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When I was on a trip to saudi arab Makkah and madina, our group went on ziyarah. A young guide, drove us from place to place. I still remember we asked this guide, you are so lucky, you live in the town so close to the best mosques, you can do umrah or hajj whenever you want. To this he replied, I’m very blessed to live here. The only matter that makes it difficult for the muslims who live here is the hasad (jealousy) in the people. If it wouldn’t have been for that, I would have liked it even more. This was in 2009. 

I remember what he said til today. The qualities Islam came to change, are still found in many muslims. If we would try to strengthen the brotherhood and sisterhood of the ummah, our brothers and sisters wouldn’t be in so much trouble, misery and danger. We have forgotten to practice the qualities Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ have taught. Ya Allah, grant us to win the struggle of proactively strengthening the brotherhood of this ummah. Grant us to win struggle of proactively get rid of bad qualities in our heart, that are making problem for all ummati to unite as one ummah. Aamen 

marriage-quran-strong-bond-enemies-husband-wife-help-from-allahMany men talk about having more than one wife. According to Islam, it is allowed. The time of the sahaba, many widows needed support, and men were allowed to marry them. The orphans would get helped, and the women get supported. In that time the sahaba raa didn`t either see any bad in marrying any women whom had been married before. Also the muslim women, were more reliable.

Friendships With Opposite Gender Outside Marriage

Nowadays, men frighten their first wife, if you don`t stop the discussion, I would marry another. Alhamdolillah, it is allowed in Islam. It is only that the society of today, is much different from the time of the sahaba. The era of today is full of fitnah everywhere. Many are struggling with hijab and modesty. Integrity is seen less. People have become more materialistic. There is more lying than before. Good conduct and decent values are rarily found in people. In these trying times, most wives wonder about their husbands integrity. Most husbands wonder about their wife`s integrity. Husbands are wondering about one wife, what if you had four, demanding the same right? So one day you`re with one wife. Can you trust the second, third and fourth at that time? What reason do you have to be assured, that they are not with anyone else? Most women of today, can`t wait a day for her husband, when he is away. Also internet makes it easy to get friends, easily. When friends between the genders are ok, when do we know if both husband and wife have haya and practice modesty, when they are with other people? That is why it is important to choose spouse because of good character and decent values. Don`t choose spouse because of beauty, status or money. You are not choosing a car.  You are choosing the mother of your children. The qualities you see in her, will be seen in your children. The purity of the children is dependent on the purity of the husband and wife. If you want good children you can`t afford to choose wrong. Imagine your children imitating their mother. Dancing at bollywood songs and addicted to dialogues from indian dramas or movies. I would prefer to have a spouse where we both remember our Lord in everything we do, by practising obedience to Him in public and private. Following sunnah guidelines. Your married life isn`t dependent on your wife`s appearance. Your married life is dependent on you and your wife`s good qualities and abilities.  If your too obsessed about the beauty or luxury of this dunya, how will you be able to work for your souls home? The place you`re going to spend an eternity.  Ya Allah, protect us from bad faith. Aamen. Grant every ummati a righteous spouse. Aamen.

What If You Make The Same Mistake With Second Wife?

One can understand from this, that even if a man marries a second wife, there will be a half-year happy time, after that both will get used to each other. Than the same mistakes he made in the first marriage, will be seen in him towards his second wife? He didn`t fix them then. Of course, it wasn`t his faults. So the solution of disagreements between couple, is not to get another wife. It is to find ways of increasing love between the husband and wife in the first marriage. Finding ways of increasing compatibility. Understanding how your spouse feels loved and how your spouse accepts apologies. Showing love through gestures of respect, appreciation and gifts.

A Husband And Wife Of This Trying Time, Need To Prove Their Integrity To Each Other Every Day

One matter is settled. Men and women has a responsibility to cultivate in them good conduct, in private and public. Even if someone might win a blessing. He / she can easily lose it, if he / she doesn`t know how to value it. When it comes to Allah`s friends. Allah will never give His diamond, to a man who is not able to protect it and take care of it. That is something, that must be proven every day. Not just one day of a year. Ya Allah, grant every husband and wife to win the struggle of correcting their integrity, niyah, ikhlas and haya. Aamen. Protect every ummati from those who are un-reliable, untrustworthy, and those who have bad character. Aamen. A woman is tested when her man has nothing. A man is tested when he has everything. Let`s see who really passes the test? Ya Allah, grant every ummati help to make good decisions in life. Protect every marriage from envy, jealousy, magic and evil eye til the end of time. Aamen

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😍 beautifying your hijab. Attracts attention.

🤤 shaping eyebrows. Still attracting attention. 

