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Sisterhood, brotherhood, world, earth, united, care jpgMost people with a caring nature and good values, would happily give a helping hand to anyone in difficulty, even if they wouldn`t personally know who the other person is. Sometimes without even thinking of it having any consequence for themselves in the future.

Are You Careful Who You Help?

As time has become more rough and many people are in difficulties nowadays, many people with good intentions of helping others, are experiencing corruption in many cases. Many examples are known from the media, were good and caring people help others in need and are in return either hurt or somehow criminals steal their belongings. Leaving them in worse case, than if they would`ve not cared and just walked away, like they didn`t see that someone needed help. Since the rise of corruption is at its peak, many good people are now very aware of the fact that they have to be careful who they trust and help. Giving a helpful hand, is not the same as for a few years ago. The consequence is of course that people who are entitled of help, doesn`t get any help they need. Because we don`t know if they are true/sincere. So we choose to do a background check before we send any money or give charity through any company. We don`t always know if the money is truly being utilized where it was sent for.

Ulterior Motives For Helpfulness

When our parents bring us to life in this world. They do not bring us in order to make us dependent of them. Most parents want us to be able to live a good life and be independent. If we are too dependent of them, one day when they no more, we would have difficulty adapting to this. Their goal is to raise children who can contribute positively to the community, muslims and non-muslims. If a police-woman sees a man wanting to take suicide from a bridge, and she manages to talk him out of it, believing that he has a purpose in life, even though it looks a bit dark right now, doesn`t mean that the police-woman had ulterior motives for being helpful. It is her duty. So when some people help other people, because of their softheartedness, believe in the good in them. Most of us are just practising the life of our Prophet pbuh. We can`t start spinning on the idea that she saved him, because she wants to marry him or would want some money in return for being helpful.

politenessWe Want Humanity To Win

Good-natured people are helping. Although so many countries are facing severe trials. Lets not be the reason why people stop believing in goodness. A life is precious no matter whose it is. To save a life is like saving humankind, and to take a life, is like killing mankind. -Quran 5:32. Allah sees and knows those who do good. Don`t come in the way of others success. If someone has helped you through a difficult situation, just supplicating for them when you pray, would be sufficient for you to repay the favour. You don`t have to be a part of their life for it. It so happens often that when someone from the opposite gender helps us, we think they help us because they love us etc. It is important that we regain believe in kindness. Not always mistaking kindness /politeness for flirtation/love. Bottom line, kind people with a sound heart and good intentions help others out of difficulty. That`s it. Nothing more. Don`t expect or put so much in a nice gesture that because of this, people stop doing good deeds. If we get the idea that a good gesture will backfire, goodness will decrease. People falling on a sidewalk, where thousands are walking, won`t be helped by anyone. We don`t want that kind of world? We want a safe world where people help each other. No matter if anyone is rich or poor, just because we want humanity to win. If people fear for their family’s security when they help other people, they might stop helping other people in need. We don`t want such a society. Very few people are so un-selfish that they dare to risk their loved ones lives in order to save someone they barely know. Our a priority is our family. May Allah make it easy for us to practice kindness without it backfiring. Aameen.

siblings, brother, sister, sur, little brotherHaving children is a great blessing for parents. To pass on the legacy of Islam to another generation that will live Islam. Often both parents prefer sons over daughters. Mainly because they think that they will be the most supportive because they become providers too. They have forgotten that Prophet Muhammad pbuh`s legacy was passed on by his daughter Fatima raa.

 

Pray For Piousness

Parents shouldn`t focus on the gender of the child, but rather praying for it to be a good muslim/muslimah. Praying for pious children even before marriage shows that you are responsible and worried about their Hereafter. Instead of competing in numbers or a specific gender, rather be motivated to increase the quality of upbringing. We don`t always know whether a son will be more valuable than a daughter. Allah is going to send tribulations through our sustenance. We will meet both difficulties and ease. Thinking that those who have daughters are less blessed is wrong. Most parents realize later in life that daughters are a greater blessing. Mostly because of their softheartedness and emotional intelligence they take better care of their family/parents, compared to their sons.

 

Practice Equality In Giving

Often people with children from both genders, prefer the son more than the daughter. Prophet Muhammad pbuh was once sitting with some sahaba when one sahabi`s daughter came and she seated herself beside him. A while after his son came, he kissed him and let him sit on the lap. When the Prophet pbuh saw this he said that we can`t treat our children differently, but they should be treated equally. If you give a gift to one, the gift has to be given the other siblings. If not they will be questioned about that on the Day of Judgement. When Fatima raa visited Prophet Muhammad pbuh, he pbuh would kiss her hand and let her have his pbuh seat. She would return the gesture to him pbuh, when he pbuh visited her. He pbuh was also helpful in the house. Even if times have changes some men doesn`t help as much as they should. Learning about the sunnah might motivate men to do more.

