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The beauty of Islam, is the vastness of the Mercy our Lord has for us. When we sincerely repent, make tawbah, our past sins are erased from our record, we become as pure as a child. The sign of us avoiding sinfulness again, is a sign of Allah accepting our repentence. Allah knows we are weak. Allah wants to help us. So Allah has told us keep good company. They won’t let you sin, and avoid sins themselves also. They remember Allah frequently, and remind you when you forget. They motivate you to learn and practice deen. They are at peace, and their presence increase peace. 

What We Avoid. 

Who we spend time with tells a lot about us. Our friends. Those we choose to connect with. Who we decide to avoid, also says a lot about us. If we avoid those who are doing good, and spend time with those who invite to evil, it will be difficult to change for the better. If we instead, do what we can, to join events that has khair in it, we will also benefit from it’s goodness. First priority after guidance is to keep us on the right path through the ups and downs of our life. We have to work proactively for it, to keep increasing in imaan and good character. We can’t accomplish that, without good company. 

How To Prepare For A Marathon

If we don’t keep training our running abilities, after a month, our endurance will decrease. The next marathon, we will have a lower score. After we learn any kind of ability. We have to work to become better and increase our work for the next level, and so on. To improve. Our guiders our teachers boost us with confidence, knowledge and wisdom, and we are motivated to work harder to grow in our qualities as a muslim, and increase our practice of our deen. Allah doesn’t look at our results. He rewards us according to our struggle. Only He knows how much we are struggling to come closer to Him (Allah). That is exactly why, each and every muslim has a great chance of becoming a “friend of Allah”. Everyone has different challenges/abilites. Allah wants us to perfect our ikhlas and niyah in our struggle, and do what good we can within our capabilities (means). 

Unique Qualities But The Same Goal

Just imagine, if we all were alike and had the same trouble at the same time? Whom would be able to help each other, when we are struggling with the same matter at the same time? Thanks to Allah, He created us unique, no one matches another. Because we are so individually gifted in different qualities, we can help each other prosper together. For example fla fla is good in writing. Fla fla is good in delivering speech. When they team up, one of them writes the speech, the other one perfectly delivers it, and they are able to make a good difference, by them teaming up for a good cause. So there is goodness in our unique-ness. 

Catching The Cold Or Remain Healthy

When we stop growing, our endurance, qualities remain the same, or becomes worse. Time does not wait for anyone. Changes in fashion, knowledge, science, internet, stock market is rapid. When we try to keep us updated in the matters that are important for us (connected to our religion) we become more aware of what is happening in our community / country. The good and the bad. Even if we aren’t a part of everything. We can’t fight a disease without knowing about it. On the other side, we can’t feel thankfulness, if we don’t know how blessed we are. The first thing that helps us grow, is having self-insight. We are not perfect. We are not all bad, either. By learning about our mistakes, we can help ourselves and each other in overcoming them. Or protecting us and our loved ones from “catching the cold”.

O Blessed Souls, Enter Highest Paradise 

Make sincere tawbah. Spend time with people who are good friends of akhirah. Grow in your abilities. Team up with those who have same goals. Avoid bad influence. Make a change were you live. Allah will reward you according to your struggle. Just keep checking on your niyah and ikhlas. We are doing good for the sake of Allah. And that He will forgive us. And enjoin us in highest paradise, because of our efforts. Aamen. Ya Allah, make it easy for us to join good events with khair. Make us prosper in both worlds. Aamen. Ya Allah, help us avoid places and events You dislike. Make us become our best version, in what You (Allah) wants us to accomplish. Aamen. 

positive parents, children, upbringingGood and bad health is in the hands of our Creator. There is also something we have in our hands to change the situation. Many people know the right of the parents and talk and praise those who treat them well. Though we need to talk more about how parents should treat their children also. Their childhood shape them for their adulthood. If we want them to be good contributors as adults, we nee to know how to mould them into what we want them to become. I have a few thoughts about this, I would like to share.

