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Allah didn’t say : Men are not allowed to oppress. Or. Women are not allowed to oppress. He said. Don’t oppress another muslim. As an oppressor can be from both genders. 

There are different types of oppression between the genders. When men are oppressed, they shy away from speaking up or getting help. Most men thinks it’s embarrassing to be known as the weak. Especially if the oppressor is a woman. Because of the crying, people often think that women is not at fault. Overlooking the fact that many women are good at manipulation. Getting their way from sobbing and crying. Instead of understanding the situation, most people automatically judge the man as the oppressor. Often times oppression can be so hidden, that only few understand it’s reality. 

Oppression is not allowed in Islam. The supplication of the oppressed is always accepted by Allah. Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ has said, protect muslims from being an oppressor, and protect muslims when they are oppressed. 

😍 beautifying your hijab. Attracts attention.

🤤 shaping eyebrows. Still attracting attention. 

💋💅 using make-up to beautify yourself. Attracts attention.

😏😉 not lowering your gaze. 

🕌 using perfume, when you go outside, easily attract attention. 

👠using shoes that makes noise. Attracts  attention.

👚 using clothing that it is possible to see through. Clothed, yet naked. 

👂😋talking in a way that attracts attention. 

🐍 mixing with others without any limitations. 

🎼 🎸🎷 listening to music. The lyrics of songs invites to matters Islam forbid. 

🎬 watching movies. Bollywood. Hollywood. Drama. It changes your perspective and misguides you. 

⭐️ following actors/ actresses on social media. Spreading matters about them. 

These matters are general prohibitions in Islam. In general no one follows them.  

🤐 gossiping. Not control of the sins of your tongue.

🤞🤥lying about others. 

🤝 😈 making enmity between friends / spouses. 

😼 making oaths about false matters. 

🤧 convey yourself as a victim to gain support against others. 

😤☠️ using magic to get what you want in life. 

🙃 spreading false information about others. Questionable sources. 

😇 being un-trust-worthy because of false statements, testimony. 

🕸 using too much time to make friends of dunya, instead of friends of akhirah (hereafter). 

🐍 supporting wrong / mean people, instead of the oppressed. 

🥝 using too much time to beautify outside, instead of inside (values, conduct, character, integrity, niyah, ikhlas). 

🍄🐖 eating non-halal food. Or earning money in non-halal way. 

🕊😬 harming people who do good. 

👉 false accusations. Bohtan. 

People who are trying to follow the basics sunnah of Islam, are experiencing so much trouble within the ummah, because we have deviated from the right path. It is difficult to live a life as a practising muslim, when most muslim practice Islam progressively. Ya Allah, don’t let us deviate from the right path, after You have guided us, grant us from yourself mercy, indeed You are the most Merciful, and You are the bestower. Aameen 

rose, quality muslimah, islam, conduct, knowledge, wisdom, practice Islam, understandI have met so many amazing muslimahs the last 9 years. Women who has so much to offer, yet their resourcefulness is not being utilized. Their lives would have been so much more meaningful, if their family had backed them more. Let me explain more.

The Help They Need

A wife`s first priority after marriage is her husband, and after some time their children. In most asian muslim families, where daughters are brought from back home to the west. It take many years to help them adapt to the society here. Some learn the language easily, while others might never ever be able to pass test to be able to work. Although it is the family`s responsibility that these women are helped through there first years here, many times they do not get the help they need.

First Of All Imagine.

You have a network of family and friends back home. When you come here, you not only have to adapt into a whole new family but also build your own new network. That is not always that easy. Especially for wives, when they often get busy with parenthood, before they are able to learn the language properly. They have to postpone their own dreams in order for the family. I might dare say, many women come back to school, years afterwards, where they tell how much they also wanted to utilize their life for something more meaningful than just stay home with children and the little network they have or might not have. They have dreams to also earn a living, using their resources to earn money and buy things without always thinking of their expenditures. A little more planning and help from the husband could have made their situation easier.

