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We know that many muslim families in the west, help their children start wearing hijab from primary school. Many non-muslim disagree about this practice. Even politicians have spoken against it, and want the authorities to ban hijab from school. Hijab is fardh, obligatory, from puberty, in Islam. The years before puberty it is optional for the child if she prefers to wear it. Often parents want the child to start with hijab early, because parents want their child to use hijab from their early teens. If they get used to the idea, it will become an easy choice for them to choose it also for their early adulthood. The problem arises because non-muslims think that children are forced to wear hijab. So they are thinking about banning it so no child is forced to wear it. The parents here are helping children wear covering clothing that increases the dignity and honour of girls. That can prevent them from becoming easy victims of sexual abusers.

Teens Who Hide Their Age

How do they dress in the west? Children are influenced to wear clothing like adults. The media, commercials, socializing with friends, celebrities sites. A whole industry of buying what is “popular” right now. The pressure is immense. Many children wear revealing clothing that adults wear, that while their real age is 10, they look like they are adults. In other words, 15-20 years ago, it was easy to see the real age of children from what clothing they wear and their behaviour. Now that is impossible. The influence of youtube and media, how a child behaves and what she chooses to wear, often robs them from their childhood. The children’s mind and thoughts mature faster than their age. When children, girls, behave and think and wear clothing that is above their age, they will easily attract the opposite gender who are more mature and elder than them. When they go places no-one knows their real age, they can easily fake being 18 etc. We know the issue about under aged children, fake ID and trying to get in contact with elder people, just to experience the thrill of having done something brave, and a good story when they meet their ordinary friends. We have heard real incidents in Norway and in uk about underaged girls having sexual relations with men in their twenties. There is a possibility that these girls have hid their real age. We can`t be assured that it is only the mens fault. It is of great trouble for the community when children look like adults, because of what they wear and how they behave. It is very important for a child to have friends that are on their own age and not above their age. When they first grow up, they can`t be a child again. But if they grow up too early, and we could prevent it, we robbed their childhood from them. That is really sad. If we are to decide that a muslim child can`t cover themselves completely, I think it is also about time we decide that non-muslims are not allowed to wear certain revealing clothing at the primary school. If we Morally evaluate the effect of half-naked children at school, compared to all-covered children at school, the effect of lesser clothing, is worse than the effect of those who choose to cover themselves completely.

How A Rapist Choose His Victim

When we read about those who have raped, some people have done a study of these people. As to why they rape, and who they choose. In these studies, they have come to the conclusion that if the rapist saw two women coming to the area he wants to attack, and one of them are dressed half-naked and the other is wearing covering clothing, he will choose the woman with less clothing. In other words, the rapist won`t choose a woman who is covered. Even though we agree that raping is not allowed. And those who rape are not allowed to rape, even if the whole town doesn`t wear clothing. Even if it is not the victims fault that she is being raped. To protect her from being raped, every caring mother would tried to convince her daughter to not wear these clothing outside the house, where she is in danger of being a victim of abuse. Where she can come across other rapists. We have to help our children make good choices so we can save them from these dangerous people. No-one sends their children to dangers. We love our children more than we love ourselves.

How Can Our Sons Focus Easier And Learn More At School

When there comes to understanding relationships and why and how men or women behave, we all agree that they are different. Different in how they understand love, how they understand respect, different in what qualities are important for them in their relationship. Men are turned on differently then women. Men are visual. The more of beauty that can be seen of a woman the more the man will have difficulties to not look. In the book “What you need to know about inner life of men” by Shaunti Feldhahn, she explains how men think and why. This is how Allah made men. This is the test of men. If women are more aware of their clothing when they step outside their home, and hide their beauty with hijab, many men would have easier days outside their homes. If men lose focus of what they are doing when they see a beautiful woman, I`m positive so does a boy lose focus of what they are doing when they see a beautiful girl at school. As a mother of boys, how well do you think your sons focus is in school, if a girl, a class-mate of his is wearing half-naked clothing every day of summer?

