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Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ manners are perfect. He has perfected how and what good manners are. We cherish him ‎ﷺ because of his ‎ﷺ way of interaction with each and every. His ‎ﷺ seerah is our guideline in how we can reach his ‎ﷺ awsome character, truthfulness, sincerity, genuine care, cheerfulness, problemsolver, comforter, supplications, obedience to Allah, Purity, Asr, strength, inclusiveness, dislikes of sins, heartmelting speech and conduc, good treatment of others regardless of what they own, gratitude to Allah, concern and mercifulness for all humanity. 

The Upper Class With Good Manners 

People nowadays, often find excuses of why people are difficult, because of their lack of manners. Just teach him/her manners. That is more important than knowledge. I dont agree with this. First of all, knowledge is useless without behaviour in accordance with what we have learned. It’s not enough to “know” that the best of men are those who are good to their wife. It must also be seen in their conduct. Second point is that many people know, how to eat, sit, what to say, not say, the prohibitions of guarding tongue and private parts. The upper class knows how to behave, but they lack the good islamic values in their life. They know what to wear, how to decorate their home, how to befriend anyone. Still they lack the basic teachings of Islam. The problem isn’t that they do not say salam to people, the problem is that when that person has passed, most people are not able to guard their tongue from sins of the tongue, eyes or private parts. This has become so ordinary, that people doesn’t see any problem with it. 

He ‎ﷺ seeked advice from his ‎ﷺ wife

It’s not enough to say that you love Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ because of how he helped everyone, and supported everyone all the time, when you are too ashamed to help your wife in front of your friends, because your friends makes fun of the sunnah of helping your wife. His wife decides everything. Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ has wives who have helped him with what he should do, when the sahaba raa were not obeying his command. His ‎ﷺ wife said, don’t tell them to cut their hair and make sacrifice. Do it and they will follow your conduct. And what she raa said, happened. 

95 % Of Muslims Are Not Doing It

How can we talk about manners without talking about Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ seerah. His ‎ﷺ most perfect treatment of others. How are we today? Do we lower our gaze? Do we read 5 salah everyday? Do we speak truthfully? Do we slander? Do we make fun of others? Are we practising humility? If only 5 % of muslims pray salah, and the salah, protect us from doing sins, it means 95% of muslims are surely sinning, not only by not praying, but because they aren’t praying, they are not able to stop themselves from those sins prayers protect them from committing. 

A New Time Of Ignorance? 

I know that the problem of the ummah, is that there has come a new time of jahiliyah (ignorance). There is no event we can attend where there isn’t people who are sinning with their tongues, with their eyes and with their private parts? The protection a practising muslim sees, is by simply decline. I don’t want to be a part of any event, where my islamic values are disrespected. 

Can You Hear Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ weeping? 

I’m sure Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ knows what we are going through. Can you imagine his ‎ﷺ feelings? He ‎ﷺ weeping. He ‎ﷺ weeping. He ‎ﷺ sobbing. What will happen to my ummah, when the ummati are just as afraid from another ummati, as they are from a non-muslim? 

Ummah is dealing with low integrity, bad manners, bad niyah, wrong ikhlas, no ibaadah, no haya, openly sinning, leaving islam.

While the leaders are fighting about details of the 4 madhabs, that we disagree with each other about. 

The ummah, isn’t even following one matter of what the four madhabs agree about. And the leaders are afraid people are going astray. How will we be able to help the ummati from fighting another ummati, when the ummah’s leaders are fighting.

If our niyah is clean, and we want to help people to the righteous way, we have to find something that unites us. One person can’t do it alone. Those on the wrong path, will of course resist, coming on the straight path. Ya Allah guide and help the shephards to help and guide their flock, while also prevent their flock from wronging others. Aameen 

In Islam, family is important. We know for a fact, if we manage to make healthy homes, we will raise healthy people, who doesn’t lack anything. They become healthy contributors to the community. A house with much fighting, where basic rules of Islam are not followed, and prohibitions not respected, lose the baraqah in their home and lives. 

Great Asr In Speech

The same similtude, can be drawn towards the dawah / islah of many muslim leaders. If they discuss about each other on forums, youtube etc, speaking bad, because of their differences of practising the same madhab as them, they are making a great mistake. Often where people fight often, their baraqah is taken away. If muslim leaders often engage in such talks, to talk against other, so themselves don’t lose followers. It will derive them of the baraqah in their work. The leaders are supposed to have great asr in their speech, that is supported by qualitative deeds of wisdom. When they say anything, it should, and will have an effect on the listeners. 

