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Sisterhood, brotherhood, world, earth, united, care jpgMost people with a caring nature and good values, would happily give a helping hand to anyone in difficulty, even if they wouldn`t personally know who the other person is. Sometimes without even thinking of it having any consequence for themselves in the future.

Are You Careful Who You Help?

As time has become more rough and many people are in difficulties nowadays, many people with good intentions of helping others, are experiencing corruption in many cases. Many examples are known from the media, were good and caring people help others in need and are in return either hurt or somehow criminals steal their belongings. Leaving them in worse case, than if they would`ve not cared and just walked away, like they didn`t see that someone needed help. Since the rise of corruption is at its peak, many good people are now very aware of the fact that they have to be careful who they trust and help. Giving a helpful hand, is not the same as for a few years ago. The consequence is of course that people who are entitled of help, doesn`t get any help they need. Because we don`t know if they are true/sincere. So we choose to do a background check before we send any money or give charity through any company. We don`t always know if the money is truly being utilized where it was sent for.

Ulterior Motives For Helpfulness

When our parents bring us to life in this world. They do not bring us in order to make us dependent of them. Most parents want us to be able to live a good life and be independent. If we are too dependent of them, one day when they no more, we would have difficulty adapting to this. Their goal is to raise children who can contribute positively to the community, muslims and non-muslims. If a police-woman sees a man wanting to take suicide from a bridge, and she manages to talk him out of it, believing that he has a purpose in life, even though it looks a bit dark right now, doesn`t mean that the police-woman had ulterior motives for being helpful. It is her duty. So when some people help other people, because of their softheartedness, believe in the good in them. Most of us are just practising the life of our Prophet pbuh. We can`t start spinning on the idea that she saved him, because she wants to marry him or would want some money in return for being helpful.

politenessWe Want Humanity To Win

Good-natured people are helping. Although so many countries are facing severe trials. Lets not be the reason why people stop believing in goodness. A life is precious no matter whose it is. To save a life is like saving humankind, and to take a life, is like killing mankind. -Quran 5:32. Allah sees and knows those who do good. Don`t come in the way of others success. If someone has helped you through a difficult situation, just supplicating for them when you pray, would be sufficient for you to repay the favour. You don`t have to be a part of their life for it. It so happens often that when someone from the opposite gender helps us, we think they help us because they love us etc. It is important that we regain believe in kindness. Not always mistaking kindness /politeness for flirtation/love. Bottom line, kind people with a sound heart and good intentions help others out of difficulty. That`s it. Nothing more. Don`t expect or put so much in a nice gesture that because of this, people stop doing good deeds. If we get the idea that a good gesture will backfire, goodness will decrease. People falling on a sidewalk, where thousands are walking, won`t be helped by anyone. We don`t want that kind of world? We want a safe world where people help each other. No matter if anyone is rich or poor, just because we want humanity to win. If people fear for their family’s security when they help other people, they might stop helping other people in need. We don`t want such a society. Very few people are so un-selfish that they dare to risk their loved ones lives in order to save someone they barely know. Our a priority is our family. May Allah make it easy for us to practice kindness without it backfiring. Aameen.

prophet muhammad1Nowadays we often see that a lot of people are only nice to those who are nice to them. The minute someone says something harsh or even if they have a point, they easily remove them from their list of friends. I am such a person that I often give a lot of people multiple chances, in case they have changed. Most of the times I realize that we are all different. Everyone has something good and bad in them. We need to focus on the good, if we can, try to motivate others to become even better. There will always be room for improvements in us, no matter how we are, we can strive to become better in it. We need to cultivate good values and try to let ourselves be inspired to become better.

Our Prophet pbuh had a very good nature. Once some of his companions were discussing about whom he loved the most. The Prophet pbuh treated him in such a manner that he was sure that he was the most beloved to him, of his companions. The companion wanted the Prophet pbuh to say this. So he went to his pbuh`s home and asked a general question to the Prophet pbuh, although he thought he knew what the answer would be.

Prophet Muhammad pbuh said that he loved Aisha raa the most. The companion didn`t give up. So he asked the Prophet pbuh again, so he pbuh said, Abu bakr Siddiq raa. He still kept on asking, and Muhammad pbuh kept telling name of other companions.

