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We know that many muslim families in the west, help their children start wearing hijab from primary school. Many non-muslim disagree about this practice. Even politicians have spoken against it, and want the authorities to ban hijab from school. Hijab is fardh, obligatory, from puberty, in Islam. The years before puberty it is optional for the child if she prefers to wear it. Often parents want the child to start with hijab early, because parents want their child to use hijab from their early teens. If they get used to the idea, it will become an easy choice for them to choose it also for their early adulthood. The problem arises because non-muslims think that children are forced to wear hijab. So they are thinking about banning it so no child is forced to wear it. The parents here are helping children wear covering clothing that increases the dignity and honour of girls. That can prevent them from becoming easy victims of sexual abusers.

Teens Who Hide Their Age

How do they dress in the west? Children are influenced to wear clothing like adults. The media, commercials, socializing with friends, celebrities sites. A whole industry of buying what is “popular” right now. The pressure is immense. Many children wear revealing clothing that adults wear, that while their real age is 10, they look like they are adults. In other words, 15-20 years ago, it was easy to see the real age of children from what clothing they wear and their behaviour. Now that is impossible. The influence of youtube and media, how a child behaves and what she chooses to wear, often robs them from their childhood. The children’s mind and thoughts mature faster than their age. When children, girls, behave and think and wear clothing that is above their age, they will easily attract the opposite gender who are more mature and elder than them. When they go places no-one knows their real age, they can easily fake being 18 etc. We know the issue about under aged children, fake ID and trying to get in contact with elder people, just to experience the thrill of having done something brave, and a good story when they meet their ordinary friends. We have heard real incidents in Norway and in uk about underaged girls having sexual relations with men in their twenties. There is a possibility that these girls have hid their real age. We can`t be assured that it is only the mens fault. It is of great trouble for the community when children look like adults, because of what they wear and how they behave. It is very important for a child to have friends that are on their own age and not above their age. When they first grow up, they can`t be a child again. But if they grow up too early, and we could prevent it, we robbed their childhood from them. That is really sad. If we are to decide that a muslim child can`t cover themselves completely, I think it is also about time we decide that non-muslims are not allowed to wear certain revealing clothing at the primary school. If we Morally evaluate the effect of half-naked children at school, compared to all-covered children at school, the effect of lesser clothing, is worse than the effect of those who choose to cover themselves completely.

How A Rapist Choose His Victim

When we read about those who have raped, some people have done a study of these people. As to why they rape, and who they choose. In these studies, they have come to the conclusion that if the rapist saw two women coming to the area he wants to attack, and one of them are dressed half-naked and the other is wearing covering clothing, he will choose the woman with less clothing. In other words, the rapist won`t choose a woman who is covered. Even though we agree that raping is not allowed. And those who rape are not allowed to rape, even if the whole town doesn`t wear clothing. Even if it is not the victims fault that she is being raped. To protect her from being raped, every caring mother would tried to convince her daughter to not wear these clothing outside the house, where she is in danger of being a victim of abuse. Where she can come across other rapists. We have to help our children make good choices so we can save them from these dangerous people. No-one sends their children to dangers. We love our children more than we love ourselves.

How Can Our Sons Focus Easier And Learn More At School

When there comes to understanding relationships and why and how men or women behave, we all agree that they are different. Different in how they understand love, how they understand respect, different in what qualities are important for them in their relationship. Men are turned on differently then women. Men are visual. The more of beauty that can be seen of a woman the more the man will have difficulties to not look. In the book “What you need to know about inner life of men” by Shaunti Feldhahn, she explains how men think and why. This is how Allah made men. This is the test of men. If women are more aware of their clothing when they step outside their home, and hide their beauty with hijab, many men would have easier days outside their homes. If men lose focus of what they are doing when they see a beautiful woman, I`m positive so does a boy lose focus of what they are doing when they see a beautiful girl at school. As a mother of boys, how well do you think your sons focus is in school, if a girl, a class-mate of his is wearing half-naked clothing every day of summer?

