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jannah, paradise, hold hand, finally we are here, spouse, marriage, coupleMarriage is a serious bond between a husband and a wife, and one should be ready for it before we commit ourselves to it. Often we see that people who come to a certain age want to get married. Most often they haven`t thought well enough about the reasons behind their decision. Marriage is not only a way of having halal intimacy. Marriage is about a companionship where the spouses support each other through tough and good times, where their aim is to achieve Jannah and spend their eternity there together. It is a means for having righteous offspring that will work for the betterment of their society in both religious and social matters. Children that one day will become good contributors to their environment, and send good deeds to their parents way after they have left the world to the next and be those that Rasollallah pbuh will say that they will go to Jannah.

 

Compete in matters for a better Hereafter

It is important that men whom want to commit themselves understand the fact that they are the ones whom has the overall financial responsibility. Even if their wife has an income, she is not obliged to spend any of it on the family. And being ready for children. Their upbringing is just as much the father’s responsibility as the mother. We need to understand that some people whom aren`t even ready for kids get a bunch of them, and some people whom are eager to get children, might not get as much or maybe not even one. Rizk is not in our hands. Rizk is in Allah`s hands. He is trying us through it. Some people are tested through difficulties, others are tested through ease. There shouldn`t be any competition between couples that others have four kids so we need to beat them to it and have one more. The society has become such a difficult place to be. We are competing in things that doesn`t matter rather than the few points that matter the most. Lets compete in doing good deeds, lets compete in having righteous children rather than many, lets compete in learning more of the deen, not to show off, but to make others also want to become muslims or better people than they were before, let’s try to be better people than we were yesterday, or the minute before now. Improvement not to make us feel superior but to achieve Jannah and help others on the way.

 

Things money can`t buy

After marriage the most important thing wife would want is your time. That means that you cannot whenever you prefer it, go out with your friends. You need to give your wife your time. It is not enough to just be the provider. Both the wife and the husband feels loved in different ways with different love language. You will have to learn that from the start. You can read more of that here : 5 Love Languages In Marriage.  We can`t either expect that the spouses will be in-love all the time. They will have disagreements and quarrels. How they handle them will determine what the future of their marriage is. That is why it is important to know how your apology will be accepted by your spouse. You can read that here : Do you know the art of apologizing?

 

Be there in good and bad times

The family and the parents of the fiancée must be certain that the couple is ready for marriage. It is not like a sale, where you have money-back guarantees within three months. When we first do commit, we should do it with the intention that we are going to Jannah together. Trust is essential. If one of the spouses always has the backdoor open and threatens with leaving whenever they face any difficulty than that person wasn`t ready for the bond. When one commits one does that in hope for being there for each other in good and bad times supporting and inspiring and motivating each other to become better people for forever. Anything less than that should not be accepted. If your goal is Jannah you will choose a righteous spouse. When we first do commit, we should give it a 100%.

 

Make marriages affordable

Expensive marriages should not be encouraged. Like in all other matters of life, there is also competition in having the most expensive marriage. If fla fla person has a marriage in a ship another has to have a degree more expensive so they choose an airplane. The more expensive the marriage the more it has to be delayed, wich will cause more fear of fitnah. Keep it simple and affordable. Less tension and less troubles and more joy. Let the couple rather save some of their money on their life after marriage than becoming bankrupt after marriage. The simpler the marriage is the more barakah/blessings the couple will derive from it. In the Prophet pbuh`s time there were a few sahabis whom didn`t have any money to give the mehr. Once Rasollallah pbuh said to one such person that he can use his knowledge as mehr. So even that didn`t make Rasollallah pbuh stop him from getting married. Rizk is in Allah`s hand. One day we have a lot, other times we have little. There is no guarantee that a rich person doesn`t become poor in one day or a poor person becomes rich in one day. Allah decides. Since we will be tested in both ease and difficulty, we need to overlook this and give more attention to righteousness of the spouse. If the spouse fears Allah, he/she will treat you right no matter what, because he/she knows that he/she will be answerable to Allah for it on Judgement Day. May Allah increase the barakah in every marriage and make every marriage easy for the people concerned, grant them contentment and re-unite every couple in Jannah/Paradise. Ameen summa ameen.

every blessing is a testEvery human being is blessed in some way or the other. Some people are though more blessed than others. We human beings have this fault in us that it is easier for us to count other people`s blessings rather than our own. We have a nice car, a beautiful house, a giving job, yet still when someone else receives some blessing from Allah, we tend to get a tad bit jealous. Have we forgotten how Allah has blessed us numerous times? For All we know the one that is recieving a blessing we are jealous of, has probably worked hard for sometime to achieve it? Or had a time of difficulty which now has become a time of ease. We don`t know but Allah knows, right 🙂

 

The richest of people

People who are content with what they have, are the richest of people. Subhan Allah! What a wonderful quote from our beloved Prophet (pbuh). Surely that is just how it is. People whom despite not having everything in their life, are content of the decree of Allah, are truly those people whom have experienced true happiness and contentment.

