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brotherhood1There is a lot of malice and hatred between muslims of different madhabs. A lot of people in social media use more time in explaining why some brother from another madhabs is wrong in something instead of giving isla or dawa in general stuff people lack. Instead of strengthening the bond of brotherhood in Islam, we are having some serious issues of unity. We are fighting each other instead of being together against our enemies. The non-muslims are taking advantage of this and putting oil to the fire, and we behaving like puppies. We don`t understand that we are hurting only ourselves.

 

The Ummah Needs Unity

Without unity how are we able to cope with the difficulties the Ummah is facing today? Rather than correcting each others madhabs aalims why can`t we talk about those things that we agree about? There will always be some differences, that doesn`t mean that we should not be able to co-operate. We can rather look at the benefit our cooperation can help the Ummah whom is in a very difficult time. We need to show mercy to each other, and help each other when any of us falls.

 

Trust Is Diminishing

I listen to story`s from my parents that things were different before. Nowadays we have difficulties trusting even our own family, than how on earth will we be able to trust someone from outside, muslim or not. There is a hadith from the Messenger of Allah pbuh that there will come a time that when the muslims will start to fight each other, than Allah will not help them. Isn`t that what has happened. Our Ummah is bleeding on different places and we are not helping or caring for each other. Greed, jealousy, animosity, envy, hatred, backbiting, pride, bitterness is ruining us.

 

Deen Is Easy Don`t Make It Difficult

The Messenger of Allah pbuh said, that if one brother proposes to a woman, than the other brother is not allowed to propose to the same girl, until one of them turns down the proposal. Nowadays, sending a proposal is one thing, but people are deliberately putting hurdles in the way of other to get married, making troubles for them, that could lead them to haram consequences. If one person turns down a proposal, the people whom were denied put hurdles in the person’s life so that they`ll regret that they ever did that. Even if they later are not interested, but just so that those whom are more blessed than them gets turned down. What is their fault? They came in their way? They forgot the fact that our hearts are in the hands of Allah and he turns them wherever he wants. If you sincerely want something turn to Allah, instead of the creation. Using haram tactics to win, will not give any barakah in the marriage, but rather cause trouble. To win has become more important than the goal. People don`t think about whether they use halal or haram ways to achieve their goal. Belittling other and putting hurdles in their way so that they lose has become common.

i am to busy working on my own grass to notice if yours is greener

 

Water Your Own Grass 

What has come to the world, when a brother or sister in Islam can`t swallow the fact that some people are a tad more blessed than them. So instead of watering their own grass, they put hurdles in others life. It has become a crime to be succesful. Why can`t we instead try to water our own grass, before we complain that others grass is more greener?

 

 

The Best Of Us Are Those With Highest Taqwa

Muslims with different colors and ethnicities are hating each other because they feel that they are better than the other because of their heritage, color etc. Isn`t that one of the things our Messenger pbuh fought to diminish. He said that no one is better than another no matter what their wealth, position, color or ethnicity is. If one of them are better than the other it is the one with the best taqwa / godfear that has the highest status. Haven`t we often seen that people with lesser positions in dunya, for instance someone whom is a cleaner, leads the salah, where people whom are wealthy is praying behind him. That is because the cleaner is with more knowledge of the deen than those in prayer behind him. Or the fact that everyone in prayer,  no matter what status they have in dunya are standing beside each other in prayer. No one is ahead of anyone else, except for the Imam. We are all going into the same place in graveyard no matter how much wealth we collect. We have definitely forgotten the teachings of our Prophet pbuh when some people are behaving superior of others.

 

Preferring Beauty Over Deen

Isn`t it a shame that people with good deen but not the best beauty have difficulty in getting married. People give preference to insignificant matters when they are looking for a spouse. The browner you are, the less proposals you get. Shouldn`t our first priority be to check if the deen is ok? How on earth will a man be able to lead his family in Islam, if he doesn`t know even the basics of Islam. How on earth is a woman going to be a good wife, if she doesn`t give any importance to Islam in her life.

 

What is our solution?

