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Most of those who wants to prosper try to do as many good deeds we can. Though there are a few important matters we forget in this pursue of reward.

Our deeds will be weighed, not counted. 

Based on our intention, sincerity and quality in our deeds depending on our means. Even if we have done a lot of good, if it was for being praised/liked or to achieve something in the world, our intention is not to please Allah. Only those deeds we do solely for our Creator, will be rewarded. A thoughtful muslim will always be struggling to keep his intention and sincerity in check. If he manages this, even if the good deed he/she does is small, the reward can be really great. Similarly, without the right intention and sincerity, a great deed, will be turned back. (Unlikely to be rewarded/may get him/her punished instead).

If we don’t fulfil the rights other have on us 

We will have to give away our deeds on judgement day, to those people. Allah is not the only one who has a right on us. We must always be correcting our priority list, and give each and every their rights, according to our capability. 

We will not be rewarded for our good deeds in the herafter 

Without correct faith (imaan). A non-muslim might achieve good in this world from the good they have done. Though without correct faith (belief in One Creator (He is One – Tawheed), (we will be accountable for how we live our life – individually and rewarded or punished accordingly) -Judgement Day, His Angels, the eternal life after death – Herafter, Allahs previous Messengers and His books, and that Prophet Muhammad is the last Messenger of Allah.

This is the bear minimum. 

The more we will strive/struggle in this cause the more our ranks will be raised. May Allah keep us focused on always striving/struggling to have the sunnah intentions, sunnah sincerity and sunnah quality in our deeds, so that we will be immensely rewarded. O Allah, accept my supplications. May Allah make it easy for us to prosper in both worlds. Aameen.

strong people 2Life isn`t fair to everyone. It doesn`t stand still either. We won`t always be happy but neither always sad. No one has everything either. Some people have lost a friend, other a family member. Some has lost their job other has become ill. No matter how hard we try, we are not in control of what happens to us, but we can make sure that we make the best out of the situation that we are facing.

 

Patience is helping others with what you yourself is deprived of

Often the first thing we start with when something negative happens is the complaining. I don`t have xyz and so the list goes on. Alhamdolillah, living abroad, most of us have a lot that we take for granted. The most important of those things are our relations. Some people as being the eldest, might some times say, I wish I had an elder brother. Someone whom has lost a parent, might say, I wish my parents were with me today. Other that have a child that is ill, would wish for healthy children, and so the list goes on. Maybe if Allah decided to take something away or give us a difficulty is to see how we cope with it. If the one whom has no elder siblings, would try to be that elder brother/sister for his younger siblings, that him/her wanted, he/she would get an opportunity to give something so  precious as exactly what he/she wanted, even if he/she is deprived of it himself/herself. A glow of patience. Or for instance, for those whom have lost a parent, there are elders whom doesn`t get visits from their children, why not give them some time, whenever you can? If you are not married yet, but looking for a spouse, why not give charity to a sister back home whom doesn`t have enough money to get married? If you just got married, but having difficulties to conceive, there are a lot of children whom need support, maybe someone in the family, would like to have a day off from all the work of the kids, to get out one evening. The possibilities are there, it is up to us to look for opportunities where we can help others and at the same time comfort ourself as well.

 

The biggest issue in today`s society

This is how we can make a difference. Even if we are deprived of something, we can make sure that we help people in the same situation, because we know how tough it is. And to lessen the burden of those whom need a hand. The biggest issue of today in our society is loneliness, elders as well as children, even if the world has everything to offer, the most important things, nurture relations, are what we lack the most. Maybe this is where we need to start? Sometimes Allah puts difficulties in our life because He knows we can overcome them, and that it will make us stronger and wiser.

internet, teenager, family,We often get so consumed in this materialistic world, that we tend to forget what is important in our life: Our Loved Ones ❤ I was taught a lesson in this regard.

For a couple a days now we are renewing the living room. We haven`t had any internet or telephone since a couple of days. But we have our mobile phones in case of an emergency. These couple of days has made me realize a few things. Now as we don`t have internet or television and no living room, we have to eat in the kitchen. No distractions. No one is watching the news 24/7. We have to what they say, look at each other and actually have a conversation. It feels like we have met after a long time and are talking about stuff in our life. I haven`t been so content and calm as I am nowadays. We smile, we laugh, we quarrel, we discuss, we talk together and the atmosphere is lovely.

