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There is a reason why Allah had to state explicitly whom we can interact with and whom it is not allowed for us to interact with, whom we are allowed to marry and whom we can’t marry, when and whom we need to have a hijab in front, and whom we do not need this. 

In the time before quran (islam) those souls transgressed into sin and ruined their lives. So Allah had to make it clear for them, how they could save their souls. Ya Allah, protect us from going back to the practice of the time of jahiliyah. Aamen. Ya Allah, help every ummati out of their ignorance into the guidance of Islam. Aamen 

israel, usa, world, president, war crimes cartoon gaza under attack israel carlos-latuffI get so amazed by some people when they say that they love a country/ethnicity etc. I know love is blinding, but most people do take this quite literally. For instance when your son is misbehaving in any way. You would, out of love as a parent, try to help him behave the right way. No parent would say, “Oh, I love my son so much, that I`ll let him do whatever he does, because I don`t want him to get hurt/sad”. That doesn`t make any sense. A parent when they see his son trying to catch “fire”, would stop him, so he wouldn`t get burned. Lets replace the little kid/son/brother with the name of Israel, and lets replace the name of parent/big brother with U.S. Now Israel is killing innocent civilians in Palestine, taking over their country. Some real mean stuff. The whole world knows their atrocities. Still father/big brother U.S. is backing him up. “Do whatever you want son. I`ll prevent you from falling or being jailed”, U.S. says. The whole world can see that and admit that most of what the Israelis are doing are wrong. Despite this, I know people whom praise Israel, like they can`t see their war-crimes.

Imagine Your Son Is Misbehaving At School

He is bugging some other kids. You wouldn`t, if you were a good decent parent, cheer him for doing this. I`m sure parents with good values, would stop their child from hurting others. Imagine, if you actually praised him for bullying some class-mates. What do you think would happen to your son? His confidence would increase, and he might do more and meaner stuff. Why? Because your backing him up. If you keep backing up your son, when he does something wrong, it will motivate him to keep on doing it and probably increase him in his wrongdoing. If you don`t want your child to eventually be criticized by the principal or get expelled, most parents, would try to use some incentives to help him stop from misbehaving at school. So you see when son Israel know that father/big brother U.S. has got his back no matter how much wrong he does to bullied Palestine, he won`t stop.

israel vs palestineThis Makes Me Angered And Sad

When other people whom supposedly love Israel, praise the state, despite the wrong decisions it has made, and how many war crimes it is involved in. How can you close your eyes to the fact that even if Israel can be doing 1% right, he is still doing 99% wrong. By cheering him up, just because you generally love Israel, because of it`s holy-ness, is wrong. Yes the land is holy, and muslims also believe that Judaism came before christianity and then Islam came after that. But we can`t stand here and say to someone who just because your message at that time was gods message, I agree with what you are doing now. That doesn`t make any sense. Besides. If you saw jews as your friends, you would tell him when his wrong. Even if that hurt him. You wouldn`t cheer on your friends when they make mistakes, big mistakes, like killing people. If you have the right values, you would make him go to the police and take the sentence the court judges. Because your friend killed another person. It`s not allowed. Just because your friend was born on holy land doesn`t make himself holy. Our Prophet pbuh said too his daughter Fatima raa, your lineage would not make you go to Paradise, so work on doing good deeds. That is the only way of going to Paradise. He said that to his own daughter. Ma sha Allah, that is Islam. Everyone has to pay for their own bad deeds, and will be rewarded individually for their good deeds. If they want to prosper, they will work on this. There is no shortcuts to success, each and every has to take the stairs, one step at a time. If you`re a friend of jews and Israel, a “real” friend, you would stop him from doing wrong. It`s that simple. And if the jews and the state Israel, doesn`t stop it`s war-crimes. It will have a bad end. Maybe in this world, but most certainly in the hereafter, when their crimes will be judged before Allah. They most certainly will have to pay for it. It`s not only about saving your butt in this world. The most important point is whether you are saving your or others butt in the next world, hereafter, when it really will matter. Because the outcome will decide your faith for eternity. May Allah open our eyes, before we become guilty in the same crime, because we didn`t put any effort in stopping it. Aameen.

sunnah is helping around in the house, men, husband, fatherRamadan is a month to let our soul connect with Allah through ibaadah. It is important that all the family members get a chance to improve themselves, not only the men. Often the women in the house, daughter, sister, mother, wife does not get the chance to spend as much time for ibaadah because of the chores of the house. It is important that the whole family helps around, so that it doesn`t burden a few. Ramadan is not about the iftars and food we are going to eat at the end of the day, it is about getting closer to Allah and how can we possibly achieve that if we are over-burdened.

