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Often times many women, also the muslim women, talk about fighting for equality with men. Equality in leadership, in pay, in society, in communities. This thought is not adaptable to Islam. In Islam men and women have different rights and duties. Men and women are incomparable because of their differences.

In-Comparable Differences

In every hospital, there are doctors and nurses. Although both are needed for the treatment of the patients, they both have different responsibilities in their work. We can`t only have doctors in the hospital or only have nurses. Both are needed for the function of the hospital. In an operation of a patient we can easily see that the doctor has more responsibility of the well-being of the patient than the nurses. Both are needed for the patients operations. We can`t equal the pay of the doctor with the nurses or the nurses pay with the janitor. Although these professions are needed, we can only have full equality between professions who have similarities. There can`t be any comparing between different professions. Doctors can compare their pay with other doctors. Nurses can compare their responsibility with other nurses. Janitors can compare their work-load with other janitors. That`s why many skilled workers join union movements. To fight for the rights of their profession. So when it comes to women and men, they also are non-comparable to each other, because of their difference in their function emotionally. biologically, physiologically and psychologically.

The Empathy And Sensitivity Of A Police-Woman

There is a reason why there are more men in some professions than women and vice versa. Often times there are more women working as teachers. There are often more men in the profession of doctors and engineers compared to women. The “incomparability” is the key word. This doesn`t mean that we can`t strengthen the rights of women or men in different professions. No matter how much we facilitate for women / men in some professions, not every profession is made for the majority of women / men. For example no matter how strong a woman police officer might be, when she experience something difficult, because of her natural in-built empathy, her response to the crime scene will be more sensitive. Because women are more sensitive than men. And no matter how caring and gentle a man is, he can can`t replace a mothers love, care and upbringing for her child. It`s just impossible. The role of bearing a child, can`t be given to a man, because it`s given to women by Allah. So in every profession where women work, one time or the other, she will have to take a years leave for her duties as a mother. That is her right and responsibility, and it follows her no matter what profession she chooses. Let`s rather use the resources we have on matters where we can have a positive impact for the community and society. Some professions are tougher and harder than others. It will have an impact on the human that chooses those. For example, police, psychologist, doctor, social worker, child welfare employee, social security employee etc.

you are good enough, dont let anyone tell you otherwiseA home should be a place where everyone has sanctity. There is a huge different in being a place where you are tolerated instead of being a place where you are celebrated. A place where we accept each other, where we can be just as we are, without having people who always pinpoint something wrong in you. The parents are responsible to help children develop positive attitude towards their siblings and others. When they make a positive environment for their children, a place where they practice compassion and attentive listening, without sarcastic remarks, their attitude will rub off on their children as well. To cultivate good qualities is important both in home, at school, work or with friends.  When children and family members have space to ask question without being laughed at or feel dumb, they will grow as people, and become smarter. The same goes at school or at work. As long as there is an environment where people are welcomed just as they are, without being ridiculed or humiliated for it, they will play an active part in the goals that are for the group. We often talk about how certain people can improve their lives. Those who are succesful and smart have an idea of how it worked out for their life and so they like to share their view, to help others. That is good until they somehow indirectly put other down or somehow indirectly tell them how they failed. Without creating a positive environment, any change can be difficult to maintain for a long time.

Different Understanding

Teachers especially knows what I am talking about. Picture you are a teacher for a group of teenagers. You have just been selected for the job. After a few days of teaching you understand that the class has different level in their understanding. You can`t use the same material for all of the students. You have to use different methods to teach them. Not only that. Since some of them are slow at learning and some are quicker, the slower are making more trouble in class, because they see how in-adequate they are compared to the other who are smarter. The teacher has to make a good environment for learning if they want the children to progress.

Put Aside Differences And Work For A Common Goal

The same goes for a working place. If the manager wants all the employees to make progress he has to make sure that the environment is encouraging and people enjoy working there. The employees are often different, but as long as the management is good, the environment will also be good. Which in fact means both for the students in the classroom and the employees at a working place. The management / teacher has to have certain rules, that if and when are broken, they will be sanctioned. They should not be afraid of showing a yellow card the moment they see that some people are misbehaving. The most important point is to find out the reasons behind a persons misbehaviour. Sometimes the one that is making the most trouble is the one that is being treated unfairly by others. Sometimes people indirectly exclude some, just because they are different. Here the management/teacher has to make sure that all the rules are being followed. They can say : “We don`t have to agree about everything to cooperate about a project or task at work or school”. Surely most of the places we are either in home, school or work, most of the people are very different. So we learn to put our differences aside and work for a common goal, which is a, b or c.

Compassion Will Change Your Thinking

It is so easy for those who have a succesful recipe for life, to point out mistakes in other people`s life. If they had done certain things differently everything would have been better. No. We don`t know what other people are going through. What kind of obstacles that are in their life. We can`t be indifferent to people’s struggles when they are coping with anything, without being in the same shoes. We have to practice compassion. As easy as it seem to do things differently, a bad environment won`t make it easier to change anything. It boils down to creating a good environment for learning to apply what we learn. As long as we don`t have that, it will take more time to improve, if at all possible to make any change.

brotherhood1There is a lot of malice and hatred between muslims of different madhabs. A lot of people in social media use more time in explaining why some brother from another madhabs is wrong in something instead of giving isla or dawa in general stuff people lack. Instead of strengthening the bond of brotherhood in Islam, we are having some serious issues of unity. We are fighting each other instead of being together against our enemies. The non-muslims are taking advantage of this and putting oil to the fire, and we behaving like puppies. We don`t understand that we are hurting only ourselves.

