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the worst loneliness is being without allahI was so far away from Allah. I had people around me. Friends, family, job, life. But being far away from Allah, it felt like dead. Like something is dead inside of me. I was afraid of my own shadow. My own hand. No one helped me to find Allah. Not as much as I needed Allah. I had to struggle to find Him. To come close to Him. To treasure Him. To struggle to achieve His Love.

Like The Air I Breathe

Now that I see other people who are far away from His Path. I feel so bad. I want to hug them to tell them. No matter what rizk you have in life, you will never be satisfied if you are far away from Allah. I know how hard it is to struggle, to find Him. I want to give out a hand for those who have no one to help them to find Him. Because I know how it feels like to not have Him. It hurts, it pains. I don`t know what to say than this: Find your way back to Him. No happiness is any happiness without Him. No kind of rizk, blessing will ever be a blessing without Him. All beings need Allah more than we need this air we are breathing. When we are not aware of this need, and not struggling to get near Him. Than we are truly lost. Whatever good or bad will happen in our life, we will be lost.

Worth Less Than Zero

If we have Allah, whatever good or bad happens in our life, we will succeed. The biggest treasure is not this dunya or anything in it. The biggest treasure is to love Allah, and struggle to live true to His cause, the way He wants us to live. That is how, in the moment you might lose everything, if you have Allah, and You love him, He can give you contentment in your heart, also at that moment. But if you win the dunya, and lose your faith in Him, no matter how big gain you think you have, all of it is worth, less than zero. Having faith, imaan, is everything. Without faith, imaan in Allah, we will be in loss forever. May Allah help us to preserve it and help other souls find their way back to him. If they only understood, how important this matter is for them. They would have taken out time for it. May Allah helps us find our way back to Him. Aameen.

jannah, paradise, hold hand, finally we are here, spouse, marriage, coupleMarriage is a serious bond between a husband and a wife, and one should be ready for it before we commit ourselves to it. Often we see that people who come to a certain age want to get married. Most often they haven`t thought well enough about the reasons behind their decision. Marriage is not only a way of having halal intimacy. Marriage is about a companionship where the spouses support each other through tough and good times, where their aim is to achieve Jannah and spend their eternity there together. It is a means for having righteous offspring that will work for the betterment of their society in both religious and social matters. Children that one day will become good contributors to their environment, and send good deeds to their parents way after they have left the world to the next and be those that Rasollallah pbuh will say that they will go to Jannah.

 

Compete in matters for a better Hereafter

It is important that men whom want to commit themselves understand the fact that they are the ones whom has the overall financial responsibility. Even if their wife has an income, she is not obliged to spend any of it on the family. And being ready for children. Their upbringing is just as much the father’s responsibility as the mother. We need to understand that some people whom aren`t even ready for kids get a bunch of them, and some people whom are eager to get children, might not get as much or maybe not even one. Rizk is not in our hands. Rizk is in Allah`s hands. He is trying us through it. Some people are tested through difficulties, others are tested through ease. There shouldn`t be any competition between couples that others have four kids so we need to beat them to it and have one more. The society has become such a difficult place to be. We are competing in things that doesn`t matter rather than the few points that matter the most. Lets compete in doing good deeds, lets compete in having righteous children rather than many, lets compete in learning more of the deen, not to show off, but to make others also want to become muslims or better people than they were before, let’s try to be better people than we were yesterday, or the minute before now. Improvement not to make us feel superior but to achieve Jannah and help others on the way.

 

Things money can`t buy

After marriage the most important thing wife would want is your time. That means that you cannot whenever you prefer it, go out with your friends. You need to give your wife your time. It is not enough to just be the provider. Both the wife and the husband feels loved in different ways with different love language. You will have to learn that from the start. You can read more of that here : 5 Love Languages In Marriage.  We can`t either expect that the spouses will be in-love all the time. They will have disagreements and quarrels. How they handle them will determine what the future of their marriage is. That is why it is important to know how your apology will be accepted by your spouse. You can read that here : Do you know the art of apologizing?

 

Be there in good and bad times

The family and the parents of the fiancée must be certain that the couple is ready for marriage. It is not like a sale, where you have money-back guarantees within three months. When we first do commit, we should do it with the intention that we are going to Jannah together. Trust is essential. If one of the spouses always has the backdoor open and threatens with leaving whenever they face any difficulty than that person wasn`t ready for the bond. When one commits one does that in hope for being there for each other in good and bad times supporting and inspiring and motivating each other to become better people for forever. Anything less than that should not be accepted. If your goal is Jannah you will choose a righteous spouse. When we first do commit, we should give it a 100%.

 

Make marriages affordable

Expensive marriages should not be encouraged. Like in all other matters of life, there is also competition in having the most expensive marriage. If fla fla person has a marriage in a ship another has to have a degree more expensive so they choose an airplane. The more expensive the marriage the more it has to be delayed, wich will cause more fear of fitnah. Keep it simple and affordable. Less tension and less troubles and more joy. Let the couple rather save some of their money on their life after marriage than becoming bankrupt after marriage. The simpler the marriage is the more barakah/blessings the couple will derive from it. In the Prophet pbuh`s time there were a few sahabis whom didn`t have any money to give the mehr. Once Rasollallah pbuh said to one such person that he can use his knowledge as mehr. So even that didn`t make Rasollallah pbuh stop him from getting married. Rizk is in Allah`s hand. One day we have a lot, other times we have little. There is no guarantee that a rich person doesn`t become poor in one day or a poor person becomes rich in one day. Allah decides. Since we will be tested in both ease and difficulty, we need to overlook this and give more attention to righteousness of the spouse. If the spouse fears Allah, he/she will treat you right no matter what, because he/she knows that he/she will be answerable to Allah for it on Judgement Day. May Allah increase the barakah in every marriage and make every marriage easy for the people concerned, grant them contentment and re-unite every couple in Jannah/Paradise. Ameen summa ameen.

marriageA double standard of the muslim community I wanted to talk about in this post is about marriage. This is something each and every will go through in their life, and there are several things about this topic that makes one think whether our conduct in this regards is correct or not.

