You are currently browsing the tag archive for the ‘Opportunities’ tag.

every child is gifted, a success story, build people, family, parentingPeople doesn`t always understand when we talk about different emotions and how different approaches can have an impact on others. Unless we help them understand it with money. 😛 Yes we want someone to do something or not do something, simply add or delete the cash. If we think about ourselves as having a bank of emotions in our soul/heart. A positive word, will put a deposit in the account. A negative word or action might take a withdrawal from it. If we keep the positive deposit more than the negative we will be feeling good. If the negative account is more than the positive we will be feeling sad or some negative emotion.

 

People Can Be Good And People Can Be Bad

We all have something good and bad in us.  If we always pinpoint why our children aren`t cleaning their room or anything negative they are doing, every time we talk, they will be filled with negative energy. They might not want to spend time with us. If we instead, fill them with positive feedback that is precise and  positive, not being vague in speech, we will soon, fill them with so much positive energy that, if and when we sometimes give them some negative feedback, it won`t be the end of the world for them. Because a lot of positive deposit doesn`t mind if a withdrawal comes once in a while. If we already have a negative account, and withdrawal would be devastating.

 

every kid childDon`t Use Fear 

People have different incentives to help their loved ones achieve new heights. Some motivate others with love, others with fear. And what would work depends on the situation and the person. Expressing love has the power that will give a positive deposit in the loved ones bank-balance. If we genuinely care for others, we will rather inspire others in this way. A person whom gives and gives will certainly be given back. If we on the contrary would try to make people change because of fear. That might work for the moment. Some day that fear can be given back in a negative way by a withdrawal from your account. It can`t lead to good, if you always use fear as a method for people to behave a certain way. I pray that our family`s are of those who build us and not those who tear us down. That will make us easily manage the ups and downs in life. If the family always has a “told-you-so” waiting whenever we fail in something, it teaches us to not have confidence and trust our own judgement. Later when we, have to make our own decisions these qualities makes a big difference in our life. We need to nurture self-confidence, self-esteem, trusting own judgement, independence, self-respect, self-worth. We are more with our family`s than anyone else. They have a real great opportunity to help us grow as muslim and humans. Only selfish reasons would make us want to prevent each other from achieving success. Always hesitate to make a withdrawal without knowing if there is enough balance to withdraw from.

 

When Given A Good Portion Of Love

Each and every would be able to move mountains and become the person they are meant to be. We work best when we our stomachs/souls are full. When we help others feel good, we become better people. We feel good also because of being giving. Don`t be miserly in choosing a positive approach, and see how it changes every situation to something beautiful, and be ready because it will come back to you. Making others feel good about themselves is an art and on-going- charity that will have positive side-effects. Help each other to practice it. Jazak Allah kheyr.

O turner of hearts, keep our heart firm on your religion, deen. AllahWhen someone does some wrong to you, it is allowed in Islam to do the same amount of wrong back, though Allah likes those who forgive people more than those who want justice for their harm. There was Saudi man whom forgave the killer of his family member, if he memorized the Quran. He made that as a condition to forgive him. SubhanAllah not only did he forgive, but something good came out of it as well, that will give them reward for it til eternity. It has probably changed his heart as well. Who can have the whole Quran memorized in his heart, without it changing his/her heart for the better. SubhanAllah ❤

 

Innocently Charged

How can we know that we are eligible to an eye for an eye equality, when someone wrongs us? For example, if someone blames a student, that he got help during the exam, and he is innocent, and he gets punished for it. If it later comes out that he was charged by something he was innocent of, how will they be able to fix the damage that was made on that persons reputation, loss etc.

 

Win People`s Support

We need to be careful of not letting our bad thoughts about some people, direct us to further harm them in any way. Whether that person has to pay back the fully recompense in what he did to you, depends on your situation. If you have a pen that you have stolen from someone, and someone steals it from you too, you can not go around accusing the one whom stole it from you, because the way you got that pen, wasn`t correct according to Islam. If you had bought a pen, had the receipt and then someone stole it from you, or tried to do so, your accusations would have been valid. How can we accuse other of doing us wrong, when we ourselves haven`t followed the rules and regulation properly in accordance to the sunnah and Quran. It wouldn`t have been fair. Even if we managed to win people`s support here, we would be doomed on the Day of Judgement, when Allah would ask us, how we got that pen?

 

Can You Fix A Broken Glass

This is why it is so important for muslims to understand the fact, that for us to have blessings in a bounty, we need to follow the rules and regulations of the Quran and sunnah. If we will not do that, some way along the way, that bounty, could instead harm us or be harmful to us, because our way of earning the reward, was haram. The best way to rectify this is to ask for forgiveness, make amends, and do the right thing. A glass that is broken can`t be put together. Not everything can be fixed. As long as we make amends and pray for the people we have harmed, and ask forgiveness for them, we will be forgiven for it. It is easy to put a hole in the wall when we get angry, but fixing it after isn`t possible. It will never be the same again.

 

photo, develop, negatives, quote, lifeLet It Motivate You To New Goals

Some of these faults can happen from becoming blinded with hate and anger, and think that what happened to you was the fault of so and so. But there is one thing we often don`t realize. Allah is in charge of every one of us. He has our hearts in between his two fingers and can direct it to anything he wants. When he changes someone`s direction, no one can undo that. He made the entire universe, He is in charge, and the Most Wise. If and when something doesn`t go as we want, turn to Allah, because he is the turner of hearts, and can fix everything. He made the stars and the planets and the galaxy’s and all that is in it. I`m sure fixing our problem is a tiny job for Him who is All-Competent. Always turn to Allah. We need Him just as much when we are blessed as when we are deprived. Through His help our blessing is beneficial for us, and through His help we get directed to something better when we are deprived of what we want. Turn to Him always and you will find Him in front of you. And think Well of Him.

