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marriage khadija raa prophet muhammad (pbuh)Can a woman stipulate in her marriage contract that she does not want her husband to take a second wife?

A person can choose to sacrifice one of their rights and this is not considered haram in Islam; it is a matter of preference. The prophet (SAW) chose not to eat the Dhabb but he did not make it haram upon himself. Similarly, in Islamic contracts both parties are allowed agreeing to any condition that they like as long as two conditions are met: 1- It is not a condition that is prohibited in the sharee’ah. 2- It does not go against the spirit of the current contract. This is the official opinion of the hanbali madhab, and was also the opinion of Ibn Taymiyyah, ibn Al-Qayyim, and others. This is based upon the fact that Ali (RA) chose not to marry another woman while he was married to Fatimah (RA), which he abided by.

Ibn Qudamah (RH) said:

“If he stipulates that he will not take her out of her house or her city, or that he will not travel with her or will not take another wife, then he is obliged to fulfil that, and if he does not do so, then she has the right to annul the marriage. This was narrated from ‘Umar, Sa’d ibn Abi Waqqaas and ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas (may Allah be pleased with them).”

Al-Mughni, 9/483

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymin (RH) said:

“If she stipulates that he should not take another wife, this is permissible. Some of the scholars said that it is not permissible, because it is restricting the husband in something that Allah has permitted to him, and it is contrary to the Qur’aan in which it says (interpretation of the meaning): “then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four” [al-Nisa’ 4:3]. It may be said in response to that that she has a reason to ask him not to marry another wife and she is not transgressing against anyone. The husband himself is the one who is giving up his right; if he has the right to marry more than one, he is giving it up. So what is to prevent this condition being valid?

Hence the correct view with regard to this matter is the view of Imam Ahmad (may Allah have mercy on him), which is that this condition is valid.”

Al-Sharh al-Mumti’, 5/243

Shaykh Salih al-Fawzan (HH) said:

“Among other conditions that are valid in marriage is if she stipulates that he should not take another wife. If he fulfils the condition (all well and good), otherwise she has the right to annul the marriage because of the hadeeth, ‘The conditions which most deserve to be fulfilled are the ones that make marital intimacy permissible for you’ ”

Al-Mullakhas al-Fiqhi (2/345, 346)

Allah knows best.

-Source Shaykh Navaid Aziz

Sometimes people like to debate just to debate. And sometimes they have a few valid points that can be in-arguable. I have not written this post because I am saying anything bad about our Prophet (pbuh). May Allah save me from that. Ameen. All i can say is that our Prophet had troubles spending a life in polygamy. He (pbuh) is perfect, no one like him, he managed to deal with it. But I don`t think any men can deal with those issues that occur in a life of Polygamy without falling into trouble quarrels and jealousy between the wives, money-issues, not having enough time and to deal justly between them. I am going to give examples of the Prophets life were his wife made trouble for him, living in Polygamy. It is a mans choice to do what he wants with his life, i am only going to warn about the troubles that can arise and issues about it. Another point to be noted is that in some countries like Norway and Scandinavia, one can be put to jail if one practices polygamy and get caught by the police. So in that case one has to move to an islamic country instead.

A companion of the Prophet (pbuh) narrates that whenever any gift was brought to him he would immediately send it to some woman who had been a friend of Khadijah Ra. Aisha Ra, says that whenever a goat was slaughtered the Prophet (pbuh) would send some meat to Khadijahs friends: when she remarked about this on one occasion he (pbuh) told her:

“I have great regard for her friends, as she has a special place in my heart”.

Aisha Ra said she never experienced such a feeling of natural feminine jealousy for any other wife of the Prophet (pbuh) as she did for Khadijah Ra.