  1. Like the Messenger of Allah pbuh has said, wish for your brother what you wish for yourself.
  2. If he is blessed in one thing, you might be blessed in something he lacks. We are all blessed differently, try to count your blessings when you see others are doing better than you.
  3. In deen look at those better than you, in dunya look at those below you.
  4. Remember: with every blessing there are also difficulties, with every difficulty there are also blessings.
  5. Instead of becoming jealous or envious of others, water your own grass, and see that the fruit of hard labour does give results.
  6. If you fall back at start, remember there must have been some lesson in the game of life you didn`t learn what you needed to learn to reach to the goal. So life threw you back to start, to teach it to you.
  7. Look at what we have in common instead of what differs us. Our goal should be to better the condition of the Ummah. That is not one-man-job. We can only do that if we unite and help each other instead of throwing stones at each other. The youth can become lost while we are discussing petty differences, that doesn`t mean anything in the long run.
  8. Look for deen rather than beauty. People with good character becomes more and more beautiful as the years pass by, regardless of their physical appearance. If you both are on deen, there is much chance you will re-unite in Paradise. Shouldn`t that be our ultimate goal?
  9. Learning from others`s mistakes is intelligence. That is a great way to raise the status and condition of the Ummah from generation to generation.

We need to check ourselves before Allah does it. May Allah help us perfect and complete our light and strengthen our brotherhood and guide the Ummah to do good in all our endeavors. Ameen summa ameen

If you want to compete, compete about those things that matters. Not only in your life but also in your Hereafter. Ready, set, go!

starting line, race, competition

  1. Instead of competing about things in dunya, compete about ranks in the Hereafter.
  2. Instead of making apparent others faults, conceal them, so that Allah will conceal your faults on Judgement Day, when it matters the most.
  3. Instead of beautifying your looks, improve your character, because in the end, your looks  won`t do you any good if your character isn`t well.
  4. Instead of competing about having a lot of kids, compete in teaching them good values, so that they become good people and great contributors to the society.
  5. Instead of competing about having the biggest salary, compete about having sakina in your life.
  6. Instead of bragging about how many friends you have, compete for the friends that matters, those that will join you in Jannah and help you gain it.
  7. Instead of making a show of your good deeds, make sure you have become a better person than what you were yesterday, or just the other minute.
  8. Instead of bringing others down because of envy/jealousy, try to make see the beautiful things in your own life, because we all have good things in our life.
  9. Instead of competing about having the biggest house or a brand new car, compete about attaining a house in Jannah that is close to Prophet Muhammad pbuh.
  10. Instead of competing about buying the most expensive gifts, compete about giving those things that gives the greatest impact on others life, things money can`t buy, like good values, time, knowledge that will benefit, support in bad times and righteous company.
  11. Instead of bragging about your good deeds, be afraid of the fact whether they are accepted or not, may Allah give us barakah in our lives.
  12. Instead of pointing fingers and questioning others` intention, think good thoughts about your brothers and sisters in Islam. Let your life be an inspiration, and leave the judging to Allah.
  13. When racing about doing the most ibaadah, remember that you also have a responsibility to your family, friends, relatives. In order to please Allah, make sure you don`t neglect them. We will be questioned about that also.
May Allah accept our good deeds, forgive us our faults, give us barakah in our life and join us with the righteous in this life and the Hereafter. Ameen summa ameen.

 

race, finish line, win, athletics

Each and every person of this world has some time in their life done something not that good, that they have regretted doing afterwards. Be it in their childhood, teens or adulthood or any other time in their life. I guess every muslim that wants to achieve Jannah, wants to be forgiven, so that the way to Jannah becomes easier to achieve.

A lot of muslims can very often be quite cruel to other fellow muslims. If they one time in their life have made a mistake, they will start reminding that person about it, every they dislike something he/she does. We are so awful in keeping things against others. What we don`t know is that person might have asked Allah for forgiveness for that mistake and might have been forgiven, and here we are reminding him/her of his/her shortcomings. Every person has some qualities in them that they can improve. What we need to do is not to give others that hard of a time, that makes them go further away from the deen instead of coming nearer. We should try our best to not hold grudges against others` and maybe Allah will forgive us also.

Some people whom has these kinds of grudges sometimes, to make things worse for the other person they dislike, would publicize their previous mistakes, to somehow get even with them. What they don`t know is that they are losing the battle in the sight of Allah. How is that? If they keep on publicizing others fault to get even, Allah will publicize all their faults on judgement Day in front of all the creatures of Allah. If Allah won`t help them then, then no one would. The people who fears Allah would try to conceal others faults so that Allah would conceal and forgive them their faults on Judgement day. After all Jannah is our goal, so why not strive for it in the best manners in the way of our beloved prophet Muhammad (pbuh)`s way?

Why are you publicizing others fault? Is it to make them inferior of you, because they might be a tad more succesful then you? Are you jealous of them in any way? Do you think that quality would bring you closer to Allah or ruin all your good deeds that you have done in your life. Try for once to be happy for other, try to forgive others their faults. I know when we do a mistake, we ask Allah to forgive us, and want it to happen soon, yet we hold grudges against other fellow beings for a long time and don`t forgive them, even if they once in their life have apologized to us for the mistake. I guess, what we need in our life is to have som mercy to other fellow beings, and I mean each and every person because a lot of people are doing these kinds of mistakes in their life.

