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life is a prison for the believers and a paradise for the disbelieversInstead Of Competing

In every relationship we have to balance between rights and responsibilities. We can`t keep on expecting from others without fulfilling others rights upon us. Without having knowledge of it, we will also have difficulty to deliver. Most of the first generation that came to the West only know what rights they have. Most of the second generation have understood that the first generation hasn`t fulfilled their obligations towards them. How can we know expect to have a healthy, giving relationship between the two?

Parents Have Rights and Responsebilities

It is important that children take the responsibility of caring towards their parents. Likely it is important that the parents should have understood and practiced good parenting from the start. They were to occupied with earning a living. Not understanding that buying things is not the same as spending time cultivating values in the children you have brought into this world. We can`t expect without giving in return. Prophet Muhammad pbuh has talked about the right of the parents but also the responsibility of the parents.

It Is Rare To Find Genuine People

Wanting for your brother what you want for yourself has become a rare phenomena. Mostly sibling rivalry, or jealous friends make it quite difficult to share the good things that happen in our lives. The evil eye is real. People have found a passion in competing with each other, rather than helping each other prosper. It is so rare, to find someone whom is genuine in regards of wanting the best for us.

Chose The Easiest Matter, As Long As It Was Halal

In between all this our culture is not making our lives easier either. Clashes between culture and religion, makes difficulties in our lives. People give more consideration to what people might say rather than what Islam has to say. Between two matters, Prophet Muhammad pbuh, always chose the easiest, as long as it was halal. Nowadays people have made halal difficult for people whom want to live pure, because of our self-made rules. The world is indeed a prison for the believer and a paradise for the disbeliever. May Allah help the muslims keep the deen easy. And give each other glad tidings, instead of scaring each others away from our religion. Aameen.

outward, inward, tazkiya, soul, dhikr, tawbah, ghusl, wudhu, sheikh mohammed yaqoubiIt is not un-common in the days we are living in that people are affected negatively by their community. I have noticed this from when I was younger, though the materialistic values have increased. Often children are more obsessed about what they own so they can brag to their friends, and be of those whom are admired. Is the fact that someone has something a reason to admire that person? It depends, if we are talking a pure heart, good conduct, righteous friends, good company, good values, than I won`t disagree at all. Unfortunately what people rather admire is the fancy house, new cars, new fancy clothing, numbers of followers or friends etc. When in fact these things doesn`t say anything about the person’s real treasure.

It Is Not illegal To Be Rich

People are competing in a race where there is no goal. The development of technology in the world is increasing so rapidly that even if you have a Ipad 5 today, in a few months 7 or 8 will be out in the shops. We can`t keep up with this race without losing what is really important; our values. What is important is not how big your house or car is, but rather your values as a person and how close you are to Allah. It`s not illegal to be rich, but with it comes a lot of responsibility. In fact, the people whom have the most money will be the people whom will be questioned about where they used it. Alhamdolillah, tabarakAllah, my point is not that we sell everything we own, to live a simple life. It is mear to point out that just because you are rich, doesn`t mean that you can`t have the right values. In other words, focus on what is important, your values, your character and conduct. Your life and your hereafter.

Compete In Cultivating Right Values

Instead of competing in number of kids and size of house and number of cars, compete in cultivate the right values in your children and family, so that no matter how much you are blessed you will always remember the sacrifices our previous predessors made for us to be where we are now.  Not only that, but your family will appreciate the blessings more when they realize that it could have been given to others. When in fact they know the suffering of children around the globe. They would most probably like some children, join other friends and collect money for them, with what they can do. By selling lemonade and mum-made cakes, early in their life they will realize what is important. Everyone has a right to have a good life and food and water and home and security. Though because the worlds treasures are not equally divided between people, some have more than others. It doesn`t necessarily mean that they deserve what they get. They are being tested by Allah for what they are doing with what they have. At the same time it will keep our feet on the ground, when we realize that all of this is not given for our joy. The test of ease and the test of difficulty. Some people are tested by given a gift, others are tested by witholding a gift from them. Allah knows how much patience people without the basics in life, has to go through, of troubles that might be the reason why they will go to Paradise, years before the rich muslims. Abu Bakr Siddiq raa gave away everything he owned before he died. He didn`t even leave anything for his children, just to be amongst those people that will be entitled to go to Paradise first. SubhanAllah what a determination.

