hearts. By slowly make people think and evaluate their life, where they are heading, and where they can be. Same people are motivated by positive talk/scary talk/inspirational talk, but at different times in their life. If we tell an already depressed person, you’re going to hell (scary talk), he/she will be more scared, probably too depressed to change. Hence he/she needs to be inspired with motivational positive talk.

Give Insight In Their Situation

An arrogant, wicked evil person, might carry on his works if we don’t scare him/her of the punishments. So maybe a tad more talks about how big Allah is (rehman/jabbar). Even the Quran speaks about everything in saying if you do this you will go to hell. The sentence after is positive, but if you do this you’ll go to paradise. Or vice versa. Allah’s speaking like this is of His Wisdom. Maybe to scare people from doing wrong without them loosing hope in Allah’s forgiveness. If they do good, no matter what happens in dunya, they will attain a good hereafter. If they do evil in dunya, no matter the outcome here, there hereafter will be full of punishments.

They Might Persist In Their Wrongdoing

Prophet Muhammad pbuh always changed his dawa style according to the one he was addressing. We are different, and get scared or inspired/motivated differently. Once there was a man at the door of the Prophet pbuh. His wife Aisha raa came to tell him pbuh who it was. He pbuh said, this is an evil person. When he came inside and they talked together he pbuh was nicer than he usually is with other people. After the man went, his wife Aisha raa was curious of why he pbuh was so nice to him, when he was so evil. He pbuh said because if he would be harsher, that person because of his evilness, could harm his pbuh, by telling evil stories to others, and helping them get spread easily. So to protect himself pbuh had to be nicer. We also know by another hadith that we can`t be to harsh with evil people. Or else they will just persist in their wrongdoings. Do you remember the hadith about the man who killed 99 people. He killed the monk that told him he had no chance for forgiveness. In Islam there is always a way back, because of Allah’s vast forgiveness.

Understand The Audience

When a dai says yes to speak in a gathering in different countries, he/she has to find out something about the audience to know what to say or how to say something, or what needs to be thoroughly explained, what are their issues/problems, what are their good qualities. This is psychology. A dai can`t give examples of entrepeneurs in a gathering of doctors. They won`t relate to it. And the vice versa. To touch hearts we have to talk about something that catches their attention and will keep them listening and focused at the same time touch their heart to help them change for the better. It is not easy. But most dais are doing an excellent job. Ma sha Allah. May Allah give them aafia and barakah in their lives and success in their work for Allah. Aameen. For us to give the same dawa to everyone, everyone had to be the same. We know that we are all different. So we have to adjust the sail according to where we want to go.

muslim couple, rights and obligations, quran, love, rose, flower, marriageOften when some husband take good care of their wife, and fulfil their obligations towards her and their children, his friends and family might comment that he has become a robot, where his wife decides everything. I want to highlight a few thoughts about this and why people might say such things.

We all are striving.

Some people are doing a great job when it comes to following sunnah. Not only when their friends and acquaintances are with them, but also at the time when no one is with them accept their loved ones and Allah. Some men are not shy off being good to their wife. Why should they be? Prophet Muhammad pbuh has said, the best of man is the one who is good to his wife, and I am the best to my wives. He pbuh lived what he said. He was not shy off helping around the house and giving un-divided attention to his other half. He gave them importance and supported them. If men want to follow his sunnah, being a good husband is also part of his sunnah. Not only praying on time and giving zakat.

Muslims can not be shy of practicing some part of their deen

No matter what others say. Hazoor pak saw has said he is afraid of a time when the disbeliever will be proud of their disbelief and a true believer will be shy of practicing his belief. I`m sure even those who comment negatively towards other, have their moments of being an awesome husband, though they are afraid of admitting it, because they see it as a quality we should not find in a man. How can they think that following the sunnah is not a quality they should have in themselves. I remember a time when Hazoor Pak pbuh was not to shy to admit in front of all the sahaba`s that the one he pbuh loved the most was Aisha raa. If he pbuh was not afraid of showing his love in front of everyone, than neither should any muslim husband.

Have we ever thought why other people comment negatively?

1.Jealousy/envy. Why are they so happy?
2.Not knowing what being a man is about.
3.Arrogance. That work is below my worth/standard.
4.Hobby: Putting hurdles in lives of succesful people.
5.Wrong understanding of Islam. Our rights and obligations.
6.Bad company.
7.Bad role-models.

