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At work. As doctors, advocates, engineers. We are often very proud of ourselves when we attain some kind of position in society. People who achieve some kind of business or work, with a big salary didn`t come to that point themselves. They probably had many people backing them up. First of all their parents, their siblings, their good friends, and those teachers that guided them to make good decisions in life. Without these people they wouldn`t have been where they are today. Not only these people. Also other people who backed them when they were in difficulty. Prayed for them when they had some kind of troubles. Not only elders. It could have been a supplication of someone whom you hardly know. The same goes when it comes to something good or bad happening in your life, that turns your heart towards Your Creator. When your heart already yearns for Your Creator, you only need a little help, to walk, to join the right path. A muslim brother or sister who encouraged you to pray, a spiritual teacher who helped you remember Allah. and the list goes on.

Each Who Helped Us

Most of these people I have talked about in this text, helped you unconditionally. They expected nothing in return. They helped thinking of you, not themselves. It is very important, that when we achieve some kind of position, that we don`t forget these gems. These gems, who helped us, when we were lost, and needed good advice. They saw the potential in us, when we didn`t believe in us, as much as we do today. The best we can do is, be with them and help them, and do good for them. If that is not possible, than at least pray for them. Supplicate for them, every day. I would certainly not have been where I am today, without those people who believed in me, throughout my life. Ya Allah, have mercy on those who has helped without me knowing it, and while me knowing it. Ya Allah, each who has helped me while me knowing it, or while me not knowing it, grant them infinite blessings in both worlds. Aamen. In every one of every infinite blessing, grant them infinite new blessings of both worlds. Aamen. Guide us to the right path, and keep us firm on the right path. Aamen. Without doubt, Allah is able to do all things. I put my trust in my and your Creator. Allah will suffice me. Aamen. Protect me from those I know are bad for me, and protect me from those I don’t know are bad for me. Accept this for every ummati. Aamen

love for the sake of allah - 1Often when we like or love someone we often might be achieving some sort of benefit from them. Like parents love their children, but expect that they take care of them when they need them. Loving your spouse because he provided for you and takes care of everything for you. Friendships are maintained when people achieve some sort of benefit or help. There is no kind of relation with anyone without expecting anything in return. In every relation we are also giving and receiving something. In the love for the sake of Allah, we are giving un-conditional love to another person, because of our love for Allah. Not expecting anything from anyone, but only because we want to please Him.

There is nothing more pure

When we help and love other for the sake of Allah we fulfil commandments of Allah, that would be pleasing for His creation, in order to please the Creator. Being good to family, parents, friends and neighbours, and fulfilling our obligations. This motivation that keeps us inspired, receiving Allah`s love and never giving up, it`s like a candle that never stops spreading light.

love for the sake of Allah - yasmeen mojahedUnder His Shade on Judgment day

Those that love each other for Allah`s sake will be re-united with each other under His shade on Judgement day. There is no greater achievement. While others are being punished and questioned for their wrongs, the righteous ones are in calmness and joy and rejoicing under His shade. When we want to obey Allah and love His words to the extent that we would want to achieve His pleasure, we would want to find ways to make Him pleased with us. Pleasing His creation for His sake and being patient with them when they are difficult. Realizing that the reward will be given from Him. Even when we do the right thing, some people will hate us for it, other might love us for it. This will change all the time. Even the same person can`t always love us all the time. Therefor as long as we know we are behaving according to the Quran and Sunnah, don`t let people`s negative or positive remarks get us off the right path. Be persistent, and know that the One that will love us, no matter what, all the time, is Allah.

May Allah make us of those righteous people who love each other for the sake of Allah, and are re-united under His shade on Judgement day and in firdous. Aameen summa aameen.

love people who dont look at their schedule when you need themOften when something happen to someone you expect a certain reaction to what to what they will say or do. When you give a gift, you expect a positive reaction. When something unexpected happens, since we didn`t know it to happen, we are not aware of what kind of reaction it will create.

 

Bursting Out In Rage

For those whom have younger siblings or children in their family. If and when they fall and get hurt, their parents reaction can be quite different from what is expected. For instance they can be yelled at or even shaken by their elders; “What were you thinking, crossing the road without looking at both sides”. The reaction of their parents, may seem a bit hard, but actually displays that they care. The reason why they burst out in rage, was because they were afraid of you getting hurt. The parents got scared and because of that feeling of being afraid of loosing you, they yelled at you. Instead of thinking that they are to strict, be thankful that they doesn`t want you to hurt yourself, or see you hurt.

