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sunnah is helping around in the house, men, husband, fatherRamadan is a month to let our soul connect with Allah through ibaadah. It is important that all the family members get a chance to improve themselves, not only the men. Often the women in the house, daughter, sister, mother, wife does not get the chance to spend as much time for ibaadah because of the chores of the house. It is important that the whole family helps around, so that it doesn`t burden a few. Ramadan is not about the iftars and food we are going to eat at the end of the day, it is about getting closer to Allah and how can we possibly achieve that if we are over-burdened.

It is important that men help around the house more in ramadan. The same if you have children, keep them also busy helping. Good family ties kan only be kept from team work, we are in this together, one goal, and we help each other to do good. If ramadan is meant for us to forget the women in the house and overburdening them with our request for iftar meals, we are not living the essence of ramadan.

help me draw closer to you this ramadan.You are not the only one whom prayers are obligatory for. Your family must also pray. Make it easy for each other to pray. Give the women in your family breaks at salah time to complete the salah with khusoo and no concern for the food that is cooking. Men will be held accountable for every salah their daughters, sister, mother and wife missed or read being overburdened. Work chores can easily become family time, if we try to keep a good environment for each other. Maybe that is something that won`t make the chores that unwanted, especially by the children or teens. If these teens boys and girls are given good values from the start they will grow up and become an asset to the whole community, not only for themselves. Parents can teach them good qualities. It is vital that we give them time as the fragile age they are in. A good muslim is first and foremost good to his family. Ramadan is a time to grow spiritually. Make this a time for the whole family to help become better people and better muslims.

treating women honourably, household chores, menMen are the protectors and maintainers of the family. When they have the right universal values, so will their offspring too. I guess most of the parents that came to the West were more busy with earning money than Islam. Ma Sha Allah, now we see a lot of their children have become very religious, despite their parents not being the best role-models.

It is very important that we also teach our next generation the right values. For instance, it is very common that in a family with siblings, the daughters have to do most of the chores. I mean, has the Imam at the Mosque ever talked about this? We have to read sunnah and nawafil in the prayers, but what about following the sunnah in our life outside of the prayer. If we don`t teach our kids, mainly young boys that they have to help around in the house, and not leave all the work for the women, what kind of husbands do you think they will turn out to be? We have forgotten a lot of sunnahs. The Prophet (pbuh) was never shy to help around the house. He also mended his own clothes and shoes. Nothing will happen to your status if you give the women in your family a helping hand. Even when your friends and family are around. Are you to shy to follow the sunnah? It is ok when it suits your life, right? If it doesn`t than, never mind. It is very important that we try to think more about what Islam says, rather than what our culture is. There has developed clashes between religion and culture. You decide what will win.

Men have a lot of responsibility and I understand that. Another important aspect they have forgotten is to make sure that the people in their family doesn`t go away from Islam. They should rather make sure that the women in their life come closer to Islam. One thing that is very important is for example the prayers. Don`t just make sure you yourself read it on time, but make sure that your daughter, sister, mother and wife also get a chance to read it with proper concentration without having to hurry because the children are crying or that the dinner will burn. So that they also get a good equal chance to earn those rewards that you now have become so eager to earn. Remind them. Remember you have a responsibility. From character to spirituality, Islam is a way of life.

May Allah help all the men of this Ummah understand the responsibility that is put on their shoulders, and help them in fulfilling it in the best possible way. Ameen summa ameen.

muhammad (pbuh) 2Our Prophet (pbuh) is the greatest blessing we have ever had. He is a mercy to all mankind. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) had the most magnificent character any being can or will ever have till the end of time. When we read or hear story`s about his seerah (biography) I just fall down in humbleness for what kind of values he represented. This is the person to admire the most. This is the person one should try the most to follow and mimic from the core of our hearts. If we manage to achieve his blessings, nothing in this world would be difficult for us, in sha Allah.

Our Prophet (pbuh) is the person that had the most genuine care and compassion for every human being. He treated everyone with the out most respect and honour that every person that knew him thought he loved them the most. One time one sahabi wanted to hear the Prophet (pbuh) say from his lips that he loved that sahabi the most, because that`s what he thought from the way he treated him. So he asked the Prophet about it, and he would say Aisha raa or Abu Bakr Siddiq raa. The sahabi was astonished because he had always thought that since Prophet Muhammad was so nice to him that he was the one he loved the most.

Our Prophet (pbuh) managed to control his anger at all times. And taught the sahaba the strong person is not the one that can beat another person, but rather the one that controls ones anger while angry. He gifted his clothes to the graves of his enemies who had killed people in his family, when they died so that the fire wouldn`t touch them. SubhanAllah, would you have done that today if you knew someone you dislike would be saved from the Torment of the Fire? I guess most of us would rather seek revenge, then try to forgive. Think for one second if you try to overlook the faults of others, Allah will overlook your faults on the Judgement Day.

At home he washed and mended his own clothes and helped around the house and didn`t see the household chores as degrading to do for men. He never became angry to any of his servants and helped them around the house. Aisha Raa said that the Prophet Muhammad’s character was the Quran. SubhanAllah! We today tend to feel that things that Islam say is difficult to adopt, but our Prophet lived his life according to every ayah in the Quran. SubhanAllah!

In another hadith it is told about the how other non-muslims treated him and how he treated them back. For example, we all have heard about the woman with the garbage, throwing garbage at the Prophet (pbuh) when he passed her house in the streets. She used to do this often. One time when she didn`t come our Prophet went to her house to see how she was doing because he got worried. Is she alright? From this gesture of his that woman became a muslim.

