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smiley starYou know when your children come home from school, and you see that their arguments and their behaviour has changed. The first thing you should find out is if they have been with some new or old friends lately. Most people are easily affected by people and their thoughts. Some people let others opinion have precedence no matter how many good points they have to contribute.


The Sun Is White Today

It is great to have friends and have someone to spend time with, share ideas, have fun, and be yourself. Though it is very important that we understand that friends arguments are colored by their opinions and values. You should make your own opinion about matters rather than letting other people (your friends) decide what you should think. It is like some friends can say; today the sun is white. You won’t believe it because you know that the sun is always yellow. But when you see that all of your friends are saying that the sun is white today, eventually you’ll stand beside them, and say the same. Pressure.


Research, Research, Research

Listen to others opinions, but make your own thoughts about the matter, after you’ve heard all sides. In that way you won’t let your opinions be based on a few distorted opinions that are far from the truth. Rather your opinion will be based on what is right and correct after you`ve researced all sides of the matter, and concluded with your opinion. Since all of us are not born einstein, we sometimes have to ask other people to help us, when there is something that is out of our own understanding. Make sure that you ask people who are reliable and knowledgable and they wouldn`t distort the truth for some benefit, but would rather be bold enough to say it as it is. Not to gain support but to open people`s mind to what is happening.



No matter how many people your socialize with don`t lose your own voice, even when you are in a crowd. Hear all sides of the story but at the end make your own opinion. Talk with experts in the field rather than listening to people`s random opinions about the subject.

I have a long way to go. I haven`t come to my goal yet, but I have started the journey. The journey that could lead me to Jannah, if I work on myself and follow what is right, In sha Allah, ameen. I started using the hijab in march 2009. It was my own free will to start with it and no one forced me into it. I had thought about starting with hijab for ages but different things like not having the right clothes and stuff came in the way. My choice was not influences by anyone at home or by any friend, it was my own choice, that I thought was right for me.

Alhamdolillah, as the years have gone, I have eventually stopped with a lot of things that are un-islamic. Like plucking eyebrows, wearing right hijab without the camel-hump-style, to not wear perfume where non-mehram is, and stuff like that. My point is that all these things I stopped doing was not anyone who pressurized me to do, it was my own decision and made from learning more about Islam. Learning about why it was wrong to do these things.

I guess, what the politicians today don`t know is that hijab is our sisters own choice. No one forces it on us. If we want to protect ourselves from the eyes of men, than this would be the correct way. To hide ourselves. The hijab doesn`t hide our opinion or what`s in our head it protects us from other people whom unwilling are screening us when we are outside our homes. Different things/creatures in this world is in hijab. For instance the earth has an ozone layer around it to protect it, we humans and animals have skin over our body to keep the blood inside our beings, in vegetables and fruits everything has a shell. Most often we peel the skin of the fruits we eat, or make sure that its intact before we eat it. Those things “hijab” is also here to protect it from it`s surroundings, so why shouldn`t we women have that right, when the hijab is found everywhere?

Some people in my own family have also been a bit against me using a jilbab/Abayah/Jubbah at work. But Alhamdolillah that hasn`t stopped me from doing what I was determined to do. Of course I have had my periods when I stopped using the Jilbab and times when I wanted to but didn`t. But lately I have been able to make up my mind that if I don`t use it, it could be downfall for me. A little time ago, I read a status from an islamic page that talked about Hijab for women and men. There it was written that if you are a Fitnah/trial for other boys or men, than beware because the day you get married, your husband or your children (boys) will experience fitnah/trial from other girls. And the same way around. If you as being a man/boy are a fitnah/trial for other women/girls, than after you marry your wife would experience fitnah/trials from her surroundings. Like a karma thing. This scared the shit out of me, and still does. So I`m trying to do my best to not be a cause of fitnah for others, in sha Allah. It`s not an easy task, though I guess it`s not impossible either. But I`m trying. May Allah help me and the whole Ummah to not be any cause of fitnah/trial for each other in any way, ameen summa ameen.

I want to initially start with niqab, but need more guidance from above and support to become a niqabi sister. May Allah make it easy for me, and for every sister of this Ummah, in sha Allah.

This ayat should be supplicated to Allah, all the time in sha Allah, in the Quran Surah Baqarah ayat 286 Allah says:

“Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity. It will have [the consequence of] what [good] it has gained, and it will bear [the consequence of] what [evil] it has earned. “Our Lord, do not impose blame upon us if we have forgotten or erred. Our Lord, and lay not upon us a burden like that which You laid upon those before us. Our Lord, and burden us not with that which we have no ability to bear. And pardon us; and forgive us; and have mercy upon us. You are our protector, so give us victory over the disbelieving people.” (Quran 2:286)

If some few people force their children to wear hijab, it does not mean that all are the same. If that is the case with a few family`s, something should get done to hinder those from forcing their children, but a ban for all is not the way to go. Mostly of us  muslim women has used their own free will to start wearing hijab, as I know. For instance, if some people drive like crazy and crash their car, does not mean that we should not let anyone drive their cars. No. The small amount of people whom can`t respect the driving laws should be given a sanction for it. Though we can`t ban everyone from driving as long as they don`t break any driving-rules or regulations.

When women want to go with a mini skirt or with less clothes they have the right to do so, if they have the right to walk with revealing clothes where their skin can be seen, why can`t I have the right to walk with my skin hidden with my hijab or niqab? This is double standards, the non-muslims have rights that I don`t just because their not muslims? The media and people in general is afraid of Islam because it is increasing in number. That is why they try to paint the wrong picture of Islam in the media. It is our responsibility as muslims to sort out the misunderstandings so that people can see what real Islam is.

To conclude I would say that politicians doesn`t have enough information about the muslim women, why they start wearing the hijab. Mainly women are not forced into it, as they want to protect themselves from strangers eyes. It is every muslim girl/women`s right to make their own choice about it, without being forced from either sides, whether they want to use it, or whether they don`t want to use it.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!



(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)


(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
Ameen summa ameen

Når du er forent med en
du elsker, er det ingenting
du ikke klarer :)

Gode ord skaper tillit.
Gode tanker skaper
Inderlighet. God
giverglede skaper

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