I Worry More About My Daughters

Often people worry about mothers of daughters, because they think that they have a more difficult job raising their children than those mothers of sons. I don`t think the one is easier or more difficult than the other. Both jobs, raising a son or a daughter is challenging. It is important to teach both genders to behave modestly and good. Sons must be taught to respect women regardless of how they behave. Women must be taught to respect themselves and behave with dignity and honour and protect their beauty. If we allow children to go around half-naked at school and ban those people who choose to cover themselves completely, we are shooting ourselves, by making it more troublesome for the children to focus in their learning, and may not be able to protect them from illicit relations / problems were the moral standards are low. If the authorities could balance their decision, it would be more helpful. Do not allow children to wear half-naked clothing of sexual art at school. Those children who choose to cover themselves should be allowed. If we think from what the child says, that she is being forced to wear a hijab, than take action. If we find out that children are wearing hijab with free will, it should be allowed. There should be some sort of balance. Non-muslims do not understand the detrimentalness of socializing between boys and girls who have no sence of modesty, dignity and honour. The police in Norway often update their social media platform, with info about crimes in Norway. Lately they have said that there is an increase of sexual offences. Many experts in the field assume there are much higher number of sexual assaults than what is reported to them. This often comes from filth in the media, nudity, weird programs on internet and tv, internet and socializing with the wrong people and alcohol and drugs. No boundaries is equal to chaos. If we look at the behaviour of places in Norway there is more muslim youth and places where there are less muslim youth, experts say in places with many muslims, the youth smoke less and drink less alcohol. And places where there are less muslim youth, the youth drink more alcohol. It is said that if the parents drink alcohol, it is likely that their children will adopt the drinking habits of their parents. If we look at the education of muslims and foreigners, they are on top when it comes to taking higher education. Especially the girls. The boys are behind. Maybe the reason why boys are behind when it comes to higher studies is the fitnah, tribulations they experience. So we see that the muslim community has also increased the communities with goodness. It is not all negative. But negative information gets more coverage in media. They blow up information. People who don`t know or check the real facts, start believing the mis-information of many journalists. Ya Allah, please help us to protect every ummati from negative influence and grant every ummati all good righteous company everyday, all day. Help us to protect our communities for our families and for the families that will live here in the future. Aamen

islamic school necessaryThe muslims that migrated to Britain must have been different from the muslims that migrated to Norway. Although they are a few generations more than us. They have also succeeded much more in many ways. For example. The halal food industry is really huge there. Certified halal food is easy available in food stores and in restaurants. They have managed to build popular islamic schools that are doing great for the children’s islamic values as well as education in West. It seems to me that the muslims in britain take Islam more seriously than what muslims in Norway have done.

The Case In Norway

Here in Norway, most restaurant’s have asian cuisine, but only a few have certified halal. Is it that the muslims doesn`t demand halal. Do they not take it that seriously? What we eat has an effect on our behaviour. Muslim parents are worried about the islamic education of their children. Youth are having adaab issues. Yet we are not able to build an islamic school because of disunity and not able to find a common ground within the four schools of law. Practising muslims in Norway are really struggling. May Allah make it easy for us. And help us find solutions. Aameen. The ones that will lose is the coming generations here. When we are not doing enough for them to stay as muslims for the rest of their lives as well as live as practising muslim in norwegian communities.

Why Is Britain Ahead Of Us?

One reason can be that since the generations of muslims in Britain are ahead of us, their own culture and language is fading away. They are giving their religion more precedence instead of culture or language. Most of teens and children don’t talk their mother tongue. They communicate fluently in english at school and home. I don’t think I will be exaggerating if I also dare say, that most probably the parents of the teens and children has also left their mother tongue. One of the biggest minus points for a islamic school in Norway, is the fear of ghetto. When children and teen talk their mother tongue with class-mates at school, they will not be able to learn norwegian as fluently as they will need, later in life. Which can create difficulties for them when searching for job etc.

