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It is annoying sometimes, when muslim leaders tell families, to keep their women at home. It is correct that women has a bigger responsibility when it comes to raising children. But we can’t close our eyes to the society we are co-existing in.

Your Opinion Matters

Number 1. The first matter spouses often have disagreement about, is money. Number 2. If there wouldn’t be any females in different professions, the muslim women would have to go to male doctors, male nurses male teachers, males in kindergarden, males in shops for women and etc. At a time where they need to talk with people of the same gender. Number 3. The most marriages in the west need two salaries to be able to pay for their expenses. Number 4. The wifes’ that stay home for the kids upbringing usually have a small social network. In other words, their need to socialize is not met by only going to the mosque sometimes a month. Number 5. Many muslim men doesn’t pay for the expenses of their wife. They do not fulfill their duty of providing for her and giving her a certain amount every month etc. Number 6. Instead of holding back our women from work because of their hijab, why do we not at least educate muslim men, to treat other muslim women within the boundaries of haya, modesty, lowering gaze, guarding tongue and private parts? Number 7. Help the women in your family to choose profession where they can be an advantage for the community, while also keep their hijab and modesty, and also be safe, where she is. When Muslim women will take an active part in their work, they will be able to influence decisions that affect muslims in their community. They will help build strong communities. The muslim womens opinion matters. 

The Patient Can Choose The Gender Of The Doctor

If every family told the women to stay home because of Islam, within a few generations muslim women would have far more trouble in going outside. The places where the female gender is necessary would be male-dominated. That could cause more trouble. I don’t know if anyone have been in Pakistan lately. There is a reason why they have built malls (shops) for females only. Or in a specific timing, only females are allowed to go inside the mall. That means only female workers will attend them. In that way, they do not have unwanted attention that decrease their freedom. And the safety of women is also safeguarded. Imagine, a woman doctor in Norway, can`t choose to only have female patients. She has to treat both genders. Neutrally with haya, of course. If there weren`t any female asian lady doctors, many asian women today, might not be able to get the proper help they needed. In the time of the Prophet pbuh, many sahabi took part in the battles where muslims fought. Sometimes as nurses bandaging the wounded and also as fighting the enemies. It`s in our islamic heritage. The community need more women to take part in building healthy communities. Islam does not dismiss women working. It just want both genders to practice the ethics of Islam at work and school, as at home.

The Beauty Is In The Perfection

I believe Islam is beautiful. I love Islam. Alhamdolillah. But sometimes we have to be a bit practical. Islam is perfect. But the practice of Islam in the ummah, makes it look ugly. A dai (preacher of Islam) once said. There was a time when muslims practised Islam in such a way, people said, look at so- and so- to motivate other muslims. Nowadays the name is often muslim, but the practice is so poor, that when we talk to some people who are interested in learning about Islam, we tell them to learn it from the Quran and sunnah. Go back to the real source. Don’t look at muslims, who doesn’t pray, and lies, and backbites and earn money in a haram manner. Their practice is not islamic. I`m sure many muslims knows families where the whole family has been muslims for at least three generations, yet still neither of the generations is following even the basics of Islam. Yet they call themselves muslims.

Lets Look At The World

In some countries, wagons of the public transport, is different between the genders. To prevent harassment of women. Some countries have been talking about it. In Afghanistan, a woman goes out with niqab and all her body covered. Even the face. Still these women are harassed there. It is because the men aren`t lowering their gazes and practising haya. In india, group-rape of women, and rape in general is widely spread. In egypt, women have their undergarments teared off in the street, by men walking by. It is not enough to keep women at home to protect them from assault. Parents must teach both sons and daughters how to behave within the boundaries of Islam. Haya, hijab, lowering gaze, and less interaction. If these men were taught good values from their childhood, many of them would have had a good character. It`s not enough to name your son as a muslim, if you don`t teach him good values, than it will be your own loss. Remember in many countries, women are wearing hijab, yet are still being harassed. Obviously the men must also lower their gaze and protect their private parts, and practice modesty.