Being A Mother Is Very Giving

Every woman has dreams of her own. Apart from being a mother and a wife. Doing something meaningful that is important to here. Having a social life, friends, network, buying things she need, without always have to ask for permission, or to be able to have women only evenings with her friends. Husband doesn`t realize that if they would support their wife more in achieving her dreams and some sort of independence, she would become a much better wife for him and a better mother for her children. Often times when women get married, they give little precedence to their own needs. Their husband needs come first. Than their children’s needs. Then their in-laws preferences. After a list, at the end their own needs come, if they have any energy or time to spend for themselves. For a mother to give her children to her husband and have a friends dinner out, is if i might dare say, not the reality for many asian wives. Although the husband in the same family, has at least one day a week, he can enjoy with this friends. If not many more. Even though the parenthood is both parents responsebility, often the mothers take the most heaviest burdens. They have a such job, that they never get any time off. It`s a 24/7 on work for their family.

Education Going To Waste

When husbands stop their wifes from getting a job or an education or to work when they have a sound education. They should re-think what they are doing. If and when the parents of a muslimah doctor had thought the same. The wife of these husbands had to meet a male doctor at the hospital for a check up under her pregnancy. Thank god, that some parents encourage their daughters to get a decent education with good values so that they can contribute to the community. We have muslimah doctors, nurses, teachers, dentists, engineers and so on. It is not easy for them to go out of their home and work. Their best hijab is in their home. But yet we must not forget that if every muslimah had thought that, our own muslimah wives, would have had difficulty getting any good help, without meeting their own “tribe”, when they need some sort of help/assistance. We can`t stop these resources from contributing positively for the society, and be so selfish and only think about our own good. Of course that comes first, but we must also try to help others, whom might have more difficult life than ourselves.

Muslimah`s And Islam – The Sunnah Way

Under the time when the prophet Muhammad pbuh had to do hijrah to medina with Abu bakr Siddiq raa, they left makkah and passed by cave thawr. They stayed there for a few days to protect themselves from their enemies. The daughter of Abu Bakr siddiq raa, Asma Bint Abu Bakr, came to them with food-supplies, through difficult roads and facing many dangers. The muslimah sahabi`s have helped Islam not by being passively at home, but by being with the muslims in wars, also fighting the enemies and taking care of those wounded. So you see it is not Islam that oppresses women, it is the illiterate minds. Even knowledgable people can be illiterate for not being able to believe in what is right and haqq. If knowledge opened minds of everyone than the most knowledgable lecturers would have accepted Islam. Not everyone does. Even in the most intelligent people there are many who doesn`t accept what is right for what is right and what is truth for what is truth. I believe that if you as a mailman have managed to find your way to Allah and believe in him and try to enjoin good and forbid evil, you are more intelligent than the lecturer with a phd, that thinks that Islam is not haqq or right. I have learned to calculate people, from how faithful and obedient they are to Islam. Islam doesn`t oppress women. Mostly the wrong culture does. May Allah give all wives help to realize their dream in their life. And make all the muslimah`s resourceful for each other and helping each other prosper. And guide husband to be more supportive of their wife. The sunnah way. Aameen summa aameen.

love for your brother islamIn Ramadan at the end of the day big aftari`s awaits us. Even though we have restricted ourself during the day, we have abundance of food, when it is time to open the fast. The fast gives us an idea of how it is for those individuals whom doesn`t have as much as us. How does it feel when you don`t have enough for the essentials? Muslims fast for one month, though because of poor conditions some people can`t eat for several month`s. Can we imagine to be fasting all day, but not have the minimum nourishing food to eat at the end of the day. Going day by day listening to kids when they complain that they have a stomach ache because they are too hungry. One thing is that oneself is suffering but when one sees these poor angels suffering, that is unbearable and hurts. It hurts for others but it hurts the most for their parents. Seeing one child suffering, without being able to take the suffering away, is indeed devastating.

 

We have a choice to refrain from food

Not everyone has that. In some countries there are people whom would want to have the minimum to survive and earn their own money, have a family and live in security with them but they aren`t able because of the situation there. Are we able to imagine when there is fight for the food that is given to some people and only those who are strong enough are able to get the survival kit of food for a week or so.

