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Jab ham koi baat me vazn chahte hon, tou Islam ka nazariya samne lane ki koshish karte hai. Kisi ache amal, achi baat mein asr lane keliye uspe khud uska amal hona bohot zarori hai. Theek aise hi, jab koi kisi ko namaz ki dawat dein, to wo khud be-namazi na ho. Aksar kaha jata hai, ke aanso ka matlab hai ke dil narm hai. Yaha thori si clarification ki zarorat shayd hai. Aanso ko sirf Allah vazan kar sakte hai. Lekin phir bhi, koi tou pehchan hogi? Kounsa aanso asli, kounsa aanso nakli? Niyat aur ikhlas to zarori he hi. Lekin ek aur baat bhi hai, jise nazar andaz nahi kar sakte. Woh ye, ke aanso Allah, Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ, Islam, Iman ki mohabbat ki vajeh se hai, ya ke dunya ki muhabbat ke vajeh se? Vazan tou sirf us aanso mein hai, jo Islam ki muhabbat ki vajeh se girra ho. Chahe woh ruh ka rona ho, ya aanso ki shakl mein aankh se tapke. Allah hamein aur sare ummation ko Islam ki muhabbat ki vajeh se aankhon aur ruh se aanso naseeb ho. Aur vo aanso aisa kamal kar jaye, ke hamara imaan aur amal, zahiri aur batni tarike se, mazbot hojaye. Aamen. 

When we say or do something hurtful to our spouse, it creates a distance between you two. 
For example
Lying – 5 meters
Harshness – 7 meters
Unloyalty – 10 meters
Unfaithfulness – 100 meters
When we are good to our spouse and do deeds and actions that makes your spouse feel “respected”, “loved” etc, it increases the intensity of the closeness you two share. 
For example
Kiss on the forehead – 5 meters closer
Flowers – 15 meters closer
Warm dinner – 100 meters closer
Undivided attention – 20 meters closer
When we sum up these two meters which bring closer and that which makes distance, if the sum is negative, we have been making more distance from misbehaviour. If the sum is positive, we have done more good behaviour. 
Just like that, we sum up every day, every week every month and year. If both in the marriage continously work on themselves and their relationship, most of the time, they will have a close fulfilling relationship. When both do deeds that bring each other closer, no matter the setbacks, you will overcome it. Because you two have made a good solid foundation. There is never to late to do something special together that wipes out many of the previous mistakes. Make effort to learn your spouse’s “love-languages”, “respect-languages” and “forgiveness-languages”. Just by knowing it, it is 50% done. Now all you two need to do is, speak these languages in deeds. 
Ya Allah, grant every ummati a good marriage. Aamen. Protect every marriage til the end of time. Aamen. 

fitnaHave you heard about, a young sahabi, whom saw a naked woman doing ghusl, and been so guilty of it, and cried for a long time, until he died of it. Not only ashamed of the action, but by the fear of Allah, how Allah will punish him. This was a young sahabi named Tha‘labah ibn ‘Abd ar-Rahmaan of the time of Prophet Muhammad pbuh.

Don`t Walk Near The Pit-falls

We know that times are changing. This time is filled with fitnah. It is very easy for a child, teen or adult to easily get access to any kind of filth, without their parents, or spouse, knowing. Hazoor Paak pbuh has said, in the time when the sahabi lived, Allah expected more from muslims when it comes to good deeds and quality. Because they were many, it was easier to do good deeds, with good quality. Hazoor Paak pbuh, said the time will come when holding to your deen is like holding to a coal of fire. Allah will expect less of the muslim, because it is very difficult for muslims to do deeds with good quality in times of fitnah. So no, we can`t excpect us muslim to be as good as the muslims of the sahabi era, but Allah doesn`t tell us to give up. We must struggle. Allah rewards us according to our struggle, niyah and ikhlas. So we must try to find ways that can help each other to remove pitfalls, so we can protect our own home and every muslim from the ummah, who is listening.