First Look At Your References

Keeping the women at home, to protect them isn`t the answer here. It is the time of internet, YouTube, snapchat, Skype. Filth can be found, in the media, within your home. With free time, and boringness, many people can go astray. Ya Allah, protect us. Aamen. If you don`t teach your children to fear Allah, they can easily get misguided. The reason why such, problems are on the increase is because we think just knowing Islam is enough. That`s completely wrong. Even non-muslims know about Islam. Many times more than many muslims. Yet they don`t accept it in their heart nor do they practise it. We muslims accept the message, but do not live according to it. It is not enough to know that salah is important. Unless you pray the prayers every day, you will not be granted khusho, or the sweetness of salah. That which is the coolness of Hazoor Paak ‎ﷺ  and his biggest comfort in hardships. We need a spiritual awakening of the ummah. Where we also are doing the good we know. It`s like when your supervisor is going to hire a new colleague. No one hires a new employ based on what they know. Even if they have a master degree. First they look at their references. Do they have practise from the subjects they have studied. That`s why most people have many difficulties finding their first job. To have that first reference, that will open doors for better opportunities. When we improve on our sprituality we will practice islam also in private, not only in public. The wisdom of Islam comes from practising what you have learned, not just talking about it.

Housewife From Back Home

Many women in arrange marriages, who travel to norway, with their spouse, live at home for the first 10 years of their marriage. In Pakistan still many women are housewifes. Many gain weight. Many sleep the day and wakes after mid-day. No specific routine of day. The social life in Pakistan is better than in Norway.  A wife that is married to a pakistani here in norway, often have small social circles, and have to start from scratch, in building network. After these women have stayed home the first ten years of their marriage, raising children, they are often very eager to start an employment. Socialize with other. The children doesn`t need them that much. Their expenses have increased or not paid by their husband. Very little social life at home. Many eagerly start learning the language of their country. In hope of a job. Many health issues from poor diet. These women, most of them, wants to get out more. They have lived the life of being a housewife, in Norway. Their problems are underrated. Few talk about it. Many are also struggling in their marriage.

The Community Need Muslim Women In Many Professions

We can live in a bubble and think that this is what we want. Unless the world is able to offer it, we have to seek insight in the reality of our time today. Keeping women at home, is not the only option. First parents need to educate both genders about ethics of islam. Cultivate in them fear of Allah. Help them choose good friends and good education according to their gender. If you really want to protect your wife from the ill of this community, talk with others about how we can educate men and sons to practice islam also outside the home. Social life in norway is very different from Pakistan, and many wife`s lead a very deppressive life, staying home as housewifes. Help them choose profession where they can utilize their abilities, earn salary, socialize. All this within the boundaries of Islam. All this will help the muslim women increase their  quality of life. They will be happier. Active. Learning. Changing. Growing as people. Know more about the society they live in. That is important to raise good obedient children. They can positively  influence the development of our community. Ya Allah, help the community succeed in making it easy for muslim women, if they wish, to have an employment where they can use their qualities, while also taking care of all of her duties at home. Aamen 

you are good enough, dont let anyone tell you otherwiseA home should be a place where everyone has sanctity. There is a huge different in being a place where you are tolerated instead of being a place where you are celebrated. A place where we accept each other, where we can be just as we are, without having people who always pinpoint something wrong in you. The parents are responsible to help children develop positive attitude towards their siblings and others. When they make a positive environment for their children, a place where they practice compassion and attentive listening, without sarcastic remarks, their attitude will rub off on their children as well. To cultivate good qualities is important both in home, at school, work or with friends.  When children and family members have space to ask question without being laughed at or feel dumb, they will grow as people, and become smarter. The same goes at school or at work. As long as there is an environment where people are welcomed just as they are, without being ridiculed or humiliated for it, they will play an active part in the goals that are for the group. We often talk about how certain people can improve their lives. Those who are succesful and smart have an idea of how it worked out for their life and so they like to share their view, to help others. That is good until they somehow indirectly put other down or somehow indirectly tell them how they failed. Without creating a positive environment, any change can be difficult to maintain for a long time.

Different Understanding

Teachers especially knows what I am talking about. Picture you are a teacher for a group of teenagers. You have just been selected for the job. After a few days of teaching you understand that the class has different level in their understanding. You can`t use the same material for all of the students. You have to use different methods to teach them. Not only that. Since some of them are slow at learning and some are quicker, the slower are making more trouble in class, because they see how in-adequate they are compared to the other who are smarter. The teacher has to make a good environment for learning if they want the children to progress.