The fact that we often forget our relations because of all kinds of distractions is not rare. Sometimes family members grow so far away because of this that they don`t know each other anymore. I guess in a couple of days, everything will be like it was, and we`ll become busy in our lives. These days have taught me the true value of the relations in my life.
Simple life = Happy life and No television = Happy wife.

Our relations are important in our life. Not our job, hobby, interests etc, but rather the people who make our life worth living. Even if we don`t always agree with them about everything. Just admit it, if it wouldn`t have been for our family and loved ones, we would most certainly not have been what we are today and where we are today. ❤ It is a blessing, cherish it, and tell them. ❤

These small incidents that wakes us, once in a while, makes an impact on our thinking. We realize what our priorities are. When we first have realized that, what is important is to keep that thought and not let it fade away. As some people say, sometimes life knocks you down on your knees, little do we know, that the same position is perfect for sujood. Allah wants us to ask Him.

374843_10150465406724496_673011480_nHave we become more un-kind then the generations before us? We Asians know for a fact that the kind of manners that are taught in asian/english schools in Asia are lacking here in the West. Respect towards parents and teachers are not injected in the children. The society is different. That has an impact on the manners and values of the children brought up in these surroundings.

A lot of parents let their children watch television or play games throughout the day. Instead of making sure that they are doing some productive learning, these factors change the children’s thinking. Without talking and spending quality time with your children and teaching them important qualities, how can you expect them to have the right values? The television or games become their “nanny”. The media do not have great values. That is why it is so important that we have limits for how much time they can spend there. Because of the hold of media on the children, a lot of them have become more anti-social. Even if teenagers meet today, they would often rather use FB, Twitter, iPhone etc than to have a normal conversation with each other. These things distract them, and make them lonely.

The selfishness has increased in the society. Different family structure have made being single attractive for some. Or the fact that families break, the increase of divorce, we have a lot of single parents in the community. Most of the people have become more materialistic and showing off thing they buy, is very common. We don`t own things, nowadays things own us. We have everything that money can buy, but not a lot of things that you can`t buy with money. People are depressed, trouble getting enough sleep. They are not content with their life. They have gone far away from religion and feeding their soul and become busy in everyday life.

It maybe that you don`t agree with me. Understandable. Let`s take a test. I believe that people don`t value the relations in their life that made an impact on their life and were the reason why they are so succesful today. Not convinced? Let me ask you a question. I reckon most of the people reading this, do not live with their parents. How often do you visit them? Not often? How often do you call them? When we don`t give any value to people who has spent their life building ours, how much value will we give to strangers than? Would you risk your life for a stranger?

These factors have all been a generator for following to occur: For a couple of weeks ago in Ramadan some boys went to the beach. Because of the waves in the sea they and the deep water they started drowning. Even though there were other people there, no one came forward to help them. Somehow they managed to survive and told their story in the news in Norway. In another incident a couple had an accident and the car went drove off the road. The man managed to get out of the car and on the road to ask for help. Unfortunately no one stopped. It was after the 14th car he waved at before they stopped to help him.

If we look at another aspect of this. Would you have stopped if someone tried to wave you at the side in the middle of nowhere. I mean we have heard a lot of scary stories about this from a lot of different countries. People have been, killed, raped and robbed. I can understand that we become sceptical to people because of this. Don`t you?

Rise of criminality in the society has made people sceptical before helping others in need. I heard about one person in Norway that helped a young person from getting beaten up by a bunch of people. When the gang instead targeted that man, and unfortunately no one helped him. People have to weigh helping others on one side and protecting oneself on the other side. When there is a fear of terrorism in any part of the world, it frightens people, and has an effect on their life. Not to mention retaliation from those who are accused in case of a trial.

Our religion tells us to look for the good in others no matter what life has made them to become. But on the other side, it does not mean that we should become overconfident and jeopardize our life, or the life of our loved ones. Be helpful and smart not a mat that everyone walkover.

Nevertheless if you are of those few people who has this quality of un-conditional kindness within you, like our Prophet Muhammad pbuh, know for a fact that even if people don`t appreciate your efforts, Allah knows and is keeping record of it. He keeps account and is not unjust in the least to anyone. May Allah help us help others, Ameen summa ameen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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