I Worry More About My Daughters

Often people worry about mothers of daughters, because they think that they have a more difficult job raising their children than those mothers of sons. I don`t think the one is easier or more difficult than the other. Both jobs, raising a son or a daughter is challenging. It is important to teach both genders to behave modestly and good. Sons must be taught to respect women regardless of how they behave. Women must be taught to respect themselves and behave with dignity and honour and protect their beauty. If we allow children to go around half-naked at school and ban those people who choose to cover themselves completely, we are shooting ourselves, by making it more troublesome for the children to focus in their learning, and may not be able to protect them from illicit relations / problems were the moral standards are low. If the authorities could balance their decision, it would be more helpful. Do not allow children to wear half-naked clothing of sexual art at school. Those children who choose to cover themselves should be allowed. If we think from what the child says, that she is being forced to wear a hijab, than take action. If we find out that children are wearing hijab with free will, it should be allowed. There should be some sort of balance. Non-muslims do not understand the detrimentalness of socializing between boys and girls who have no sence of modesty, dignity and honour. The police in Norway often update their social media platform, with info about crimes in Norway. Lately they have said that there is an increase of sexual offences. Many experts in the field assume there are much higher number of sexual assaults than what is reported to them. This often comes from filth in the media, nudity, weird programs on internet and tv, internet and socializing with the wrong people and alcohol and drugs. No boundaries is equal to chaos. If we look at the behaviour of places in Norway there is more muslim youth and places where there are less muslim youth, experts say in places with many muslims, the youth smoke less and drink less alcohol. And places where there are less muslim youth, the youth drink more alcohol. It is said that if the parents drink alcohol, it is likely that their children will adopt the drinking habits of their parents. If we look at the education of muslims and foreigners, they are on top when it comes to taking higher education. Especially the girls. The boys are behind. Maybe the reason why boys are behind when it comes to higher studies is the fitnah, tribulations they experience. So we see that the muslim community has also increased the communities with goodness. It is not all negative. But negative information gets more coverage in media. They blow up information. People who don`t know or check the real facts, start believing the mis-information of many journalists. Ya Allah, please help us to protect every ummati from negative influence and grant every ummati all good righteous company everyday, all day. Help us to protect our communities for our families and for the families that will live here in the future. Aamen

moralens voktere, vekt, etikk, ethics, right, wrongHomofili er satt på dagsordenen. Noen muslimer er imot, andre er mer åpne for at enhver må ha rett til å praktisere det de selv ønsker. Mange ikke-muslimer stiller seg uforstående til hvorfor koranen sier at homofili skal straffes med dødsstraff. Uten at jeg selv vil gå ut og drepe en som praktiserer homofili, forstår jeg noe av Allah`s hikmah (wisdom) bak dette. Jeg skal prøve å forklare det her.

Både kristne og muslimer har forbud mot homofili i sin religion.

For at menneskeligheten skal få reprodusere seg, trenger man en mann og en kvinne. To personer av samme kjønn kan ikke skape et barn. En gang for flere år siden møtte jeg en mor med sin datter i en butikk. Når jeg så de i kø ved kassen, så jeg at datteren hadde tydelige kutt-merker på begge armene. Det virket ikke som at hun ønsket å skjule det heller, siden hun hadde ganske korte armer på t-shorten sin. Det finnes mennesker som blir veldig dypt deprimert. For noen blir det et større problem, da de starter med selvskading. Denne personen var en av de. Hun hadde kuttet seg flere ganger på begge armene. Tydelig tegn på røde arr. Ofte når man ser et menneske, er det ikke så lett å se om de har noen form for sykdom. Alle sykdomstilfeller planter seg ikke i det fysiske. Når et menneske er så deprimert at det blir psykisk syk, og begynner med selvskading, trår myndighetene inn og tar dette mennesket inn i en lukket avdeling på et sykehus, og prøver å kurere deg fra det som vi kaller en sykdom. Han/hun ønsker å skade seg selv, vi har bevis. Når to mennesker av samme kjønn ønsker å gå inn i et samliv, så ønsker de også å skade seg selv. Ved å gå inn i et samliv av samme kjønn, vil et menneske skade sin sjel, sitt hjerte og sin kropp. Dette er tegn på selvskading av spirtuell karakter. Islam går så langt at de ikke bare tenker på vår fysiske og psykiske helse, men Islam tenker også på vår spirituelle helse. Tross denne kroppen vi lever i, vil kanskje leve i 90 år, men vår sjel vil leve evig. Derfor er Islam opptatt av hvor vår sjel skal leve sitt evige liv.

Vi vet at sykdommer er smittsomme

Sykehus er her for å helbrede folk fra sine sykdommer og lignende. På samme måte, kan man si at vaner og kvaliteter også smitter over på andre mennesker, de man omgås mest. På både godt og vondt. Islam er klar over mennesker blir påvirket av andres vaner og kvaliteter. Det er derfor det ofte presiseres at vi må omgås mennesker som har gode mennesker, slik at vi slipper å internalisere en dårlig vane / norm / kvalitet. Dersom et narkotisk middel blir legalisert, vil det øke bruken av det middelet. Dersom en dårlig, vane / kvalitet blir legalisert, vil det øke blant mennesker i det samfunnet. Dersom en immoralsk handlig blir legalisert, vil det øke i det samfunnet. Islam ønsker ikke at et menneske skal bli sykt. Islam ønsker at en sykdom ikke skal spre seg i samfunnet. Dersom en person har en sykdom som det er smittefarlig, vil han inn på et lukket rom, hvor legene gir han anti-middel mot sykdommen. Han/hun får ikke gå ut av rommet før den sykdommen er kurert. De legene, sykepleierne som besøker han må ha på seg spesiel type tøy slik at de ikke blir smittet. Når den syke person har fulført sin kur, og kurert kan han/hun få gå ut av det lukkede rommet.