 

The value of having someone who cares

Those whom have lost someone in their family knows the value of having somene who cares for you. Someone whom make sure that you`ve had you meal on time, prayed you salat, come home in time, and that you wear clothes according to the weather, are not up to late and that you take care of yourself when you are ill and that you get a good dose of hugs. The ironic thing is that we value people more when they aren`t there than when they are. For years we think that our parents, or elder siblings are really giving us a hard time. But when they are somewhat away, we realize they are the one that has our back, when we fall or something negative happens. The ones that stick with you, when everyone else is out the door, no matter if they are friends or family, those people are the one that truly care. Those that help you not because of what you have, but because they love you no matter what you have or are, unconditionally caring people, are hard to find. Make sure that you appreciate them when you realize who they are, because they are your true treasure.

old couple love - love for the sake of allahThere can be said a lot about the difference between love and lust. Mix gender relationships nowadays are very normal these days. If you aren`t “with” anyone you are “gay”. As long as you have friendships people are cool with you, you`re one of them. It isn`t difficult for anyone to find someone to be with or marry. What is difficult is to find that person you know is going to be with you even when your appearance isn`t like a 20-year-old or hold your hand on the way to Jannah.

 

Love versus Lust

Marriages are built on many qualities, and lust is not one of them. When you desire someone because of their physical beauty that is lust. When you put precedence to conduct and character before beauty, you are giving values more preference. When people marry someone because of their looks, they forget that looks will eventually fade in some years. When they no longer have the outer beauty, you start to look outside for those who have it.

 

Looks can lie

Most of the muslim marriages are arranged by a third-party. Love marriages are on the rise. As a muslim even if you know your fiancée before marriage, it will mostly only be based on what people have said about him/her. You won`t get to know the person before the couple gets married/nikah. Why you choose the spouse you choose will have a great effect on the marriage. When people look at beauty rather than conduct/character they miss the most essential part of that person. Looks can lie. You will have to live with the spouses character for the rest of your life.

 

Marriages that increases in love

Love that is build after marriage with good conduct, loyalty, trust, friendship, will increase with time. These spouses see the beauty in each other despite of their grey hair and wrinkles, or the extra pounds.  Actually it increases them in beauty. They married each other for many years ago but fell in love with the same person every time. It is the small gestures, that builds the bond. Taking care of each other despite the fact that you just had a fight. Doing so many things for each other because you want to make your spouse happy, not to get something in return. The unconditional love. They know each other love language and how to express it. There is nothing more beautiful than an old couple that are in love, supporting each other. They have gone through good and bad times together, laughed and cried together, had their disagreements, but still been there for each other. That is beauty. They didn`t start praying for each other after marriage, but from their teens when other friends started making friendships, they started praying for a companion. Their death won`t depart them. They will meet again in Paradise to spend eternity together. Inspiring, motivating and striving to make each other better because you want to see each other in Jannah, that is real love.

 

the best of man is the one that is good to their wifeWanted to share some golden words about marriage.

  • Salman Al-Farisi raa married a woman from the tribe of Kindah. One day, he entered upon her, greeted her, sat down and then said, : Will you obey me If I asked you to do something? “. She said : ” You are like a King here; obedience to you is binding.
  • The Prophet (pbuh) has said to Aishah raa ” I know when you are happy with me and when you are upset with me.” She said ” how do you know that? ” The Prophet answered ” When you are happy with me you say `No, by the Lord of Muhammad, `and when you are upset with me, you say `No, by the Lord of Ibraheem. She said ” yes, that is right, By Allah , O Messenger of Allah, I only keep away from your name”.
  • The Prophet pbuh said : “As for he whom Allah provides with a righteous woman, He, Allah, has indeed helped him with half of his religion. Then let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half.
  • The Prophet pbuh has said : “Let not the believer despise a female believer if he hates one of her qualities but is pleased with another”. Muslim, Sahih.
  • Aisha raa and the Prophet pbuh would use code language with each other denoting their love. She asked the Prophet pbuh how he would describe his love for her. The Prophet Muhammad pbuh answered, saying: “Like a strong binding knot.” The more you tug, the stronger it gets, in other words. Every so often Aisha raa would playfully ask, “How is the knot?” The Prophet pbuh would answer, “As strong as the first day (you asked).”