We do not boast about following the Sunnah

Or become proud of the fact that we are Sunnis. To what extent we follow the Sunnah, shows the intensity of our love for our Prophet pbuh. So sometimes people might try to hide their good deeds from people to the extent that they would not like anyone to find out. In case they maybe returned because the intention is changing. The Prophet pbuh his family and sahaba, went to a lot of struggles for us. We must find ways to keep our intentions in check, but shying away is not the solution. The society has come to such matters, that we need good role-models that are not shying away from showing the right path, they have found. How can we say that we love him pbuh the most and be afraid to show the world that we want to live like him pbuh and are striving to cultivate his pbuh qualities in us. May Allah make us proud of our heritage in Islam, and help us practice it to as close to his pbuh life as possible. And not being shy of good conduct, even if we have people in our circle who are against it. May Allah guide us to good, till we accept nothing but good. May Allah mould us into what He wants us to become. Let us reach excellence in those qualities Allah and Hazoor pak saw like. And take out of our heart, soul and body, those qualities Allah and Hazoor pak saw dislikes. Aameen.

siblings fight, catIt happens often in asian families that boys are preferred more than girls. Even before the child is born, both the parents are praying that may Allah give me a boy. It doesn`t stop here. I can understand that the upbringing differs between the both genders. Mostly the sons are given a lot more preference than the daughters.

When the rest of the siblings realize that some of the children are given more preference over the others, the sibling rivalry starts. And they try their most to get the most love and attention from their parents and their surroundings. Often they try to put each other in bad light in front of those they like so that others would prefer to be with them, rather than the other.

If the parents would try to treat their children equally, than they might have saved themselves from a lot of hurt. Often we could see that sons are given freedom to do whatever they want and like, and daughters are given strict guidelines of what they are allowed to do. Don`t get me wrong. I don`t disagree with the fact that parents are strict with their daughters. Though I do by all means disagree with the freedom that is given to sons. Often we see that they can go where they want, come home late, without parents knowing who their friends are and what they are doing. So in other words. The parents are destroying their sons akhirah, by not giving them strict guidelines like they do with their daughters.

I hope and pray that parents understand this, before it becomes to late to fix what has gone wrong. Ameen.

hijab1Parda karna mein auraton ki zeenat hain. Hijab is the beauty of muslim woman. The beauty of woman lies in their pious character and not in their outer appearance. Their body will most probably fade and crumble as the years pass by. Though the character of a woman will only increase her in beauty as the years pass by.

Of course people get attracted to those that are beautiful. But that attraction does not last for a long time if the same person is ill-mannered. A look at a beautiful woman might catch your attention for a moment, but a beautiful character that is what catches the heart.

As one grows older one understands that beauty is not as important as character and good manners are. The people with good manners are the ones that are highly respected. People like them regardless of which faith they themselves have.

Talking to girls and woman reading this, I would like to say, if he doesn`t like you for what is in your heart and your personality he would never stay by your side as times go by. That person would only fall for the next woman who looks more beautiful than you. Isn`t it better to marry someone who wants to marry you because of your character and your religion than because of your looks. It is your character your husband has to live with throughout the years.

When that is said, you will understand where I`m heading. When your beauty is not what attracts the right guy, why not hide it for the one and only in your life. The muslim perspective is that we woman create fitnah when we step out of our homes be it at school, work or out shopping. If we aren`t dressed properly we are properly viewed by other men we don`t even know who are. Instead of showing our beauty to every person passing by us, we should try to wear proper hijab so that our beauty is protected from different glances and stares from the opposite gender.

When we maintain the correct hijab, and not the i-am-a-fashion-hijabi than we will be able to minimize attention and be able to achieve blessings from Allah for not creating fitna. It is our responsibility as muslim woman.

When our brothers and our mehrams tell us to wear proper clothes we should respect the kind of gheerah (protective jealousy ) they have for us. They know how the mens thoughts work and they don`t want anything to happen to us.

Remember sister, when you step out of the house, the protection you had around you in you home isn`t there. When we minimize the fitna we could cause, we would be able to please our Creator.

One thing I read on the internet that made me work on completing my hijab is that if we cause fitna for other men, then other woman will cause fitna for the men in our lives, be it brother, husband or son. That line I read woke me up and scared me so much. I don`t want that to happen so I try to focus on completing my hijab, the correct way.

It is also important that we don`t look down on other woman who don`t wear hijab. It took me years to perfect my hijab and it still needs work. Allah guided me but my hijab isn`t perfect. So if some other women you know is not there yet, ask Allah for them to also see the beauty in wearing hijab, and protecting themselves and being the muslimah our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) would be proud of having in his Ummah. In sha Allah, ameen.

Hijab is not only a scarf on our head it is the way we are totally hidden not wrapped. It is also the way we talk, and carry ourselves as we walk, trying to not get too much attention as we are outside our safe zone at home. We need to focus on all these aspects when we try to perfect our hijab.

The Prophet has said that woman will be the of the inhabitant of hell. So it is important that we don`t lose hope in each other and keep on giving islah and dawa so that more woman/girls can prosper and achieve Jannah, In sha Allah, ameen.