 

They Have The Abilities But Not The Support

Most people want to earn the halal way for their family`s to provide for them. Here in Norway there are a few people who dies out of hunger, because the country takes care of all of it`s citizens even for those whom can`t provide for themselves. Back home most of the population of Pakistan are young adults. They have the education, but because of the system, they are not able to get hired without anyone put in a good word for them. Even though they might have the abilities and great results from the university, most of them have to work in underpaid jobs. They have the potential but aren`t given the chances because they doesn`t have the means.

 

Tension Is Increasing

When the youth aren`t given enough chances to do good work according to their abilities of course a lot of tension erupts. Their opinions doesn`t matter and they are easily oppressed. If some people in such a country wants to live in a halal matter, it becomes quite difficult. Imagine being somewhere where you can`t get documents from an office because they are asking for bribes. Unless you don`t pay them money that will go into their own pockets, they won`t do your work. Because of the inflation, ordinary people can`t afford the bare minimum to have a nutritous meal. There is not enough security for the families that lives there. Innocent people are killed and innocent people are jailed because of some crime some others have done. The people are deprived from their basic needs to keep them oppressed and diverted from doing something about how the country is ruled and their money utilized. Because of the cancer in the system of the country and the governments lack of control over the situation or willingness to do anything, people`s difficulties are increasing. The youths displeasure is increasing. Nothing can be done without eliminating the corruption in the system.

 

maslows behovshierarkiThe Leaders Will Have A Tougher Questioning.

Because they are responsible for their people`s need. The population is oppressed by the government for the essential to live a good life, like food, clothing, house, electricity, fuel for vehicles, security to prevent them to climb to the fifth row, see picture. They are keeping the people suffering so they don`t fight against the government. This has been going on for years. Roti/kapda/makan. The leaders are not taking care of their people? There was a time in the  Khalifat of the hadrat Umar raa, when he used to go around at night to see if anyone was suffering under his leadership. When he was asked about it, he said that even if one dog goes to sleep hungry, I will be answerable to Allah about it. What will then happen to a leader where most of his people are suffering. Does this not scare them? Or do they not believe in the hereafter? We all are going to be questioned about our life. The leader has a responsibility not only for their own but also for their people, and their questioning is going to be far more harsh. One day we are all going to stand in front of our Creator. Before we even stand for election, ask yourself are you compassionate about the people you are going to lead. If you don`t have the motivation to help them or guide them to success and reduce their sufferings, the job was never made for you. When the leaders will be compassionate for their people, only then will people be satisfied with them. May Allah help the ummah and ease their sufferings. Aameen summa aameen.

jannah, paradise, promotion, exams, allahA common quality amongst friends is that they support each other through all kinds of difficult times they experience. Often people help others and usually expect that their favour will be returned some day. Prophet Muhammad pbuh has said that those who doesn`t thank people doesn`t thank Allah so a good way to show your appreciation to Allah is to thank the ones that help you. What kind of circumstance you help another person in, depends on your own taqwa, godfearingness.

You Can Share In The Burden Or The Reward

In Ayat 5:2 in the Quran it is quoted “Help each other in Al-Birr and At-Taqwa; but do not help one another in sin and transgression”. It is not difficult to imagine that if we help some people in committing sins we will share in their burden for every people they wrong and those that learn the cruel tactics from them. Similarly if we help people to do something that is good for the community, we will also share in the reward for all the good that it leads to. It is up to us we want to earn reward or share the way to our destruction.

Be Just In Every Relation

Prophet Muhammad pbuh has said if people see something bad they should try to stop it, either with their hand or speech or at least think of it as something bad, if they are not able to stop it, and that is the weakest of Iman. It is very important that we try our best to be just in all our relations and in between each other. A father being just between his children. Spouses treating their in-laws justly. A husband being just between his spouse and sisters. A wife being just to her parents and siblings. We are human and bound to err sometime, but the best of those who err are those who repent. And then make amends. Whenever we see that we are on the wrong track, simply rectify our actions and change the track to something better. It is not fair that the faults of a mother is passed on to her daughters or a fault of a brother passes on the his siblings. Being just between different relations is not an easy job. One of them may not like you if you take the others side. That is why it is so important to make sure that you know whom is correct and that you are not taking the side of those whom are wrong. Supporting someone who is doing something wrong will increase his confidence and can lead him/her to do worse deeds in the future. If that happens you will have a share in the bad deeds that it leads to, until or if they make amends and come to the straight path.

