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israel, usa, world, president, war crimes cartoon gaza under attack israel carlos-latuffI get so amazed by some people when they say that they love a country/ethnicity etc. I know love is blinding, but most people do take this quite literally. For instance when your son is misbehaving in any way. You would, out of love as a parent, try to help him behave the right way. No parent would say, “Oh, I love my son so much, that I`ll let him do whatever he does, because I don`t want him to get hurt/sad”. That doesn`t make any sense. A parent when they see his son trying to catch “fire”, would stop him, so he wouldn`t get burned. Lets replace the little kid/son/brother with the name of Israel, and lets replace the name of parent/big brother with U.S. Now Israel is killing innocent civilians in Palestine, taking over their country. Some real mean stuff. The whole world knows their atrocities. Still father/big brother U.S. is backing him up. “Do whatever you want son. I`ll prevent you from falling or being jailed”, U.S. says. The whole world can see that and admit that most of what the Israelis are doing are wrong. Despite this, I know people whom praise Israel, like they can`t see their war-crimes.

Imagine Your Son Is Misbehaving At School

He is bugging some other kids. You wouldn`t, if you were a good decent parent, cheer him for doing this. I`m sure parents with good values, would stop their child from hurting others. Imagine, if you actually praised him for bullying some class-mates. What do you think would happen to your son? His confidence would increase, and he might do more and meaner stuff. Why? Because your backing him up. If you keep backing up your son, when he does something wrong, it will motivate him to keep on doing it and probably increase him in his wrongdoing. If you don`t want your child to eventually be criticized by the principal or get expelled, most parents, would try to use some incentives to help him stop from misbehaving at school. So you see when son Israel know that father/big brother U.S. has got his back no matter how much wrong he does to bullied Palestine, he won`t stop.

israel vs palestineThis Makes Me Angered And Sad

When other people whom supposedly love Israel, praise the state, despite the wrong decisions it has made, and how many war crimes it is involved in. How can you close your eyes to the fact that even if Israel can be doing 1% right, he is still doing 99% wrong. By cheering him up, just because you generally love Israel, because of it`s holy-ness, is wrong. Yes the land is holy, and muslims also believe that Judaism came before christianity and then Islam came after that. But we can`t stand here and say to someone who just because your message at that time was gods message, I agree with what you are doing now. That doesn`t make any sense. Besides. If you saw jews as your friends, you would tell him when his wrong. Even if that hurt him. You wouldn`t cheer on your friends when they make mistakes, big mistakes, like killing people. If you have the right values, you would make him go to the police and take the sentence the court judges. Because your friend killed another person. It`s not allowed. Just because your friend was born on holy land doesn`t make himself holy. Our Prophet pbuh said too his daughter Fatima raa, your lineage would not make you go to Paradise, so work on doing good deeds. That is the only way of going to Paradise. He said that to his own daughter. Ma sha Allah, that is Islam. Everyone has to pay for their own bad deeds, and will be rewarded individually for their good deeds. If they want to prosper, they will work on this. There is no shortcuts to success, each and every has to take the stairs, one step at a time. If you`re a friend of jews and Israel, a “real” friend, you would stop him from doing wrong. It`s that simple. And if the jews and the state Israel, doesn`t stop it`s war-crimes. It will have a bad end. Maybe in this world, but most certainly in the hereafter, when their crimes will be judged before Allah. They most certainly will have to pay for it. It`s not only about saving your butt in this world. The most important point is whether you are saving your or others butt in the next world, hereafter, when it really will matter. Because the outcome will decide your faith for eternity. May Allah open our eyes, before we become guilty in the same crime, because we didn`t put any effort in stopping it. Aameen.

every child is gifted, a success story, build people, family, parentingPeople doesn`t always understand when we talk about different emotions and how different approaches can have an impact on others. Unless we help them understand it with money. 😛 Yes we want someone to do something or not do something, simply add or delete the cash. If we think about ourselves as having a bank of emotions in our soul/heart. A positive word, will put a deposit in the account. A negative word or action might take a withdrawal from it. If we keep the positive deposit more than the negative we will be feeling good. If the negative account is more than the positive we will be feeling sad or some negative emotion.

 

People Can Be Good And People Can Be Bad

We all have something good and bad in us.  If we always pinpoint why our children aren`t cleaning their room or anything negative they are doing, every time we talk, they will be filled with negative energy. They might not want to spend time with us. If we instead, fill them with positive feedback that is precise and  positive, not being vague in speech, we will soon, fill them with so much positive energy that, if and when we sometimes give them some negative feedback, it won`t be the end of the world for them. Because a lot of positive deposit doesn`t mind if a withdrawal comes once in a while. If we already have a negative account, and withdrawal would be devastating.

