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Jihad is equal to struggle. To struggle in the way of Allah. Struggle to be good with your inner self. Struggle to do righteous deeds. Struggle to be good to family, friends and kin. Struggle to remember Allah. Struggle to obey Allah. Struggle to speak good. Struggle to protect ourselves from bad matters (lying, backbiting, slander). Struggle to make our conduct good. Struggle to correct our hijab, modesty and control over our private part. Struggle to keep our soul, heart and body clean and pure. Struggle to get rid of arrogance and bad qualities. Struggle to support good and speak against wrongdoers. For the real practising muslims. The struggle is REAL. All this is jihad, to struggle in the way of Allah, to become a good practising muslim. Ya Allah, grant us to win our biggest jihad. Aamen. The struggle we fight with our own self (nafs) every day. Aamen. 

😍 beautifying your hijab. Attracts attention.

🤤 shaping eyebrows. Still attracting attention. 

💋💅 using make-up to beautify yourself. Attracts attention.

😏😉 not lowering your gaze. 

🕌 using perfume, when you go outside, easily attract attention. 

👠using shoes that makes noise. Attracts  attention.

👚 using clothing that it is possible to see through. Clothed, yet naked. 

👂😋talking in a way that attracts attention. 

🐍 mixing with others without any limitations. 

🎼 🎸🎷 listening to music. The lyrics of songs invites to matters Islam forbid. 

🎬 watching movies. Bollywood. Hollywood. Drama. It changes your perspective and misguides you. 

⭐️ following actors/ actresses on social media. Spreading matters about them. 

These matters are general prohibitions in Islam. In general no one follows them.  

🤐 gossiping. Not control of the sins of your tongue.

🤞🤥lying about others. 

🤝 😈 making enmity between friends / spouses. 

😼 making oaths about false matters. 

🤧 convey yourself as a victim to gain support against others. 

😤☠️ using magic to get what you want in life. 

🙃 spreading false information about others. Questionable sources. 

😇 being un-trust-worthy because of false statements, testimony. 

🕸 using too much time to make friends of dunya, instead of friends of akhirah (hereafter). 

🐍 supporting wrong / mean people, instead of the oppressed. 

🥝 using too much time to beautify outside, instead of inside (values, conduct, character, integrity, niyah, ikhlas). 

🍄🐖 eating non-halal food. Or earning money in non-halal way. 

🕊😬 harming people who do good. 

👉 false accusations. Bohtan. 

People who are trying to follow the basics sunnah of Islam, are experiencing so much trouble within the ummah, because we have deviated from the right path. It is difficult to live a life as a practising muslim, when most muslim practice Islam progressively. Ya Allah, don’t let us deviate from the right path, after You have guided us, grant us from yourself mercy, indeed You are the most Merciful, and You are the bestower. Aameen 

It is very important that teachers whom master some kind of talent, should be sure, that those they teach it too, have right values and will not misuse it by going to the “dark side” and “selling/teaching” it to bad people who can further on, misuse it. 

It’s like teaching children martial arts. It is very important that the teacher install good values in their students, so they won’t misuse what they have learned and beat other kids. 

Even if the teachers takes this into consideration, there can be students who pretend to be good to learn something. 

When some kind of power comes in the hands of wrong people, we know they will make difficult situations for those they dislike. 

It’s like training up a soldier to become a master in everything soldiers should know. If his teachers in the army, doesn’t make sure this person is capable of mastering this or perhaps might have any hurt inside that can drive him/her to misuse it, they probably won’t enroll him/her. 

People with good ethics does not go around training up people who will become a “killing machine”. 