Put Aside Differences And Work For A Common Goal

The same goes for a working place. If the manager wants all the employees to make progress he has to make sure that the environment is encouraging and people enjoy working there. The employees are often different, but as long as the management is good, the environment will also be good. Which in fact means both for the students in the classroom and the employees at a working place. The management / teacher has to have certain rules, that if and when are broken, they will be sanctioned. They should not be afraid of showing a yellow card the moment they see that some people are misbehaving. The most important point is to find out the reasons behind a persons misbehaviour. Sometimes the one that is making the most trouble is the one that is being treated unfairly by others. Sometimes people indirectly exclude some, just because they are different. Here the management/teacher has to make sure that all the rules are being followed. They can say : “We don`t have to agree about everything to cooperate about a project or task at work or school”. Surely most of the places we are either in home, school or work, most of the people are very different. So we learn to put our differences aside and work for a common goal, which is a, b or c.

Compassion Will Change Your Thinking

It is so easy for those who have a succesful recipe for life, to point out mistakes in other people`s life. If they had done certain things differently everything would have been better. No. We don`t know what other people are going through. What kind of obstacles that are in their life. We can`t be indifferent to people’s struggles when they are coping with anything, without being in the same shoes. We have to practice compassion. As easy as it seem to do things differently, a bad environment won`t make it easier to change anything. It boils down to creating a good environment for learning to apply what we learn. As long as we don`t have that, it will take more time to improve, if at all possible to make any change.

an islamic school yes or noThe youth need education. Not only education about the dunya but also about the hereafter. In many countries we muslims have migrated to, there isn`t any islamic school for children. Norway is such a country. Here we have Mosques where children learn arabic, but none muslim schools.

There are many advantages of having a school for only muslims. For instance, there will be segregation between the genders, and the food will be halal, the education will be seen from an Islamic perspective, the children will have friends that are muslims, they will read salah and learn arabic from the start. Just think about the impact this will have on the child. Getting in everything muslimized from the start. MashaAllah. I salute those people abroad, for instance in Britain where they have such alternatives for children. MashaAllah they are really lucky for having such an opportunity to give their children the proper Islamic education. I wish we had such alternatives here in Norway as well.

On the other side there could be some disadvantages if one has such schools. One of them would be that the children would talk their own mother tongue at school, so they won`t learn how to talk norwegian properly, from the pronunciation to the writing. My guess is that most of the kids will be from different muslim countries, and only a few native Norwegians, if any. So in a way they will get segregated from the Norwegians. Another thing is that later in life, when these people will become adults and will go searching for the right job, people whom are racist could try to put aside those people whom are apparently muslims and say that we don`t know if the children have gotten proper education at that muslim school. Though this is happening even know when we don`t have any school like this, people whom have an islamic name are singled out from the joblist, just because their muslims.

I guess eventually people would understand how resourceful we muslims are and muslim will be given jobs more easily, in sha Allah. I guess those racist people are getting old and will soon retire from their jobs. Young people nowadays have grown up in a multicultural society, so they know that muslims can and are doing a great job where they are hired. I guess as the muslims are proving themselves by taking higher education and with better jobs, as well as being an active part in building up Islam in their neighbourhood, i guess people will soon see them as a diamond instead of a stone, in sha Allah. To make this happen, WE muslim living in Norway, or any other country in the west, has a big responsibility to portray the right character from our conduct, the kind of character and dealing our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) had in his business dealings. If we are far away from that conduct, we need to realize that our children or next generations are the ones that will reap what we sow. If we really care for them, we would do our best that our integrity as a muslim is on the highest level, as it should be in all our matters, in sha Allah. If not we need to look inside ourselves and see where our road is taking us, to hell or jannah?

As the muslims are increasing in number worldwide, mostly because of the converts/reverts and also the birthrate, we need to see such alternative school as a future for our next generation. Living in a society that is so un-islamic it is very important that we are able to take care of our good values in Islam. So that our next generation are protected from taking the wrong road. I guess the question isn`t if or not, the question is more about when and how. I believe there are a lot of people thinking about this, as they are becoming a family. We need a society where our values could rub off on Norwegians. So we need to show them the conduct that can motivate them to accept Islam. On the other hand we ough this to the next generation that is growing up now or in the future. If not many will be lead astray.

Learning Islam from an early age, and having friends that practice your deen from the start, can make a big difference in a child`s life. The difference of how serious those children will be in becoming a mohsin, the highest degree of a muslim in Islam. We want our kids to have this opportunity. If you are the one that is thinking of this future, do your best to talk with the right people and make it happen, in sha Allah. I guess from thought to action all we need is one person that takes his/her dreams seriously and is also putting them to action. In sha Allah there won`t be so long till we have such a wonderful place where the next generation of muslims in Norway will have a healthy environment to build their spiritual life as well as their worldly life.