What you would achieve the most from is by forgiving others if they one way or the other have done some wrong to you. Repel evil with good and see how Allah will fix everything in your life. The result of repelling evil with evil can be nothing more than failure in this world and the Hereafter. What greater loss will a person have in exchange for that?
May Allah help each and every person to forgive others and forgive us all our mistakes in life and give us Jannah for the Hereafter. Ameen summa ameen.

Duas prayers med tekstThere are so many times we pray for something, though it is not always accepted by Allah. It is mentioned in a Hadith that after our death when our deeds will be weighted, our prayers/duas will be weighed also. The duas/prayers that wasn`t answered in our life will give us plenty of heavy good deeds. Allah will make us so happy, that at that moment we would wish for that none of our prayers should have been accepted as the bounty we will receive from it in the Hereafter.

It is very important that we, after our salah, take out time for dua. Allah does not like the person that does not make dua to him. In case some of your prayers haven`t been answered they way you want it to shouldn`t prevent you from making lots of dua. Because we don`t know what is good for us. All our prayers are answered some way or the other. It is just we who complain because we don`t know better. Allah has three ways of answering our prayer; 1. We don`t get what we asked for, but get something better instead. 2. We get what we asked for in this world and the hereafter. 3. We don`t get what we asked for but Allah protects us from a big calamity.

If we look at this three ways, we could ponder over the fact that if the things that didn`t happen before in my life, I wouldn`t have been where I am today. Isn`t it incredible. Sometimes we can`t see it but Allah is fixing everything for us.

There are some “tools” of having your prayers/duas accepted by Allah:

  1. First of all try your out most to not eat something that is haram. Make sure everything you eat doesn`t contain any gelatine from swine or other animals that are slaughtered un-islamicly.
  2. Ask for forgiveness before you ask Allah of something. Admit Him your faults and ask for sincere forgiveness and then ask Allah what you want. That is the way of the Prophet`s as well.
  3. Earn your money the halal way, by halal work.
  4. The prayer that we ask for our muslim brother and sister in her absence will be accepted. An angel by our side will say: “and may you have something similar”. So try to pray for the whole Ummah in your duas/prayers.
  5. Don`t have any grudges with your loved ones from more than three days as your deeds would not be accepted if you don`t mend your ways.
  6. In the start of the dua/prayer praise Allah, then send durood/blessings on our last Prophet, the dua you will ask preceding this will be accepted.
  7. Ask a lot of dua in the sujood, in any language you know, it doesn`t have to be in arabic, it could be in your own language as well. You are the closest one can be to Allah in the sujood, so remember to make lots of dua then.
  8. Know what you are saying in the prayer, when we pray with full concentration in our prayer especially when we pray surah fatiha, our prayers will be accepted. Allah answers the whole surah fatiha ayat by ayat, and at the end Allah says, “and my slave shall have what he asks for”.
  9. Be patient. Find comfort and joy in your prayers. If Allah doesn`t answer your prayer right away don`t say that He didn`t answer your prayer and you prayed so much for one thing. Only Allah knows when He is going to grant you your wishes. Pray that it happens soon.
  10. On fridays at the Jumu`ah prayer at the Mosque the dua/prayer between the Adhaan and the Iqamah, is answered.
  11. On fridays 1 hour before the Magribh prayer that is the auspicious time when prayers are, in sha Allah answered, make lots of dua at that time.
  12. Be thankful to Allah and Allah will give you more. Allah has said a lot of places in the Quran that he gives  a people something and instead of increasing in their prayers dhikr they become un-thankful. Think about this next time Allah grants you your wishes. Than we have every reason to pray more and more, InshaAllah. At least we can try to be more thankful to Allah.
  13. Love Allah that much that you ask him for even the smallest thing. There is a hadeeth from Aisha Ra that our Prophet said that if your shoe-laces are cut, you should pray to Allah that you get new ones. Because if it isn`t Allah`s wish that you get new shoe-laces nothing in the world can help you to achieve that. Therefore we should ask Allah for even the smallest things, as well as the big.
  14. Recite “Ya Samiyo Ya Mojibo” often. It means Allah the All-hearer and the accepter of prayers/duas.
  15. Recite “Ya Fattaho Ya Razzako” often. It means open the doors for success in my rizk. Rizk can be children, spouse, work, business and stuff like that.
  16. Prayers are answered when it is raining, so do supplicate then.
  17. A travelers supplications are also answered, so do supplicate a lot when traveling.
  18. Read “Ya Kadi-yil-hajaati” whenever you can throughout the day and especially in your supplications. It means Allah “the one that fulfils your requests”. (In the start it is a kafh with to dots, so the pronunciation is a bit different).
  19. Read “Va-Yaa-Akramal-Akra-Mina” in your supplications. It means “of the ones who are kareem, You Allah are the most kareem, because of Your Rahma over me accept my dua”.
  20. In your supplications, you can also read:  “Rabbana Ya Ghiasal-Mustaghisina-Aghisni”. It means “Oh my Lord, You are the One who helps, so help me”.
  21. Your supplication at the time you break your fast, will in sha Allah be answered. Allah answers the prayers of the fasting person. Abu Hurayra Ra reported that the Messenger of Allah said : Three people doesn`t have their supplications rejected, the fasting person until he breaks his fast..”
  22. The supplication after “salat-ul-tasbhi“,  which is the prayer of forgiveness, will in sha Allah not be refused. You can read it here, the manner of reading  the salat.
  23. Read night prayer. It was narrated from Abu Sufyan Ra that Jabir Ra said>: ” I heard the Prophet (pbuh) say:” In the night there is an hour when if a muslim asks Allah for good in this world and in the Hereafter, He will give him it, and that happens every night.” (Sahih Muslim). Read more here.