Don’t Go Pro, Before You Master The Basics

Less than 20 % of the ummah, is following the basic guidelines of Islam, rules and prohibitions. For the leaders to talk about sweetness of iman, khusho, ihsan, with people who don’t even pray everyday, is ineffectively. They need to talk on the level their followers are on. If most people have, difficulties to follow basic rules, we can’t think that “following pro rules, like the khazane of more” will motivate them. It’s like teaching children on a university level. It just won’t be understood.

Striving With Basics

The ummah, that have trouble with the sin of the tongue, heart and private parts,  won’t be motivated by always talking about paradise, and it’s joys. Leaders need to make surveys to find, what people are striving with. When people will understand why it is important to protect tongue, heart, private parts from sinning, only than they will be able to protect themselves. 

When Does Students Learn Best?

I have seen many mosques, where many sins of tongues and hearts can be seen, even in those who attend regularly, and are seen as pious because of some deeds. If we want our muslims to get to higher obedience of islam (university level in private) lets make sure, we must make sure they are following the rules and prohibitions in public and private, that were taught to them in kindergarden, high school, college, before they  can reach the university level of Islam. Because the test in mosque, doesn’t tell us if they are practising what they learned at home or with their friends. Before every teacher starts a course, he / she spends the first days, to understand the level of the attendees. This is because, the students will only learn best, when teachers teach from the level the student has. If it’s too easy or too difficult, this will have a negative effect on the progress of the student. And first and foremost, instill the godfear in people, Allah sees us. When we are talking with our friends, family and others. Allah is recording us. Without the right amount of godfear, no muslim teacher, will ever have a good student. No matter how many A’ he get on every test. Since the teacher can’t go home with his student, the result of test is only seen by Allah, when he is private. That is priority 1. Ya Allah, make it easy for muslim leaders to make surveys of their followers taqwa, so they can help them raise their obedience to Allah, and protect themselves from the fire. And instill a sufficient amount of godfear in us, so we protect ourselves from hidden sins too.  Aameen. 

coal hand islamMost people talk bad about women that wear hijab. Without lifting an eyebrow about women in their life, who not only doesn`t wear hijab, but also pluck eyebrows and wear perfume. These women, girls are not looked by men with good intentions.

Most people talk bad about women that avoid mix gatherings or places where there is played music. Without lifting an eyebrow about the people who think that music uplifts them. Most of who seek places where they easily can interact with the other gender. This is most people idea of having fun.

Most people backbite women who avoid certain arrangements and tv-channels even if they are for women only. While they don`t mind that many of the places, even at islamic programs, there is a lot of noise and most people are backbiting and many muslims are making fun of others.

Most people talk bad about people who care about what they eat, every ingredients so that they don`t eat anything that is not allowed. They can use a lot of time finding the right restaurant or checking the ingredients in all foods. Or questioning the employee about this. While they care little of those who eat all kinds of meat, and all kinds of food, and never dare to question for a second time if the food actually is halal. Disregarding, caring little for that the food they eat has an impact on their behaviour.

Most people think those who are always speaking the truth, are foolish, because it gets them into trouble. While they don`t care for the fact that the angels doesn`t like to company people who lies.

Most people make fun of many sunnah`s of the Prophet Muhammad pbuh. The sad part is that most of them doesn`t know that making fun of any parts of Islam, can take you/ and your children, further away from it. How can your claim of loving the prophet pbuh be true, while you make fun of his simple life-style.

Most people doesn`t like paying much money, when it comes to learning the deen, attending online courses or buying books. While they can utilize many thousands in buying a new car/ house/ vacation just to impress their friends.

Most people doesn`t get impressed by conduct/ knowledge/ hikmah/ in deen or people who takes practicing Islam seriously. They get impressed by bank-balance, expensive cars, big houses, mobile phones and clothing from expensive brands. Non of which will help them attain jannah.

Instead of looking with disgust at people who are trying to be more practicing, we should actually give these people a break. Today many people say that people force other muslims to practice Islam. Where? As I see it, the community, so-called muslims by name, are making it difficult for practicing muslims, to practice Islam, as it came. Instead of pointing fingers at people you don`t know. Try to understand certain people by what they are avoiding. Maybe we can understand them more after that.

Hvis det ikke er lov med klaps på rompa, klyping i øret og det å ta et barn hardt i armen, hvilke sanksjoner kan foreldre iverksette for å oppdra bra barn? Vi ser jo at dagens barn ofte er ganske bortskjemte og uoppdragne. 
Spørsmålet er om de sanksjoner barnevernet mener vi bør bruke, faktisk virker? Det finnes jo et stort spekter innenfor barnets personlighet. Alle barn kan ikke oppdras på lik måte. Noen barn er vanskeligere enn andre barn. Vil for “snille” sanskjoner gi noe effekt i oppdragelsen? 