 

When Allah withholds A Gift

It is Allah whom chooses sons for some and daughter for others. We can`t complain to Him and question His Wisdom behind the decision. Whatever Allah gives us, be grateful in good times and show patience in difficult times. There will be both. The happiest people are those who are content with the little they are blessed with. Being happy with the decree of Allah shows our dependency and trust in Him. He is the one in Control. We can draw a comparison through the lesson where a child is in his mother’s lap and wants to touch the fire. The mother knows that if he touches the fire, he will burn himself. The child doesn`t know that. The mother because of the love for her child, will keep him away from the fire. It is the same with every blessing. Sometimes Allah withholds something from us because He think something can hurt us through it. Other time He withholds to give us a bigger gift or to purify us and raise our status before we are given a gift.

 

Every Child Is Precious

Be fair to your children and express your love to them often.  Make them feel loved, so they are not misled by people. Fill their bucket of confidence. Don`t hesitate to motivate them when they are down, or gently correct them when they need to be advised. Teach them good values to make them a contribute for the Ummah and their community. Through your efforts in their early years they can be a sadqah jariyah for you. Most of all treat them equally. Sibling rivalry can easily be controlled if the parents are fair between them and each child gets quality time alone with parents, so they don`t feel neglected. The other siblings won`t get jealous of the love they are giving. Gently advising them privately is the best way of getting any changes in their behaviour that can be improved for the future.

 

Depend only on AllahWe are dependent of Allah. He is our Creator if he wouldn`t have decided that we would be in this world, we wouldn`t be here. He created the whole universe. If it wouldn`t be for Him the earth might not have been today.

We as muslims believe that all good comes from Allah. Sometimes when something good happens in our life, we take the credit ourselves. But the true credit goes to our Creator. If He wouldn`t have willed it to happen, no one could have made it happen. The same goes when He protects us from some calamity. It is His rahma that is surrounding us and giving us good and bad things, to see if we have patience in times of difficulty and if we are grateful in times of ease. When our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) used to pray, his feet would become swollen. When he was asked about why he didn`t pray less when his past and future sins are forgiven, He (pbuh) said: “shouldn`t I be a grateful slave? “. Subhan Allah. He (pbuh) has set the standard.

We claim that we are muslims. We claim that we love Allah and our Prophet (pbuh). But are we actually being true? I mean just imagine, someone you love is telling you that there are certain things he never did, because they are not good for us, and on the other hand there are certain deeds used to do and set the standard of what and how we should be. If we are true in our claim, we would avoid as much as we can the things he avoided, and do more of those deeds he did. Are we actually following those rules and regulations Allah has set and our Prophet abided to?

Subhan Allah! If someone asked you to jump off a high building or from the top of a roof, would you do it? Most of us would say, no because we are afraid of getting injured. So when some people invite you to do something that is forbidden, why do you say yes to that even when you know it`s not good for you. Ok so we have some bad influences in our life, but we still have a choice to say no, this is not good for my Hereafter, so I`m not going to do that. Being able to say no to bad stuff and yes to good stuff is what self-respect is. The fact that you love yourself so much that you are not going to take any chances with where you are going to spend the eternity of your life. The lowest level of iman is to hate something that is bad, but not doing something to stop it. When your imaan become so strong, that you are able to stay away from bad deeds, you are a muslim. Don`t you want to reach the highest level that a slave of Allah can achieve, to become a mohsin? May Allah make us achieve the goal of Paradise Firdous, ameen.

Do you think that if you put stones in the way of others success you would be able to stop them from succeeding? Why not rather become the encourager so you can earn every good deed others do, after they have heard it from you and take a share in the blessings?

Ma sha Allah ❤ If you are trying your best, than you deserve congratulations from each and every muslim. If you are not, than we need to take a deep look into our hearts and try to change for the better. And if you have started the journey and trying your best to make it to the better end, than may Allah guide you more and help you more. May Allah help and guide each and every one of us so we become a mohsin and when Allah and our Prophet would look at us in the hereafter, he would smile. May Allah Make the whole Ummah like that. Ameen. Wouldn`t we be blessed if we experienced that? 🙂

 

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

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(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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