Your Charges Are Dropped, If You Marry Who You Raped

There is a country with many muslims. In that country, when a man rapes another woman, if he agrees to marry her, he will not get punished by the court. I don`t understand how it is possible that a country can make such rules. I do understand that this can`t be ok for the girl/woman who is raped. First of all, no girl / woman can be ok with marrying someone who doesn`t respect her. Someone who doesn`t respect a “no”. By letting these men of the hook, may put out the fire, but it won`t prevent more men to do the same. Easy way out. We rape her, we marry her for some time and divorce her when we want to. This is not ok. Instead of this rule, that country, should try to change the mindset of the younger teens and men, how to respect a girl/women. You might have other from the same gender in your family? A sister, a mother, a wife, a daughter. We must teach the male gender that they have to work on their self-control. Be in control of themselves in tough times. No matter what a girl, women does or says, nothing can justify a rape, in any way. But the girl and women, need to be responsible with how they behave. We have to be careful how we behave, in front of other men. We can revive the sunnah of modesty in our life.

coal-hand-islamNon-muslims Are Attracted To Modesty In Muslims

Another side of the story, if a muslim girl/woman wears perfume, and goes outside where other non-mahram might be. This is not allowed, because men will experience fitnah. So some people asked a scholar, what if a man puts on perfume? A woman experience fitnah. Then what? Some scholars say the reason this is not applied to men, women don`t stalk men. But men can easily stalk a woman. Time is changing. Here in the west, the husbands, sons, brothers of our family, is a muslim minority. When they step out of their homes, most people they meet at school, college, work are men and women who are non-muslims. Non-muslim women has less barriers to interact with the opposite gender. At the same time single people are increasing in our country. Muslim mens modesty and faith, is very attractive. I`m talking about non-muslim women who are almost always being lusted by others, wherever they are. Many of them who get tired of this, wants to be loved for who they are not what they look like. It is not only a muslims identity to practice modesty, but can be seen in general in asian cultures, no matter what religion. Many non-muslim women easily fall in love with muslim men, because they see in them qualities they hardly find in their own people. So the fear of being stalked by a non-muslim women is not to fare fetched. A non-muslim woman can create more difficulties for muslim men who are in the struggle of correcting their hijab. The struggle becomes more dangerous. You can read any book about the struggle men have when a beautiful women is nearby. They struggle to perfect the hijab, is much more difficult. A readable book: what you need to know about the inner life of men, by shaunti Feldhahn.

Muslim Girls Who Travel Alone

Non-muslim girls and women aren`t the only who make the struggle harder for men. Because of the weak iman in many muslim girls and women, they can easily become a stalker themselves. Nowadays, it`s not seen as difficult, for a group of muslim girls/ women to go for a vacation without any mahram. Many travel only with their female friends to many countries. If a muslim girl can take the airplane to scotland, to visit a friend, or relax for a weekend trip, it can most certainly, not be difficult for her to find out about another male muslim, where he lives, matters about his life, and try to make him like her, and want to marry her. In other words, men who aren`t working on their hijab, and use perfume, and look good, will experience fitnah from non-muslim girls/women AND muslim girls/women. So yeah their struggle is real. I can`t say I want muslim men to not go outside, they are the provider. They have to. But they must be aware of these matters. Ya Allah, grant all muslim men of the ummah to win the struggle to perfect their hijab, in public and private. Protect them from experiencing fitnah and bad company. Aameen

Fear Of Tribulations For Both Genders

An aspect that is less talked about because of the tabu issue, is the fact that a girl/ woman raping a boy/ man. Just because it is less addressed doesn`t mean it doesn`t happen. Mostly men are seen as the strong, so it is very difficult for them to admit that a girl/ woman tried or succeeded in raping them. Since we already have realized the big tribulations are on rise, there are girls/women who are guilty of this. This is a very sensitive topic. But it needs to be addressed. The numbers are unknown. This is a very important reason, why muslim girls / women must be helped to correct their hijab by their family, friends or the muslim women leaders of the community. When a girl/ woman says she has been raped, everyone immediately, accepts that as the truth, because she is the weak part, most of the times. When boys / men have been raped, it`s more difficult for them to complain to the police, because of shame of being man and weak. If and when they feel that, they need to read the surah Yusuf, chapter of Quran. Both gender can experience someone trying to seduce them. We must help each other and all the community to find solutions, and help to protect every marriage in the community. Ya Allah, make it easy for all the ummah to win the constant struggle of perfecting our hijab, in public and private. Ya Allah grant every ummati to master their self-control in public and private. Ya Allah, grant the ummah to win the struggle of protecting ourself and each other from bad company. Ya Allah, help all the ummati to win the struggle of being in good company all the time. Don`t let bad qualities have any effect on any ummati. Inspire the muslim women/men leaders, to address their followers about this, in a way that will have good effect on those listening. Aameen