 

What We Decide Will Determine The Outcome

Sometimes Allah blesses us with something else than what we wanted, because he knew our potential. We don`t know what is best for us, because we don`t know as much as an atom compared to Allah whom is All-Knowing and All-Aware. The believer is blessed because whatever happens to him if it is something good, he thanks Allah. If what happens to him was bad according to him, he practices patience. Sometimes what happens to us looks like a disaster at the time, but Allah willing, He can turn it into something good in the following years. For instance loss of a family member, or a job or someone leaves us. We have two choices. Go around being miserable in years coming and being blind to everything that is going good and all the opportunities that are coming our way, or we can make new goals, start on a project or education that will open new doors for us. We are not in control of what happens to us, but we are in control of how we are going to react to it. Let it break us or let it motivate us towards new achievements. It is our choice. What we decide will determine the outcome.

when you plan to marry her - jannah“Life-partners should have a faithfulness towards each other that no one can challenge. Whether male or female, or a member of the family, or a person at the work, or at the mosque. In the world outside people will say and do all sorts of things of all sorts of motives; often they try to upset a happy marriage for no other reason than that it is happy – this being a form of destructive jealousy. If you know your partner fully, and know their character, then you should be able to trust implicitly that he/she would not behave in a manner that would let you down, and that if they are accused of having done this, then the accusation is false”. – A good muslim Marriage.

Marriage is not about keeping score, if you hurt me 10 times, I will hurt you 11 times, just to keep the scores right, and get back at you. If you try to get back at your spouse when they are in any way un-kind, than you have missed the point of what marriage really is. It is Allah that is keeping the score. When you are nice to your spouse, it is not your spouse that will give you the reward for that, even he /she might be better towards you. The reward will come from Allah. Even when he /she is acting impossible. If you have sabr, Allah helps and give reward. If it was all about keeping account, than that wouldn`t be called love, but just a silly game.

Marriage is also security, for both. Even if your spouse has in any way been un-kind to you, you don`t use that as an excuse to flirt with others or try to look for other “opportunities”. When you marry someone you commit yourself 100 % to that person only and no one else. No matter what obstacle comes in you way, you will strive together. I think I am talking for the husband and wife when I say that both want this security, and trust. If you don`t have a solid foundation of trust in your commitment, the building will eventually collapse.

Another thing that is quite common is that spouses correct each other in front of other people. That is a big crime, and should be avoided. We know we`re not perfect, no one is. But when you bring out your spouse faults in front of others, that person loses his face in front of others. If you need to correct your spouse do it in private, when you get the chance. That is also the only way you will see any change. Of course, it should not be left unsaid that you are doing it for unselfish reasons and not because you want to bring him/her down. Be polite and to the point without any personal agendas.

Your wife needs to know that he/she can count on you. That even if you are pissed off about something, you won`t misbehave when he/she is not around. You would try to find the best solutions to solve your differences in an Islamic manner.

Let past be past. Don`t ask questions about it. Know that if he/she didn`t love you or choose you for marriage, you wouldn`t be together now. So be confident, that he/she chose you because he/she found something in you.

Both the husband and wife should have enough self-respect that they don`t take crap. If your spouse is behaving unreasonable without any logic reason, make him/her calm, or leave the situation, if you need to calm yourself down, so that you don`t say anything you would regret later. Misunderstandings are inevitable. How you manage them, is what makes your marriage good.

“No husband or wife is perfect, but when a husband shows love and thought for his wife, and act in accordance with the principles of Islam, he will surely earn not only her love and respect, but that of Allah Himself”. – A Muslim Marriage Guide.

i love holmliaHolmlia er er en av de delene av byen hvor det er en samling av folk med forskjellige nasjonaliteter og en befolkning hvor over halvparten er under 30 år og hele 27,5 er under 15 år. Det sier seg selv at dette vil sette sitt preg på stedet. Likevel er det ikke gjort nok for disse unge menneskene. Istedet for å utvide tilbud ved ulike fritidsklubber. Er de fleste blitt stengt ned og ungdommen må ta bussen til nærmeste klubb. Dette fører til at flere ungdommer henger på “hjørner” og havner i galt miljø. Dersom det ikke blir lagd steder og aktiviteter for ungdommen er det dette som kommer til å skje. Når miljøet først blir dårlig tar det lenger tid for å gjøre om et onde til noe bra. Hvorfor ikke heller lage flere muligheter for ungdommen. Dette vil forme dem til å bli en bedre framtid for landet vi lever i. Bare siden de ikke har stemmerett betyr ikke at de ikke er verdifulle. Det er dagens ungdommers meninger som vil forme hvilken vei landet vil ta. Hvorfor ikke derfor investere i dem. Vi må ikke bare sette inn mot-tiltak når det dannes et problem, men heller sette inn positive tiltak som fremmer et bra miljø og ikke lar det på plass til å utvikle seg til å bli noe dårlig.

Check out and click on site www . Purify Your Gaze . com

https://purifyyourgaze.com/

My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

Enter your email address to follow this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Join 132 other followers

Calender

September 2019
M T W T F S S
« Apr    
 1
2345678
9101112131415
16171819202122
23242526272829
30  

Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

Når du er forent med en
du elsker, er det ingenting
du ikke klarer :)

Gode ord skaper tillit.
Gode tanker skaper
Inderlighet. God
giverglede skaper
kjærlighet:)

Mood :)

Content.