It is important that men help around the house more in ramadan. The same if you have children, keep them also busy helping. Good family ties kan only be kept from team work, we are in this together, one goal, and we help each other to do good. If ramadan is meant for us to forget the women in the house and overburdening them with our request for iftar meals, we are not living the essence of ramadan.

help me draw closer to you this ramadan.You are not the only one whom prayers are obligatory for. Your family must also pray. Make it easy for each other to pray. Give the women in your family breaks at salah time to complete the salah with khusoo and no concern for the food that is cooking. Men will be held accountable for every salah their daughters, sister, mother and wife missed or read being overburdened. Work chores can easily become family time, if we try to keep a good environment for each other. Maybe that is something that won`t make the chores that unwanted, especially by the children or teens. If these teens boys and girls are given good values from the start they will grow up and become an asset to the whole community, not only for themselves. Parents can teach them good qualities. It is vital that we give them time as the fragile age they are in. A good muslim is first and foremost good to his family. Ramadan is a time to grow spiritually. Make this a time for the whole family to help become better people and better muslims.

strong people 2Life isn`t fair to everyone. It doesn`t stand still either. We won`t always be happy but neither always sad. No one has everything either. Some people have lost a friend, other a family member. Some has lost their job other has become ill. No matter how hard we try, we are not in control of what happens to us, but we can make sure that we make the best out of the situation that we are facing.


Patience is helping others with what you yourself is deprived of

Often the first thing we start with when something negative happens is the complaining. I don`t have xyz and so the list goes on. Alhamdolillah, living abroad, most of us have a lot that we take for granted. The most important of those things are our relations. Some people as being the eldest, might some times say, I wish I had an elder brother. Someone whom has lost a parent, might say, I wish my parents were with me today. Other that have a child that is ill, would wish for healthy children, and so the list goes on. Maybe if Allah decided to take something away or give us a difficulty is to see how we cope with it. If the one whom has no elder siblings, would try to be that elder brother/sister for his younger siblings, that him/her wanted, he/she would get an opportunity to give something so  precious as exactly what he/she wanted, even if he/she is deprived of it himself/herself. A glow of patience. Or for instance, for those whom have lost a parent, there are elders whom doesn`t get visits from their children, why not give them some time, whenever you can? If you are not married yet, but looking for a spouse, why not give charity to a sister back home whom doesn`t have enough money to get married? If you just got married, but having difficulties to conceive, there are a lot of children whom need support, maybe someone in the family, would like to have a day off from all the work of the kids, to get out one evening. The possibilities are there, it is up to us to look for opportunities where we can help others and at the same time comfort ourself as well.


The biggest issue in today`s society

This is how we can make a difference. Even if we are deprived of something, we can make sure that we help people in the same situation, because we know how tough it is. And to lessen the burden of those whom need a hand. The biggest issue of today in our society is loneliness, elders as well as children, even if the world has everything to offer, the most important things, nurture relations, are what we lack the most. Maybe this is where we need to start? Sometimes Allah puts difficulties in our life because He knows we can overcome them, and that it will make us stronger and wiser.

status of women in islamI vesten er det et vanlig syn blant de fleste mennesker at kvinner skal ha de samme rettighetene som menn. Dr Zakir Naik har holdt et foredrag om kvinners rettigheter i islam, hvor han sa at kvinner er biologisk, fysiologisk og emosjonelt annerledes enn menn, så hvordan kan de ha den samme rollen i et samfunn som menn da. Å si likestilling blir helt feil, man kan heller bruket ordet likeverd.