Mange synes at barnevernets regler ift oppdragelse er for strenge og urimelige og noe av årsaken til at barna blir “ute av kontroll”. 

Det er stor forskjell mellom å slå et barn sanseløst til det blør/får blåveis e.l og en ørefik eller klyp i armen for at de skal oppføre seg i en gitt situasjon. Hvordan er barna i norge idag? Tar myndighetene for stor kontroll over oppdragelsen? Tåler staten for lite? Er det forskjell på hvordan barna blir ift de som aldri har blitt slått og de som får et klyp/ørefik i ny og ne. 

Jeg tror at av de som i barndommen har opplevd et klyp/ørefik/holde armen hardt e.l idag som voksne, føler at de har hatt godt av det. Ift de som ikke har fått slike sanskjoner. Jeg tror de er kommet bedre ut av en slik oppdragelse. Barn som blir oppdratt for “snilt” blir ikke enklere å ha med å gjøre når de blir tenåringer og voksne. 

Dersom vi ønsker en viss kvalitet/verdibygging i barna våre, synes jeg det er lurt om det er lov med visse type enkle sanksjoner.

islamic school necessaryThe muslims that migrated to Britain must have been different from the muslims that migrated to Norway. Although they are a few generations more than us. They have also succeeded much more in many ways. For example. The halal food industry is really huge there. Certified halal food is easy available in food stores and in restaurants. They have managed to build popular islamic schools that are doing great for the children’s islamic values as well as education in West. It seems to me that the muslims in britain take Islam more seriously than what muslims in Norway have done.

The Case In Norway

Here in Norway, most restaurant’s have asian cuisine, but only a few have certified halal. Is it that the muslims doesn`t demand halal. Do they not take it that seriously? What we eat has an effect on our behaviour. Muslim parents are worried about the islamic education of their children. Youth are having adaab issues. Yet we are not able to build an islamic school because of disunity and not able to find a common ground within the four schools of law. Practising muslims in Norway are really struggling. May Allah make it easy for us. And help us find solutions. Aameen. The ones that will lose is the coming generations here. When we are not doing enough for them to stay as muslims for the rest of their lives as well as live as practising muslim in norwegian communities.

Why Is Britain Ahead Of Us?

One reason can be that since the generations of muslims in Britain are ahead of us, their own culture and language is fading away. They are giving their religion more precedence instead of culture or language. Most of teens and children don’t talk their mother tongue. They communicate fluently in english at school and home. I don’t think I will be exaggerating if I also dare say, that most probably the parents of the teens and children has also left their mother tongue. One of the biggest minus points for a islamic school in Norway, is the fear of ghetto. When children and teen talk their mother tongue with class-mates at school, they will not be able to learn norwegian as fluently as they will need, later in life. Which can create difficulties for them when searching for job etc.

Media Is Not Accurate

The talk about Muslim schools in Norway create a lot of bad vibes in the media. They want to control the curriculum more because of their negative ideas about our religion. They stir up small issues, and make them look dangerous for the community. The population of Norway is 5,2 million. (Key figures from SSB) 848 200 of the total are immigrants. Of these immigrants 55 % are European, 28% are Asians, 12 % are African and 3% are South American. 149 600 of the immigrants are from the second generation. When we understand that we are talking about a group of people who are only 16.3% og the population, we easily can put it into perspective. Before we talk about that muslims are taking over Norway, we don`t know how many of the 16.3% of the immigrants are muslims. Or need i say practicing muslim. Media knows how to blow some issue out of its proportion as it’s a huge problem. When in fact the opposite is more accurate. It becomes a huge discussion and the government have made laws that are making it even more difficult for us. They know we are not able to perform at the same level as them, because we are not as educated in the rules and regulations as the native Norwegians are. But of course a few more generations and that will change. But we can’t dare to wait for long. One youth leaving our religion is one too much. We can’t risk that. We need to take action. If we want our children to be on-going charity for us after we are gone, we have no time to waste. Better prepare before were too late. May Allah make it easy for us. Aameen.

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“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

:) W & R one 2 one :)

(",) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (",)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

Når du er forent med en
du elsker, er det ingenting
du ikke klarer :)

Gode ord skaper tillit.
Gode tanker skaper
Inderlighet. God
giverglede skaper
kjærlighet:)

Mood :)

Overjoyous :) I wonder which song is always on my mind (",)

(“,) Always on my mind (“,)

Be mine all the time,
never cross the line,
I`m a one man woman,
I don`t share
what`s mine,
never settle for less..

Song of the moment :)

:) If you just love me, i will let you see, how more you need? :)

:) Discover enlightenment
holding your hand.. :)