He didn`t treat people differently because they had more money or anything. I remember the story about when he heard that Hadrat Bilal raa was so tired because of all the workload he had as a slave. Our Prophet came home to him and helped him with the household and made Bilal raa relax. Who is it that today would go home to someone and do their work. Often we have so much to do ourselves that we don`t even find enough time to do that. But our Prophet found time and showed us the path to walk. SubhanAllah.

One time when he heard Khadijah raa sister long time afther her death, he for a moment, was reminded of her. When Aisha raa saw this she got jealous and said why he thought of that woman when she has so many wifes now that are much younger and more beautiful than she was. He rebuked her and said that no wife of hers would ever be like Khadijah raa. He said, she believed in me when everyone else was against me, she supported him and is the only wife that gave birth to his children. So she had a very special place in his heart. SubhanAllah! He never had another wife while she was alive. Nowadays men always talk about having four wifes without even fulfilling all the obligations that one wife has.

Our Prophet (pbuh) also treated his daughters in the most nice way. When his daughter Fatima raa came to visit him, he would kiss her hand and give her his own seat to sit with him. Also he told Fatima raa that even if she was of the noblest descent if she didn`t do any good deeds her descent won`t give her Jannah, only her good deeds would. If your good deeds hold you back your noble descent won`t make you better in Allah`s eyes.

The character of our Prophet is the best role-model for us and all the generations that will follow till the end of time. We should try to learn more and apply every single bit of it in our conduct, so that we can prosper and live a fulfilling life. This is the person I admire the most and love so much ❤ May Allah accept all of our good deeds, keep us steadfast on the deen, give us more knowledge about the seerah so that we could apply it into our lives, and give us Jannat-ul-Firaws in the end. May Allah let us be of help to our Ummah. Ameen summa ameen.

It`s our responsibility to inject our kids with the best values, hobbies and positive attitude, to do our best to prevent them going astray. Kids need role models to which they can be inspired to keep them on the right path.

I know there`s a common issue in asian families that when kids come into their teens they more often are misled. To prevent this they need a person they could look upto a good role model. Please, let the kids join the soccer team, the chess-club, the naat-team in the mosque, take them to the mosque as early as possible to make som good habits from the start. Guide them into reading books from an early age. Don`t let them get so bored that they go out to find some action – come in a fight to kill boredom.

Always know as to where your kids are. And when i mean know i mean, do check out if they are where they said they were going. As to kids are very smart, they could easily take advantage of the fact that; my dad/mum isn`t going to check if I`m at Mohammeds` house or shopping nearby. Some kids do need tough guidelines to keep them on track and others can be dealt with more easily. Parents nowadays aren`t always aware of their kids whereabouts. The kids are often seen in shopping malls where they hang on the corner and can bump into dangerous situations.

You as a parent need to KNOW your kids friends. Where they live, phonenumbers, what kind of people the family is in whole. That will surely create a postivie atmosphere for your kid and his/her friends. Kids need friends to have someone to share their thoughts with, sharing interest is very important and will build up their personality making them social beings.

You as a parent have the responsibility for teaching your children that girls and boys share all the household chores. You do everything at home as a team. If someone get sick we all should know how to put some food on the table for the family. Everyone should help around to keep the home tidy.

By simply being there for your kids knowing how their day has been, playing an active part in their life, you can Inshallah do miracles.. May Allah keep all the kids in the world on the straight path, and give them right guidance with the right values in life. Ameen sum ameen.

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My Prayer..

“O Allah, place light in my heart, and on my tongue light, and in my ears light and in my sight light, and above me light, and below me light, and to my right light, and to my left light, and before me light and behind me light. Place in my soul light. Magnify for me light, and amplify for me light. Make for me light and make me a light. O Allah, grant me light, and place light in my nerves, and in my body light and in my blood light and in my hair light and in my skin light.” Ameen

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Surah 105 Al Fil

Let not man be intoxicated with power, Or material resourses, They cannot defeat. The purpose of Allah. So Abrahah Ashram Found to his cost. His sacrilegious attack On the holy Fane of Allah brought about His own undoing:what seemed but frail Destroyed his mighty hosts in a day!

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USE YOUR OWN VOICE TO RAISE YOUR OPINION!

Nasiyat..

(",) My Mum always says that
you should marry someone
who loves you more than you
love him, because that man
would never ever make you cry
or be the reason that your
sheding tears. He would do
anything to always keep you
happy and satisfied (",)

Poetry

(“,) Your heart is mine and mine is yours, and so it`s been since I`ve known love`s true meaning itself, holding each others hand we stand together beneath the lovely sky, gazing towards the same destiny, just U and I (“,)

Naat/hamd-Quote of the moment :)

Saari duniya ke liye dard
se mahmor hain jo..
Ik faqat Rehmat-e-aalam
hi ka seena dekha..

Ye sab tumhara
karam hain Aka
ke baat ab tak
bani hoyi hain..

Ehsas dein toofik dein..
Phir jazbaen Siddiq dein..

Kya ye zarra likhein
Shaan Unki, jin pe
bejhein Salaam
khud Khudai..

Quote of the moment :)

Though we might sometimes
have to struggle through thick
or thin,We will receive each
other’s support to be there to
win..And we will blossom like
this through eternity..
InshaAllah
Ameen summa ameen

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