Media Is Not Accurate

The talk about Muslim schools in Norway create a lot of bad vibes in the media. They want to control the curriculum more because of their negative ideas about our religion. They stir up small issues, and make them look dangerous for the community. The population of Norway is 5,2 million. (Key figures from SSB) 848 200 of the total are immigrants. Of these immigrants 55 % are European, 28% are Asians, 12 % are African and 3% are South American. 149 600 of the immigrants are from the second generation. When we understand that we are talking about a group of people who are only 16.3% og the population, we easily can put it into perspective. Before we talk about that muslims are taking over Norway, we don`t know how many of the 16.3% of the immigrants are muslims. Or need i say practicing muslim. Media knows how to blow some issue out of its proportion as it’s a huge problem. When in fact the opposite is more accurate. It becomes a huge discussion and the government have made laws that are making it even more difficult for us. They know we are not able to perform at the same level as them, because we are not as educated in the rules and regulations as the native Norwegians are. But of course a few more generations and that will change. But we can’t dare to wait for long. One youth leaving our religion is one too much. We can’t risk that. We need to take action. If we want our children to be on-going charity for us after we are gone, we have no time to waste. Better prepare before were too late. May Allah make it easy for us. Aameen.

old couple love - love for the sake of allahThere can be said a lot about the difference between love and lust. Mix gender relationships nowadays are very normal these days. If you aren`t “with” anyone you are “gay”. As long as you have friendships people are cool with you, you`re one of them. It isn`t difficult for anyone to find someone to be with or marry. What is difficult is to find that person you know is going to be with you even when your appearance isn`t like a 20-year-old or hold your hand on the way to Jannah.

 

Love versus Lust

Marriages are built on many qualities, and lust is not one of them. When you desire someone because of their physical beauty that is lust. When you put precedence to conduct and character before beauty, you are giving values more preference. When people marry someone because of their looks, they forget that looks will eventually fade in some years. When they no longer have the outer beauty, you start to look outside for those who have it.

 

Looks can lie

Most of the muslim marriages are arranged by a third-party. Love marriages are on the rise. As a muslim even if you know your fiancée before marriage, it will mostly only be based on what people have said about him/her. You won`t get to know the person before the couple gets married/nikah. Why you choose the spouse you choose will have a great effect on the marriage. When people look at beauty rather than conduct/character they miss the most essential part of that person. Looks can lie. You will have to live with the spouses character for the rest of your life.

 

Marriages that increases in love

Love that is build after marriage with good conduct, loyalty, trust, friendship, will increase with time. These spouses see the beauty in each other despite of their grey hair and wrinkles, or the extra pounds.  Actually it increases them in beauty. They married each other for many years ago but fell in love with the same person every time. It is the small gestures, that builds the bond. Taking care of each other despite the fact that you just had a fight. Doing so many things for each other because you want to make your spouse happy, not to get something in return. The unconditional love. They know each other love language and how to express it. There is nothing more beautiful than an old couple that are in love, supporting each other. They have gone through good and bad times together, laughed and cried together, had their disagreements, but still been there for each other. That is beauty. They didn`t start praying for each other after marriage, but from their teens when other friends started making friendships, they started praying for a companion. Their death won`t depart them. They will meet again in Paradise to spend eternity together. Inspiring, motivating and striving to make each other better because you want to see each other in Jannah, that is real love.

 

love parentsOur parents are one of the best gift Allah has showered upon us. Even if we disagree at times, we fully know that if it wouldn`t have been for their hard work, we wouldn`t have been where we are right today. Alhamdolillah. Their prayers and hard work has helped us through the toughest battles in life and has been our strength. Allah says in the Quran that we should be good to our parents. Sentences about the parents have been written after tawheed, telling us the importance of it, after believing that there is only one God (Allah).