Children Above Their Age

Children need to learn the parents rights. The parents also should be aware of the children’s rights. If a childs` opinion is validated, and their parents make them feel like they can contribute to the conversation, even with their little intellect at the moment. They would be able to, see with amazement, that many times children say words that are above their age, and good for the conversation. It is the parents that build the childs` confidence in the beginning. Just like any spouse want un-divided attention, children also need a good dose of positive attention, love, care and nurture from their parents. If the parents are able to show this in a good way, they help build healthy people who are an asset for the community and the people they interact with.

parents recognize childrens abilites and efforts,Don`t Downplay Their Abilities

It is so easy to for a parent to say to a child, don`t be disrespectful. Though the parents must also realize that if you treat he/she with respect, and teach them how to behave in a good way, with encouragement, they will. If the only way to get any attention is when children does something wrong, of course, the child that need validation, would do anything for it. To bring out good qualities in our children, we must comment positively and take out time to listen to them and reason with them, to help them think good. Not only teaching them what to think, but how to think right. Don`t downplay their abilities. That is where they learn to downplay their own abilities, in their relations as adults. At the time a child is born, it is like a white sheet. Whatever it becomes and how it behaves depends on the values that are cultivated in him/her. The parents need to realize their responsibilities before it is too late. Encourage your children and see them blossom. Build confidence and self-esteem while keeping them humble and filled with humility and gratefulness. Knowing that good would not happen to them without the will and help of Allah and hard work. When they don`t win the game, appreciate their efforts, because they worked hard. We need to raise children that will be good for the community, muslims and non muslims, but most importantly, good for Islam. May Allah help all elders and children value and respect each other and fulfil their rights and obligations towards each other in a sunnah way and help them become resourceful for the community and to each other.

svane familieMany people often neglect children’s need to be seen and heard and valued for who they are, where their abilities are appreciated regardless of their siblings or friends achievements. A childs joy, when their parents listen attentively, and value all the siblings individually, when they are together as a family, is important. Often we wonder why some adults are so quiet and not into talking that much. When they grow up amongst many siblings, where some are very dominating, it is obvious that other doesn`t get that much chance to blossom or show their abilities. It could lead to they not cultivate their talents as much as their potential. People in general grow better in the right environment. Since everyone has different needs, we grow the best in different places. Seeing your child as the individual he/she is and value them for who they are, without comparison to other, is important.

 

Undiscovered Potential

Sitting at the dinner table with the family, and giving everyone chance to respond and talk to the family, is must, no matter how old they are, because their opinions need to be valued, to make them feel that they also have important opinions. Who hasn`t heard a toddler or a young child say something that is beyond his/her age. By excluding some children from the conversations, we can damage their self-esteem, and prevent them from believing in themselves. The saying “ghar ki murghi daal barabar”, is quite funny and accurate to prove the point. People outside of the family, sees so much potential in a child, while within the family, he/she can be neglected.

 

Values Are More Important Than Education

Our parents might have had this way of raising us. If we havent learned from their mistakes, we have not learned anything worthwhile. What can be more important than moulding our next generation into beautiful/giving people with good values who has the confidence to stand for what they believe in. I`m sure if we ask our friends all of them has something to point out about how they got raised by their parents. Good solid education won`t do any good for anyone, if the conduct, character, morals, manners, self-esteem etc are not cultivated and sound.

 

When You Are On Right, You Will Be Rewarded

Teaching children that nothing comes in this world without hard work. There is no elevator to success, everyone has to take the stairs, one step at a time, as long as you work hard and abide by the rules, you are a winner, no matter the outcome. Even if others doesn`t value your efforts know that Allah sees your struggles and will reward you, in this life and next. A good environment starts at home and as the child grows older other places like kindergarten, school, college, work and friends will have an impact on them. If we don`t cheer our children for their achievements, no matter how small, they will find someone who does. And that someone isn`t necessarily a good influence on them. For them to have a solid confidence to say no to bad things, they must have a good dose of self-esteem and confidence, that is taught from their early years. When children realize that Allah will reward, they will turn to Him, instead of other people for validation. Help them see the beauty in their conduct and character not their appearance. Having a rich character, makes one feel good. The only way to feel good is to know that you are doing something right, and having trust that you will be rewarded for it by Allah.

 

 

happy feetSee, Hear And Value Your Children

Treat them as individuals. Cheering them for having good conduct, character, and filling their bucket of esteem and confidence, and cultivating good values in them, will help them in all their struggles in life. Helping them believe in themselves will make it easier for them to cope with challenges. There is no bigger favour a parent can do for his/her child. Being fair so that no one is excluded and everyone gets a fair chance to speak, is important. It proclaims a message of equality. We need to be fair when some of the children are more dominating. When we teach children to listen to each other, they will of course do that. Growing up in an environment where we can`t express our views without fear of being ridiculed by other siblings, is damaging. The parents can make rules for a healthy conversation/discussion at home and make sure that they are also followed. Since the parents are the shepherds of the family, they need to make sure that their children are under good care and that their individual needs are filled and they are given space where they grow best. They will be questioned about their care, from Allah.

