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outward, inward, tazkiya, soul, dhikr, tawbah, ghusl, wudhu, sheikh mohammed yaqoubiIt is not un-common in the days we are living in that people are affected negatively by their community. I have noticed this from when I was younger, though the materialistic values have increased. Often children are more obsessed about what they own so they can brag to their friends, and be of those whom are admired. Is the fact that someone has something a reason to admire that person? It depends, if we are talking a pure heart, good conduct, righteous friends, good company, good values, than I won`t disagree at all. Unfortunately what people rather admire is the fancy house, new cars, new fancy clothing, numbers of followers or friends etc. When in fact these things doesn`t say anything about the person’s real treasure.

It Is Not illegal To Be Rich

People are competing in a race where there is no goal. The development of technology in the world is increasing so rapidly that even if you have a Ipad 5 today, in a few months 7 or 8 will be out in the shops. We can`t keep up with this race without losing what is really important; our values. What is important is not how big your house or car is, but rather your values as a person and how close you are to Allah. It`s not illegal to be rich, but with it comes a lot of responsibility. In fact, the people whom have the most money will be the people whom will be questioned about where they used it. Alhamdolillah, tabarakAllah, my point is not that we sell everything we own, to live a simple life. It is mear to point out that just because you are rich, doesn`t mean that you can`t have the right values. In other words, focus on what is important, your values, your character and conduct. Your life and your hereafter.

Compete In Cultivating Right Values

Instead of competing in number of kids and size of house and number of cars, compete in cultivate the right values in your children and family, so that no matter how much you are blessed you will always remember the sacrifices our previous predessors made for us to be where we are now.  Not only that, but your family will appreciate the blessings more when they realize that it could have been given to others. When in fact they know the suffering of children around the globe. They would most probably like some children, join other friends and collect money for them, with what they can do. By selling lemonade and mum-made cakes, early in their life they will realize what is important. Everyone has a right to have a good life and food and water and home and security. Though because the worlds treasures are not equally divided between people, some have more than others. It doesn`t necessarily mean that they deserve what they get. They are being tested by Allah for what they are doing with what they have. At the same time it will keep our feet on the ground, when we realize that all of this is not given for our joy. The test of ease and the test of difficulty. Some people are tested by given a gift, others are tested by witholding a gift from them. Allah knows how much patience people without the basics in life, has to go through, of troubles that might be the reason why they will go to Paradise, years before the rich muslims. Abu Bakr Siddiq raa gave away everything he owned before he died. He didn`t even leave anything for his children, just to be amongst those people that will be entitled to go to Paradise first. SubhanAllah what a determination.

The Inside The Same As The Outside

In the time of Islam and the years after, people were more worried about the qualities in them that were not seen on the outside, their clothing and what they own. Nowadays people are more worried about if their clothing is matching their shoes or hijab, or for men if they have the right amount of beard, with the right new trendy clothing. Gotta look smart. If we put just as much effort in cleaning our souls, and our hearts, as we do in keeping ourself looking awesome, than maybe our inner and outer self would be the same. If we won`t do that than it might happen that our outer self looks better than our inner self. For people with the right values, their goal is that their inner self is better than the outer self or at least just as good. To keep their sincerity and intention correct they do as much they can in secrecy, to avoid show-off in their deeds. Whereas most of us are those who share the smallest achievement in regards of ibaadah, when in fact a simple evil-eye-affect can reverse it for us.

It Is A Worldwide Muslim Issue

I see people being consumed in things that aren`t good for their hereafter, and I feel so helpless because I don`t know what to do or how to help them. I`m no expert and not even close to what experts in this field could help us with. All I know is that mosques need to talk about so many topics in their gatherings with sisters and brothers and youth that needs to be dealt with asap. Or else we are in hands of our own destruction. This is a worldwide problem everywhere were there are muslims. May Allah preserve us and help us and guide us and give us a heart that accepts guidance. Aameen summae aameen.

siblings, brother, sister, sur, little brotherHaving children is a great blessing for parents. To pass on the legacy of Islam to another generation that will live Islam. Often both parents prefer sons over daughters. Mainly because they think that they will be the most supportive because they become providers too. They have forgotten that Prophet Muhammad pbuh`s legacy was passed on by his daughter Fatima raa.

 

Pray For Piousness

Parents shouldn`t focus on the gender of the child, but rather praying for it to be a good muslim/muslimah. Praying for pious children even before marriage shows that you are responsible and worried about their Hereafter. Instead of competing in numbers or a specific gender, rather be motivated to increase the quality of upbringing. We don`t always know whether a son will be more valuable than a daughter. Allah is going to send tribulations through our sustenance. We will meet both difficulties and ease. Thinking that those who have daughters are less blessed is wrong. Most parents realize later in life that daughters are a greater blessing. Mostly because of their softheartedness and emotional intelligence they take better care of their family/parents, compared to their sons.

 

Practice Equality In Giving

Often people with children from both genders, prefer the son more than the daughter. Prophet Muhammad pbuh was once sitting with some sahaba when one sahabi`s daughter came and she seated herself beside him. A while after his son came, he kissed him and let him sit on the lap. When the Prophet pbuh saw this he said that we can`t treat our children differently, but they should be treated equally. If you give a gift to one, the gift has to be given the other siblings. If not they will be questioned about that on the Day of Judgement. When Fatima raa visited Prophet Muhammad pbuh, he pbuh would kiss her hand and let her have his pbuh seat. She would return the gesture to him pbuh, when he pbuh visited her. He pbuh was also helpful in the house. Even if times have changes some men doesn`t help as much as they should. Learning about the sunnah might motivate men to do more.

