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If you had a store. A customer bought some merchandise for 200. And made a deal after payment, that it would be collected after two weeks. 

The same day another customer comes, and sees the good you just sold, and asks for it. He says he will give you 1000 for it. 

You start thinking. It’s out of stock and will take 4 weeks, even if you order it today. 

Would you have sold it to the customer, or would you have committed yourself to the deal you’ve made? 

Honestly every rizk we gain, is not from the amount of money, but mostly from the baraqah of everything we have. We should be people of honesty who keeps their promises and are known for transparency and good dealings, no matter if it’s work / business / family or any other matter. 

Ya Allah, help us to revive the forgotten sunnah of Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ in our life. Aamen 

jannah, paradise, hold hand, finally we are here, spouse, marriage, coupleMarriage is a serious bond between a husband and a wife, and one should be ready for it before we commit ourselves to it. Often we see that people who come to a certain age want to get married. Most often they haven`t thought well enough about the reasons behind their decision. Marriage is not only a way of having halal intimacy. Marriage is about a companionship where the spouses support each other through tough and good times, where their aim is to achieve Jannah and spend their eternity there together. It is a means for having righteous offspring that will work for the betterment of their society in both religious and social matters. Children that one day will become good contributors to their environment, and send good deeds to their parents way after they have left the world to the next and be those that Rasollallah pbuh will say that they will go to Jannah.

 

Compete in matters for a better Hereafter

It is important that men whom want to commit themselves understand the fact that they are the ones whom has the overall financial responsibility. Even if their wife has an income, she is not obliged to spend any of it on the family. And being ready for children. Their upbringing is just as much the father’s responsibility as the mother. We need to understand that some people whom aren`t even ready for kids get a bunch of them, and some people whom are eager to get children, might not get as much or maybe not even one. Rizk is not in our hands. Rizk is in Allah`s hands. He is trying us through it. Some people are tested through difficulties, others are tested through ease. There shouldn`t be any competition between couples that others have four kids so we need to beat them to it and have one more. The society has become such a difficult place to be. We are competing in things that doesn`t matter rather than the few points that matter the most. Lets compete in doing good deeds, lets compete in having righteous children rather than many, lets compete in learning more of the deen, not to show off, but to make others also want to become muslims or better people than they were before, let’s try to be better people than we were yesterday, or the minute before now. Improvement not to make us feel superior but to achieve Jannah and help others on the way.

 

Things money can`t buy

After marriage the most important thing wife would want is your time. That means that you cannot whenever you prefer it, go out with your friends. You need to give your wife your time. It is not enough to just be the provider. Both the wife and the husband feels loved in different ways with different love language. You will have to learn that from the start. You can read more of that here : 5 Love Languages In Marriage.  We can`t either expect that the spouses will be in-love all the time. They will have disagreements and quarrels. How they handle them will determine what the future of their marriage is. That is why it is important to know how your apology will be accepted by your spouse. You can read that here : Do you know the art of apologizing?

 

Be there in good and bad times

The family and the parents of the fiancée must be certain that the couple is ready for marriage. It is not like a sale, where you have money-back guarantees within three months. When we first do commit, we should do it with the intention that we are going to Jannah together. Trust is essential. If one of the spouses always has the backdoor open and threatens with leaving whenever they face any difficulty than that person wasn`t ready for the bond. When one commits one does that in hope for being there for each other in good and bad times supporting and inspiring and motivating each other to become better people for forever. Anything less than that should not be accepted. If your goal is Jannah you will choose a righteous spouse. When we first do commit, we should give it a 100%.

 