Følelser er veldig skiftende

Den ene dagen er vi forelsket i en person, to uker senere er vi ikke forelsket i samme person. 1 år etterpå er vi forselsket i en annen person. Bare siden vi er føler at vi vil være i hjemmet til en vi liker, er det ikke slik at det er greit, bare fordi vi føler det. Den andre personer ønsker kanskje ikke å ha oss på besøk i det hele tatt. Kanskje han/hun misliker oss, og vil ikke ha noe med oss å gjøre. Vi kan ikke gjøre som vi føler bare fordi at da får vi viljen vår. Dersom det ikke hadde vært noen regler, og alle kunne gjøre som de øsnket, hadde det vært tydelig kaos overalt. Reglene som blir lagd i et samfunn, blir lagd for å beskytte menneskene i samfunnet. Totalt anarki, der alle gjør det de vil, vil folk drepe hvem de vil pga sykelig sjalusi, eller uvennskap, uten å måtte stå til ansvar ovefor en domstol. Nesten som en borgerkrig hvor alle er mot alle. Vi kan ikke si “har du lyst har du lov”. Tenk om jeg har lyst til å drepe et annet menneske? Er det greit siden jeg har lyst til det? Tenk om jeg ønsker å ta over en slektnings eiendom bare fordi jeg har lyst på mer eiendom. Er det greit, siden jeg har lyst til det? Noen ganger så blir jeg sint på en venn, er det greit at jeg gir han/hun en ørefik bare fordi jeg har lyst til det? Selvfølgelig kan man ha lyst til mye, men vi utfører det ikke, siden det ikke er en akseptert norm. Det er ikke love å drepe andre mennesker, ta over andres eiendom, eller gi ørefik til andre. 

Foreldrene bestemmer

Når foreldrene våre har klare begrensninger på når vi må ut og inn, legge oss, tv tid, internett tid, og hvem vi omgås, hva vi gjør og lignende, kan vi til tider være uenig med de reglene de har satt. “Mamma er så streng”, kan en tenåringsjente si, når hun må komme hjem tidlig. Selv om tenåringene mener at foreldrene er superstrenge til tider, så er de fleste klar over at deres foreldre er glad i dem. Vi kan sammenligne dette med vår skaper Allah (Gud). Allah elsker oss mer enn 70 mødre tilsammen. Bare for å sammenligne. Uansett hvor sint en mor er på sin datter, vil hun aldri be henne gjøre noe som er dårlig for henne. De kan være uenige om reglene men vi alle vet at en mor elsker sitt barn mer enn noe. På samme måte, så er det med vår skaper, Han elsker oss mer enn 70 mødre tilsammen. Når han har lagd regler for oss, er det av pure kjærlighet for oss. En bil kan ikke reparere en annen bil. Bare ingeniøren som designet bilen og han som lagde den, kan reparere bilen. Skaperen av mennesket er Allah (Gud). Siden Han har skapt oss, vet han best hvordan maskineriet vårt fungerer best. Hva det må unngå for å oppnå mye bra og hvilket miljø vi vokser best i. Når han lager regler for oss og ønsker å stoppe oss fra immoralske handlinger, er det av pure kjærlighet. Han ønsker ikke at vi skal destruere vår sjel og vårt hjerte. Derfor for å hjelpe oss å finne veien tilbake til Han, har Han sendt oss koranen. Det er en handling av ren barmhjertighet overfor oss. Så sender han oss denne veiledningshefte (brukerguide – koranen) via en som har perfektuert alt som står i den. Han viser oss via Profeten Muhammads (fred være med han) liv at det er mulig at et menneske kan følge denne veiledningen.

Regler og retningslinjer hindrer kaos

Ikke bare for kroppen og psyken, men også for sjelen. Ellers kan det henne at den blir korrupt. Dersom det skjer vil vi ikke ende på et fint sted etter døden for evigheten. Siden Allah har skapt oss, vet han best hva som er bra for oss og hva vi trenger, samt hva som kan være årsaken til at vi blir korrupte. Måtte Allah gjøre det enkelt for oss å forstå dette budskapet. Aameen.

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

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(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

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Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

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Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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