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jannah, paradise, hold hand, finally we are here, spouse, marriage, coupleMarriage is a serious bond between a husband and a wife, and one should be ready for it before we commit ourselves to it. Often we see that people who come to a certain age want to get married. Most often they haven`t thought well enough about the reasons behind their decision. Marriage is not only a way of having halal intimacy. Marriage is about a companionship where the spouses support each other through tough and good times, where their aim is to achieve Jannah and spend their eternity there together. It is a means for having righteous offspring that will work for the betterment of their society in both religious and social matters. Children that one day will become good contributors to their environment, and send good deeds to their parents way after they have left the world to the next and be those that Rasollallah pbuh will say that they will go to Jannah.

 

Compete in matters for a better Hereafter

It is important that men whom want to commit themselves understand the fact that they are the ones whom has the overall financial responsibility. Even if their wife has an income, she is not obliged to spend any of it on the family. And being ready for children. Their upbringing is just as much the father’s responsibility as the mother. We need to understand that some people whom aren`t even ready for kids get a bunch of them, and some people whom are eager to get children, might not get as much or maybe not even one. Rizk is not in our hands. Rizk is in Allah`s hands. He is trying us through it. Some people are tested through difficulties, others are tested through ease. There shouldn`t be any competition between couples that others have four kids so we need to beat them to it and have one more. The society has become such a difficult place to be. We are competing in things that doesn`t matter rather than the few points that matter the most. Lets compete in doing good deeds, lets compete in having righteous children rather than many, lets compete in learning more of the deen, not to show off, but to make others also want to become muslims or better people than they were before, let’s try to be better people than we were yesterday, or the minute before now. Improvement not to make us feel superior but to achieve Jannah and help others on the way.

 

Things money can`t buy

After marriage the most important thing wife would want is your time. That means that you cannot whenever you prefer it, go out with your friends. You need to give your wife your time. It is not enough to just be the provider. Both the wife and the husband feels loved in different ways with different love language. You will have to learn that from the start. You can read more of that here : 5 Love Languages In Marriage.  We can`t either expect that the spouses will be in-love all the time. They will have disagreements and quarrels. How they handle them will determine what the future of their marriage is. That is why it is important to know how your apology will be accepted by your spouse. You can read that here : Do you know the art of apologizing?

 

Be there in good and bad times

The family and the parents of the fiancée must be certain that the couple is ready for marriage. It is not like a sale, where you have money-back guarantees within three months. When we first do commit, we should do it with the intention that we are going to Jannah together. Trust is essential. If one of the spouses always has the backdoor open and threatens with leaving whenever they face any difficulty than that person wasn`t ready for the bond. When one commits one does that in hope for being there for each other in good and bad times supporting and inspiring and motivating each other to become better people for forever. Anything less than that should not be accepted. If your goal is Jannah you will choose a righteous spouse. When we first do commit, we should give it a 100%.

 

Make marriages affordable

Expensive marriages should not be encouraged. Like in all other matters of life, there is also competition in having the most expensive marriage. If fla fla person has a marriage in a ship another has to have a degree more expensive so they choose an airplane. The more expensive the marriage the more it has to be delayed, wich will cause more fear of fitnah. Keep it simple and affordable. Less tension and less troubles and more joy. Let the couple rather save some of their money on their life after marriage than becoming bankrupt after marriage. The simpler the marriage is the more barakah/blessings the couple will derive from it. In the Prophet pbuh`s time there were a few sahabis whom didn`t have any money to give the mehr. Once Rasollallah pbuh said to one such person that he can use his knowledge as mehr. So even that didn`t make Rasollallah pbuh stop him from getting married. Rizk is in Allah`s hand. One day we have a lot, other times we have little. There is no guarantee that a rich person doesn`t become poor in one day or a poor person becomes rich in one day. Allah decides. Since we will be tested in both ease and difficulty, we need to overlook this and give more attention to righteousness of the spouse. If the spouse fears Allah, he/she will treat you right no matter what, because he/she knows that he/she will be answerable to Allah for it on Judgement Day. May Allah increase the barakah in every marriage and make every marriage easy for the people concerned, grant them contentment and re-unite every couple in Jannah/Paradise. Ameen summa ameen.

characterIt is quite common these days, that people are attracted to others whom has a beautiful appearance. I guess a lot of young people get confused about what real beauty is. Generations get influenced by the media, the commercials, movies, tv-serials, where people with perfect body`s are picturing a scenario that is no-where close to reality. Women with tons of make-up and thin as they have never eaten showing a life where you will be happy if you get the man you have fall in love with. Their fairytale stops when they get married, not giving an accurate picture of life after marriage. This is not true love, and this is not real beauty.