Make marriages affordable

Expensive marriages should not be encouraged. Like in all other matters of life, there is also competition in having the most expensive marriage. If fla fla person has a marriage in a ship another has to have a degree more expensive so they choose an airplane. The more expensive the marriage the more it has to be delayed, wich will cause more fear of fitnah. Keep it simple and affordable. Less tension and less troubles and more joy. Let the couple rather save some of their money on their life after marriage than becoming bankrupt after marriage. The simpler the marriage is the more barakah/blessings the couple will derive from it. In the Prophet pbuh`s time there were a few sahabis whom didn`t have any money to give the mehr. Once Rasollallah pbuh said to one such person that he can use his knowledge as mehr. So even that didn`t make Rasollallah pbuh stop him from getting married. Rizk is in Allah`s hand. One day we have a lot, other times we have little. There is no guarantee that a rich person doesn`t become poor in one day or a poor person becomes rich in one day. Allah decides. Since we will be tested in both ease and difficulty, we need to overlook this and give more attention to righteousness of the spouse. If the spouse fears Allah, he/she will treat you right no matter what, because he/she knows that he/she will be answerable to Allah for it on Judgement Day. May Allah increase the barakah in every marriage and make every marriage easy for the people concerned, grant them contentment and re-unite every couple in Jannah/Paradise. Ameen summa ameen.

when you plan to marry her - jannah“Life-partners should have a faithfulness towards each other that no one can challenge. Whether male or female, or a member of the family, or a person at the work, or at the mosque. In the world outside people will say and do all sorts of things of all sorts of motives; often they try to upset a happy marriage for no other reason than that it is happy – this being a form of destructive jealousy. If you know your partner fully, and know their character, then you should be able to trust implicitly that he/she would not behave in a manner that would let you down, and that if they are accused of having done this, then the accusation is false”. – A good muslim Marriage.

Marriage is not about keeping score, if you hurt me 10 times, I will hurt you 11 times, just to keep the scores right, and get back at you. If you try to get back at your spouse when they are in any way un-kind, than you have missed the point of what marriage really is. It is Allah that is keeping the score. When you are nice to your spouse, it is not your spouse that will give you the reward for that, even he /she might be better towards you. The reward will come from Allah. Even when he /she is acting impossible. If you have sabr, Allah helps and give reward. If it was all about keeping account, than that wouldn`t be called love, but just a silly game.

Marriage is also security, for both. Even if your spouse has in any way been un-kind to you, you don`t use that as an excuse to flirt with others or try to look for other “opportunities”. When you marry someone you commit yourself 100 % to that person only and no one else. No matter what obstacle comes in you way, you will strive together. I think I am talking for the husband and wife when I say that both want this security, and trust. If you don`t have a solid foundation of trust in your commitment, the building will eventually collapse.

Another thing that is quite common is that spouses correct each other in front of other people. That is a big crime, and should be avoided. We know we`re not perfect, no one is. But when you bring out your spouse faults in front of others, that person loses his face in front of others. If you need to correct your spouse do it in private, when you get the chance. That is also the only way you will see any change. Of course, it should not be left unsaid that you are doing it for unselfish reasons and not because you want to bring him/her down. Be polite and to the point without any personal agendas.

Your wife needs to know that he/she can count on you. That even if you are pissed off about something, you won`t misbehave when he/she is not around. You would try to find the best solutions to solve your differences in an Islamic manner.

Let past be past. Don`t ask questions about it. Know that if he/she didn`t love you or choose you for marriage, you wouldn`t be together now. So be confident, that he/she chose you because he/she found something in you.

Both the husband and wife should have enough self-respect that they don`t take crap. If your spouse is behaving unreasonable without any logic reason, make him/her calm, or leave the situation, if you need to calm yourself down, so that you don`t say anything you would regret later. Misunderstandings are inevitable. How you manage them, is what makes your marriage good.

“No husband or wife is perfect, but when a husband shows love and thought for his wife, and act in accordance with the principles of Islam, he will surely earn not only her love and respect, but that of Allah Himself”. – A Muslim Marriage Guide.

A marriage is a sacred bond. And almost all of the people whom are married are aware over the fact that having a girl and guy friendship even after you have committed yourself to someone is not the best thing to do. Would you have liked it if your wife to be had a few good guy friendships? nahi na 😉 well not to worry 😉 But i am worried about you! I think any person that is committing themselves to someone, will only marry someone if they know that they are trustable. 110% trust is all i am asking for. Is that too much? Well that’s were the minimum in my heart:) So think about it before you make another step in the wrong direction.

I don`t believe that a friendship between the two genders are only a friendship. Somewhere somehow one of the persons can have feelings for the other. And then still going on with having a friendship is foolishness if you ask me. Especially if that is the case. So be wise 😉

Conclusion: Guy and girl friendhip
It is totally Unapproved!

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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