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marriage-quran-strong-bond-enemies-husband-wife-help-from-allahMany men talk about having more than one wife. According to Islam, it is allowed. The time of the sahaba, many widows needed support, and men were allowed to marry them. The orphans would get helped, and the women get supported. In that time the sahaba raa didn`t either see any bad in marrying any women whom had been married before. Also the muslim women, were more reliable.

Friendships With Opposite Gender Outside Marriage

Nowadays, men frighten their first wife, if you don`t stop the discussion, I would marry another. Alhamdolillah, it is allowed in Islam. It is only that the society of today, is much different from the time of the sahaba. The era of today is full of fitnah everywhere. Many are struggling with hijab and modesty. Integrity is seen less. People have become more materialistic. There is more lying than before. Good conduct and decent values are rarily found in people. In these trying times, most wives wonder about their husbands integrity. Most husbands wonder about their wife`s integrity. Husbands are wondering about one wife, what if you had four, demanding the same right? So one day you`re with one wife. Can you trust the second, third and fourth at that time? What reason do you have to be assured, that they are not with anyone else? Most women of today, can`t wait a day for her husband, when he is away. Also internet makes it easy to get friends, easily. When friends between the genders are ok, when do we know if both husband and wife have haya and practice modesty, when they are with other people? That is why it is important to choose spouse because of good character and decent values. Don`t choose spouse because of beauty, status or money. You are not choosing a car.  You are choosing the mother of your children. The qualities you see in her, will be seen in your children. The purity of the children is dependent on the purity of the husband and wife. If you want good children you can`t afford to choose wrong. Imagine your children imitating their mother. Dancing at bollywood songs and addicted to dialogues from indian dramas or movies. I would prefer to have a spouse where we both remember our Lord in everything we do, by practising obedience to Him in public and private. Following sunnah guidelines. Your married life isn`t dependent on your wife`s appearance. Your married life is dependent on you and your wife`s good qualities and abilities.  If your too obsessed about the beauty or luxury of this dunya, how will you be able to work for your souls home? The place you`re going to spend an eternity.  Ya Allah, protect us from bad faith. Aamen. Grant every ummati a righteous spouse. Aamen.

What If You Make The Same Mistake With Second Wife?

One can understand from this, that even if a man marries a second wife, there will be a half-year happy time, after that both will get used to each other. Than the same mistakes he made in the first marriage, will be seen in him towards his second wife? He didn`t fix them then. Of course, it wasn`t his faults. So the solution of disagreements between couple, is not to get another wife. It is to find ways of increasing love between the husband and wife in the first marriage. Finding ways of increasing compatibility. Understanding how your spouse feels loved and how your spouse accepts apologies. Showing love through gestures of respect, appreciation and gifts.

A Husband And Wife Of This Trying Time, Need To Prove Their Integrity To Each Other Every Day

One matter is settled. Men and women has a responsibility to cultivate in them good conduct, in private and public. Even if someone might win a blessing. He / she can easily lose it, if he / she doesn`t know how to value it. When it comes to Allah`s friends. Allah will never give His diamond, to a man who is not able to protect it and take care of it. That is something, that must be proven every day. Not just one day of a year. Ya Allah, grant every husband and wife to win the struggle of correcting their integrity, niyah, ikhlas and haya. Aamen. Protect every ummati from those who are un-reliable, untrustworthy, and those who have bad character. Aamen. A woman is tested when her man has nothing. A man is tested when he has everything. Let`s see who really passes the test? Ya Allah, grant every ummati help to make good decisions in life. Protect every marriage from envy, jealousy, magic and evil eye til the end of time. Aamen

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life is a prison for the believers and a paradise for the disbelieversInstead Of Competing

In every relationship we have to balance between rights and responsibilities. We can`t keep on expecting from others without fulfilling others rights upon us. Without having knowledge of it, we will also have difficulty to deliver. Most of the first generation that came to the West only know what rights they have. Most of the second generation have understood that the first generation hasn`t fulfilled their obligations towards them. How can we know expect to have a healthy, giving relationship between the two?

Parents Have Rights and Responsebilities

It is important that children take the responsibility of caring towards their parents. Likely it is important that the parents should have understood and practiced good parenting from the start. They were to occupied with earning a living. Not understanding that buying things is not the same as spending time cultivating values in the children you have brought into this world. We can`t expect without giving in return. Prophet Muhammad pbuh has talked about the right of the parents but also the responsibility of the parents.

It Is Rare To Find Genuine People

Wanting for your brother what you want for yourself has become a rare phenomena. Mostly sibling rivalry, or jealous friends make it quite difficult to share the good things that happen in our lives. The evil eye is real. People have found a passion in competing with each other, rather than helping each other prosper. It is so rare, to find someone whom is genuine in regards of wanting the best for us.

