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There is a reason why Allah had to state explicitly whom we can interact with and whom it is not allowed for us to interact with, whom we are allowed to marry and whom we can’t marry, when and whom we need to have a hijab in front, and whom we do not need this. 

In the time before quran (islam) those souls transgressed into sin and ruined their lives. So Allah had to make it clear for them, how they could save their souls. Ya Allah, protect us from going back to the practice of the time of jahiliyah. Aamen. Ya Allah, help every ummati out of their ignorance into the guidance of Islam. Aamen 

every child is gifted, a success story, build people, family, parentingPeople doesn`t always understand when we talk about different emotions and how different approaches can have an impact on others. Unless we help them understand it with money. 😛 Yes we want someone to do something or not do something, simply add or delete the cash. If we think about ourselves as having a bank of emotions in our soul/heart. A positive word, will put a deposit in the account. A negative word or action might take a withdrawal from it. If we keep the positive deposit more than the negative we will be feeling good. If the negative account is more than the positive we will be feeling sad or some negative emotion.


People Can Be Good And People Can Be Bad

We all have something good and bad in us.  If we always pinpoint why our children aren`t cleaning their room or anything negative they are doing, every time we talk, they will be filled with negative energy. They might not want to spend time with us. If we instead, fill them with positive feedback that is precise and  positive, not being vague in speech, we will soon, fill them with so much positive energy that, if and when we sometimes give them some negative feedback, it won`t be the end of the world for them. Because a lot of positive deposit doesn`t mind if a withdrawal comes once in a while. If we already have a negative account, and withdrawal would be devastating.


every kid childDon`t Use Fear 

People have different incentives to help their loved ones achieve new heights. Some motivate others with love, others with fear. And what would work depends on the situation and the person. Expressing love has the power that will give a positive deposit in the loved ones bank-balance. If we genuinely care for others, we will rather inspire others in this way. A person whom gives and gives will certainly be given back. If we on the contrary would try to make people change because of fear. That might work for the moment. Some day that fear can be given back in a negative way by a withdrawal from your account. It can`t lead to good, if you always use fear as a method for people to behave a certain way. I pray that our family`s are of those who build us and not those who tear us down. That will make us easily manage the ups and downs in life. If the family always has a “told-you-so” waiting whenever we fail in something, it teaches us to not have confidence and trust our own judgement. Later when we, have to make our own decisions these qualities makes a big difference in our life. We need to nurture self-confidence, self-esteem, trusting own judgement, independence, self-respect, self-worth. We are more with our family`s than anyone else. They have a real great opportunity to help us grow as muslim and humans. Only selfish reasons would make us want to prevent each other from achieving success. Always hesitate to make a withdrawal without knowing if there is enough balance to withdraw from.


When Given A Good Portion Of Love

Each and every would be able to move mountains and become the person they are meant to be. We work best when we our stomachs/souls are full. When we help others feel good, we become better people. We feel good also because of being giving. Don`t be miserly in choosing a positive approach, and see how it changes every situation to something beautiful, and be ready because it will come back to you. Making others feel good about themselves is an art and on-going- charity that will have positive side-effects. Help each other to practice it. Jazak Allah kheyr.

I believe respect is about treating the other person nicely without having any reason behind you being nice to them 🙂 You don`t want anything in return. Sometimes one do meet people in your surroundings that do have hidden agendas. I have a difficult time trusting these kinds of people. Trust and respect goes hand in hand. When I can`t trust them, or let me put like this; I know they are not sincere. To treat these kinds of people with respect is so difficult. That`s because “pal me masa pal me tåla”. You don`t know what their real intentions are. Or if they really mean what they say. I try my best to avoid these kinds of people. But when they are in your surroundings, it`s damm hard to avoid them, isn`t it? Even more difficult if they are in your family.

So what I do is I take everything they say with several pinches of salt 🙂 When any of these people talk to me i answer as briefly as possible. I don`t want to have any conversation with them at all. Though “respect ke daire” me reh kar jawab milein gha. My point is 🙂 I don`t want to be their friend 🙂

Your appearance talks for itself when you are seen at work, at home or at a gathering. Lately I have been experiencing this a lot, because I`ve started to wear a jubbah at work, which is a long dress that goes to your feet and long sleeves. You can only see my face and hands as everything else is covered. What I`ve noticed when I started to use the jubbah is that a lot of people treat me differently, from when they`ve seen me in a jubbah. I`ve experienced being laughed at, being looked down to, not being noticed, not letting me into conversations. Actually it has felt like people are walking around with so many prejudice in their mind, which they don`t even know about. People have even tried belittling me.

On the other hand there have been a few people who do wear jubbah themselves, that have really appreciated it. If I talk about myself, it feels great to wear a jubbah, and InshaAllah I am going to keep on wearing it:) It does give a sence of security and doesn`t feel that anyone is staring at you for the wrong reasons. I feel great being wrapped and not let anyone else see me. The funny thing is that I feel so much more free in a jubbah than without a jubbah. Is that strange? Maybe for some people, though for me it feels great:)

I must share to incidents that have happened:

  1. This is from one of the times I had started using a hijab. I was working at my office. I have three desks there so our other employes can work there as well on certain days. One of the time I was working there and one of our senior employees too at one of the other desks, a person comes in and wants some help. And instead of talking to me, who was closer than he ( he was actually sitting with his back against the door, while I was sitting with my face against the door) that person whom came to the office for some reason started explaining his issues to him instead of me.
  2. Today while I was giving training to a new employe, by the way wearing a hijab and a jubbah, a person comes into the office for help, and he addresses himself to her. So she listened when I actually found out what the issue was and helped him with it. It looks like I surprised him talking fluently Norwegian.

These to incidents and many more have made me thinking that people may actually walk around and think that Muslimahs don`t work in Norway, or maybe they do but don`t cover themselves up like I do. I wonder what would happen if some of our female bosses started wearing a hijab and a jubbah at work, would people look down on them? Just because of their outfit? And if they would, shouldn`t they actually rather be looking at her qualifications instead of her appearance?

And by the way in case your wondering ” the beauty does lie in the eyes of the beholder”.

I know that the one person I`m the most strict with is myself. I put my standards very high and if something happens I get very disappointed in myself. Although I`m not known as the strictest person at home and certainly not from my nieces but I know in myself that being like this must be some of the reasons why I sometimes can be very strict towards some of my loved ones. Sometimes maybe my expectations are too high or their actions beyond my understanding which leads to me feeling very let down.

Wow, wouldn’t it be nice if one managed to not expect anything from anyone? If someone than did something nice you would appreciate it and if they did something less nice you would just brush it off your shoulders and move on.

Wow, wouldn`t that be nice? 🙂

Someone should write a book about this subject. To live and let live. I mean you have probably sometime in your lifetime come across people who get very jealous of you when you succeed in something. The so-called leg-pullers. They would probably do anything to avoid you become more successful than them. It`s a tough world out there cause you can find these people everywhere. So sometimes to protect oneself and your loved ones, one has to withhold some information. Because if they catch the whole info they as the leg-pullers they are would do anything to not let you succeed. You know like if someone buy`s a new car the next day someone might have put some scratches on it just because their jealous of your success. It`s very important to not have these kinds of people as your friend, but more importantly don`t ever do anything that would make them your enemies either. Cause they really know how to make others`life miserable. Meaning sab ke saath bana kar rakhein. I know it`s tough, but that`s the only way out. And next time when you meet a leg-puller and he/she asks you where you’re heading tell the opposite direction of where your going 🙂 Just in case 😉

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!



(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)


(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
Ameen summa ameen

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