For noen titall år siden ble det diskutert hvorvidt kvinner hadde en sjel, mens i Islam ble det for 1300 år siden fortalt via Koranen at kvinner og menn har sjel og er likeverdige. Kvinner har 3 ganger så masse høyere verd enn menn. En av profetens venner kom til profeten Muhammad (pbuh) og spurte profeten; hvem har mest krav på meg? Profeten svarte tre ganger; din mor, fjerde gangen sa han din far. Det betyr at kvinner har veldig høyt verd i Islam. Ikke minst pga smerten de må gjennom ved å bære frem barn og selve fødselen. Profeten Muhammad (pbuh) har selv sagt at Jannah (paradiset) ligger ved moren din sine føtter.

En annen hadith understreker at dersom en far/bror har en eller flere døtre/søstre og de behandler dem bra og sørger for at de tilegner seg bra verdier og døtrene/søstrene gifter seg, så vil Allah gi han beskyttelse fra ilden etter døden/dommens dag og/eller være grunnen til at han får gå til Paradiset.

I kristendommen tros det på at skylden for at Eva as og Adam as ble kastet ut av paradiset, blir lagt på Eva as. Mens i Islam fikk både Eva as og Adam as delt skyld i samme sak. Kvinner i Islam ble gitt rett til å ha sin egen eiendom og lønnen de får når de arbeider eller driver næringsvirksomhet, kan de bruke på det de måtte ønske. Mannen derimot er nødt for å bruke sin lønn på familien sin, deriblant konen, selv om hun har egen inntekt.  Det forklarer hvorfor menn arver mer enn kvinner, fordi de har forsørgeransvaret i familien som fedre/brødre.

Menn og kvinner i islam er gjetere for hver sin flokk, det betyr at de har ulikt ansvar som de må stå til rette for, og som er begge like viktig for at familien skal fungere. Mannen er familiens overhode, men de er alle teamspillere og teamet vil ikke fungere uten bra samarbeid innad. Kvinnene er mildere og mer følsomme enn menn, dermed er de mer egnet til å ta hoveddelen av oppdragelsen av barna, siden de lettere forstår barnas situasjon i fargen av deres natur.

I islam er kvinnens ære beskyttet. I vesten blir kvinner degradert til objekter som viser frem sin hud for å selge både det ene og det andre. Hvordan kan man si at dette gir kvinnen mer rettigheter i vesten? Før Islam ble kvinner sett på som sex-objekter hvor man ikke trengte å gifte seg med kvinnene men heller ble eid av mennene som ønsket dem. På den tiden kunne kvinner kunne gå i arv bare for at de skulle beholde den formuen hun eide/ hadde tilegnet seg gjennom mannen. Islam ga kvinner rett til å si nei til et ekteskap. Islam fortalte hvem som kunne gifte seg med hverandre, samt hvem som var forbudt for hverandre. Blant annet for å avverge at moren ble gift med nær slektning når “mannen” døde og avverge andre sykelige forhold som fantes i samfunnet på den tiden.

Samtidig er sex i islam sett på som noe veldig skjønt men tilbeholdt innenfor ekteskapet. Allah beskriver i Koranen at ektemannen og konen er sett på som hverandres klær som skal beskytte hverandre og gjemme hverandres feil fra andre. Som hverandres bekledning er de nærmest hverandre. Når kvinner hadde menstruasjon, før Islams tid, ble de sett på som noe urent og djevelsk. Mens i Islam pleide profeten Muhammad (pbuh) å resitere koranen mens han hadde hodet sitt i fanget til sin kone Aisha (raa) selv når hun hadde mensen.

Før Islam hadde mennene mange kvinner, I Islam ble ekteskapet sett på som halve troen og en kontrakt på papiret hvor man må ha vitner. Menn har rett til å gifte seg med inntil fire koner dersom det er enker eller foreldreløse som trenger støtte. Det ble tillatt etter en krig i Islam hvor det var mange enker og som hadde barn som trengte støtte for å ha noen som kunne brødfø dem. Dersom mennene frykter at de ikke ikke skulle greie å behandle alle konene likt, har de ikke lov til å ha flere koner. En person som har flere koner men ikke behandler de likt/rettferdig vil ved dommens dag stå opp med bare halve av sin kropp, Tirmidhi. Samtidig har også Profeten pbuh vist at monogami er også fra hans Sunnah. Når Profeten giftet seg med Khadijah raa, var han kun gift med henne, så lenge hun levde. De levde sammen i ca 25 år.