The Inside The Same As The Outside

In the time of Islam and the years after, people were more worried about the qualities in them that were not seen on the outside, their clothing and what they own. Nowadays people are more worried about if their clothing is matching their shoes or hijab, or for men if they have the right amount of beard, with the right new trendy clothing. Gotta look smart. If we put just as much effort in cleaning our souls, and our hearts, as we do in keeping ourself looking awesome, than maybe our inner and outer self would be the same. If we won`t do that than it might happen that our outer self looks better than our inner self. For people with the right values, their goal is that their inner self is better than the outer self or at least just as good. To keep their sincerity and intention correct they do as much they can in secrecy, to avoid show-off in their deeds. Whereas most of us are those who share the smallest achievement in regards of ibaadah, when in fact a simple evil-eye-affect can reverse it for us.

It Is A Worldwide Muslim Issue

I see people being consumed in things that aren`t good for their hereafter, and I feel so helpless because I don`t know what to do or how to help them. I`m no expert and not even close to what experts in this field could help us with. All I know is that mosques need to talk about so many topics in their gatherings with sisters and brothers and youth that needs to be dealt with asap. Or else we are in hands of our own destruction. This is a worldwide problem everywhere were there are muslims. May Allah preserve us and help us and guide us and give us a heart that accepts guidance. Aameen summae aameen.

strong, brain, excersise, trening, hjernen  (1)Can you imagine that sometimes when you speak with your friends, you`re giving away your good deeds to those you don`t like. If that wasn`t enough you are also receiving their bad deeds in your account. The worst deal we can ever make is to backbite others, and that is what this comes from.

 

What To Socialize About?

Have you ever seen people whom likes to tell stories, without any friends? I certainly have not. People like to be with others whom is good at telling stories. Doesn`t matter if they are true or not, as long as they are funny and entertaining. Have you thought of if people would stop backbiting if we didn`t lend them our ears. If no one would want to listen to stories because they would know that more than 50% of it could be all made by assumptions, and give them a deaf ear, they`d immediately stop. People need something to talk about and socialize about. I like the quote : “Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people” – Eleanor Roosevelt. If we think that we have great minds, why do we than degrade ourselves by discussing people? If we used more time discussing ideas, we`d might certainly find more solutions to our issues.

 

Our Perception Is Coloured By Our Values

What we talk about says something about who we are and is coloured by our perception of matters. Two friends are in a coffee shop drinking coffee while they see something strange happening. Because of their individual perception, they will speak and understand what they saw differently. They have invisible glasses on them that are made by their values. So even if they tell the story about this incident to two different people, chances are they won`t match. And if those two people they talked to are friends and somehow discuss what they told them, they will see how different they understood it, and how it is coloured with their point of view.

 

whoever gossips with you, will gossip about youPeople Like The Juicy / Funny Stories

Ancient historical happenings aren`t as interesting as the juicy and funny stories about their friends party the other day. Can you guarantee that a storyteller hasn`t told a lie? People like to listen to that which makes them feel good about themselves. What can possibly make them feel better than seeing someone they dislike, struggling in something. Prophet Muhammad pbuh has said that being happy when some people are afflicted with a calamity, can be difficult for them. Allah can save those afflicted with the calamity and make it a blessing for them and afflict those who laughed, with the same or something similar, that the other was saved from. So never be happy in others misfortunes. No muslim is allowed to make fun of or laugh of other fellow muslims or call them by offensive nicknames, Surah Hujraat. Seriously, today, do you know someone whom hasn`t laughed at another fellow muslim once, in a day. Yes we call ourselves muslims, but we are sometimes far from the manners it teaches. May Allah guide us.

 


Rasollallah Wants To See The Whole Ummah In Paradise

Another story which is connected to backbiting is something mostly girls/women do a lot; make allies. When couple of friends doesn`t like one person in the click, they can easily, fill their friends with hatred about them. She said, this and that about you, which could have been said but the intention for saying something and what it meant could have been 180 degrees opposite. Winning friends by fueling each other with hatred about each other, is not uncommon amongst girls/women. Jealousy kicks in once in a while and they don`t like that others succeed. Bringing others down won`t make you look better. Those who help other when they are down to achieve a similar success are the truly succesful people. Jannah is for all, right. If you don`t share your success stories with your surroundings in case they succeed more than you, your jealousy would eat up your good deeds. Imagine you tell something good to someone, and they perfect it more than you. One thought could lead to jealousy and the other to gratefulness. The gratefulness would come of the fact that every good deed that person does will be added to your account of deeds, just because you directed them to it. So all in all, being good can never be a loss. We should strive to become better than what we are today, recognizing our own potential. Our goal is not to be better than someone else at the mosque or any other event. Sallallaho wasallam wants to see all of his Ummah in Paradise. So if someone err, you can be a gentle reminder or at least, don`t be the reason others fail.