The schools in Norway, where they teach lots un-islamic things, children aren`t segregated and have to have gym with both the genders together. Not to talk about the fact that children learn everything from an christen perspective instead of the islamic perspective. The food is not halal, and neither is the gender mixing halal. We need to give our children the proper way of thinking “Islam” from the start, that they don`t get from other schools before they are way past thirty years. And then they are too indulged in their family that they don`t have enough time to learn about Islam.

The person whom has such an idea and will put in to conduct just think about the amount of sadqa jariah, charity and bounties of sawabh that person will reap from it in the hereafter, in sha Allah. And all the children lives, that will be changed for the better. It`s no end to see that this is something that could be your door-opener to jannah. If you have the ability don`t let this chance go by. Do something, talk with people, one idea put to action can change mountains, all one need is a confident thought. In sha Allah. I pray that our next generations will get the proper understanding of Islam from an early age that they could live their lives according to it as well, to protect them from the ills of the society we are living in Norway. Ameen summa ameen.

Remember that even if this doesn`t apply to you yet because you don`t have any children, some day you would regret you thought like that. If you don`t see the children of this Ummah as your children, one day could come when your children would not get the proper guidance because others don`t see them as their responsibility. It is important that we unite and look at each others with one goal, to do give each other motivation to do better in this world and the hereafter, for us, for our family`s, for the next generations and for the potential muslims out there.

It is very important that one learns the language to the country one lives in, be it anywhere. For instance, living in Norway I know that it is very important. People whom are highly qualified for a job by their skills, will maybe not get the job if they cannot speak and write fluently norwegian. I believe that for a better future and to keep the dream job, it would be a must. I know that for people, whom have a hundred things and plans to do things, may not have time for this. But believe me, you would never regret it. If one is very skilled from before, you might not have to use more than half a year, one semester, and you will be able to see the improvement. Nowadays schools have evening classes as well, so one can use half a week on learning the language you will need in the future, when you will get the great gift of kids after marriage, InshaAllah. Take care of yourself, and be wise:)

In the start when I started working, I never dared to ask my boss if I could read namaz there, cause I thought the answer would be “no”. But then we had a change in the management, and my boss, whom was only going to be there for half a year, let me read the namaz, on the condition that I would work as much time over as it took to read the namaz`s. And so I did. But when the old boss came back, I wasn`t allowed any more. Of course he isn`t a muslim, so how can he understand. But one of his reasons for saying that it wasn`t allowed, was what kind of impact will this have on the others? Hehe, and I thought inside of me, maybe they also would start reading it, if they saw me reading namaz. I can`t understand how this can have a bad impact on anyone who sees you read it. We are now having a change in the management again, in a few months and I hope and pray that the new boss, will allow me read namaz again, InshaAllah, Ameen Allah humma ameen. Please remember me as well in your prayers jii:)

No workplace will ever be without some people who will do their out most to try to make your day less brighter than theirs. Somehow they`ll try to make you feel less worthy than them. Sometimes I think that it`s because one has another color or another religion. Who knows? It could be! Though I don`t have any proof for it.. On a piece of paper that is 😉 Apne ap ko tasalli deti houn is thought se, that my parents use to tell me ke you`ll find some people who you can`t come along with in any way in life along with people you do get along with. That is just how it is. So running from such a place is not a good idea, because one can`t know what will happen at another workplace.

Allthough I admit not all are alike. Most of them are nice and keep their noses out of others personal business. I do love my job and I`m grateful for it as well 🙂 Most of my colleagues give me plenty of support and we work together as a great team 🙂 On the other hand there are a few of those who`m don`t know the universal values, that are difficult. I guess they know those values but neglect them. I have tried talking to them. Though must confess it does a few times make the whole situation worse. The thing is that they mostly come with remarks undirectly. That way one can`t catch them for what they are saying. It`s sad cause what will happen? Yup one way or the other they will get it back. Maybe someone close to them will have a difficult time? I hope from the bottom of my heart that people open up their eyes and sees people regardless of their color and religion and starts treating them with respect. That we all deserve. Listening to remarks like, “go back where you came from”. Make me think that I`m just as much norwegian as you are, because I`m born in this country, I pay taxes and have just as many rights as any native norwegian has. Though I`ve always felt more Pakistani than norwegian and these types of remarks makes that believe even stronger..

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

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USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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