This is how Prophet Muhammad pbuh treated people in such a good manner, that they thought it was because he pbuh loved a them a lot. He was kind to people who were rude to him. Although one woman threw garbage on him pbuh every time he pbuh passed by her home, he pbuh visited she didn`t come one day, because he pbuh got worried about her health. He pbuh found out that she was ill. She accepted Islam, because of these beautiful manners. He taught us to strengthen the bond with those who cut them off. He forgave the woman who mutilated a close relative of his, because at that time she hated Islam, she accepted Islam.

Being forgiving is so rare in our society. If someone does something un-kind to some people, they often break all contact for years. May Allah strengthen the sisterhood and brotherhood of this Ummah, and help us apply his pbuh`s sunnah in our life. Of course forgiving someone doesn`t mean it automatically will be like before the fight. It means that you let go of all that hurt you, and move on. You don`t have to be un-kind back. Just decide that people are different. Some people can`t be friends, because they don`t go that well together.

intentionThe wonderful thing about Islam is that when oneself starts being more practising you want other to also feel the joy of being a good muslim as well, so you share your stories and your naseeha`s to other in hope that they also find the blessings of being a good muslim. I mean who doesn`t want to get the reward for that? Though there is something that can go very wrong sometimes. I will talk about that here.

Giving naseeha to others isn`t something bad, as long as one has oneself`s niyah in check. Having a personal agenda when giving the naseeha won`t give you any reward at all. First of all you have to be a dai for Allah not for anyone else. Or for making others feel that they are worse than others. I have seen and experienced that some people want to bring out the faults of others and say some bad things about others, and hide behind the saying, “just giving naseeha, don`t take it personal”. They are actually digging their own grave if they don`t have the right intention behind the deed.

Other times some people say things to others in a way that agitates others. I guess if you really want to help others, first have good manners so you say things in the best way so you don`t hurt other people’s feelings by being rude. Lets put it this way. If you know some people have som bad habits, by saying to them you know you have that and that bad habit, you know, that won`t change them. It would rather agitate them and could, may Allah forbid, make them even worse. So instead try to be polite and instead of  just finger-pointing, try your best to come with solutions first.

I have stopped following some people because instead of coming up with solution, they finger point something bad about others, like they have a personal agenda. I don`t think they know the right ways of being a dai or giving naseeha.

I hope that the dai`s out there won`t see this as a personal attack, but rather some views coming from a sister in Islam. Give naseeha in the best manner with the best intention and the best way ever, with solutions to the issue, then know that what you say will make an impact on other people. And first of all become a dai for Allah`s sake not for anyone else.  May Allah reward every dai out there that is doing excellent work. May we learn and apply what we are taught from them and may Allah give us all Paradise in return for it, ameen summa ameen.

Being nice to people who are nice back is an easy task, but being nice to people who are mean to you is the most difficult task ever. And yet so important.

Allah says in the Quran :

” Repel evil with that which is best: We are well-acquainted with the things they say”. Quran 23:96).

The meaning of the Ayat is: ” Whether people speak evil of you, in your presence or behind your back, or they do evil to you in either of those ways, all is known to Allah. It is not for you to punish. Your best course is to not do evil in your turn, but to do that will repel the evil. Two evils do not make a good.

Allah says in the Quran:

” Nor can goodness and evil be equal. Repel evil with what is better: Then will he between whom and thee was hatred become as it were thy friend”. (Quran 41:34).

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The meaning of the Ayat is: ” You do not return good for evil, for there is no equality or comparison between the two. You repel and destroy evil with something that is far better, just as an antidote is better than poison. You foil hatred with love. You repel ignorance with knowledge, folly and wickedness with the friendly message of Revelation.

This is very difficult to do at times yet the reward is immense 🙂

Allah says in the Quran :

” Twice will they be given their reward, for that they have persevered, that they avert evil with good, and that they spend in charity out of what we have given them”. (Quran 28:54).

This is something we should think about next time we are in a discussion about anything, and I am counting in myself as well. When the reward is immense surely it cannot be that easy task either. Though with every difficulty there comes relief, so one needs to show patience. “Is there any reward for good other than good?”. (Quran 55:60).

 

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

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(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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