 

gossip1You Will Gain Only Good From It

A sunnah that can be revived is making excuses for your brother when you don`t know the whole story. If you hear something from someone regarding any matter, don`t think of it as the ultimate truth. One can draw a parallel to the mother of the believers, Ayesha raa. She was seen with another person and was left behind because of the necklace that she had lost on the way. When people saw here, they starting making all these tales about her. They only spoke about what they saw, but didn`t know the reasons behind. Allah proved her innocence in the Quran. Things aren`t always as they seem. Sometimes our own perception colours our glasses, but isn`t the entirely truth. That is why it is so important to have goodwill for our brothers and sisters in Islam. Whenever someone backbites anyone, make excuses, because we don`t know whether the backbiter is true or not or if he has made a tale out of assumptions. Think good of others. Give the backbiters a deaf ear. Next time they have something to tell, they won`t come to you. The thing is, it won`t be your loss. You will gain only good from it. Only when people will stop listening to backbiting, the vicious circle of blabbering mouths, would also stop. The punishment for the sin of the mouth is severe. A person can fall very deep into hell just because of some word he/she utters, or be given a higher status in Jannah because of something good he/she says. “The world will not be destroyed by those who do evil, but those who watch them without doing anything”.

jannah, paradise, hold hand, finally we are here, spouse, marriage, coupleMarriage is a serious bond between a husband and a wife, and one should be ready for it before we commit ourselves to it. Often we see that people who come to a certain age want to get married. Most often they haven`t thought well enough about the reasons behind their decision. Marriage is not only a way of having halal intimacy. Marriage is about a companionship where the spouses support each other through tough and good times, where their aim is to achieve Jannah and spend their eternity there together. It is a means for having righteous offspring that will work for the betterment of their society in both religious and social matters. Children that one day will become good contributors to their environment, and send good deeds to their parents way after they have left the world to the next and be those that Rasollallah pbuh will say that they will go to Jannah.

 

Compete in matters for a better Hereafter

It is important that men whom want to commit themselves understand the fact that they are the ones whom has the overall financial responsibility. Even if their wife has an income, she is not obliged to spend any of it on the family. And being ready for children. Their upbringing is just as much the father’s responsibility as the mother. We need to understand that some people whom aren`t even ready for kids get a bunch of them, and some people whom are eager to get children, might not get as much or maybe not even one. Rizk is not in our hands. Rizk is in Allah`s hands. He is trying us through it. Some people are tested through difficulties, others are tested through ease. There shouldn`t be any competition between couples that others have four kids so we need to beat them to it and have one more. The society has become such a difficult place to be. We are competing in things that doesn`t matter rather than the few points that matter the most. Lets compete in doing good deeds, lets compete in having righteous children rather than many, lets compete in learning more of the deen, not to show off, but to make others also want to become muslims or better people than they were before, let’s try to be better people than we were yesterday, or the minute before now. Improvement not to make us feel superior but to achieve Jannah and help others on the way.

 

Things money can`t buy

After marriage the most important thing wife would want is your time. That means that you cannot whenever you prefer it, go out with your friends. You need to give your wife your time. It is not enough to just be the provider. Both the wife and the husband feels loved in different ways with different love language. You will have to learn that from the start. You can read more of that here : 5 Love Languages In Marriage.  We can`t either expect that the spouses will be in-love all the time. They will have disagreements and quarrels. How they handle them will determine what the future of their marriage is. That is why it is important to know how your apology will be accepted by your spouse. You can read that here : Do you know the art of apologizing?

 

Be there in good and bad times

The family and the parents of the fiancée must be certain that the couple is ready for marriage. It is not like a sale, where you have money-back guarantees within three months. When we first do commit, we should do it with the intention that we are going to Jannah together. Trust is essential. If one of the spouses always has the backdoor open and threatens with leaving whenever they face any difficulty than that person wasn`t ready for the bond. When one commits one does that in hope for being there for each other in good and bad times supporting and inspiring and motivating each other to become better people for forever. Anything less than that should not be accepted. If your goal is Jannah you will choose a righteous spouse. When we first do commit, we should give it a 100%.