prophet-muhammad-pbuh-i-love-mohammadOne matter we can improve is helping our children to get addicted to reading drud sharif as early as possible. There are many benefits of reading drud sharif, but the reason why I`ve heard it is good for families, is that it brings gentleness into our conduct. Many parents often complain that teens often become very rude and difficult. Reading drud often, everyday, can be something that tames their emotions and grant them control over themselves, so they become more easygoing, even within the family, not only with their friends.

Cultivate Gentleness In Your Child

Parents have a big job cultivating good qualities in their children. Often times as the child is growing, parents give their children different duties they have to do everyday, or some days in the week, to help them learn new task through responsibility. The parents make a chart for the whole week, and give a star for every accomplished work. One duty they can add to those chores is reading 100 drud sharif every day, in front of their parents, in the start, just so that the parents can hear them, help them recite it correctly, and make sure, they are actually reading it. As the child will get the hang of it, and the taste of it`s delights, parents can often say, if all four children read, drud every day 500 times, when each of the family member has read 10 000 drud or 100 000 drud, we will celebrate with an outing on a good halal restaurant, or a vacation somewhere they want to go, with islamic content, or some kind of reward / goal, you will easily motivate them.

The Atmosphere Will Change Positively

If your child start reading drud sharif regularly, You will see an immense difference in their attitude and behaviour. They will become more gentle in everything they do and say, and they will start liking sunnah deeds. Their love for Hazoor Paak pbuh will increase, and through that love, their obedience to Allah in private and public will improve. The drud sharif will beautify their inside and outside, with good sunnah conduct and noraniyat. What else can a muslim parent want for his / her child / teen? This will change the entire atmosphere of the house. Soon you will have less quarrels, more love and gracious practice towards each other. The love within the family, will increase. When the children slowly realize the good effect of reading drud sharif in their life, they will increase their practice of it, regardless of your motivation. When that happens you have done a great job, guiding your child to healthy habits. This will bring them bliss in this life and the hereafter. The drud sharif supports the reader of it, until the reader reads drud sharif so much, that Allah make it, the readers vasila, and take all his / her matters in His own Hands. Ya Allah grant this for every child, teen and adult of the ummah. Aameen.


People often want Allah to support them. People want Allah to love them. We can’t compare the creation with the Creator. But still when we do, we will get a glimpse of how we can achieve Allah’s love and support through it. 