 

When Allah withholds A Gift

It is Allah whom chooses sons for some and daughter for others. We can`t complain to Him and question His Wisdom behind the decision. Whatever Allah gives us, be grateful in good times and show patience in difficult times. There will be both. The happiest people are those who are content with the little they are blessed with. Being happy with the decree of Allah shows our dependency and trust in Him. He is the one in Control. We can draw a comparison through the lesson where a child is in his mother’s lap and wants to touch the fire. The mother knows that if he touches the fire, he will burn himself. The child doesn`t know that. The mother because of the love for her child, will keep him away from the fire. It is the same with every blessing. Sometimes Allah withholds something from us because He think something can hurt us through it. Other time He withholds to give us a bigger gift or to purify us and raise our status before we are given a gift.

 

Every Child Is Precious

Be fair to your children and express your love to them often.  Make them feel loved, so they are not misled by people. Fill their bucket of confidence. Don`t hesitate to motivate them when they are down, or gently correct them when they need to be advised. Teach them good values to make them a contribute for the Ummah and their community. Through your efforts in their early years they can be a sadqah jariyah for you. Most of all treat them equally. Sibling rivalry can easily be controlled if the parents are fair between them and each child gets quality time alone with parents, so they don`t feel neglected. The other siblings won`t get jealous of the love they are giving. Gently advising them privately is the best way of getting any changes in their behaviour that can be improved for the future.

 

every kid childParents with children in the West are experiencing some issues on how to rebuke them to prevent them from coming in bad company. Issues like gambling, drinking, sex, one-gender-relationships, and free mixing is making the parent’s life tougher. We are all agreed on the fact that we muslims have some different values concerning these issues mentioned above. How can we as muslims prevent that our children fall into these traps. Parents are worried. The childcare organisations are on their neck to watch them whether they make one small mistake and they are so on their case for years. What can we do about this? We need to find ways of rebuking children in manner that does not collide with the West`s ideologi, but also something that works.

I know one time when I was a child, me and my friends once decided to “borrow” apples from the neighbour without them knowing it. Because of the thrill around it, not that we didn`t have it ourselves. I have done this once, and I got caught, and alhamdolillah, that made me stay away from it forever after. One of us, that was very strong, said no to going with us, told some other kids in the neighbourhood. We were caught red-handed. The parent of the owner of the tree came and rebuked us with very harsh words. No need to say, I never did that again.

The thing about parents disciplining their children is a very delicate matter in the West. Just one slap, can make them get reported to the childcare system. The worse part is that children are taught this at the school, and are really mis-using it to get their will with their parents. Not knowing that they are actually destroying their own life.

We need to prevent parents from ending up in the list of the childcare system. We can only do that by teaching them how to rebuke / discipline their children in a way that doesn`t go against the rules of the government. They need to teach them how to use incentives like carrot for good deeds and taking away some of their belongings for bad deeds. An example, you want your child to do their homework and get great grades. You say, If you show me that you manage to do well at school, I will give you XYZ in the end of the school year, or after one semester – the carrot. If you want to discipline them for coming to late one evening, without telling where they were, you can say, so now you have lost your, internet, phone, tv etc for day/week/month, depending of the seriousness of the action.

These incentives do wonders. But make sure you are not too nice or to tough. Also in this matter the middle path is best. Like good cop, bad cop. You don`t want them to run away, but you want them to obey the rules of Allah and the rules of the family.

Another thing is that sometimes things goes so out of hand, parents get enraged about something the child has done, and may slap him/her etc. The first thing the child would think of is, i will rapport it. The best thing is to avoid it. But believe me also the native Norwegians slap their kids and are not perfect parents. But we asian gets reported more easily because we have a more islamic approach towards life, and they are not that fond of Islam and our values. Who hasn`t ever slapped their child? There is a difference in one simple slap and beating them so that they become hurt. Remember that this is not the sunnah of our Prophet pbuh. He never hit or was angry at anyone ever. If you are a good muslim, and want your children to also be good, we need to implement the sunnah in our lives. Use the incentives carrot and discipline and in sha Allah, your children will be obedient and turn out well. Ameen.

Know that we are brown and wear different clothes than the natives. We stick out in a crowd no matter what we wear. We are not like them. But we also have faults. Most of us don`t know other disciplinary forms other than the desi type we have learned from back home. Un-learn them. They don`t work on children growing up in this society. It would only make them stronger in disobedience. If you keep on beating a kid over and over again, one day will come, that child we become strong enough to take your hand and say, beat again mum / dad. Or beat my as much as you want, but I`m doing as I want to. So you see that is not helping you, and it is certainly not helping the child who is your diamond of heart. If you truly love your children, and I`m sure parents can make wrong decisions but they never stop loving their children, than you would do what makes them become good and don`t become the means to chasing them in the arms of the wrong group of people.

Whereas love can move mountains, hate can misguide. So be wise. Be strict and loving. Never stop showing them or telling them that you love them. Not by buying them things. But by spending time with them. Talks and games and teaching them Islam. They are your amanah, and you will be questioned as to how you raised them. They are hungry for love. If their parents don`t give them enough, they will try to find it in the wrong places. We don`t want that to happen. We don`t want them to stray. This Ummah is one body, help each other and Allah will help you. May Allah help parents in raising their children and make every child obedient to Allah. Ameen summa ameen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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