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stressed outIf and we try to understand why some people behave or say something, instead of just looking at how they behave or what they say, we can easily “help” the situation by responding accordingly.

Why Did You Yell, Dad? 

For example, when your toddler runs to pick up his football from the road. Most parents would become angry at him (yell) after they’d save him from the car on the road. A child doesn’t understand that your yelling and “danting” because you care. He will think it’s the opposite. We yell when we’re angry, but we also yell when we’re scared. The response is the same : yelling, but the reason behind it is difference according to ones feelings. Don’t think you know anyone when you only know their response and not their reason behind. Or the pressure they are experiencing.

Respond With Empathy

Everyone responds to things happening in their life according to their situation. You will surely see a different respond from people experiencing tension and stress in life compared to those with a tension-free life. It’s easy to say, he/she responds in-appropriately. Without being in the exact same situation yourself with the same amount of pressure, you have no idea how you would respond.

How Much Pressure Can You Tolerate? 

It`s like the tv-program “Myth Busters”, that wanted to see how stressed a person would become if he/she was tied and a drop of water would fall on his/her forehead. How long would it take before that person, would say “stop”. The amount of pressure a person can take is individual. When you have no idea what another person is going through. Please keep your own comments for yourself. God forbid may Allah not put you in a similar situation because of your arrogance and little empathy.


love people who dont look at their schedule when you need themOften when something happen to someone you expect a certain reaction to what to what they will say or do. When you give a gift, you expect a positive reaction. When something unexpected happens, since we didn`t know it to happen, we are not aware of what kind of reaction it will create.


Bursting Out In Rage

For those whom have younger siblings or children in their family. If and when they fall and get hurt, their parents reaction can be quite different from what is expected. For instance they can be yelled at or even shaken by their elders; “What were you thinking, crossing the road without looking at both sides”. The reaction of their parents, may seem a bit hard, but actually displays that they care. The reason why they burst out in rage, was because they were afraid of you getting hurt. The parents got scared and because of that feeling of being afraid of loosing you, they yelled at you. Instead of thinking that they are to strict, be thankful that they doesn`t want you to hurt yourself, or see you hurt.


The value of having someone who cares

Those whom have lost someone in their family knows the value of having somene who cares for you. Someone whom make sure that you`ve had you meal on time, prayed you salat, come home in time, and that you wear clothes according to the weather, are not up to late and that you take care of yourself when you are ill and that you get a good dose of hugs. The ironic thing is that we value people more when they aren`t there than when they are. For years we think that our parents, or elder siblings are really giving us a hard time. But when they are somewhat away, we realize they are the one that has our back, when we fall or something negative happens. The ones that stick with you, when everyone else is out the door, no matter if they are friends or family, those people are the one that truly care. Those that help you not because of what you have, but because they love you no matter what you have or are, unconditionally caring people, are hard to find. Make sure that you appreciate them when you realize who they are, because they are your true treasure.

destiny, worry, decree,You know when you fall from eleventh floor to ground zero a couple of times in the elevator, you learn that it is better to take the stairs, at least the risk of falling would be somewhat less there. We spend our whole life planning for that vacation, project, education, wedding or children. Most often we forget that we are not the best of planners, but Allah is. Often the circumstance changes and we have to make a new plan. It is actually because we are not in control of what is going to happen in our life. Allah is in control. He knows what we need and gives us what we need, not always what we want. Sometimes because He knows that what we want might be hurtful for us, either now or maybe sometime in the future. So He re-directs us to something else. Most probably years after we thought we`d die if we wouldn`t achieve something, we are actually living a more happy and contented life, without that thing or achievement.


He Gives Even To Those Whom Don`t Ask Him

No one is in control of what is going to happen to them, but we are in control of our reaction to it. Instead of cursing the fall and wailing, we should be content about what happens, and have faith that Allah knows what He is doing. He gives to does that doesn`t ask Him, how can we think that He wouldn`t give to those whom remember and prays to Him throughout their day. Sometimes most often we make a cup of tea or some food for some guests. In the meanwhile some other guests come before the ones it supposedly was made for. So they eat and drink the food instead. For example you have a cup of coffee, you take the cup to you mouth to take a sip. Suddenly you spill the coffee. It wasn`t in your destiny. Allah had written that you weren`t supposed to drink it.


Ask For The Shoe-lace

That is exactly why the alims quote our Prophet Muhammad in the famous hadith about the shoelace. Where, Mother of the Ummah Aisha raa was told from the her husband pbuh, if you don`t ask Allah for that shoelace you wanted, and he doesn`t make a decree about the fact that you are going to have it, no power in the universe can give you that shoe-lace. So instead of putting the power in your own hands. Put it to the one who can, Allah. Have faith in Him and His Decisions. If and when you want something, pray to Allah for it and work to achieve it. If it is decreed by Allah, no one can take it away from you, and if it isn`t decreed for you nothing can make it yours. If you get what you want, be happy, and if you don`t get what you want, be happier because than Allah has something better in store for you. What you and everyone else need to do is to show some patience and have trust in His Giving. We are not in charge here, Only Allah is. And He knows what He is doing, but we don`t. Surrender to the will of Allah. May Allah help and preserve each and every person. And remember supplication can change qadar / destiny.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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March 2018
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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!



(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)


(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
Ameen summa ameen

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du ikke klarer :)

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