 

Make marriages affordable

Expensive marriages should not be encouraged. Like in all other matters of life, there is also competition in having the most expensive marriage. If fla fla person has a marriage in a ship another has to have a degree more expensive so they choose an airplane. The more expensive the marriage the more it has to be delayed, wich will cause more fear of fitnah. Keep it simple and affordable. Less tension and less troubles and more joy. Let the couple rather save some of their money on their life after marriage than becoming bankrupt after marriage. The simpler the marriage is the more barakah/blessings the couple will derive from it. In the Prophet pbuh`s time there were a few sahabis whom didn`t have any money to give the mehr. Once Rasollallah pbuh said to one such person that he can use his knowledge as mehr. So even that didn`t make Rasollallah pbuh stop him from getting married. Rizk is in Allah`s hand. One day we have a lot, other times we have little. There is no guarantee that a rich person doesn`t become poor in one day or a poor person becomes rich in one day. Allah decides. Since we will be tested in both ease and difficulty, we need to overlook this and give more attention to righteousness of the spouse. If the spouse fears Allah, he/she will treat you right no matter what, because he/she knows that he/she will be answerable to Allah for it on Judgement Day. May Allah increase the barakah in every marriage and make every marriage easy for the people concerned, grant them contentment and re-unite every couple in Jannah/Paradise. Ameen summa ameen.

If you want to compete, compete about those things that matters. Not only in your life but also in your Hereafter. Ready, set, go!

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  1. Instead of competing about things in dunya, compete about ranks in the Hereafter.
  2. Instead of making apparent others faults, conceal them, so that Allah will conceal your faults on Judgement Day, when it matters the most.
  3. Instead of beautifying your looks, improve your character, because in the end, your looks  won`t do you any good if your character isn`t well.
  4. Instead of competing about having a lot of kids, compete in teaching them good values, so that they become good people and great contributors to the society.
  5. Instead of competing about having the biggest salary, compete about having sakina in your life.
  6. Instead of bragging about how many friends you have, compete for the friends that matters, those that will join you in Jannah and help you gain it.
  7. Instead of making a show of your good deeds, make sure you have become a better person than what you were yesterday, or just the other minute.
  8. Instead of bringing others down because of envy/jealousy, try to make see the beautiful things in your own life, because we all have good things in our life.
  9. Instead of competing about having the biggest house or a brand new car, compete about attaining a house in Jannah that is close to Prophet Muhammad pbuh.
  10. Instead of competing about buying the most expensive gifts, compete about giving those things that gives the greatest impact on others life, things money can`t buy, like good values, time, knowledge that will benefit, support in bad times and righteous company.
  11. Instead of bragging about your good deeds, be afraid of the fact whether they are accepted or not, may Allah give us barakah in our lives.
  12. Instead of pointing fingers and questioning others` intention, think good thoughts about your brothers and sisters in Islam. Let your life be an inspiration, and leave the judging to Allah.
  13. When racing about doing the most ibaadah, remember that you also have a responsibility to your family, friends, relatives. In order to please Allah, make sure you don`t neglect them. We will be questioned about that also.
May Allah accept our good deeds, forgive us our faults, give us barakah in our life and join us with the righteous in this life and the Hereafter. Ameen summa ameen.

 

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an ideaEvery change starts with one person having an idea. He shares the idea with likeminded people, they develop it into something amazing and make a change. Either if it is in their personal, proffessional or business life, that is what it takes. One person whom believes in himself and loved ones that believes in his ideas, determination to give it all he`s got.

 

Believe in yourself

We have to believe in the fact that one person can make a change. If he starts with himself and with the help of Allah what is it that a person can`t do? People who accomplishes great business or somewhat success in work or personal life are those that are stubborn enough to not let any setback let them give up. They try a different approach every time they fall, which brings them one step nearer to their goal.

 

Experience comes from making mistakes

We learn by experience from making mistakes and that experience over time develops into wisdom. When we have somewhat wisdom, we know how to handle a situation and are better equipped to handle the circumstances in our life no matter how difficult they may seem. That is why we shouldn`t curse the fall or the setback, because it can actually be the reason why we succeed in something later in life.

 

Believe in your ideas

Yes we have to believe in our ideas, but at the same time, don`t start flying whenever you come up with something new. Sometimes it is quite important to do the necessary research if some other person is already working on a improwed version of what you came up with. It`s important that we calculate whether we have competition and the chances for us to succeed instead of them.

 

The world may not be ready for it

Another thing is that we can have a great idea which in itself can be brilliant for a great group of people. But maybe those people aren`t ready to accept it yet. Like we all have heard about a lot of people who where not succesful in their lifetime. Though after their death, their ideas were apppreciated and people further developed them into something amazing and they become known for it.

 

Hard work pays off

Nothing comes easy in life. We have to work hard to succeed. There is no shortcut to success, everyone has to take the stairs, one step at a time. As long as we don`t let setbacks decrease our determination and work hard for what we believe in, there is a big chance for success. Though we should also know that people whom are succesful are also envied by others whom aren`t as blessed as them. So we should try to not share all our victories with everyone. There might be someone there whom would love to do anything to be in our place. Make supplication and believe that Allah is the only One whom can make it easy for you. May Allah help and bless everyone. Ameen summa ameen.

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“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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