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an ideaEvery change starts with one person having an idea. He shares the idea with likeminded people, they develop it into something amazing and make a change. Either if it is in their personal, proffessional or business life, that is what it takes. One person whom believes in himself and loved ones that believes in his ideas, determination to give it all he`s got.

 

Believe in yourself

We have to believe in the fact that one person can make a change. If he starts with himself and with the help of Allah what is it that a person can`t do? People who accomplishes great business or somewhat success in work or personal life are those that are stubborn enough to not let any setback let them give up. They try a different approach every time they fall, which brings them one step nearer to their goal.

 

Experience comes from making mistakes

We learn by experience from making mistakes and that experience over time develops into wisdom. When we have somewhat wisdom, we know how to handle a situation and are better equipped to handle the circumstances in our life no matter how difficult they may seem. That is why we shouldn`t curse the fall or the setback, because it can actually be the reason why we succeed in something later in life.

 

Believe in your ideas

Yes we have to believe in our ideas, but at the same time, don`t start flying whenever you come up with something new. Sometimes it is quite important to do the necessary research if some other person is already working on a improwed version of what you came up with. It`s important that we calculate whether we have competition and the chances for us to succeed instead of them.

 

The world may not be ready for it

Another thing is that we can have a great idea which in itself can be brilliant for a great group of people. But maybe those people aren`t ready to accept it yet. Like we all have heard about a lot of people who where not succesful in their lifetime. Though after their death, their ideas were apppreciated and people further developed them into something amazing and they become known for it.

 

Hard work pays off

Nothing comes easy in life. We have to work hard to succeed. There is no shortcut to success, everyone has to take the stairs, one step at a time. As long as we don`t let setbacks decrease our determination and work hard for what we believe in, there is a big chance for success. Though we should also know that people whom are succesful are also envied by others whom aren`t as blessed as them. So we should try to not share all our victories with everyone. There might be someone there whom would love to do anything to be in our place. Make supplication and believe that Allah is the only One whom can make it easy for you. May Allah help and bless everyone. Ameen summa ameen.

 

life, thinker, mirror, bonde, dronning, queenTo be able to live a happy life, it is very important for every person to have a good amount of self-esteem within themselves. You have to work with yourself to have a positive balance within you. Whether your male or female. We cannot rely on the sources outside. Others can`t or won`t always cheer us up. We need to nurture our confidence so that it can grow. Of course it gives you a boost that other people think positive thoughts about you. But it won`t last if we don`t feel the same way about ourself. Another point is that people whom have low self-esteem don`t always validate or believe other people`s praise about them. They`re simply to low to feel that there is any good in them.

 

Make a list of achievements on a daily basis

The best way to deal with low self-esteem is to keep a diary of your achievements with you through the whole day. Here you can write three things you have achieved per day, and your mood, by the side of it. For example, today I managed to get an A on the x exam. It made me feel intelligent and I know i earned it because of my hard work the weeks before it. Mood : Smart/Happy/Intelligent/Diligent, etc. By doing this you will slowly start to rebuild confidence.

 

To much ain`t good either

Just like it isn`t good to have low self-esteem, it isn`t seen as a good thing to be over-confident either. We need to be balanced and be in touch with reality.  I know I have done this before, but that doesn`t mean that I will be able to do this. No one likes bragging over-confident people. What attracts others is humility and people whom have their feet planted on the ground. By knowing your potential and the fact that we can all err at sometime, you will be in touch with the real you. We must not blind our vision by always thinking positive, but we must also know the reality, and whether a goal is achievable or not.

 

There is always room for improvement

If you have low self-esteem it is important that you keep writing three positive achievements a day, for about three to five months. After that you can try to come with suggestions on how you can improve yourself. Like for instance, one suggestion a day about how you can improve a certain conduct in yourself. It is very important that you don`t start with this before you have build your self-esteem to a certain extent that you don`t end up with a negative balance. It`s about being positive but at the same time having the insight that there are certain  things I can do better. There is always room for improvement. No one is perfect. Knowing this and keeping it in mind, whenever we fail, would help us to dust of the negativity and at the same time we give ourself chances to improve, with suggestions like, next time I`ll meet that situation like this or that.