It’s like training up ordinary people in a land of war with new tehniques to fight in a war, without considerating that they can be “bought” by their enemy, or driven to the enemies, in order to hurt those (countries) whom taught it to them. Not a good tactic if you want less enemies.

couple, marriage, holding husbandHave you ever received an invitation to a fiest and not been able to decide wether you should attend or not? Islamicly when we receive an invitation we are obliged to accept it, to maintain good ties of kinship with friends and family. It is seen as a sin to break ties with kin. I have a few thoughts about whether one should accept an invitation or not. If we are invited to a party where you know there will be music and free mixing while some are not wearing islamic dresses, if you are a practicing muslim, you would think twice before you attend such a fiest. If these things are important to you and they are not important to those who invited you, maybe you would feel uncomfortable and not easily fit in.

Attending Or Not Attending, That Is The Question

If we turn the situation around and a muslimah is having a party and you know it is going to be islamicly correct and not music or free mixing, if you are such a person that likes the opposite, you might not attend the gathering. Your excuse? It doesn`t match to what you think is fun for you. It is not seen as something good when we turn down an invitation. Though if attending that fiest goes against your soul and your heart. Those hours you spend there would most probably be like a punishment. When we turn down an invitation with these kind of excuses we are seen as extreme? Or people might think that we have so high thoughts about ourselves or think we are better. It`s not about being better than the other. It`s more about not doing something that your soul and heart is going to hate. If we were in touch with the emotions of our soul we would understand this very easily. The soul longs for Allah and Islam. Anything that takes you away from it, would suffocate the soul.

Shy Away If You Don`t Manage It

People are different. Yes we are in this world and have to live here. People who have the same ideas/thoughts befriend each other. It is very difficult to understand a friendship between people whom are totally different. For example there are people whom often lie and backbite and see it as a hobby to severe ties between people. On the other side there are people who wants to avoid backbiting and lying and likes to mend matters between people. I can`t see how these two kinds of people can be friends for a long time. If they will manage that most probably one of them will become like the other. The qualities of the people we spend the most time with rub off on us too. When one of the person will backbite the other might stop him/her and say don`t talk about others. One of them might have to give in, eventually. Maybe the person whom doesn`t lie, will start lying, because of the effect of his friend. Your friends say a lot about you. Some people say you will be like the 5 people you spend the most time with. That is why it is important to check your circle of friends and either help each other become better or shy away if you think you do not have capacity to manage that.

Respect Their Decision

If you see such a person that is shying away from your company don`t automatically think that the person think he / she is arrogant. Don`t make assumptions that make you misunderstand a situation. Maybe that person is trying protect his / her soul from company that suffocates him/her. If people`s idea of fun can be different. Some people find islamicly lectures boring, while others doesn`t want to attend anything that is un-islamic. Different people different preferences. Pointing fingers won`t make a lie become the truth. Respect their decision and leave it between them and Allah. May Allah help us understand this. Aameen.

Prophets characterBarn og hijab. Jeg forstår at dette er et temaet som opptar flere om dagen, pga forslag om hijab-forbudet til Hadija Tajik. Jeg er ikke enig i at hijab forbys. Verken for barn eller voksne. Likevel synes jeg det er et viktig tema og det må diskuteres. Hijab oppfattes av de fleste nordmenn at håret tildekkes med et sjal. Men det er ikke kjernen i det å ha hijab. Hijab er mer enn det.

Haram-politi Hjelper Ikke

Jeg forstår at voksne muslimske foreldre er bekymret for sin barns Islamske identitet idag. De fleste foreldre ønsker det beste for sine barn. Og alhamdolillah, hvorfor skulle de ikke det? Noen tenker kanskje at dersom barnet begynner med hijab i tidlig alder, vil det være så vant til tanken, slik at når barnet kommer i tenårene, vil det komme naturlig og vedkommende vil fortsette med å bære hijab. Det som er dumt er at det kan gå begge veier. Islam er ikke en forbuds-religion. Men det blir oppfattet som det, pga vi nevner forbudene mer enn vi nevner skjønnheten i det som er tillatt. Vi forklarer ikke grunnen bak det som er tillatt og det som ikke er tillatt på en slik forståelig måte og enkel måte. Det at vi har et uoffisielt haram-politi, hjelper heller ikke.