When We Don`t Stop Injustice

Prophet Muhammad pbuh has said: “Help your brother when he is unjust or the victim of injustice”. The sahaba said: “we understand that we should help people if they are unjust, but how can we help them if they are victim of injustice. Prophet pbuh said: “Prevent and stop him from committing injustice and this represents giving support to him”: Maybe you have heard about some people who lives in a town and the most of them where really bad people. So Allah said to the angels, go and crush the town because of their deeds. The angels went there when they saw some people who were good and was praying to Allah, so they went back to Allah and said: ” how can we crush this town, when there are good people living there”. Allah said: “It is because of this that I want you to crush them as soon as possible. The good people didn`t stop or try to prevent the bad people from doing bad deeds, so I want you to crush them all.

Being Patient With People`s Annoyance

Of course you can imagine if there are only a few good people in a whole town how hard it is for them to stop the others from doing bad deeds, thus even bigger is the reward. Prophet Muhammad pbuh has said: ” The believer who mingles with people and is patient with their annoyance, earns more rewards than the believer who doesn`t mingle with people and does not observe patience with their annoyance.

Don`t Look Down On Those Whom Are Struggling

It is important that when we see other people struggling to avoid sin that we try our best to help them or at least not put more obstacles in their way. We don`t know our end, no one does. Prophet Muhammad has said that was a person whom had taken 99 lives and then repented, and by the Mercy of Allah, he was forgiven. Allah is Merciful and forgives all sins as long as we sincerely repent. Don`t look down on those that are struggling today, there might come a day when those same people will be the ones that help you on your way. So if you are able give them a helping hand, do it. When Allah wants something good for His slave, He helps others through him. Imagine you are sleeping and several good deeds are put in your account for those people you have helped, you don`t even know it. Never belittle a good deed. We don`t have to be rich to give sadqah. One can do that even without any amount of money, that also is sadqah.

Allah Knows And He Rewards

Know that even if people don`t see the good that we do, Allah knows everything, and it is He whom is the only One whom will give us reward. He doesn`t forget. The reward of those who do good is never lost. The struggle is real; Be good, do good, and if you can`t stop others from doing bad, at least think of what they are doing as bad, don`t put hurdles in others way when they are struggling, pray for each other, and help those you can, one day you might need their help. Allah puts us in the most amazing places, sometimes to teach us something, other times to, test our patience. May we pass every test, and may Allah give us barakaa in our lives a good akhirah. Ameen summa ameen.

hijab, head, opinion, judge,You have probably read on FB the saying that the time before us people were told to look at muslims when they wanted to know what Islam was. Nowadays we say to people that they should rather look at the practice of the muslims for 1400 years ago, because today muslims have mixed Islam with culture. There is lack of knowledge about Islam that result in people following cultural traditions instead of their religion. Most of the time they just don`t know better. Often there are traditions in todays muslims culture that come from their ancestors which make people deviate from the true Islam and it`s teaching.

 

Study Islam Not The Muslims

It is very important that we explain to people whom are interested in Islam, that they should study it themselves instead of learning from looking at muslims. Just because a country is made on the name Islam, does not directly imply that they are practising muslims. A lot of people get very confused when women from a muslim country don`t wear a proper hijab and see to their amazement that a convert is using a proper, modest hijab. You can say a hundred times with your voice that you are a muslim, though it doesn`t mean a thing if it doesn`t show through your conduct.

 

Danger Of Being Misled

Everytime a new generation of muslims are born and they are not taught about the true teachings of Islam from the start, they are in danger of being misled by different people. When the parents don`t have enough insight or practice of their deen, how will they be able to teach islamic manners and conduct to their offspring?