💋💅 using make-up to beautify yourself. Attracts attention.

😏😉 not lowering your gaze. 

🕌 using perfume, when you go outside, easily attract attention. 

👠using shoes that makes noise. Attracts  attention.

👚 using clothing that it is possible to see through. Clothed, yet naked. 

👂😋talking in a way that attracts attention. 

🐍 mixing with others without any limitations. 

🎼 🎸🎷 listening to music. The lyrics of songs invites to matters Islam forbid. 

🎬 watching movies. Bollywood. Hollywood. Drama. It changes your perspective and misguides you. 

⭐️ following actors/ actresses on social media. Spreading matters about them. 

These matters are general prohibitions in Islam. In general no one follows them.  

🤐 gossiping. Not control of the sins of your tongue.

🤞🤥lying about others. 

🤝 😈 making enmity between friends / spouses. 

😼 making oaths about false matters. 

🤧 convey yourself as a victim to gain support against others. 

😤☠️ using magic to get what you want in life. 

🙃 spreading false information about others. Questionable sources. 

😇 being un-trust-worthy because of false statements, testimony. 

🕸 using too much time to make friends of dunya, instead of friends of akhirah (hereafter). 

🐍 supporting wrong / mean people, instead of the oppressed. 

🥝 using too much time to beautify outside, instead of inside (values, conduct, character, integrity, niyah, ikhlas). 

🍄🐖 eating non-halal food. Or earning money in non-halal way. 

🕊😬 harming people who do good. 

👉 false accusations. Bohtan. 

People who are trying to follow the basics sunnah of Islam, are experiencing so much trouble within the ummah, because we have deviated from the right path. It is difficult to live a life as a practising muslim, when most muslim practice Islam progressively. Ya Allah, don’t let us deviate from the right path, after You have guided us, grant us from yourself mercy, indeed You are the most Merciful, and You are the bestower. Aameen 

muslim couple, rights and obligations, quran, love, rose, flower, marriageOften when some husband take good care of their wife, and fulfil their obligations towards her and their children, his friends and family might comment that he has become a robot, where his wife decides everything. I want to highlight a few thoughts about this and why people might say such things.

We all are striving.

Some people are doing a great job when it comes to following sunnah. Not only when their friends and acquaintances are with them, but also at the time when no one is with them accept their loved ones and Allah. Some men are not shy off being good to their wife. Why should they be? Prophet Muhammad pbuh has said, the best of man is the one who is good to his wife, and I am the best to my wives. He pbuh lived what he said. He was not shy off helping around the house and giving un-divided attention to his other half. He gave them importance and supported them. If men want to follow his sunnah, being a good husband is also part of his sunnah. Not only praying on time and giving zakat.

Muslims can not be shy of practicing some part of their deen

No matter what others say. Hazoor pak saw has said he is afraid of a time when the disbeliever will be proud of their disbelief and a true believer will be shy of practicing his belief. I`m sure even those who comment negatively towards other, have their moments of being an awesome husband, though they are afraid of admitting it, because they see it as a quality we should not find in a man. How can they think that following the sunnah is not a quality they should have in themselves. I remember a time when Hazoor Pak pbuh was not to shy to admit in front of all the sahaba`s that the one he pbuh loved the most was Aisha raa. If he pbuh was not afraid of showing his love in front of everyone, than neither should any muslim husband.

Have we ever thought why other people comment negatively?

1.Jealousy/envy. Why are they so happy?
2.Not knowing what being a man is about.
3.Arrogance. That work is below my worth/standard.
4.Hobby: Putting hurdles in lives of succesful people.
5.Wrong understanding of Islam. Our rights and obligations.
6.Bad company.
7.Bad role-models.

We do not boast about following the Sunnah

Or become proud of the fact that we are Sunnis. To what extent we follow the Sunnah, shows the intensity of our love for our Prophet pbuh. So sometimes people might try to hide their good deeds from people to the extent that they would not like anyone to find out. In case they maybe returned because the intention is changing. The Prophet pbuh his family and sahaba, went to a lot of struggles for us. We must find ways to keep our intentions in check, but shying away is not the solution. The society has come to such matters, that we need good role-models that are not shying away from showing the right path, they have found. How can we say that we love him pbuh the most and be afraid to show the world that we want to live like him pbuh and are striving to cultivate his pbuh qualities in us. May Allah make us proud of our heritage in Islam, and help us practice it to as close to his pbuh life as possible. And not being shy of good conduct, even if we have people in our circle who are against it. May Allah guide us to good, till we accept nothing but good. May Allah mould us into what He wants us to become. Let us reach excellence in those qualities Allah and Hazoor pak saw like. And take out of our heart, soul and body, those qualities Allah and Hazoor pak saw dislikes. Aameen.

life is a prison for the believers and a paradise for the disbelieversInstead Of Competing

In every relationship we have to balance between rights and responsibilities. We can`t keep on expecting from others without fulfilling others rights upon us. Without having knowledge of it, we will also have difficulty to deliver. Most of the first generation that came to the West only know what rights they have. Most of the second generation have understood that the first generation hasn`t fulfilled their obligations towards them. How can we know expect to have a healthy, giving relationship between the two?