Allah has revealed the following ayat: ” O Prophet (pbuh)! Say to your wives: if you desire the life of this world and its glitter, then come! I will make a provision for you and set you free in a handsome manner (divorce) But if you desire Allah and His Messenger, and the home of the hereafter, then verily, Allah has prepared for the good-doers among you an enormous reward”. (Quran 33-28-29). some of the wives of the Prophet (pbuh) had ben used to a luxurious life style before marriage, and when they saw that there were riches and comforts to be had, they presented a request for their allowances to be suitable reviewed and increased. This desire of his wives for wordly comforts disturbed the Prophet (pbuh). He declared that for one month he would separate himself from his wives, and he went into seclusion in the little room above the apartment of Aishah Ra. The whole city was buzzing with the gossip that he had divorced his wives.

Among the Mothers of the believers Aishah Ra, Umm Habibah Ra, Saudah Ra and Hafsa Ra all belonged to the tribe of Quraish. The others came from different tribes. Everyday afte asr-prayer, the Prophet would visit them all for a little while to see if they needed anything.; the time of the visits was routine and each would wait eagerly for his arrival. On several occasions, it so happened that he spent more time with Zainab Ra. This upset Aisha Ra, and she spoke about it to Hafsah Ra and Sauda Ra. They got together and found out that certain relative had sent Zainab Ra a special kind of honey and she used to offer it to the Prophet (pbuh) everyday. This was his favourite and he used to be delayed in her apartment, enjoying it. Aisha Ra was so fond of the Prophet (pbuh) that she could not bear for him to be late coming to her apartment. Because of her regard to him (pbuh) she could not object directly. So she consulted with the other two – Hafsa Ra and Sauda Ra and they decided that when he came to each of them by turn, they would all say that there was a strange smell emanating from his mouth. When he heard the same thing from all three of them he thought it was due to the honey he had, and decided to give it up for good. If this had been an incident in the life of an ordinary person it would have been of no consequence. But this was with the last Prophet of Allah (pbuh) and his every word and every action would become the law or shariah for all muslims for all time to come. Thus it had a special significance. So Allah rebuked him (pbuh) in ayat of Surah At-Tahreem:

” O Prophet! Why do you forbid for yourself that which Allah has allowed to you, seeking to please your wives? And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful” (Quran 66:1).

It was about the same time that the Prophet (pbuh) confided a secret matter to Hafsah Ra, and warned her not to speak to anyone about it. But she told Aisha Ra, Allah then revealed to the Prophet (pbuh) what happened.

When Juwariyah Ra was brought to Aisha Ra, Aisha Ra said that her heart sank when she saw her, because she was so pretty. “By Allah, I had scarcely seen her in the doorway of my room before i disliked her!”. She recalled later: ” I knew he (pbuh) would see her as I did”. Sure enough, The Prophet (pbuh) asked to marry Juwariyah Ra and she accepted Islam, thus the enemy became an ally. But Aisha Ra is said to have always nurtured a certain jealousy towards her.

A few has, however, believe that Allah has in fact forbidden plural marriages, on the grounds that it is impossible for a man to deal justly between co-wives. Allah says:

” You will not be able to deal equally between wives, however much you may wish to”. (Quran 4:129)

A hadeeth in tirmidhi and Abu Dawod says:

” When a man has two wives and he does not observe equality and deals unfairly with them, he will come before the Throne of Justice with only half of his body”.

Given human nature the pitfalls are many and varied, and no one should enter upon this kind of marriage unless there is a compelling moral rather than a selfish reason for it, and the full and intelligent consent of all parties has been obtained. Anything else is likely to end in disaster.

To marry more than one woman is a muslims right as long as it is allowed in the country they live in and the husband can be just between the wives. I was reading a book about Islam when I came over a reason for our Prophet to marry more than once, which i want to share with you. The book says : “It was necessary for the Prophet (PBUH)should neutralize the enmity of as many people as possible through marriages with women of other tribes. It was the practice among Arabs that the tribe should defend the husbands of their women”.

If we look at this today, being married to more than one doesn`t stop the war between families, it rather fuels it up. So why bother? Hazoor Paak had troubles and worries trying to be fair between his wifes, and He IS perfect. How can anyone else say that they can be fair between several wives. It`s just not possible.

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