Vi må skifte fokus fra å snakke om likestilling til å snakke om likeverd. To vesener som er så ulike kan uansett hva vi sier eller gjør,  aldri bli like. Det forventes ulikt fra menn enn fra kvinner. Det er bare kvinner som kan føde barn og de er mer følsomme og emosjonelle enn menn. Derfor blir det mer riktig å snakke om likeverdet mellom de, enn likestilling. Når man begynner å beskrive ordet verd, ser man at Islam gir kvinner mer verd enn menn. Det er også en hadith som sier at dersom folk forstod den virkelige status en kvinne har i Islam, vil selv menn ønske å være en kvinne.

Det er klart at det er vokst frem en ukultur i det muslimske miljøet som undertrykker spesielt kvinner, men også menn. Denne ukulturen er ikke fra religionen og kan også ha sammenheng med at folk ikke praktiserer islam i stor grad, men velger hva de ønsker å praktisere og hva de ønsker å overse. Mens islam egentlig betyr at man skal underkaste seg alle lovene til Allah og ikke bare de som passer en selv.

Mye av ukulturen blant pakistanere stammer også fra dengang hele landet var sammenslått med India. Vi har arvet mye fra India.

En sak som er viktig å understreke er at dersom en person som er norsk gjør noe galt, sier man ikke at alle kristne gjør den og den gale handlingen. Men dersom en pakistaner, eller muslim gjør noe galt, vil man med en gang si at det er det Islam sier. Det er veldig vanlig spesielt i media og vinklingen til journalistene er ofte preget av muslim-/islam-hat.  Dersom et tre har et rottent eple, så vil ikke et intelligent menneske si at det er treets skyld. Alle trær kan ha noen rotne epler. Men når en muslim gjør noe galt, istedet for å se om han er praktiserende eller ikke, vil de uten å blunke si at det er Islam sin skyld.

Journalister vil alltid farge sine artikler etter sine meninger. Men vi som leser disse artiklene bør skaffe oss mer samfunnsforståelse og være mer kritiske til det vi leser. Det er den eneste løsningen på dette. Ikke feie alle over en kam, men vit at akkurat som at det finnes bra og dårlige kristne/jøder, finnes det også bra og dårlig muslimer. Å skylde på Islam, kristendom, jødedom når en muslim, kristen, jøde gjør noe galt, er ikke noe et opplyst samfunn vil gjøre.  Istedet vil de se hans/hennes gjerninger i lys av de verdier han/henne hadde tilegnet seg i løpet av livet. Verdiene til en person kan være preget av flere forhold og ikke nødvendigvis bare religion.

Jeg tror at kvinner har bedre rettighet og verd i islam enn det vesten noen gang kunne gi kvinnen. I Islam er kvinnen sett på noe som man skal beskytte og ikke vise til ethvert menneske. I vesten blir kvinner brukt aktivt i markedsføring på alt fra biler til undertøy. Jeg tenker vi må åpne våre øyne og se at kvinner har mer rett i islam enn det vesten noen gang kan greie å gi. Islam i sin uforandret tilstand beskytter kvinnen, mens samfunnet i vesten degraderer kvinnen.

muslimah, hijab, crown, princessNote To Myself And The Women Of The World:

Don`t let the world degrade you to an object to please strangers eyes. You are worthy of being the slave of Allah. Which is the highest status any woman can have. Don`t dress to impress men that would degrade you to a thing. Rather dress for your Lord. Your hijab protects you against being just an attraction for men. Your status as a human being, a woman, is so much more. As a mother; jannah lies at your feet, as a wife; you fulfil half of the deen of your Husband, as a Daughter; you are a rahma for the family and your parents and brothers ticket to heaven, depending on how they treat you and what kind of islamic upbringing they give you.

Your hijab doesn`t hide your opinion, rather it gives you freedom to express them by people focusing on what you say, rather than how you look like. How you dress yourself proclaims how you think about yourself, and how you want others to think about yourself. Respect yourself, and don`t let the world put standards for you. Raise your standards to what position Allah has given you, and you will in sha Allah reap the reward for the good you do in this world.

-Inspired by dai`s around the world.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!



(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)


(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
Ameen summa ameen

Når du er forent med en
du elsker, er det ingenting
du ikke klarer :)

Gode ord skaper tillit.
Gode tanker skaper
Inderlighet. God
giverglede skaper

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