Even though we know this we sometimes mistreat them maybe by some harsh words or words that aren`t thoroughly thought through before they come out of our mouth. I know I have to work on myself. Even though I know I`m not perfect, I will share with you some points about how you can make your parents happy. As when they are happy, those prayers that comes out of their being will save you from any torment be it in this life or the hereafter. Very important to accomplish, in sha Allah.

  1. First of All, the parents and the children has to be able to discuss things without the children being disrespectful towards their parents.  Know that even if you don`t agree about everything they still are the reason why you are in this world. So cherish them and let them know how much they are appreciated for the efforts they have made for you.
  2. Let your mum ( it`s often her whom does all the work at home) needs vacations too and time off so that she doesn`t get too tired. Help her around the house, whenever you have time. Sometimes make food for the family so she also can have the pleasure of eating without preparing everything. Sometimes eat at a halal restaurant so that she doesn`t have to make the food or clean the dishes afterwards. Help her with the dishes once in a while so she can get some rest.
  3. Respect your father (and mother). Make them know that you value their advice. If you disagree with them let them know that you have other opinion about the matter in a nice tone. The parents should be able to appreciate that their children has their own opinion, rather than making them robots whom do just what they want them to. They should make their children have confidence enough to do things on their own without them thinking for them. That doesn`t mean that you shouldn`t ask for their blessings when you have a new plan about your life. It means that they should rather make their children independent beings that can handle their own life also when their parents are no longer in this world.
  4. Take your mum out for shopping or on a cafe once in a while. Buy things for her that she needs. Most probably parents put their children’s needs before their own. Sometimes even if they have the resources they just don`t spend money on themselves. Find out what they need and buy it to them, even if it`s expensive. If you know they`ll mind, simply don`t tell them the price, because in the end they have spent more on you then you could ever repay. Our parents have spent their time and care, tears and sweat in our upbringing shaping us into this beautiful creatures that has finally understood the value of everything in our life. Lets be grateful for that, and let them know that you are grateful for them being your parents.
  5. Dads are often busy thinking about the bills that needs to be paid, the responsibility of the children that are unmarried and the thought of them being the provider that their children doesn`t lack anything in their life. So make them know that you appreciate their efforts of bringing the food on the table.
  6. Give your parents time. Talk with them. Let them tell you stories about how it was when you where a child or their efforts throughout their life so that you also know how they came so far and became so successful.
  7. Know that your parents love you more than anything in this world. Let them know once in a while how much you love them by giving them hugs or kissing their forehead. One glance of love looking at your mother can give you a the blessing of a hajj maqbool. And one glance of love looking at your father can give you the blessing of Umrah. How difficult it is to do a hajj and a Umrah and you can achieve this in your own home by only caring. Isn`t Islam wonderful.
  8. If your parents are retired, give them allowances that they need when they visit other family members or your own family. Parents love to give their children some money when they come to visit, make sure that they have enough. Know that they have spent all their lives on you, so don`t be greedy giving back to them.
  9. Making our parents happy will make Allah happy with us. Displeasing our parents, we will be displeasing our Creator.
  10. Call your parents once a day to make them know that you are alright and making you sure that they are alright. It doesn`t take that much time to call once  a day. Even when we are busy we manage to squeeze out time for our friends. Well our parents are much more important than our friends. Not a big issue. If you call them regularly they will understand that you truly care for them. They often worry for us all the time. Take some of their worries off their shoulders by letting them know that you are ok. They need to know that you are ok where you are.
  11. I have heard this saying, and it is so true. One mum can keep five children happy, but five children can`t keep one mum happy. Make this saying untrue by caring for your parents at all times in sha Allah.
  12. If your one or both of your parents are not any more, make sure you keep good relations with their friends and family. Do lots of good deeds, they will get a share of the blessings in their account. And make supplications for them every day.

May Allah bless the parents of each and every person. May every child and parent be able to experience each others joys and be there for each others in their sorrows. May Allah give us guidance to serve our parents so well that we will achieve Jannah with them. Ameen summa ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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