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188983_10151478508729496_344954689_nYou never know how your positive encouragement can help people. Just because one of the youths you know are misbehaving in any way, it does not imply that they will always be like that. It is our responsibility to look for the good in others and encourage them to improve themselves. Just because a person is having trouble of some kind in their young age is not a hinder for them to later on in their life, become succesful. I`m sure you have heard about a hadith, where our Prophet Muhammad pbuh says: “In the last years before judgement there will be people whom start their life as good people but later become bad people, and some that starts their life as bad people but later get guided from above. We do not know what kind of death a person will have. So it is extremely important that we understand and emphasize when talking to the youth that no matter how much a person messes up, the door to get back to Allah is always open, as long as they are breathing they can change for the better. We should never lose hope.

 

Teacher of Life
Often we see that people give naseeha to youngster in a way that instead of making them better makes them go beyond what is wrong. It is very important that we think well through what we say and how we say it and our body language matches what we are saying. The generations of our parents had different upbringing than us. Most of them were taught good manners even though they didn`t have the most degrees. They had the teacher of life and more respect towards teachers, elders, and knowledgable people like Imams. Now we see that these things are diminishing in our society. For starters we are living in an un-islamic society here in the West. A society that proclaims values that doesn`t match our values. It is a free society where the religion is often seen as something private, and often not allowed to practice in public areas. Like for instance it is forbidden to use niqab in some schools or public areas in some countries in the West.

 

Education about marriage before marriage

We see that our parents marry their children in a very young age without giving them proper education about how a marriage works and how one raises children. We often seen that a lot of young muslim parents living abroad lose their children to the childcare system. Mostly because their way of children’s upbringing collides with the rules in the country they live in. In Norway we see an increasing number of young parents where they have been reported to the childcare, because of this. We are the biggest losers in this, because some of the times, the children that are taken away from their families in an early age, are not taught the values that we stand for.

 

Children mature earlier now

It is very important for the dai`s in today`s society to explain to parents how to give naseeha to youngster. When our parents where kids, their parents told them do this or don`t do that and they listened to them. Nowadays children are more intelligent than at that time. Mostly because of that they are exposed to technology in an early age and the society they live in the west, teach a lot of things very early. To make these kids understand why you can do something and why you can`t is not that easy if you don`t know how to speak to them. Often you have to talk to them with respect. You have to explain why these things are good/bad for them, with real life examples so they can comprehend it. You have to talk with them like you are on the same level. I have read once that when you want to stop your child that is to years old, you should sit down so that you are both at the same height and look into his/her eyes and say what you want to say when you have his fully attention. That is because you want him/her to think like you are on the same level. The same goes to young adults.

 

Give naseeha privately

When you talk with youngsters, talk with the right intention of wanting them to change, without looking down at them. After all it can all be an misunderstanding. We only see through our personal glasses that are made of our values. The youngsters intentions could have been something else. Choose the right timing. Hate the deed, not the person. Give naseeha privately, so you don`t emberass them in front of other family members or their friends or even a stranger. The youth is in such a delicate age when they have to find out about a lot of things, like who they are and what they`re identity is and what they want to do with their life. At the same time all these different kinds of feeling are in them which they have to understand. They are in a very tender age, and need extra care. The last they would need is an adult that looks down on them, is too strict, and tells them what to do without explaining why it is good for them. Last but not least, come with real pointers about how they can stop something or begin with something. Give them the recipe for it from A to Z. Use humour in a way they would understand to catch their attention and use it as a medicine.

 

Conclusion

If you follow these tools, than in sha Allah, you will make a difference in their life. It is very important to understand the people one is giving advice to, rather than being to enthusiastic and give it in the wrong way. It all could boil down to them change for the better or make them even worse than before. It is very important that we are wise in the tools we use. May Allah help us help others. Ameen summa ameen.

Humility versus arroganceWe are nothing without Allah. He is the One that has made us and given us life. If it wouldn`t have been His will we wouldn`t have been in this world. He is the one that gives us everything in this universe. Even if we would try to thank Him, the thankfulness would not be as great as what He is Worthy of. We do good deeds because He has ordered us to do them, and that is a good thing. Though shaitan try to put vasvasa in our heads. If we are sinners, shaitan stops us from repenting, if we repent and become good people and do good deeds, shaitan puts vasvasa in our mind that, if we don`t recognize the trap, we become arrogant.