Han Er Min Veiviser fvmh

Dersom vi vil at våre barn skal lære seg hvorfor islam er så vakkert og hvorfor vi elsker det, må vi lære oss å begrunne svarene våre. Vi må forklare årsaken til at noe er tillatt / ikke tillatt og hele bakgrunn-historikken. Ellers kan ting som tas ut av kontekst, bli noe helt annet enn det som er ment med ordene. Siden vi ønsker at andre medmennesker og familie-medlemmer skal forstå hvorfor vi er tilhengere av en så vakker religion, må vi bli flinkere til å forklare. Ikke minst bør, in sha Allah, vår egen karaktèr gjenspeile seg i det vi sier. Dersom vi sier at islam lærer at man ikke skal lyve, og vi lyver selv, vil ikke andre forstå oss. Vi vil bli sett på som hyklerske. Men ikke om vi tar frem forklaringen at ved noen forhold, er det faktisk tillatt å lyve, selv i Islam. Som for eksempel, når profeten fred være med han gjorde hijrah fra Mekka til Medina. Spurte noen på veien, hans følgesvenn Abu Bakr Siddiq måtte Allah være fornøyd med han, om hvem dette mennesket er. Abu Bakr Siddiq raa svarte: ” min veiviser “. Han visste at dersom de hadde funnet ut av om at han er en profet, så ønsket de ikke han godt. For at de skulle komme seg trygt fram, var de nødt for å snakke metaforisk. Det var ikke usant. Profeten, fred være med han, har vist oss veien til Islam.

Hijab Gjelder For Begge Kjønn

På samme måte, når vi snakker om hijab, handler det ikke bare om å dekke seg til. Hijab er også hvordan man oppfører seg, snakker, går og holdningen. Det er å vise beskjedenhet i alt dette, for at man ikke skal trekke til seg oppmerksomhet fra det andre kjønn. Det gjelder vel så mye gutter som for jenter. Problemet er at vi fokuserer for mye på jentene, siden de kan være tiltrekkende. Det er viktig at både jenter og gutter får forståelse av at begge kan være en prøvelse for hverandre. For at dette skal unngås, er det lurt at visse hensyn blir tatt. Dersom ungdommene ikke tar disse hensynene, kan det oppstå problemer. Det er viktig at vi snakker om konsekvensene, men samtidig henviser til hvor stor lykke de vil få om de følger dette. Ikke bare her i verden men også i det evigvarende livet, etter døden.

Den Reelle Skjønnheten Til Islam Er Profetens Seerah

Dersom barn i en ung alder opplever islam som en forbuds-religion pga deres strenge oppdragelse, kan det resultere at vi mister de fra religionen når det er voksne. Det er viktig at vi er åpenhjertige og ikke tvinger noen i religion. Men bruker diskusjon med begrunnende svar for å forklare hvorfor islam er bra. Det er viktig at vi hjelper barn med å få gode venner som er bra for dem. At de støttes og at de ikke er redde for å komme til oss for å snakke om noe som opptar de. En feil venn, kan gjøre mye skade. Vi kan ikke endre andres tankegang med å si at sånn er det bare. Vi må finne eksempler som er vise og forklare hvorfor det er viktig for oss. The beauty. Vi må hjelpe andre å forstå, det kan vi bare gjøre ved å forklare mer og mer.