Allah does not like  those people whom don`t asks him of anything i.e. makes dua/prayer to him. He loves it when we asks much from him, if we ask a lot he will feel shy to leave us empty-handedly, so he accepts something. Try to trust Allah and ask him a lot, and in sha Allah all your issues will be solved.

May Allah grant our prayers and make us His pious worshippers and give us a lovely life and the best hereafter for eternity. Ameen summa ameen.

Source; Jamia At-Tirmidhi, Sahih Muslim, The Ideal Muslimah (book), Lecture by Yasir Qadhi: “the power of dua”, Imam Bukhari`s book of manners.

dont look down on othersNo one is perfect. Each and every person has some good qualities and some bad qualities in them. Some has more of the good and less of the bad, other have the other way around. What it boils down to is that sometimes you see some person doing something you dislike. You know the person has so much potential and can really do a lot better than that, all he/she needs is a little guidance from some brother or sister. Than you need to talk to that person somehow. If you can and you want to help, you should of course give it a try, but only with the right intention backing you up.

 

Are you superior?

If for instance you are correcting someone just to show your own superiority over that person, in a way you are saying, you have these and these faults, I am so much better that you, do that like this or that, it most probably won`t help that person. You cannot look down on other people you want to correct. If you do that, and they find out, by the attitude you are dealing with them, they most probably won`t listen to you. You need to in some way let them understand that you are here to help, because they have so much potential, if it is used right, can move mountains.


Positivity boost

A lot of us may sometimes need a push in the right direction from time to time. You need to fill them with positive boost, once in a while. That can make them see that even one voice can make a difference.

 

Check your intentions

One thing is for sure, if you don`t have the right intention of helping and are looking for personal gain, than the intention is what will either count it as a good deed or not. If you sincerely want to help, than let other people whom may be down see that they are human beings with a lot of worth and good values but haven`t gotten the right push from their surroundings so that they also can blossom and become a rose. They need to develop a sence of self-worth. That their opinions are important and that they can make a difference.

 

Correct mistakes privately

Another important thing is that you cannot correct a person in public. If you do that the person most probably won`t listen to you ever again. Whenever you want to correct someone respect them, do it privately, so that they don`t feel that you are telling the whole world about their faults. There is not a person out there whom doesn`t have some good and bad characteristics in them.This is something people learn from a very young age. That when their parents want to correct them they don`t do it in front of guests. Or that your spouse doesn`t correct you in front of their family. Or that your friends don`t talk ill of you in front of others. Especially when they think they are behaving funny. No one can have fun on some others extent. That is wrong. Don`t laugh at someone but rather laugh with someone.

 

Balance the negative with something positive

One more thing is that sometimes the young generation might want to correct an elder, how should one do that? One should try to speak in a way that, you tell the person a positive thing about them and then a less positive, so it balances up. If you always come with the negative and never say anything positive than the balance would be rather negative and the person would become upset. There is not one person out there whom doesn`t have anything good about them. We and I`m counting in myself, need to become better in finding the positive things in people when we talk to them.

 

Positive people have a bigger responsibility

People with positive surroundings may not find this that difficult, so they have a bigger responsibility to share the positivism more. They will only gain in this. Because it`s always like this that what you give to other you get back one way or the other, if you spread positivity than that would come back to you one day, inshaAllah ameen.