In order to protect ourself from shaitan we must understand these traps and fight them with all we have got. It is not because there is any good in us that we are doing anything good, it is because Allah has guided us to do it. If it wouldn`t have been for His Mercy and Guidance, we would have been lost.

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) has said: If we have an atom of arrogance in our hearts we would not be allowed to go to jannah /Paradise. So people asked that one likes that her/his dress is beautiful and her/his shoes are beautiful. So the Prophet (pbuh) said: “Verily Allah is the Most Beautiful, and He loves beauty. Pride is to completely disregard the truth, and to scorn (look down on) the people. (Sahih, Muslim).

How do we ignore the truth? When we know that it is like this or that and don`t follow it, that is arrogance. Like mostly people know that in Islam it is made obligatory to pray the 5 prayers. Though there are less than half of the muslim or even fewer that actually pray the 5 prayers. We would say this about all the other regulations in Islam as well. Most of us have become part-time-muslims. That is not always because of ignorance. So if we believe, that we are muslims, we need to become Allah`s slave, because that is the true meaning of Islam to submit to His Laws.

Another thing written in this hadith is don`t look down on other people. Subhan Allah that is so common these days. If people themselves are doing good deeds, they would often look down on other people who are maybe sinning. Though they do not know the state of the heart of that person like Allah does, though they become a judge like Him and think they know everything. I read a quote one time that said, don`t look down at others just because they sin different from you. Allah could forgive them for sinning, but maybe not forgive you for your arrogance.

Also we do not know the state we will die in. The Prophet (pbuh) has said, that there will come a time when a person that is a good muslim, will become evil and die in that state, and that a person that was evil, will become good and die and that state. So we are not able to judge anyone at all. Me must always pray and ask Allah that we die as muslims, but for that to happen, we must also live as muslims.

What makes us arrogant is when we think that we have accomplished is because we deserve it or that we have worked hard for it. Though we might have worked some for it, but it is because of Allah’s Rahma over us that we have been gifted in any way. Not because of our deeds or our conduct. Allah test us by giving us gifts and by taking away gifts. We need to show thankfulness/gratefulness when we are blessed and patience when we are tested. Only then we will prosper. Allah may have given us a gift, but He can also take it away, if we don`t show appreciaton for it to Him.

We need to ask Allah to guide us all the time and always keep us humble. A supplication one can make is : “Laa Ilaaha Illallah, Subhanall-Ghaniyall-Moa3jzi”. It`s interpretation is “There is not God but Allah, He is Perfect, and the one who makes us humble”. (See picture for arabic spelling).

The Prophet (pbuh) has said: no one humbles himself for Allah but Allah raises him. (Sahih, Tirmidhi). What do you think will be the outcome of the one Allah raises. Subhan Allah 🙂 May Allah have mercy on us and guide us and keep us steadfast on His religion and make us His pious slaves. Ameen summa ameen.

headacheIn today`s society people whom have a mental illness regardless of their health are disrespected and treated badly by others. People look down upon them call them with nicknames and treat them like they aren`t worth anything. I can`t believe the fact that people think that they are actually better than the one with a mental illness. Who knows who is best in Allah’s sight.

Looking down on others just because they are different means that you don`t even know what a life is worth. Allah made each an every creature in His own way. He knows everything. If someone is made a bit different from that person can be better than others. You don`t know but Allah knows. Who are we to judge others by their sickness.

I am sick and tired of people misbehaving towards other just because they are special people. The society we live in promote that everyone has to look beautiful in certain measurements and wear certain brands to be cool. That is totally wrong. We don`t need things to beautify us. A wonderful character is beautiful in itself. It doesn`t need tons of make-up or perfume to come into the different clicks.

Any illness regardless of its type is a test of Allah. It could be of any type. It could be because Allah loves them so much. Allah gives difficulties to the one He loves so that when that person shows patience in that struggle he becomes higher in status in Allah’s sight. Who are we to judge anyone?

In today’s society people judge others with mental illnesses just because they are different. I guess these people are judging others just because of the stereotypes they have seen on tv or commercials. What makes them say that those people are the one we should look like.

In Islam what MAKES a person is not their looks but it`s their inside, their heart, their intentions. If that is what Allah looks at, and He is the only one that has that power, than who do we think we are looking down on others with these kind of illnesses.

I have a dream and some goals and one of my prayers is that these kinds of discriminations in today’s society would vanish. It hurts my heart to see that people I look upto has these kinds of prejudices.

dont look down on othersNo one is perfect. Each and every person has some good qualities and some bad qualities in them. Some has more of the good and less of the bad, other have the other way around. What it boils down to is that sometimes you see some person doing something you dislike. You know the person has so much potential and can really do a lot better than that, all he/she needs is a little guidance from some brother or sister. Than you need to talk to that person somehow. If you can and you want to help, you should of course give it a try, but only with the right intention backing you up.