A Mother And Her Child

Every mother is different. But every mother has one thing in common; she loves her child. The child who was made out of her own self, is dearer to her than almost everything. We know that even if our mother is angry at us. She is not able to hate us. If only for a little while. Maybe because we are made from her flesh, and Allah has put mercy in a mother for her child. When we behave in a manner she dislikes, she will most probably get upset. But as time passes, she easily forgives. Even if she denounces the action. She is not able to not love her child. When we want anyone we like to like us, to love us, that person will like us if we behave in a manner that person likes. And when we behave in a manner that person dislikes, that person will dislike us. People does not have such mercy towards us as our mother. If they dislike or hate us, they will still do that. No matter what we do for them. If we draw the similtude to our Creator in this matter, we can easily understand; when we do deeds Allah, likes, with the right intention and sincerity, He loves us. When we make mistakes, and don’t make astagfar and tawbah, He dislikes us. But He doesn’t hate us. He (Allah) hates our bad deeds. And He loves us so much that the door to Him is always open through sinsere tawbah and repentence. Til our last breath He (Allah) awaits that we will return to Him. When we knit a jersey or draw a drawing, we feel a ownership to it. Allah, our Creator feels a ownership of His creation. Like a parent feels ownership of his child. When a child does something good, the father mother will say to his/her friends, “That’s my son” or “That’s my daughter”. So If our child leaves us to another country or because of anger, and as purily as parents love their children, a part of them will always, wait for their children to come back to their parents, repenting. Allah does also feel ownership to His creation. Through Allah’s beautiful creation (world, sun, moon, weather, planets, creatures, humans- inside and whom are eaten and who eats. We can see and comprehend how smart Our Creatur must be. Because everything is so perfectly made, without any mistakes. If Allah’s creation is so beautiful and in such perfect system, it is because everything is created by the Most Beautiful and the most perfect in all ways. Allah’s Qualities/ Attributes are the Most Perfect. When we do deeds, that Allah likes, He raises our status and says, “you’re my friend”. Imagine people are very proud of having good, influental people as friends. If the Creator of the whole universe says, that you’re his /her friend, you’ve got yourself the most influential friend there dude. A friend Who just says to it “be” and it is. Don’t ever downplay that. And be truly thankful. And correct yourself when your gratefulness decreases. So if we want Him (Allah) to like us, we will accomplish that by living the way He wants us to live our life. And protect us from those things he dislikes. When we will accomplish that, according to our means/ resources, He will love us. If we lack, the ability to do this, we will not be able to achieve this. But a beautiful fact about Allah, is that he does not reward according to results, he rewards us according to our effort. In other words, even if we make mistake often, and we with pure intention and sincerity make tawbah, often, he will help us, and reward us for believing in His Mercy, and not giving up on ourselves. And standing up and trying again, every time we fail. 

Support Of A True Friend

The quality, most people appreciate in a good friend, is support. In good days. In bad days. When we support someone, our love for that cause, is seen through our actions. In other words, if we love Allah, and want Him to support us, we can start with supporting the matters He likes. And Allah, Who is All-Hearing and All-Seeing, and knows what we do in private and in public. The All-Knowing of what we do at all times. In other words, we can’t hide anything from Him. So when we want to gain His support, we have to be true to ourselves, and clean in our actions, because He knows, when we are un-true. What will we gain of reward, when He can easily read that we just wanted people to know, we didn’t do the deed solely for Him. The deed will not be accepted. Such liars, we do not want to become. Lie to our own souls. What is the need for that, when Allah will punish us for it. If we want Allahs support, we have to correct our intention and sincerity and be just as devoted when we are alone as we are in public. Because Allah knows. He can see through us. How foolish we are, and false, when we can’t stick to important basic principles of Islam, when we are alone. Just because no-one can see us. A part of imaan/faith is believing that Allah is All-Aware of what we are doing at all times (ihsan). Do we comprehend that the biggest witness of our deeds is our Creator. If He will witness against us, how lost will we be in the hereafter, when our Creator will not even look at us because of His anger towards our disobedience of His rules.  Ya Allah, grant us to win our struggle of perfecting our obedience to You (Allah) in public and in private of every moment and deed. For me, my family, my friends and every ummati, till the end of time. Ya Allah, inspire in us good, and protect us from the evil within ourselves. Help us to recognize the good within ourselves, and make it increase our imaan, humility and humbleness with full submissiveness to You. Grant us self-empowerment. Grant us proactiveness in doing good deeds with great sincerity and intentions, so we accomplish deeds with the greatest reward and that You accept. Aameen summa aameen. 

If your husband has female “friends”, you will have problems in your marriage. 

If your wife has male “friends” you will have problems in your life.

There is no need to socialize more than necessary with the opposite gender. It will lead to fitnah. No one is immune to fitnah, no matter how many masters or bachelors they have in their cv. That is one of the main reasons why mixing between genders is prohibited in Islam. 

If it can’t be avoided because of work, at least minimize it to the bear minimum, and be as proffesional as possible. Nothing breaks the heart of a spouse more than realizing that his / her spouse  is engaging with others in non-islamic ways. 

I can’t understand why there is any need to have friends from the other gender. These friendships ruin lives. Infatuation. Many wrongs happen when fitnah is not stopped. 

May Allah protect all marriages. And keep us pure, from having friendships with the opposite gender. And protect us from jeopardize our marriage for anything else. Aameen. 

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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