Chose The Easiest Matter, As Long As It Was Halal

In between all this our culture is not making our lives easier either. Clashes between culture and religion, makes difficulties in our lives. People give more consideration to what people might say rather than what Islam has to say. Between two matters, Prophet Muhammad pbuh, always chose the easiest, as long as it was halal. Nowadays people have made halal difficult for people whom want to live pure, because of our self-made rules. The world is indeed a prison for the believer and a paradise for the disbeliever. May Allah help the muslims keep the deen easy. And give each other glad tidings, instead of scaring each others away from our religion. Aameen.

outward, inward, tazkiya, soul, dhikr, tawbah, ghusl, wudhu, sheikh mohammed yaqoubiIt is not un-common in the days we are living in that people are affected negatively by their community. I have noticed this from when I was younger, though the materialistic values have increased. Often children are more obsessed about what they own so they can brag to their friends, and be of those whom are admired. Is the fact that someone has something a reason to admire that person? It depends, if we are talking a pure heart, good conduct, righteous friends, good company, good values, than I won`t disagree at all. Unfortunately what people rather admire is the fancy house, new cars, new fancy clothing, numbers of followers or friends etc. When in fact these things doesn`t say anything about the person’s real treasure.

It Is Not illegal To Be Rich

People are competing in a race where there is no goal. The development of technology in the world is increasing so rapidly that even if you have a Ipad 5 today, in a few months 7 or 8 will be out in the shops. We can`t keep up with this race without losing what is really important; our values. What is important is not how big your house or car is, but rather your values as a person and how close you are to Allah. It`s not illegal to be rich, but with it comes a lot of responsibility. In fact, the people whom have the most money will be the people whom will be questioned about where they used it. Alhamdolillah, tabarakAllah, my point is not that we sell everything we own, to live a simple life. It is mear to point out that just because you are rich, doesn`t mean that you can`t have the right values. In other words, focus on what is important, your values, your character and conduct. Your life and your hereafter.

Compete In Cultivating Right Values

Instead of competing in number of kids and size of house and number of cars, compete in cultivate the right values in your children and family, so that no matter how much you are blessed you will always remember the sacrifices our previous predessors made for us to be where we are now.  Not only that, but your family will appreciate the blessings more when they realize that it could have been given to others. When in fact they know the suffering of children around the globe. They would most probably like some children, join other friends and collect money for them, with what they can do. By selling lemonade and mum-made cakes, early in their life they will realize what is important. Everyone has a right to have a good life and food and water and home and security. Though because the worlds treasures are not equally divided between people, some have more than others. It doesn`t necessarily mean that they deserve what they get. They are being tested by Allah for what they are doing with what they have. At the same time it will keep our feet on the ground, when we realize that all of this is not given for our joy. The test of ease and the test of difficulty. Some people are tested by given a gift, others are tested by witholding a gift from them. Allah knows how much patience people without the basics in life, has to go through, of troubles that might be the reason why they will go to Paradise, years before the rich muslims. Abu Bakr Siddiq raa gave away everything he owned before he died. He didn`t even leave anything for his children, just to be amongst those people that will be entitled to go to Paradise first. SubhanAllah what a determination.

The Inside The Same As The Outside

In the time of Islam and the years after, people were more worried about the qualities in them that were not seen on the outside, their clothing and what they own. Nowadays people are more worried about if their clothing is matching their shoes or hijab, or for men if they have the right amount of beard, with the right new trendy clothing. Gotta look smart. If we put just as much effort in cleaning our souls, and our hearts, as we do in keeping ourself looking awesome, than maybe our inner and outer self would be the same. If we won`t do that than it might happen that our outer self looks better than our inner self. For people with the right values, their goal is that their inner self is better than the outer self or at least just as good. To keep their sincerity and intention correct they do as much they can in secrecy, to avoid show-off in their deeds. Whereas most of us are those who share the smallest achievement in regards of ibaadah, when in fact a simple evil-eye-affect can reverse it for us.

It Is A Worldwide Muslim Issue

I see people being consumed in things that aren`t good for their hereafter, and I feel so helpless because I don`t know what to do or how to help them. I`m no expert and not even close to what experts in this field could help us with. All I know is that mosques need to talk about so many topics in their gatherings with sisters and brothers and youth that needs to be dealt with asap. Or else we are in hands of our own destruction. This is a worldwide problem everywhere were there are muslims. May Allah preserve us and help us and guide us and give us a heart that accepts guidance. Aameen summae aameen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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