 

Are you superior?

If for instance you are correcting someone just to show your own superiority over that person, in a way you are saying, you have these and these faults, I am so much better that you, do that like this or that, it most probably won`t help that person. You cannot look down on other people you want to correct. If you do that, and they find out, by the attitude you are dealing with them, they most probably won`t listen to you. You need to in some way let them understand that you are here to help, because they have so much potential, if it is used right, can move mountains.


Positivity boost

A lot of us may sometimes need a push in the right direction from time to time. You need to fill them with positive boost, once in a while. That can make them see that even one voice can make a difference.

 

Check your intentions

One thing is for sure, if you don`t have the right intention of helping and are looking for personal gain, than the intention is what will either count it as a good deed or not. If you sincerely want to help, than let other people whom may be down see that they are human beings with a lot of worth and good values but haven`t gotten the right push from their surroundings so that they also can blossom and become a rose. They need to develop a sence of self-worth. That their opinions are important and that they can make a difference.

 

Correct mistakes privately

Another important thing is that you cannot correct a person in public. If you do that the person most probably won`t listen to you ever again. Whenever you want to correct someone respect them, do it privately, so that they don`t feel that you are telling the whole world about their faults. There is not a person out there whom doesn`t have some good and bad characteristics in them.This is something people learn from a very young age. That when their parents want to correct them they don`t do it in front of guests. Or that your spouse doesn`t correct you in front of their family. Or that your friends don`t talk ill of you in front of others. Especially when they think they are behaving funny. No one can have fun on some others extent. That is wrong. Don`t laugh at someone but rather laugh with someone.

 

Balance the negative with something positive

One more thing is that sometimes the young generation might want to correct an elder, how should one do that? One should try to speak in a way that, you tell the person a positive thing about them and then a less positive, so it balances up. If you always come with the negative and never say anything positive than the balance would be rather negative and the person would become upset. There is not one person out there whom doesn`t have anything good about them. We and I`m counting in myself, need to become better in finding the positive things in people when we talk to them.

 

Positive people have a bigger responsibility

People with positive surroundings may not find this that difficult, so they have a bigger responsibility to share the positivism more. They will only gain in this. Because it`s always like this that what you give to other you get back one way or the other, if you spread positivity than that would come back to you one day, inshaAllah ameen.

 

We can make a difference

Let`s join in hands to single out the faults and spread positivity and try to lit up a sad soul, that needs someone to talk to, without bringing them down. It`s not always the youth that need this the most, sometimes it could also be some of the elders in the family as well.

trust yourself, bird, branch, wingsMy parents have shared several stories with me throughout my upbringing. And I would like to share a story with you. I`m not sure if I can remember it correctly but you`ll get the picture 🙂

A little family of a father and his son lived in a little town. They had a few belongings and a donkey. For some reason they had to abandon all that they owned. So they went on a journey to find a new home. After walking a while the boy became tired so the father let him sit on the donkey as they came to a town. Walking through the town they could hear some people saying things like: why is the old man walking while the young boy is resting on the donkey. Poor man he looks exhausted. After listening, the father and the son got upset. They decided that they’ll let the father sit on the donkey instead. Further on they come to another town. When the family walks through the inhabitants again pass a comment: look at the poor boy he has to walk while his father is resting on the donkey. Not fair at all. Again this upsets the father and the son so they take all their belongings and put it on the donkey and walks further toward their destination. Passing the third town they again receive a remark from some of the people. This time they comment: poor donkey that has to carry the burden and the father and the son are simply walking. They should think about the donkey and its health. At the end they get so outrageous that they decide to carry the donkey. This time the people laugh at them saying: stupid people. Why are they carrying the donkey?

The moral of the story is that one can never please the whole world. There`s always going to be a few people who will be happy for you and the decisions you make and some others will dislike the same decisions and make you feel bad about them. The key is to trust yourself. Listen to others opinions but make your own decisions based on what you believe in. This will boost your confidence even more and make you stronger being. Of course by making your own decisions you also have to bear all consequences of them. And you can`t blame anyone else if sometimes turns out different than planned. I`m sure no matter what the outcome is, it will surely give you a feeling of standing on your own feet and being independent. This is a must to survive in this world.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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