 

Spreading False Information

We often see that some muslims that have deviated from the path are spreading false information about Islam, and trying to make it look bad, with the stories from their life. How they were forced to wear hijab or not allowed certain things. The non-muslims believe them, because they are telling them things about Islam that support their views about it. So they help them promote things like homosexuality in Islam or hijab is not that important, or mix gender gatherings are ok. All of these are misconceptions that deviate from the true teachings of Islam. What media and their promoters have to understand is that most of these people are disliked in the muslim community.

 

A Beautiful Face Catch Your Attention

Some of the people whom have deviated from Islam says that the hijab oppresses the women. Little do they think about the fact that hijab can be found in the world in different things: the earth has an ozone layer, every fruit has a layer to protect it from getting damaged, pearls are surrounded by a shell and so the list goes on. Where are your ethics. Is it more correct for a woman to show her body to strange men and call it freedom, or is it more correct for a woman to wear modest clothes that doesn`t allow other people to stare at her for the wrong intentions. Would you rather want a husband that want your body or a husband that want you because of you good conduct and character and your obedience to your Lord? The minute your body turns old, your husband is out the door, because he found someone else that is young and beautiful. A beautiful face can catch your attention, but it won`t be able to keep the heart. Good manners, kindness and decent conduct is what impresses the heart.

 

Times Of Ignorance Is Misleading The Ummah

Some people think that Islam is such a violent religion and that it oppress women. That is because a lot of ayats from different surah in Quran are taken out of their context and spread in the media. It has been said that in Islam it is allowed for men to beat women. That is partly correct. When the Prophet told about this he taught that you can beat her hand lightly with a miswak. The 15 cm long thin stick muslims use to brush their teeth with. Before this ayat comes several other ayats that say that in case you wife is disobedient, first admonish her, than forsake her in their bed, and if that doesn`t work than the husband is allowed to beat lightly with a miswak on the hand. The beating is mentioned in a way that it is only a symbolic way of declaring that you are dissatisfied with her and that she has gone way beyond her limits. The Prophet pbuh is our example, never once did he pbuh beat his wives. I want to mention the fact that he pbuh had 11 wives. Think about his pbuh patience. When they did something he disliked, he would simply not talk to them and become quiet. Nowadays we see practising muslim men forgetting this sunnah and beating their wife so badly that she gets bruised and bleading, leaving marks on her body. That is not what Islam has taught us, that is what the culture from the time of ignorance, jahaliyah, has taught us.

 

Increase The Dose

Our Prophet pbuh has told us that women are like a rib and the most crooked part of the rib is the upper part, i.e. the tongue. If you try to straighten a rib, it will break, but if you are gentle with it, it will blossom into something beautiful. I don`t think that there is one person that will disagree in the fact that most women can argue a lot and get out of hand. If their husband treat them with care, love and give them undivided attention, they will most probably change for the better. The problem is that most men doesn`t know about these things, or they have gone astray from the sunnah of the Prophet pbuh.

 

Inspire People. Dont Scare them away

We muslims have a responsibility to spread the right guidance of Islam, from our conduct. If our influence is negative on our surroundings we will have to bear the burden of our followers, because they learned it from us. Therefore it is highly important that we try to have a good and positive influence on our surroundings. The youth need good role-models and a motivating and inspiring way of learning about Islam. If you can`t inspire them than at least don`t scare them away from it either. May Allah help us help the youth by setting a good example from the sunnah of our Prophet pbuh. Ameen summa ameen.

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

:) W & R one 2 one :)

(",) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (",)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

Når du er forent med en
du elsker, er det ingenting
du ikke klarer :)

Gode ord skaper tillit.
Gode tanker skaper
Inderlighet. God
giverglede skaper
kjærlighet:)

Mood :)

Overjoyous :) I wonder which song is always on my mind (",)

(“,) Always on my mind (“,)

Be mine all the time,
never cross the line,
I`m a one man woman,
I don`t share
what`s mine,
never settle for less..

Song of the moment :)

:) If you just love me, i will let you see, how more you need? :)

:) Discover enlightenment
holding your hand.. :)