Our Prophet Muhammad pbuh, has shown us what real beauty is, through his pbuh soul, conduct and character. He had such a genuine care for people, and was such a humble person with strong bashfulness, that people couldn`t help themselves from loving him pbuh. He pbuh lived a simple life, and treated people so kindly that even his enemies accepted his pbuh message. He was of course beautiful also, but it was his character and simplicity people fell in love with, and still admire and adore. His pbuh kindness to animals. His pbuh treatment of elders. His pbuh nature of reconciliations, of forgiving even the people whom had hurt his pbuh dearest ones. Even people whom wheren`t on his pbuh religion, admired him and still do, for such and amazing character he pbuh has. He pbuh has shown us that is possible to live the Quran. It is through his manners and genuineness that he has won so many hearts ❤ Subhan Allah.

I can understand that young people fall in love with appearance. Though the wiser and elder they get, the more they realize that real beauty is the conduct, not the outside, but the inside. After you marry a person, it is the character you are going to live with for the rest of your life. If the same attractive person has a less good conduct, than imagine yourself whether you are going to live a harmonious life or not.

After all what are you attracted to? Kindness? Manners? Morals? I think that people whom are genuinely kind and treat their loved ones fairly and with respect even when no one is watching them, them being younger or elder, than that is beautiful. People whom follow the sunnah and aren`t embarrassed to go out with their parents, that is beautiful. Being nice to children, even when it won`t give you any personal advantage, but just because that is how our Prophet pbuh was, or it is the right thing to do, that is beautiful. It is very important that we understand what real beauty is, before we get into the bond of marriage. If beauty is our body, what about those people whom has died. We are not our body, we are our soul. The believing and righteous souls will live an eternal life in Paradise. May Allah make us of those and increase the beauty of our souls, so that we are reunited in Jannah with the people we love for the sake of Allah. Ameen summa ameen.

Allah elsker degShe is obedient, kind and loving towards her husband, ever eager to please him. She does not disclose his secrets or upset his plans. She stands by him at times of hardship, offering her support and wise advice. She shares his joys and sorrows.

She endears herself to him by the way she looks and behaves, and fills his life with joy and happiness. She encourages him to obey Allah in various ways, and motivates him by joining him in numerous activities.

She respects his parents and family. She refrains from looking at other men. She keeps away from foolish and worthless talk. She is keen to provide an atmosphere of peace and stability for her husband and children.

She is strong in character without being rude or aggressive and is kind and gentle without being weak. She earns the respect of those who speaks to her. She is tolerant and forgiving, overlooking errors and never bearing grudges.

Thus, the muslim wife deserves to be the most succesful wife. She is the greatest blessing that Allah may bestow upon a man and an incomparable source of joy in this life. The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) has said :

“This world is nothing but temporary conveniences, and the greatest joy in this world is a righteous woman”.

For every muslimah out there, this is something to strive for. To be the best wifey we could to our hubby`s so that we one day will achieve Paradise together, in sha Allah.
(From the book, The Ideal Muslimah).

kids duaTo have a good role-model is important for everyone ❤ Not only for the kids, but also for the adults. The people we look up to have a great responsibility. In case they do something good, people will follow them and they will achieve lots of sawabh. On the other hand if they do something wrong and people follow them, then their sin will be doubled up as to going against the law of Allah and the fact that other people are following and doing the same. This is why it is so important that every person does work deeds of righteousness which means in other words that one does do what is morally correct.

When we see that some people have stranded from the guidance of our Prophet (pbuh), we need to inspire them as the best to our ability so that they also receive guidance to become better muslims. Not by looking down at them and rebuking them. That won`t make them change it would probably only worsen the circumstance. We should try to be an example with our behaviour which will give them a push to also do good, in sha Allah.

Think for instance that you meet some people down the road of life, who are totally stranded and doing wrongs. If you have the chance and don`t help them, you won`t be able to tell that to Allah on the Judgement day. Every muslim is each others brothers and sisters. We are one Ummah. If we start to think like that than we would probably be a great people of islah or dawah. Remember today it`s some people you see on the road that needs guidance, tomorrow it could be someone you know. It`s important that we don`t let that happen. It is important that we try to do our best to keep our Ummah in guidance and inspire the people who haven`t yet received guidance.

Of course the best dai or person of islah is the one that preaches with his/her conduct/character. Being the same as they are around people also when they are alone. Our Prophet (pbuh) showed us that it`s not impossible to achieve such great heights.There is no better role-model to have than our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). To follow his guidance, to read and understand what the Quran is telling us and implement it in our daily life, InshaAllah. Only then we can achieve eternal bliss, InshaAllah, ameen. This is our Prophet who told us through is actions that it is not impossible for a person to become a good muslim/muslimah. The safar on this road is going to give us a lot of blessings/sawabh. Only if we follow the true guidance, which has come from our Prophet and the Quran. May Allah guide us all more, and more on the right path, so that we one day can achieve eternal bliss ❤ Ameen summa ameen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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