 

You can`t stop setbacks, only how you deal with them

The most important thing is that we will have setbacks and things that happen in our lives that can be totally negative a day/week/month. The best thing is that on these rainy days you take out your diary and read the achievements you have been writing for some time. That would boost you enough to bounce back into a positive mood. You will realize that even though I messed up today/this week/this month, I have done a lot of good things that weigh more than these “incidents”. You will find inner strength and feel less dependent on your surrounding, spouse, family to cheer you up.

 

Low self-esteem in spouse

When one of the spouses in a relationship has low self-esteem, believe me, the couple will go through some tough times, until they work on themselves. It can be very difficult to be positive and have a wonderful relationship, if one or both of the spouses is always negative. To turn this around, both should keep a diary of their achievements. If you know your spouse is dealing with this, do not critisize him/her.  Especially not in front of others, be it children, parents or siblings. Also don`t think that this is not a male-issue. This can happen to both genders. What is important is that both are mature enough to see where they lack and being willing to work on it. Sometimes it is hard to be true to your spouse, because you know he/she can be hurt about it. So instead of saying, you do this or that, say lets do this together, both of us. Realization is important, and willing to make a difference. Another thing is that even if you have a positive balance today, doesn`t mean it will always be like that. Negative things can happen at any time. We can never be safe from that. But if we ourselves are strong, we will handle them better in a way that we bounce back to our positive attitude if we have worked on it.

 

You can never be too late for this

The right time is now. You can never be too late/too old/too young. Even if you are in your teens, student, married, single, parent. Know that when you have worked on this for some time you will feel a positive change in how you think, and be able to handle the ups and the downs in your life. Keep a positive track for about 3-5 months and after that start with one thing you can improve about yourself daily. Don`t start with the improvement list to early, before you have a positive account. How much time you need can be individual. You know when your ready for it. The best way to find inner strength is to be your own best friend. Only than you are able to have healthy relationship, be it family, spouse or friends. Your self-esteem will remain and increase regardless of your surrounding. You will become more positive and believe in your own abilities. You will come to know yourself, your strenghts/weaknesses. You will become a better version of yourself. What can be better than that? Try it for a month, and see how it changes your life for the better.

Sometimes when something happens in our life that makes us cry or disappointed, we think that nothing can make that better in any way. We might think that what happened can`t be cured in any way. Well I have learned one thing in these past years. Looking back in time, I guess if everything that did`nt happen wouldn`t have happened I wouldn`t have been where I am today.

If you have lost a loved one in some way either to Allah or to someone else, don`t think of it as a setback. Think about it. If you would have married your first love when you were eighteen years old. where would you have been today? Maybe with four kids and no job, because you didn`t get enough education or working experience. If that loved one, that Allah is taking care of now, hadn`t passed away, where would you have been today? Maybe the same old person, still listening to songs and watching indian movies and doing everything that it contains.

If that one or two or three setbacks in life have brought you closer to Allah today, than what have you lost? I can understand that the journey has been difficult, but what have you lost if you have Allah with you now? You haven`t lost a thing if you are closer to Allah now! What made you start reading salat? What made you never miss a salat ever for the past years? What made you read Nasheeds/naats instead of songs, the past years? What made you spend more time in gatherings at the Mosque instead of an indian concert or movie the past few years? It was that big setback that made that wonderful change in your life that in a way was negative but brought lots of wonderful things in your life. Be thankful 😉 Alhamdolillah, yes it was a blessing in disguise 😉

Look at yourself now 🙂 Spending more time learning more about Islam, listening to lectures and reading about it. Going to mosques and spending your time earning so many good deeds for your parent that has passed away. If this is how you lately have spent your time, you have every reason to be happy and grateful to Allah, because He loves us all. This is how He shows us how much He loves us, by taking away one thing, He has given us so much more that if we were to be grateful all the time, we could still not have been enough grateful/thankful to Him.

The past few years, I have learned to try to see things in perspective. Even though some setbacks hurt a lot, it could be the opener to lots of great things in your life. Next time when something not that good happens in our life, lets try to see what sort of blessing it contains instead of the negative side. It might be difficult at the time something bad happens, but believe me, in a few years you would see what Allah meant by it happening, InshaAllah ameen. May Allah give us sabr/patience to go through all the hurdles in life and give us all that is good in this life and in the Hereafter for eternity and make us His pious worshippers. Ameen summa ameen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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