 

The Ummah Needs Unity

Without unity how are we able to cope with the difficulties the Ummah is facing today? Rather than correcting each others madhabs aalims why can`t we talk about those things that we agree about? There will always be some differences, that doesn`t mean that we should not be able to co-operate. We can rather look at the benefit our cooperation can help the Ummah whom is in a very difficult time. We need to show mercy to each other, and help each other when any of us falls.

 

Trust Is Diminishing

I listen to story`s from my parents that things were different before. Nowadays we have difficulties trusting even our own family, than how on earth will we be able to trust someone from outside, muslim or not. There is a hadith from the Messenger of Allah pbuh that there will come a time that when the muslims will start to fight each other, than Allah will not help them. Isn`t that what has happened. Our Ummah is bleeding on different places and we are not helping or caring for each other. Greed, jealousy, animosity, envy, hatred, backbiting, pride, bitterness is ruining us.

 

Deen Is Easy Don`t Make It Difficult

The Messenger of Allah pbuh said, that if one brother proposes to a woman, than the other brother is not allowed to propose to the same girl, until one of them turns down the proposal. Nowadays, sending a proposal is one thing, but people are deliberately putting hurdles in the way of other to get married, making troubles for them, that could lead them to haram consequences. If one person turns down a proposal, the people whom were denied put hurdles in the person’s life so that they`ll regret that they ever did that. Even if they later are not interested, but just so that those whom are more blessed than them gets turned down. What is their fault? They came in their way? They forgot the fact that our hearts are in the hands of Allah and he turns them wherever he wants. If you sincerely want something turn to Allah, instead of the creation. Using haram tactics to win, will not give any barakah in the marriage, but rather cause trouble. To win has become more important than the goal. People don`t think about whether they use halal or haram ways to achieve their goal. Belittling other and putting hurdles in their way so that they lose has become common.

i am to busy working on my own grass to notice if yours is greener

 

Water Your Own Grass 

What has come to the world, when a brother or sister in Islam can`t swallow the fact that some people are a tad more blessed than them. So instead of watering their own grass, they put hurdles in others life. It has become a crime to be succesful. Why can`t we instead try to water our own grass, before we complain that others grass is more greener?

 

 

The Best Of Us Are Those With Highest Taqwa

Muslims with different colors and ethnicities are hating each other because they feel that they are better than the other because of their heritage, color etc. Isn`t that one of the things our Messenger pbuh fought to diminish. He said that no one is better than another no matter what their wealth, position, color or ethnicity is. If one of them are better than the other it is the one with the best taqwa / godfear that has the highest status. Haven`t we often seen that people with lesser positions in dunya, for instance someone whom is a cleaner, leads the salah, where people whom are wealthy is praying behind him. That is because the cleaner is with more knowledge of the deen than those in prayer behind him. Or the fact that everyone in prayer,  no matter what status they have in dunya are standing beside each other in prayer. No one is ahead of anyone else, except for the Imam. We are all going into the same place in graveyard no matter how much wealth we collect. We have definitely forgotten the teachings of our Prophet pbuh when some people are behaving superior of others.

 

Preferring Beauty Over Deen

Isn`t it a shame that people with good deen but not the best beauty have difficulty in getting married. People give preference to insignificant matters when they are looking for a spouse. The browner you are, the less proposals you get. Shouldn`t our first priority be to check if the deen is ok? How on earth will a man be able to lead his family in Islam, if he doesn`t know even the basics of Islam. How on earth is a woman going to be a good wife, if she doesn`t give any importance to Islam in her life.

 

What is our solution?

  1. Like the Messenger of Allah pbuh has said, wish for your brother what you wish for yourself.
  2. If he is blessed in one thing, you might be blessed in something he lacks. We are all blessed differently, try to count your blessings when you see others are doing better than you.
  3. In deen look at those better than you, in dunya look at those below you.
  4. Remember: with every blessing there are also difficulties, with every difficulty there are also blessings.
  5. Instead of becoming jealous or envious of others, water your own grass, and see that the fruit of hard labour does give results.
  6. If you fall back at start, remember there must have been some lesson in the game of life you didn`t learn what you needed to learn to reach to the goal. So life threw you back to start, to teach it to you.
  7. Look at what we have in common instead of what differs us. Our goal should be to better the condition of the Ummah. That is not one-man-job. We can only do that if we unite and help each other instead of throwing stones at each other. The youth can become lost while we are discussing petty differences, that doesn`t mean anything in the long run.
  8. Look for deen rather than beauty. People with good character becomes more and more beautiful as the years pass by, regardless of their physical appearance. If you both are on deen, there is much chance you will re-unite in Paradise. Shouldn`t that be our ultimate goal?
  9. Learning from others`s mistakes is intelligence. That is a great way to raise the status and condition of the Ummah from generation to generation.

We need to check ourselves before Allah does it. May Allah help us perfect and complete our light and strengthen our brotherhood and guide the Ummah to do good in all our endeavors. Ameen summa ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

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USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

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(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

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Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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