sajda, husband, respect, with hadith

  • During the time Prophet Muhammad pbuh was married to Khadijah raa, he did not marry any other woman. No other wife of him had this privilege. Khadijah raa took care of Muhammad pbuh`s likes and dislikes.
  • Verily women is created from the rib, she will not become upright for you, regardless of the way you follow in trying to make her upright. If you take pleasure with her, you take pleasure with her, though she has some crookedness about her. But if you go to straighten her, you will break her; and breaking means divorcing her. Muslim, Sahih.
  • Among men many attained a status of perfection; but among women only three attained such status: Asiyah, the wife of Pharaoh, Maryam, the mother of Isa and Khadijah raa bint Khuwaylid.
  • The Prophet pbuh has said : “Shall I not inform you about the best treasure a man can have ? It is a virtuous wife who fills him with joy whenever he looks towards her.”

every kid childParents with children in the West are experiencing some issues on how to rebuke them to prevent them from coming in bad company. Issues like gambling, drinking, sex, one-gender-relationships, and free mixing is making the parent’s life tougher. We are all agreed on the fact that we muslims have some different values concerning these issues mentioned above. How can we as muslims prevent that our children fall into these traps. Parents are worried. The childcare organisations are on their neck to watch them whether they make one small mistake and they are so on their case for years. What can we do about this? We need to find ways of rebuking children in manner that does not collide with the West`s ideologi, but also something that works.

I know one time when I was a child, me and my friends once decided to “borrow” apples from the neighbour without them knowing it. Because of the thrill around it, not that we didn`t have it ourselves. I have done this once, and I got caught, and alhamdolillah, that made me stay away from it forever after. One of us, that was very strong, said no to going with us, told some other kids in the neighbourhood. We were caught red-handed. The parent of the owner of the tree came and rebuked us with very harsh words. No need to say, I never did that again.

The thing about parents disciplining their children is a very delicate matter in the West. Just one slap, can make them get reported to the childcare system. The worse part is that children are taught this at the school, and are really mis-using it to get their will with their parents. Not knowing that they are actually destroying their own life.

We need to prevent parents from ending up in the list of the childcare system. We can only do that by teaching them how to rebuke / discipline their children in a way that doesn`t go against the rules of the government. They need to teach them how to use incentives like carrot for good deeds and taking away some of their belongings for bad deeds. An example, you want your child to do their homework and get great grades. You say, If you show me that you manage to do well at school, I will give you XYZ in the end of the school year, or after one semester – the carrot. If you want to discipline them for coming to late one evening, without telling where they were, you can say, so now you have lost your, internet, phone, tv etc for day/week/month, depending of the seriousness of the action.

These incentives do wonders. But make sure you are not too nice or to tough. Also in this matter the middle path is best. Like good cop, bad cop. You don`t want them to run away, but you want them to obey the rules of Allah and the rules of the family.

Another thing is that sometimes things goes so out of hand, parents get enraged about something the child has done, and may slap him/her etc. The first thing the child would think of is, i will rapport it. The best thing is to avoid it. But believe me also the native Norwegians slap their kids and are not perfect parents. But we asian gets reported more easily because we have a more islamic approach towards life, and they are not that fond of Islam and our values. Who hasn`t ever slapped their child? There is a difference in one simple slap and beating them so that they become hurt. Remember that this is not the sunnah of our Prophet pbuh. He never hit or was angry at anyone ever. If you are a good muslim, and want your children to also be good, we need to implement the sunnah in our lives. Use the incentives carrot and discipline and in sha Allah, your children will be obedient and turn out well. Ameen.

Know that we are brown and wear different clothes than the natives. We stick out in a crowd no matter what we wear. We are not like them. But we also have faults. Most of us don`t know other disciplinary forms other than the desi type we have learned from back home. Un-learn them. They don`t work on children growing up in this society. It would only make them stronger in disobedience. If you keep on beating a kid over and over again, one day will come, that child we become strong enough to take your hand and say, beat again mum / dad. Or beat my as much as you want, but I`m doing as I want to. So you see that is not helping you, and it is certainly not helping the child who is your diamond of heart. If you truly love your children, and I`m sure parents can make wrong decisions but they never stop loving their children, than you would do what makes them become good and don`t become the means to chasing them in the arms of the wrong group of people.

Whereas love can move mountains, hate can misguide. So be wise. Be strict and loving. Never stop showing them or telling them that you love them. Not by buying them things. But by spending time with them. Talks and games and teaching them Islam. They are your amanah, and you will be questioned as to how you raised them. They are hungry for love. If their parents don`t give them enough, they will try to find it in the wrong places. We don`t want that to happen. We don`t want them to stray. This Ummah is one body, help each other and Allah will help you. May Allah help parents in raising their children and make every child obedient to Allah. Ameen summa ameen.

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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