Since parents are born in another time then their children, they often have another thought about their ideal for their children’s marriage. Here it is very important that before getting into the process of finding a suitable match, they talk together and agree about what the child wants. The reason is that it is not the parent that is getting married. It is the child. That persons preferences is the most important. Often parents choose spouses for their children without even asking them properly, which later result in breakage of the bond. Things like manners and their practice of Islam should be weighed heavier than looks, income etc.

What is very common in the muslim community is that the parents think that if they marry their daughter to a rich person, she would be happy for the rest of her life. That is not correct. As your daughter is not married to the money her husband owns, but to him. Rizk is in the hands of Allah. He will test us in loss of wealth, hunger etc. A rich person today can lose his job tomorrow just like a person without a great income can get a great job-offer the very next month after marriage. It is not in our hands, it is merely in the hands of Allah.

Often parents don`t want their children to marry earlier than finishing their degrees at the university or getting a decent job. After all how will they be able to have enough money to be able to support another spouse. And what about their future? So the child want to get marry, and is asking for the parents consent, and they are turning him down. As they are opening his eyes to the world of darkness, because when a person gets into an age of adolescent, their desires can come in their way. And they can be misguided by the free environment we have in the West and now also back in our country. These thing often result in the guy and the girl, having relations before their parents let them marry someone. To parents: are they mature old enough for these relations but not for marriage? Have you given them proper islamic education as to how they will keep themselves away from haram stuff.

When parents approve a spouse after a long process they have to plan a big and fancy wedding. So that could take years to plan and thousands to earn. Meanwhile , the now engaged couple, are having a very openly environment where they meet, and everyone is ok with that. The parents are actually opening the gate of Jahannum to them. First of all, the sunnah of marriage is simpleness. As simple as it could be. Our Prophet has married sahabis with one single date, fruit. Here we are talking about lakhs and lakhs and fancy dressing, three coarse meal and of course a pre- and after partying, mix gender wise. No wonder the baraakah of marriage are long gone before the couple gets married and result in breakage, when they use more time in planning the marriage then in the marriage itself.

Another double standard of the muslim community is the age of the wife to be. She has to be young, and a virgin. Yes, I know that our Prophet pbuh did say to the sahaba`s that they should marry young, fertile virgins, because he wants a large amount of people in his Ummah on the judgement day. But have we forgotten that he married only one virgin, and she was not able to get any child? He married a lot of women that had been previously married, with kids for example his pbuh`s first wife, khadijah. So most of the men are hurrying trying to find a suitable young, virgin girl, while the widows and single parents are having difficulties getting married because the society doesn`t want them anywhere. A few people even say that they can`t marry after becoming a widow, but the sunnah tells otherwise. We also have a high divorce-rate in the society, which means there are an increasing number of these women. How can we change the thought of young men to choose a spouse that can make them become as close as their to fingers in Jannah with the Prophet pbuh, by marrying a widow, or divorced with children. By that they will become father of orphans and making sure that they will get supported. All the choice these women have is between earning money and raising their children. The society is not making their life easy at all.

Yet we have another issue about marriages. Often we see people are very selfish in not helping people to get married. They want themselves to be first and get the best one. Whether other women of the Ummah will get a spouse is not their tension. Often people know about some that are single and looking for a spouse, but they will not help them, to tie the knot, just because it is not their responsibility. Often if two people like each other and wants to get married, people will put hurdles in their way, often out of jealousy, because they are a great match. The third point is the converts. Who will help them in getting married. They often don`t know enough people and don`t have references of being a muslim as long as someone born muslim, that might be more progressive than them, after they accepted the rules of Islam, when they converted.

Yet a very important and less discussed aspect about marriage is maturity. Often the people whom are getting into this new relation don`t know the ABC of marriage. What it means to be a husband / wife in Islam. What is the wifes /husbands rights and their duties towards each other. Purity. Children. etc. If they are not familiar with this, the marriage could end disastrous. Often we see that a few guys get married because their parents insist in it, and because they didn`t have the son`s consent he does not treat his wife in a good manner. Consent of those whom are getting married and their maturity should be valued. If a person is bad before marriage, simply marrying a girl from abroad will not make him better. If you as a parent can`t change him, how can you expect a girl whom hardly know him, to change him. Marriage is a lot of responsibility and one should be ready to carry it`s weight.

Both the parents and the children need to talk together and look for each others consent. If people don`t help the women in the community to get married and making their life easier, they are far away of the sunnah of our Prophet pbuh. It is important that we as an Ummah try to make people`s life more easy and not difficult. We have a responsibility to make the best of what we can do. If every family spend less on their marriage and give away sadqah to those who can`t afford one, the barakah of their marriage will be increased. May Allah help us help others. ❤ ❤ Ameen summa ameen.

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Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

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USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

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(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

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Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

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Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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