love for your brother islamIn Ramadan at the end of the day big aftari`s awaits us. Even though we have restricted ourself during the day, we have abundance of food, when it is time to open the fast. The fast gives us an idea of how it is for those individuals whom doesn`t have as much as us. How does it feel when you don`t have enough for the essentials? Muslims fast for one month, though because of poor conditions some people can`t eat for several month`s. Can we imagine to be fasting all day, but not have the minimum nourishing food to eat at the end of the day. Going day by day listening to kids when they complain that they have a stomach ache because they are too hungry. One thing is that oneself is suffering but when one sees these poor angels suffering, that is unbearable and hurts. It hurts for others but it hurts the most for their parents. Seeing one child suffering, without being able to take the suffering away, is indeed devastating.

 

We have a choice to refrain from food

Not everyone has that. In some countries there are people whom would want to have the minimum to survive and earn their own money, have a family and live in security with them but they aren`t able because of the situation there. Are we able to imagine when there is fight for the food that is given to some people and only those who are strong enough are able to get the survival kit of food for a week or so.

 

They Have The Abilities But Not The Support

Most people want to earn the halal way for their family`s to provide for them. Here in Norway there are a few people who dies out of hunger, because the country takes care of all of it`s citizens even for those whom can`t provide for themselves. Back home most of the population of Pakistan are young adults. They have the education, but because of the system, they are not able to get hired without anyone put in a good word for them. Even though they might have the abilities and great results from the university, most of them have to work in underpaid jobs. They have the potential but aren`t given the chances because they doesn`t have the means.

 

Tension Is Increasing

When the youth aren`t given enough chances to do good work according to their abilities of course a lot of tension erupts. Their opinions doesn`t matter and they are easily oppressed. If some people in such a country wants to live in a halal matter, it becomes quite difficult. Imagine being somewhere where you can`t get documents from an office because they are asking for bribes. Unless you don`t pay them money that will go into their own pockets, they won`t do your work. Because of the inflation, ordinary people can`t afford the bare minimum to have a nutritous meal. There is not enough security for the families that lives there. Innocent people are killed and innocent people are jailed because of some crime some others have done. The people are deprived from their basic needs to keep them oppressed and diverted from doing something about how the country is ruled and their money utilized. Because of the cancer in the system of the country and the governments lack of control over the situation or willingness to do anything, people`s difficulties are increasing. The youths displeasure is increasing. Nothing can be done without eliminating the corruption in the system.

 

maslows behovshierarkiThe Leaders Will Have A Tougher Questioning.

Because they are responsible for their people`s need. The population is oppressed by the government for the essential to live a good life, like food, clothing, house, electricity, fuel for vehicles, security to prevent them to climb to the fifth row, see picture. They are keeping the people suffering so they don`t fight against the government. This has been going on for years. Roti/kapda/makan. The leaders are not taking care of their people? There was a time in the  Khalifat of the hadrat Umar raa, when he used to go around at night to see if anyone was suffering under his leadership. When he was asked about it, he said that even if one dog goes to sleep hungry, I will be answerable to Allah about it. What will then happen to a leader where most of his people are suffering. Does this not scare them? Or do they not believe in the hereafter? We all are going to be questioned about our life. The leader has a responsibility not only for their own but also for their people, and their questioning is going to be far more harsh. One day we are all going to stand in front of our Creator. Before we even stand for election, ask yourself are you compassionate about the people you are going to lead. If you don`t have the motivation to help them or guide them to success and reduce their sufferings, the job was never made for you. When the leaders will be compassionate for their people, only then will people be satisfied with them. May Allah help the ummah and ease their sufferings. Aameen summa aameen.

True happiness is being obedient and submissive to Allah, white flowerThe people we interact with influence us according to their values. Even if they aren`t our closest friends, their values can rub off on us. Some people say we become like the 5 people we spend the most time with. Be it at home, work, university etc. We can`t choose the people who are in our family, but we can choose whom we will befriend. Even if we have to work or study with people who are very different from us, we don`t have to let their differences affect our values. To be able to do that we have to have control over ourself with understanding and believing in our goals and be determined that we are going to make it, no matter how difficult the road might seem. Guidance comes from Allah. He is the only One whom guides us. We should always supplicate to him to ask for the straight path of guidance with a heart that accept guidance as well. Without His Help we are indeed lost. As long as we rely only on Him we can`t be lost. When we start to rely on ourself and our abilities, He will send us a difficulty to teach us who is in charge. If we have any ability to do anything it is merely because of His Love. He can take away whatever He has blessed us with. So it remains to practice patience and gratefulness side by side, and turn to Him always, every day, as often as possible.