 

every kid childDon`t Use Fear 

People have different incentives to help their loved ones achieve new heights. Some motivate others with love, others with fear. And what would work depends on the situation and the person. Expressing love has the power that will give a positive deposit in the loved ones bank-balance. If we genuinely care for others, we will rather inspire others in this way. A person whom gives and gives will certainly be given back. If we on the contrary would try to make people change because of fear. That might work for the moment. Some day that fear can be given back in a negative way by a withdrawal from your account. It can`t lead to good, if you always use fear as a method for people to behave a certain way. I pray that our family`s are of those who build us and not those who tear us down. That will make us easily manage the ups and downs in life. If the family always has a “told-you-so” waiting whenever we fail in something, it teaches us to not have confidence and trust our own judgement. Later when we, have to make our own decisions these qualities makes a big difference in our life. We need to nurture self-confidence, self-esteem, trusting own judgement, independence, self-respect, self-worth. We are more with our family`s than anyone else. They have a real great opportunity to help us grow as muslim and humans. Only selfish reasons would make us want to prevent each other from achieving success. Always hesitate to make a withdrawal without knowing if there is enough balance to withdraw from.

 

When Given A Good Portion Of Love

Each and every would be able to move mountains and become the person they are meant to be. We work best when we our stomachs/souls are full. When we help others feel good, we become better people. We feel good also because of being giving. Don`t be miserly in choosing a positive approach, and see how it changes every situation to something beautiful, and be ready because it will come back to you. Making others feel good about themselves is an art and on-going- charity that will have positive side-effects. Help each other to practice it. Jazak Allah kheyr.

every kid childParents with children in the West are experiencing some issues on how to rebuke them to prevent them from coming in bad company. Issues like gambling, drinking, sex, one-gender-relationships, and free mixing is making the parent’s life tougher. We are all agreed on the fact that we muslims have some different values concerning these issues mentioned above. How can we as muslims prevent that our children fall into these traps. Parents are worried. The childcare organisations are on their neck to watch them whether they make one small mistake and they are so on their case for years. What can we do about this? We need to find ways of rebuking children in manner that does not collide with the West`s ideologi, but also something that works.

I know one time when I was a child, me and my friends once decided to “borrow” apples from the neighbour without them knowing it. Because of the thrill around it, not that we didn`t have it ourselves. I have done this once, and I got caught, and alhamdolillah, that made me stay away from it forever after. One of us, that was very strong, said no to going with us, told some other kids in the neighbourhood. We were caught red-handed. The parent of the owner of the tree came and rebuked us with very harsh words. No need to say, I never did that again.

The thing about parents disciplining their children is a very delicate matter in the West. Just one slap, can make them get reported to the childcare system. The worse part is that children are taught this at the school, and are really mis-using it to get their will with their parents. Not knowing that they are actually destroying their own life.

We need to prevent parents from ending up in the list of the childcare system. We can only do that by teaching them how to rebuke / discipline their children in a way that doesn`t go against the rules of the government. They need to teach them how to use incentives like carrot for good deeds and taking away some of their belongings for bad deeds. An example, you want your child to do their homework and get great grades. You say, If you show me that you manage to do well at school, I will give you XYZ in the end of the school year, or after one semester – the carrot. If you want to discipline them for coming to late one evening, without telling where they were, you can say, so now you have lost your, internet, phone, tv etc for day/week/month, depending of the seriousness of the action.

These incentives do wonders. But make sure you are not too nice or to tough. Also in this matter the middle path is best. Like good cop, bad cop. You don`t want them to run away, but you want them to obey the rules of Allah and the rules of the family.

Another thing is that sometimes things goes so out of hand, parents get enraged about something the child has done, and may slap him/her etc. The first thing the child would think of is, i will rapport it. The best thing is to avoid it. But believe me also the native Norwegians slap their kids and are not perfect parents. But we asian gets reported more easily because we have a more islamic approach towards life, and they are not that fond of Islam and our values. Who hasn`t ever slapped their child? There is a difference in one simple slap and beating them so that they become hurt. Remember that this is not the sunnah of our Prophet pbuh. He never hit or was angry at anyone ever. If you are a good muslim, and want your children to also be good, we need to implement the sunnah in our lives. Use the incentives carrot and discipline and in sha Allah, your children will be obedient and turn out well. Ameen.

Know that we are brown and wear different clothes than the natives. We stick out in a crowd no matter what we wear. We are not like them. But we also have faults. Most of us don`t know other disciplinary forms other than the desi type we have learned from back home. Un-learn them. They don`t work on children growing up in this society. It would only make them stronger in disobedience. If you keep on beating a kid over and over again, one day will come, that child we become strong enough to take your hand and say, beat again mum / dad. Or beat my as much as you want, but I`m doing as I want to. So you see that is not helping you, and it is certainly not helping the child who is your diamond of heart. If you truly love your children, and I`m sure parents can make wrong decisions but they never stop loving their children, than you would do what makes them become good and don`t become the means to chasing them in the arms of the wrong group of people.

Whereas love can move mountains, hate can misguide. So be wise. Be strict and loving. Never stop showing them or telling them that you love them. Not by buying them things. But by spending time with them. Talks and games and teaching them Islam. They are your amanah, and you will be questioned as to how you raised them. They are hungry for love. If their parents don`t give them enough, they will try to find it in the wrong places. We don`t want that to happen. We don`t want them to stray. This Ummah is one body, help each other and Allah will help you. May Allah help parents in raising their children and make every child obedient to Allah. Ameen summa ameen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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