 

We can make a difference

Let`s join in hands to single out the faults and spread positivity and try to lit up a sad soul, that needs someone to talk to, without bringing them down. It`s not always the youth that need this the most, sometimes it could also be some of the elders in the family as well.

Backbiting, as defined by the Prophet (pbuh) is “to mention your brother with something he dislikes”. So when one backbites his brother or sister in Islam, what he says might be true. On the other hand, to slander is to say something false about one`s brother or sister in Islam.

Sheikhul-Islam, Ibn Taimiyyah radhi Allah talah anhaa said that there are those from the people who backbite or listen to backbiting, and they do so to please the company they keep, with the awareness that the victim is likely to be innocent of some of the things that are uttered about him. Often such offenders feel that if they were to attempt to end such a conversation in a gathering, their presence might become unwelcome or burdensome.

There are many methods and guises that are employed when one mentions another in a negative way. Under the pretense of being informative, one could say that it is not ones`habit to mention others, except for the sake of relating another`s condition to someone. Or one could state that by Allah, indeed so and so is one to be pitied, thereby showing superiority over one who is to be rejected. Another method might be to say that so and so is a good person; however he has such and such qualities. Again, one is justified in revealing another’s faults`. One could also simply state that we should forget so and so and make supplications for their forgiveness as well as our own, intending only to belittle the one that was mentioned. In reality, all these tactics are designed to deceive Allah (the Exalted) and to please the creation; and in reality, the many that follow these methods only deserve to deceive themselves.

Then there are those that backbites to raise their own status. When they hear someones`error, they employ words like, “had i prayed for so and so last night in my prayer, the news of their sin would not have reached my ears”. Again when a person states of another that he lacks the understanding in a matter, the implication is personal superiority for the one that mentions others`shortcoming.

There are also those that couple jealousy with backbiting the act of being critical or belittling to those that are praised in the company of others. Some also backbite for the sake of humour, playfulness and lightheartedness. A person finds a certain amount of satisfaction from being appreciated for his story-telling abilities; speaking ill of someone in a humourous fashion adds flavour to a tale. Others engage in backbiting by showing surprise and amazement at anothers`actions: ” how is it that someone could do such a thing?”. Yet others mention people and their actions with the pretense of sympathy for their actions or misfortunes. In reality, the one who backbites actually finds contentment and satisfaction at the mention of others and their misdeeds. Another form of backbiting is relating someones` misfortune to their enemies, so that they, too, may find pleasure in putting them down. From these examples one can summarize that backbiting pertains to a disease of the heart.

Allah says in the Quran:

“And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it ( so hate backbiting). And fear Allah. Verily, Allah is the One who accepts repentance, Most Merciful”. (Quran 49:12).

Hudhaifah narrates that he has heart the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) say:

” A slanderer will never enter Paradise”.

When a slanderer comes to you with news about a brother or a sister you need to do these things :

  1. You must not believe him; a slanderer is an evildoer, which makes him / her untrustworthy source of news.
  2. You should reproach him /her for his /her slander and try to show him the reprehensibility and vileness of his deed.
  3. You should hate him for the sake of Allah. Allah hates him /her for being a slanderer, and you should hate him too, for a Muslim must hate whom Allah hates.
  4. You must not have evil thoughts about your brother who is being slandered.
  5. After hearing what the slanderer said, you must not go out and spy on the person he spoke about, so as to ascertain whether what he said is true.
  6. Having reproached the slanderer for the vileness of his deed, you should not commit the same vile deed yourself, even if your intention is not malevolent. Therefore you  must neither pass on what he said nor say to another, “so and so said so and so”, in which case you will become like him. Everything we mentioned here are about slandering is valid when there is no islamic benefit that requires one to speak ill about another person.

The Prophet (pbuh) has said:

” a person is sufficiently considered to be lying when he relates all that he hears”

On the other hand if you defend another muslim you will be saved from the fire. The Prophet (pbuh) has said :

“Whoever defends the flesh of a brother or sister in Islam in his / her absence, Allah will save him from the fire”. (Reported by Ahmad).

The Prophet (pbuh) has said :

“the worst of people are those who spread malicious gossip”. (Reported by Ahmad).

May Allah save us from this most evil of actions and protect us from its temptations.

(Exctract taken out of the book “Gems and Jewels” and ” the book of manners” and the book ” the Ideal Muslimah “.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

Når du er forent med en
du elsker, er det ingenting
du ikke klarer :)

Gode ord skaper tillit.
Gode tanker skaper
Inderlighet. God
giverglede skaper
kjærlighet:)

Mood :)

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