 

It Is Better To Die Than To Be Disobedient To Allah

Who hasn`t had some friends with different set of values that has influenced them without thinking of the consequences of it being harmful for ourself. When we are practising muslims, doing the right thing might be hard, but it will be the only way. Your choice will be between: 1. Doing the right and 2. Doing the right thing. Even and despite the road being packed with difficulties. When we are so strict with ourself, we won`t allow ourself to fall into sin, and if and when we do, and yes it is inevitable, we would feel that dying is better than being disobedient to Allah. His true slaves turn to Him whenever they fail.

 

Leave The Place

To be able to control our desires and our emotions we need to be in control of our heart. When we keep on doing sins, it`s sickness is increased. It can only be healed by listening to Quran and doing good deeds, keeping wudhu, avoiding bad company, and avoiding sin. When our heart has come a bit on the way to becoming healthy, it won`t even like the places that leads to sin. If we ourself are struggling it is difficult for us to help others. When we are strong, we can face the fitna/tribulations that would be in such a place. We can`t save others before we save ourself.

 

Allah, Jannah, Muslim, proveA bad Friend Is Worse Than Shaytan

We need to be aware of our worth. When we know something is bad for us, we can`t be persistent in it. For example, a friend of yours ask you to jump off a mountain. Every sane person knows that you`ll die or break a lot of bones in your body, from the fall. Never mind that, he`s my best friend, how can I not do what he said, he knows me so well, and what would help me, right? The same goes for sinning. We need to stand up for Islam and be able to say “no”, and not follow a bad advice that will harm our Hereafter. Even if our so-called friends is cheering us to do it. We know that it`s not right, so we abstain. There is a saying in urdu that when one in a group of people is wrong, all the others will guide him to become good but what will the people do when most of the people in the group are wrong and only one is right. Avoid. It is like a group of young boys that just got their driving license. They are not perfect drivers but has got permission to drive. That means they need to be extra careful to not break any rules. The rules are new to them and they need to be familiar with them to know how to drive correctly.  If one of them cheers the driver to overspeed, they have only themselves to blame if they they come in an accident. Even those that doesn`t practice Islam knows that when we sin, we are going in the direction of Hell-fire, if we don`t repent and make amends. If we still wan`t do be persistent in going on that way, when we know the consequences, we are indeed stupid. That is why I believe in the saying of some elders that a bad friend is worse than shaytan, because shaytan only whispers to you, but that friend, he takes you to that place of sinning and doesn`t stop until you have sinned, so that you become like him. And then he can say, “Way to go, yeah I can see, you are a muslim”. The only goal of a bad friend is to make you just as bad as him.

 

In Good And Bad Always Turn To Allah

Bottom line. Avoid. Avoid. Avoid. The more a person want to sin, the more Allah loves him, when he is able to abstain from it. Don`t rely on yourself or others. Rely only on Allah. People are sometimes good to you and sometimes bad, mostly according to what you benefit them with. Don`t lose your focus. Keep yourself determined to go to Paradise. And be aware that the way to Paradise is a road that is packed with difficulties. Though as long as we are persistent, we can find blessings in the difficulties. Whatever good or bad happens, always turn to Allah. Allah is in charge, He is the one Who has made the rules and regulations. He decides how matters are and how we can respond, out of His Wisdom. We don`t know as much as a grain according to Allah Who knows All that is in the Universe. How can we for one minute think that we know better than Him. It is plain impossible. When he asks us to abstain from something, even if we in our minds are not able to understand the wisdom, we have to trust in Him. He made us and know what is good for us. Only the maker of a vehicle, knows what is good and bad for it. Similarly, it is by Allah`s command that we are here in this world, so we must rely on the fact that he knows best what He wants for us. Accordingly He knows best how to handle our heart, and how to keep it away from all kinds of diseases. People wonder why some believers are in tension most of the time. How can they relax before they enter Paradise? The day they enter Paradise, with those they love, they will be content and rejoice over the fact that they made it to their goal. Sinning takes them further away from their goal, and being obedient makes them closer to their goal. May Allah preserve us, guide us and give us a heart that accept guidance, give us righteous company, and give us strong imaan and will to do what is right according to Islam and make it easy for us to follow Him. Aameen summa aameen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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