No one is perfect. We just need to ask for guidance from above and work on ourselves. That is the only way. May Allah help us in perfecting our hijab and keeping us well hidden like a pearl and keep us steadfast on the deen and keep guiding us to do right give dawah/islah in the best possible way in sha Allah, ameen summa ameen. Remember the whole Ummah in your prayers in sha Allah ameen.

supplicationsThe month of ramadan it is very important that we supplicate a lot to Allah for forgiveness and for asking for what we want. A supplication can change Qadar.

“Nothing drives back Al-Qadaa (a decree) except for supplication, and nothing increases a persons lifespan except for Al-Birr (dutifulness to one`s parents).” (Jami`At-Tirmidhi)

Therefore it is very important that one knows how the supplication will be answered. There are many ways of supplicating. Some people supplicate but their supplications aren`t answered. Here I will list a few points about the manners of supplication, so that in sha Allah you also supplicate like it is meant to be done.

  1. Dutifulness to parents is one way that leads to your prayers being answered. A person that is dutiful to his parents will always be guided to goodness. Allah will put love for him into the hearts of people; and he becomes more likely to have his supplications answered.
  2. It is advised that one does good deeds before a supplication. Those deeds that brings you closer to Allah, such as prayer, zakat, fasting etc. Allah`s love for His slaves means His being pleased with him, His help, His support, and His answering that slave`s supplications. Allah`s anger for a slave, means His wrath upon that slave, and His rejection of that slave`s supplication. Do a good deed in the Eyes of Allah and then supplicate, and in sha Allah your supplications will be answered.
  3. Seek closeness to Allah by voluntary acts of worship in addition to your obligatory worship and your supplications will be answered. Abu Hurayra narrated that the Messenger of Allah said: ” Allah said: ” Whoever shows enmity to a close friend of mine then I declare war upon him. No slave seeks closeness to Me with anything that is more beloved to Me than that which I have made obligatory upon him. And My slave continues to seek closeness to Me through voluntary acts of worship until I love him. And when I love him, I become his hearing that he hears with, his sight that he sees with, his hand that he strikes with, and his leg that he walks with. If he asks Me,I give him; if he seeks refuge with Me, I give him refuge. And I have never hesitated about something I do the way I hesitate to take the soul of a believer; he dislikes death, and I dislike his being distressed (or harmed). (Sahih Bukhari).
  4. It is advised to face the Qibla when supplicating as our Prophet Muhammad used to do. And we have hadiths that points toward it.
  5. It is advised to raise your hands while supplicating.
  6. It is advised to supplicate to Allah in secret. When one supplicate quietly and in secret the concentration and humility is better. You know The King of All Kings is listening.  You feel a sence of closeness to Allah. You supplicate for a longer period than. And for protection from jealousy of others. Allah says : “invoke your Lord in humility and secret. He likes not the aggressors”. (Quran 7:55).
  7. When one supplicate and is attentive your supplications will be answered.  The Prophet (pbuh) has said: ” When you invoke Allah, You should believe with certainty that your supplication will be answered. And know that Allah does not answer a supplication from a heart that is inattentive and heedless.”
  8. It is important to supplicate to Allah persistently and repeatedly. Making the same supplications over and over again. Showing ones humility and complete dependence of your Lord.
  9. Ask with determination. By doing so and being sure in one`s supplication one shows that one trusts Allah, that His Lord is All-Seeing, All-Hearing, and can do all things. Don`t say “if you will, give me that”, be determined. Think well of Allah, be sure that he will answer your supplication.
  10. Don`t be a transgressor in your supplication. Like asking Allah to help you steal or do something haram.
  11. Don`t ask for help for sinning or breaking of ties of kinship. Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: ” A slave will continue to be answered in his supplications as long as he doesn`t invoke for a sin to be carried out or for breaking of ties of kinship and as long as he does not rush”.

Remember that no matter what you have to not stop supplicating to Allah. Allah doesn`t like those whom doesn`t ask of Him. Allah says:

” And your Lord said; “Invoke Me and ask Me for anything, I will respond to your invocation. Verily! Those who scorn My worship, (i.e. doesn`t invoke Me, and do not believe in my Oneness, they will surely enter Hell in humiliation”. (Quran 40:60).

No matter what don`t lose hope in Allah. He does answers prayers but in his own way. Sometimes He gives, other times he withholds, sometimes he saves it for the hereafter, other times he saves you from a bigger calamity, but he does respond to the supplication. Put your trust in Allah and He will in sha Allah take care of the rest.

Exctracts taken out from ” the book of manners” written by Fuad Ibn Abdul Azeez Ash-Shulhoob.

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My Prayer..

โ€œO Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.โ€ Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
otherโ€™s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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