 

Things that distract us from our relationships

Think for a moment. Why are does those children playing in the slums of Africa or Asia look happier than children playing in Europe, despite they having all kinds of playgrounds and toys here. Maybe because they are content with the decree of Allah, and are not as distracted by everything around them like we. Living in Norway I see sometimes that children have all kinds of distracting things with them. Almost all the time. Internet, games, Facebook, iPhone, Ipod, Ipad, Tv etc. These things are nice time-killers, but they also steal the time away from children, and even the adults. Giving us less time for relationships. We are getting distracted by all sorts of things that doesn`t even allow us to give our devoted attention to people around us.

 

Look at those below you, rather than those above you

Our Prophet (pbuh) has said in a hadith, look at those beneath you, instead of looking at those above you. That would make you happier and more content with what you have. If we always compare each other with those that have more than us, we would be living a race that never achieves it`s goal. Because as the world is developing likely are people buying and getting more things in their luxury life. The world is not going to stop to develop nor are the people going to stop buying new things. So what should we do than? Whenever we are dazzled by something, we should always look at those that are less fortunate than us. That would lead us to become more thankful for those blessings we have in our lives, give us true contentment and voila we will feel grateful.

 

When we are grateful Allah gives us more of His blessings

Do you know what`s so great about feeling grateful? Allah says in the Quran that we should be thankful for the blessings he has showered upon us. And not be arrogant. We are arrogant when we don`t realize that we are truly blessed. We are arrogant when we aren`t thankful to Allah. Allah says that be grateful and I will give you more. Just think where that will lead us if we try to apply that to our lives?

 

A test can be a blessing, and a blessing can be a test

An important fact to remember is that when you see that someone is blessed with something, the same thing could be a means of trials and tribulations for the person that you are thinking about. For instance you see, children and money are seen as a blessing. Though Allah has said in the Quran that money and children are all means of trials. He will send us trials through these blessings to see who of us are better in deed. So every blessing has it`s backside. You might not see it, but reality is that it still is there.

 

After every difficulty there is ease

So what to do then? When we see someone may be perhaps more blessed than us. Remember he/she might have experienced a great deal of difficulties before Allah sent those people an ease. He is probably worthy of that blessing. We can`t see the hikmah, the knowledge that Allah has about the circumstance. Only Allah knows that. What we can do is to think that with every blessing there is always a backside. So be grateful for what you have. Truly Allah knows who he blesses. And All of us are blessed with some kind of blessing, either we recognize it or not. Lets be those true submissive and grateful slaves of Allah that can see all the blessings in their life, in sha Allah. Let`s start our day with saying Alhamdolillah. Allah gives us another day each time we wake up in the morning to do something for our religion. Lets try to make a difference. In sha Allah ameen.

 

Conclusion

To conclude i would say, count your own blessings, instead of counting others`.  And be happy with what you have by looking at those less fortunate than you. Alway know that with any blessing there is always a backside that we might not know about. Know that Allah is trying us by giving us blessings, to see who of us are best in deed. Be content with what you have and Allah will shower you with more of His blessings, in sha Allah. Ameen. Ya Allah make us your pious worshippers and keep us steadfast on the deen, give us sabr to face the challenges in our lives, and give us true guidance to follow everything you have commanded us to follow, ameen summa ameen.

fatherI am thankful and happy that my parents are still with me. Though not everyone is as fortunate as me. For some one or both of their parents have left the world. Whether growing up with one or none parents, it is as tough as it could be. When living in this world is difficult when you have your whole family. Imagine how it is like in case some of them have passed away? Not to mention in case one has siblings. Than the responsibilities for the family is standing in line to occupy your time.

A mother can take the place of a father but a father can never take the place of a mother. The way mothers care for us. Noone can care for us like that. Women in general are more nurturing than men. But mothers are special beings. They care for us unconditionally in a way only they can. Making sure that we have eaten, cheering us up when we are down, and making sure that were ok, knowing exactly how we are feeling even when we haven`t told them. Yes mothers are special beings sent from above.

If Allah has taken your mother or any parent away from you, remember that there is a hikmat, one thought of His, behind it. Sometimes Allah withholds something from us to give us something better. Other times he gives us something but sends trials along with the blessing. We can not understand His Works. All we need to do is have full faith in Allah. He does take care of everyone. Nevertheless He loves us more than what 70 mothers do. So if he has decided something for us, it IS for the BEST. We are not in a state to overrule His will. We need to have faith in His decisions in sha Allah.

Our parents love us dearly. They want what is best for us as well. As for our father, he is constantly worried for your if you have everything you need. He can never be a mother, but that doesn`t mean he doesn`t love you. Fathers has a different way of showing that he cares through making sure that we have everything we need, paying the bills etc that is how he shows his love to his children.