Parents Have Rights and Responsebilities

It is important that children take the responsibility of caring towards their parents. Likely it is important that the parents should have understood and practiced good parenting from the start. They were to occupied with earning a living. Not understanding that buying things is not the same as spending time cultivating values in the children you have brought into this world. We can`t expect without giving in return. Prophet Muhammad pbuh has talked about the right of the parents but also the responsibility of the parents.

It Is Rare To Find Genuine People

Wanting for your brother what you want for yourself has become a rare phenomena. Mostly sibling rivalry, or jealous friends make it quite difficult to share the good things that happen in our lives. The evil eye is real. People have found a passion in competing with each other, rather than helping each other prosper. It is so rare, to find someone whom is genuine in regards of wanting the best for us.

Chose The Easiest Matter, As Long As It Was Halal

In between all this our culture is not making our lives easier either. Clashes between culture and religion, makes difficulties in our lives. People give more consideration to what people might say rather than what Islam has to say. Between two matters, Prophet Muhammad pbuh, always chose the easiest, as long as it was halal. Nowadays people have made halal difficult for people whom want to live pure, because of our self-made rules. The world is indeed a prison for the believer and a paradise for the disbeliever. May Allah help the muslims keep the deen easy. And give each other glad tidings, instead of scaring each others away from our religion. Aameen.

heartbeat Allah, tazkiya, purification of heart, serve AllahCleanliness is important to most of us. Living in 2015, most of us have the basics to keep us clean. The understanding of cleanliness between a muslim and a non-muslim is different. Non-muslims looks for the cleanliness of the body, while we muslims also try to clean the heart and the soul. A non-muslim may take a shower, brush his teeth and put on some perfume and feel clean. For a practicing muslim to feel clean he also would take time to take the ritual shower called ghusl, to clean his soul. He/she would spend time to clean his heart from that which make it become black, like hatred, jealousy, envy and all bad qualities that the heart has to avoid to keep it pure. This fight is constant and is known as jihad, struggle. The struggle with your own self; nafs, to do the right thing, according to Allah`s laws and avoid what Allah has prohibited. This is an ongoing battle 24/7 to put your own desires and wants aside and work for what Allah wants you to do.

 

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Something Is Smelling

People may sit beside some other in the subway, and notice the bad smell of sweat or spices coming from someone. But have they ever thought about the fact that their souls also has a smell. If they abide by Allah`s rules, the soul will have a good smell. If the soul doesn`t abide by Allah`s rules or doesn`t believe in Allah, it will have a foul smell. After our death the angels will comment on our smell according to this. And we will see our deeds in form of a human who is beautiful=good deeds versus ugly=bad deeds and he will stay with us til the Judgment Day. We can`t spend a second with people that we don`t like to be with. How will our time in the grave be in case our deeds are not good. May Allah preserve us and guide us to do good and accept our good deeds and raise our status because of them. Aameen.

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A Message Can Be Sent Instantly

When the righteous pious predecessor, the friends of Allah lived on this earth, there was a time when people spent more time on cleaning their hearts, and there was more love between people. Now we clean our bodies but the heart is full of hatred, jealousy etc, so there is less love between people. Before people would walk days in difficult weather to meet people they cared for. Now we see, the world has become so little, we can send a message that will go instantly to the other side of the world, yet many doesn`t take out time for the people they care for, even if they live in the same town. May Allah increase the sisterhood and brotherhood of the Ummah, that despite our differences we can stand united and help each other. Aameen. Not abandon those who are wrong but gently correct them according to our means.

 

Clean It From What Does Not Belong There

Of course cleanliness is half of imaan, and we should use time and make an effort to keep ourselves clean. But don`t just stop there. We can also use time to cultivate our qualities as close as we can reach to the level of the sunnah, if we try. Not only polish our skin before an event but also our hearts, to clean it from what does not belong there. Abundance repentance, dhikr of Allah and read durood. If we use more time on this we would also be feeling beautiful, not only  just looking beautiful. May Allah preserve us. Aameen.

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“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

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(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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