Profeten fvmh Liv Har Smeltet Våre Hjerter

Jeg synes ikke det er viktig at barn bruker hijab før de er tenåringer. Men det som jeg synes er viktig er at barn får en god oppdragelse hvor foreldre er flinke med å cultivate the value and beauty of Islam, not only by preaching, but by practice. Siden barn er veldig smarte. De gjør ikke alltid det vi sier, men de vil gjøre det de ser at vi gjør. Dersom vi er sannferdige innenfra og ut, vil dette gjenspeile seg i dem. En troende er som et speil for en annen troende, når vedkommende ser noe dumt, sier han ifra. Og når de ser noe bra, setter de pris på det. Ris og ros. Vi må bli flinkere til å forklare for ikke-muslimer ikke bare hvorfor vi er enige i forbudene, men fokusere på at vi er enige i det som er tillatt, og hvorfor det er så vakkert. Vi må bli flinkere til å vise hvorfor vår profets fvmh perfekte handlinger / sunnah og hvorfor denne religionen er så vakker gjennom å følge de selv, og hvorfor vi elsker de mer enn noe annet på denne jord. Når vi muslimer, vil greie å vise alle de gode sidene ved det som er tillatt, vil også oppslutningen om vår religion øke. Vi er ikke interessert i å tvinge noen. Vi tror på at det er kun Allah som veileder. Men om vi følger den vakre seerah av profeten fvmh, vil vår vakre oppførsel, smelte hjerter. Akkurat slik som profeten fvmd, har smeltet våre hjerter. Og flere mennesker vil forstå hvorfor vår religion er perfekt, og de vil komme i grupper og akseptere den eneste og sanne religion. Måtte Allah gjøre det enkelt for oss. Aameen.

butterfly - tough times reveal true friendsEven if you keep on telling a lie a hundred times, it will still remain a lie. If the truth is left unsaid, it will still remain as the truth. People lie so much nowadays that it is seen as something normal, which you have to do in your everyday life, if you wish to survive in this cruel world. Of course some lies are allowed even in Islam. For example when our Prophet Muhammad pbuh and Abu Bakr Siddiq raa made hijrat to medina they met a lot of different people on the way. When some of them asked Abu Bakr raa who the person with him was, he said, “he is my guide”. Those people understood it as being a guide of the roads in this world. But in reality he raa meant guide in the meaning of the Hereafter, Paradise, to prosper etc. It was allowed because they were in danger and people would have told their enemies about their whereabouts.

A siddiqin and a liar can never be the same

A person whom tells a lot of lies, will not be seen as a siddiqin, the same way a person whom speaks the truth, will not be seen as a liar. It is told in an hadith that when the end will be near, lying will become so normal, that people will say that in that place and that town, that person whom lives there and there is truthful. Because there will be so few of them, they will be easy to recognize, and people will know who he/she is.

A real life story

In 1.grade at school, my mother bought me a pen that could write in seven colors. I could just click on the color I wanted and the writing would come in the color I chose. One day another classmate, stole my pen, and put her own pen in it`s place, which was almost like the one I had, but not the same thing. When I recognized my pen being in her stuff, I talked to the teacher. Obviously the teacher didn`t have any solid proof from any side, as it was my words against hers. I told mum about it and she said, we will buy you a new one. That day never came, but I realized one thing, no matter how well you know a friend, you can never be 100% sure that the same thing wouldn`t happen again. This lesson has followed me through my life, and I have understood, that not every person is going to be happy when you achieve something. Some people will try to put obstacles in your way, and some will envy you. Therefore when you are succesful, it is not always that smart to spread the word out. We need to understand whom are our well-wishers, and only share these kinds of victories with them. We also know that the evil eye is true, so sometimes we need to tone down a bit before sharing some good news.

Trust yourself

It is also important that we trust our instinct, and don`t fall in the trap other people put in our way. When we know the truth, even if the whole world is saying something else, we should be strong and bold enough to stand on our rights, and be confident. You know, the whole world can say that your “turban” is black/purple/blue/yellow, as long as you know that it`s white, you should disregard what others say, and not give their statements any value or attention. Or simply nod and smile. A lot of people say a lot of bad words about Islam and muslims, but we know we are on the right. That doesn`t mean that we should stay quiet when others say bad things about us. But is sure means that we should choose our battles wisely, and that sometimes it is better to just be quiet and smile. Sometimes people say something, and later on they have to eat their own words, because they are proven wrong. As a wise person once said : “Be good, but don`t waste time to prove it”.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

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you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
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Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

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Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
Ameen summa ameen

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