Know that with every difficulty there is one or multiple ease`s. If Allah has taken away something from you, he has given you other blessings where you are totally overblessed 😉 Alhamdolillah 😉 He works in His own ways. Whenever you feel down, try to count those blessings you have that are with you today, and you will feel better, in sha Allah. May Allah give Jannah to the parents that he has taken away from us and may Allah give us sabr/patience for the difficulties he has sent to us to test us. May Allah give long life to the parents that are with us and let us experience all of each others happiness and keep us steadfast on the deen, ameen summa ameen.

Sometimes when something happens in our life that makes us cry or disappointed, we think that nothing can make that better in any way. We might think that what happened can`t be cured in any way. Well I have learned one thing in these past years. Looking back in time, I guess if everything that did`nt happen wouldn`t have happened I wouldn`t have been where I am today.

If you have lost a loved one in some way either to Allah or to someone else, don`t think of it as a setback. Think about it. If you would have married your first love when you were eighteen years old. where would you have been today? Maybe with four kids and no job, because you didn`t get enough education or working experience. If that loved one, that Allah is taking care of now, hadn`t passed away, where would you have been today? Maybe the same old person, still listening to songs and watching indian movies and doing everything that it contains.

If that one or two or three setbacks in life have brought you closer to Allah today, than what have you lost? I can understand that the journey has been difficult, but what have you lost if you have Allah with you now? You haven`t lost a thing if you are closer to Allah now! What made you start reading salat? What made you never miss a salat ever for the past years? What made you read Nasheeds/naats instead of songs, the past years? What made you spend more time in gatherings at the Mosque instead of an indian concert or movie the past few years? It was that big setback that made that wonderful change in your life that in a way was negative but brought lots of wonderful things in your life. Be thankful 😉 Alhamdolillah, yes it was a blessing in disguise 😉

Look at yourself now 🙂 Spending more time learning more about Islam, listening to lectures and reading about it. Going to mosques and spending your time earning so many good deeds for your parent that has passed away. If this is how you lately have spent your time, you have every reason to be happy and grateful to Allah, because He loves us all. This is how He shows us how much He loves us, by taking away one thing, He has given us so much more that if we were to be grateful all the time, we could still not have been enough grateful/thankful to Him.

The past few years, I have learned to try to see things in perspective. Even though some setbacks hurt a lot, it could be the opener to lots of great things in your life. Next time when something not that good happens in our life, lets try to see what sort of blessing it contains instead of the negative side. It might be difficult at the time something bad happens, but believe me, in a few years you would see what Allah meant by it happening, InshaAllah ameen. May Allah give us sabr/patience to go through all the hurdles in life and give us all that is good in this life and in the Hereafter for eternity and make us His pious worshippers. Ameen summa ameen.

Mothers are a gift from above. No matter when or what they are often the one that is the most supportive to their children, following by Dads. Mums always seem to know how you are feeling and is the one that has taken the most care of us from we were small and couldn`t do a thing by ourselves. May Allah keep all the mums in heaven in His best care, and give us an opportunity to meet her in Jannah and the mums that are still with us, may Allah grant them wonderful children that take good care of them for always. Ameen summa ameen.

Remember the best way to do something for those of our parents in the heaven is to do good deeds so that Allah showers them with more blessings in their resting place til the hereafter begins. May Allah give us sabr and patience to go through every up and down in our life, and give us the strength to fight through every difficulty in our life. Remember after every difficulty there is ease, and Allah only test those of the muslims that He loves much. Allah takes something away from us to test us, and Allah gives us something to test us, to see who of us is best in deed. Be thankful for every day, every thing that has happened in the past, because without the past This PRESENT wouldn`t have been here 🙂 Say Alhamdolillah always, Allah knows best what He is planning, and He is the best of planners. Say Alhamdolillah for everything, because when we are thankful Allah showers us with more of his blessings in this world. Know that even if one of your parents is not with you today, your loved ones care about you, and want to do everything to see you happy, always. 😉 Know that what matters in life is how much good deeds you preserve for the hereafter, so that you can see your loved ones in Jannah, InshaAllah. Know that your supplications do affect everyone, and Allah hears us. Remember that every good thing that happens in your life is because of your mothers supplications for you and your family. Know that Allah knows best and let yourself put all of your trust in Him. He is the Best and Sustains everyone, so never ever think that He doesn`t know what He is doing. 😉 Remember that what good befalls us comes from Allah and every bad thing that befalls us comes from our own deeds. Remember that through prayers and good deeds one can change our destiny to become the brightest ever, with the best Hereafter. All we have to do is to believe and act upon it, inshaAllah ameen Allah humma ameen. May Allah give us a overjoyed life and hereafter, and may He give us the honsla to handle all the ups and downs in our life. May we pass the test of life and may Allah give us Jannah in return for that. Ameen summa ameen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

Bukhari and Muslim

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

The foolproof tip of the day for everyone else!

USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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